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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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yourself. As in your profile. What you want/are looking for.
How often do you reassess what you're wanting from the site? Are you quite fond of reflecting on it or are you content where things are currently? Do you try and stay open to things that maybe your profile doesn't reflect? |
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over a year ago
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I probably need to look back at mine and re-consider to check it still represents where I'm at. I'm generally open to meeting interesting people who I might then end up having relaxed sexy fun so my profile leans towards giving people enough info about my interests so that they can see if they might want to chat and hang out as well as hopefully being attracted to me physically. |
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"yourself. As in your profile. What you want/are looking for.
How often do you reassess what you're wanting from the site? Are you quite fond of reflecting on it or are you content where things are currently? Do you try and stay open to things that maybe your profile doesn't reflect? " my profile hasn't changed but i add to it now and again |
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Occasionally I'll add things to the no list or add or subtract a sentence here or there.
I should probably rewrite entirely at some point but I kind of like the openly hostile vibe for keeping my inbox manageable. |
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I need to do a proper rewrite of ours. I think I will when we're ready to start meeting again. It's not that we've massively changed what we're looking for, but it's been over a year since I wrote it and we've had so many new experiences since then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I re wrote mine loads of times as a single. Just to see who bothered to read it more than anything. What I wanted always stayed the same. It just got more crap as time went on saying what I didn't want. Because of who you end up with in your inbox.
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"We have to rewrite profiles now? This place is a full time job sometimes.
I'd bad enough having to keep up with the likes of Metacarpal Monday "
Ha! You do just fine with MetaMonday, I'm sure you can keep up. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"The majority my profile is bullshit. No point updating it because people just see tits or arse. I'm not a fucking tick box. "
That's true. But also people don't just see tits or an arse. You talk to people who view you as more. Even on the fora. But yeah, I've kept my interests blank because I don't want folk to curate what they think I'd like. I'd rather approach them and be approached as an individual rather than ticks and a hole. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm always playing about with mine ,trying new ways to get things across etc."
Yes, same. I'm not quite as good at writing about myself as I am on another topic. You'd think I'd find it easy but even rereading the recent edit I'm questioning if it's quite me. What I want to say. I might just scrap it all and do a one liner. Enigmatic and all that. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I 'self-review' my profile every month or so but it rarely requires a redux, because my sentiments and desires remain unwaveringly true."
I wish I possessed your eloquence in stating what it is I want. My desires and sentiments are very much the same and unchanged, perhaps my openness to exploring that has. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine started short, very short. Every time I got tired repeating likes or dealing with unpleasantness I would add a little bit.
And whilst my limits are unchanged my interests have grown so they get updated often.
Fab has softened some hard limits as I have grown accustomed to certain mindsets so that will mean another adjustment soon. Just have to gather my thoughts first.
I'll likely shorten too but really, if it's written there it's relevant to me. Anyone who can't outlast a few paragraphs wouldn't last long in person so no loss |
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By *eli OP Woman
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"I re wrote mine loads of times as a single. Just to see who bothered to read it more than anything. What I wanted always stayed the same. It just got more crap as time went on saying what I didn't want. Because of who you end up with in your inbox.
T"
I'm not quite at that stage yet (she types a decade later). But it can be frustrating and keeping it free from ranting/what you don't want is tricky. I'm trying to avoid getting in to posting what I don't want and reflecting on what I do and what I can offer. Albeit poorly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my experience profile text means nothing
I have tryed long I have tryed short
I have even tryed a list off things ie my current text
To all the same most just Icnore it and message what they want anyway |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I need to do a proper rewrite of ours. I think I will when we're ready to start meeting again. It's not that we've massively changed what we're looking for, but it's been over a year since I wrote it and we've had so many new experiences since then"
I hope you're not still poorly? New experiences do change you to some extent, even if it's just crossing off what you were actively looking for before or reinforcing what you'd like to look for now. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Mine is the shortest it’s ever been "
It took me until yesterday (poor show right?) to realise that it is probably very true. I quite like substantial but equally there's something intriguing about a pithy one liner. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I want to feel differently.
I would love a rewrite.
I just don't feel differently yet "
Ach. Pp. If there's one thing that I could wish for you this year, it's that you start feeling differently. I'm sorry you're still viewing things as you are (meant in a non-patronising way) x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The majority my profile is bullshit. No point updating it because people just see tits or arse. I'm not a fucking tick box.
That's true. But also people don't just see tits or an arse. You talk to people who view you as more. Even on the fora. But yeah, I've kept my interests blank because I don't want folk to curate what they think I'd like. I'd rather approach them and be approached as an individual rather than ticks and a hole."
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Mine started short, very short. Every time I got tired repeating likes or dealing with unpleasantness I would add a little bit.
And whilst my limits are unchanged my interests have grown so they get updated often.
Fab has softened some hard limits as I have grown accustomed to certain mindsets so that will mean another adjustment soon. Just have to gather my thoughts first.
I'll likely shorten too but really, if it's written there it's relevant to me. Anyone who can't outlast a few paragraphs wouldn't last long in person so no loss "
That's a good attitude to have. I think gathering your thoughts and working out what you want to type is a definite good thing. I'm currently crafting a profile on a different site and tweaking and working out how to put hard limits but not explicitly because... it's not quite me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I ask for profile advice and change it based on that. I think it’s good so far but if you’d change anything feel free to mention it "
Love the bananana! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I scribbled mine hastily when I joined as a short term fix. It seemed better than "will fill in later", but definitely needs adapting!
This will prompt me over tea. Thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I occasionally add things to mine, but I'm pretty happy with it overall.
It does generate a lot of stupid questions though " bet you get loads of idiots too x |
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I probably should change mine. But it's about a vibe for me, not a detailed description, and I think it still matches my personality fairly well.
I'm no-one's 6/10. Probably 0 for most, and 10 for a very few after we've met. That suits me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good profile op.
Me? I need to change my profile differently to the past. In the past I just add or takeaway a few things that reflect how positive or how negative it should sound.
Sometimes I want messages, other time I basically say, don’t get in touch!!!
I also don’t have my likes dislike on. I’m in a good mood, where I like finding a common ground with someone. Should I put more details on?
I dunno, maybe I’ll update soon to reflect the new me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont really write it to reflect a want. I dont want to want lists of things from people or of myself so I write a bit of something that springs to mind and see what it brings up in others. That all reads a bit tongue twistery I do occassionally say not looking to meet but it doesnt usually make a lot of difference. I may one day make it more of a 'dating' type profile but more than likely won't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I do often rewrite parts of my profile. Currently I am feeling content and happy with what I am after though. As I might have found what I was looking for |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do often rewrite parts of my profile. Currently I am feeling content and happy with what I am after though. As I might have found what I was looking for "
Breaking News, Is Jack off the Market?? |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I do often rewrite parts of my profile. Currently I am feeling content and happy with what I am after though. As I might have found what I was looking for
Breaking News, Is Jack off the Market?? "
Whoaaaaah Monty. This is... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do often rewrite parts of my profile. Currently I am feeling content and happy with what I am after though. As I might have found what I was looking for "
Bloody hell that shopping trip must have been productive! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think what I'm looking for still applies but have tweaked it here and there to update it based on the experiences I've had. Looking at it now, I think it's pretty clear |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"In my experience profile text means nothing
I have tryed long I have tryed short
I have even tryed a list off things ie my current text
To all the same most just Icnore it and message what they want anyway "
Don't you find people tailor their messages to be more applicable to you though based on what you've written/photos showing?
When I had a quim photo and was very clearly looking for a dicking, my messages were very different to the ones I've been receiving recently - I've had some lovely ones the past couple of days. Not that ones offering a dicking in their hotel room aren't lovely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do often rewrite parts of my profile. Currently I am feeling content and happy with what I am after though. As I might have found what I was looking for
Breaking News, Is Jack off the Market?? "
Well I’m not looking for anyone new, that I’ve not made plans with put it that way… |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I do often rewrite parts of my profile. Currently I am feeling content and happy with what I am after though. As I might have found what I was looking for
Breaking News, Is Jack off the Market??
Well I’m not looking for anyone new, that I’ve not made plans with put it that way…"
Oh this is so lovely and delightful to read.
I hope it continues to blossom for you.
P.S not envious at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do often rewrite parts of my profile. Currently I am feeling content and happy with what I am after though. As I might have found what I was looking for
Breaking News, Is Jack off the Market??
Well I’m not looking for anyone new, that I’ve not made plans with put it that way…
Oh this is so lovely and delightful to read.
I hope it continues to blossom for you.
P.S not envious at all."
Thank you Meli that’s very kind of you to say! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nothing in my life has changed from what lm looking for so tbh l don't feel l need to change anything in my profile, it is what it is , if it attracts the person l'm looking for well n good ..if it doesn't well then ..it doesn't..but you gotta always be true to yourself..don't you ? |
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"I do often rewrite parts of my profile. Currently I am feeling content and happy with what I am after though. As I might have found what I was looking for
Breaking News, Is Jack off the Market??
Well I’m not looking for anyone new, that I’ve not made plans with put it that way…
Oh this is so lovely and delightful to read.
I hope it continues to blossom for you.
P.S not envious at all.
Thank you Meli that’s very kind of you to say! "
I’ll have my penis pump back then |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I ask for profile advice and change it based on that. I think it’s good so far but if you’d change anything feel free to mention it
Love the bananana!"
Thank you |
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We made a pact to not put a list of do’s and dont’s on our profile as they are generally annoying.
But fuck me, some people I could literally tell them where to go…
‘Dave, you’ve just got a dick pic and a fill in later profile…why do you think we’d match??’
Anyway…to answer your question, we’ve recently changed it, so it’s had 2 re-writes and still no do’s and dont’s
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"I've been rewriting ours for a couple of days. I envy the witty and erudite authors on here."
Me too....I wish I had that kind of witty flow...very tempted to hire a ghost writer; I wonder if that could be a talent - Fab Profile Writer |
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"I've been rewriting ours for a couple of days. I envy the witty and erudite authors on here.
Me too....I wish I had that kind of witty flow...very tempted to hire a ghost writer; I wonder if that could be a talent - Fab Profile Writer "
imagine the disappointment. You imagine you're meeting Shakespeare and I turn up |
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I had a bit of a re-fresh and re-evaluation this week, with the help of a close friend. I’d like to update/add more pictures too, but I’m not a fan of the selfie and have no one else to take pics instead, so that might have to wait. |
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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago
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I periodically rewrite depending on what I think Fabs might actually be for - to be frank, I'm never sure - and also prompted by the odd message I get that suggests that certain Fabsters don't get certain kinds of humour. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Good profile op.
Me? I need to change my profile differently to the past. In the past I just add or takeaway a few things that reflect how positive or how negative it should sound.
Sometimes I want messages, other time I basically say, don’t get in touch!!!
I also don’t have my likes dislike on. I’m in a good mood, where I like finding a common ground with someone. Should I put more details on?
I dunno, maybe I’ll update soon to reflect the new me.
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I like your profile as is Woody, it reflects you well. Your voice is clear and strong and you've got a soupçon of smut - don't change it too much! |
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Since we dropped to original push it song lyric one it’s been pretty consistent I think.
Says everything about us and what our interests are.
We get regular messages from people that generally have the same interests (amungst all the usual crap shadow avatar messages couples and women get)
I never feel any guilt about deleting unread spam messages as our profile explains the sort of Mail we won’t respond to.
Simples |
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"Since we dropped to original push it song lyric one it’s been pretty consistent I think.
Says everything about us and what our interests are."
Don't be coy, avoid, or make void the topic
Cuz that ain't gonna stop it |
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"Since we dropped to original push it song lyric one it’s been pretty consistent I think.
Says everything about us and what our interests are.
Don't be coy, avoid, or make void the topic
Cuz that ain't gonna stop it"
Let’s talk about sex? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Since we dropped to original push it song lyric one it’s been pretty consistent I think.
Says everything about us and what our interests are.
Don't be coy, avoid, or make void the topic
Cuz that ain't gonna stop it
Let’s talk about sex?"
If you want. |
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I’ve probably rewritten mine 2-3 times in five years. It’s usually when my life circumstances change and I feel like rejuvenating it. I think a refresh can be a good thing, not least so I can feel current and authentic, but it’s also a psychological pick-me-up.
I’ve tried to reflect my personality with facts and humour, in as little waffle as possible. And I refuse to be negative in any way or provide lists. If I was being shallow, I’d write it generically to have broad appeal. But the fact is I like what I like and other people like what they like. I’ve grown comfortable with that, even though it means I don’t always appeal to people that appeal to me. That’s authenticity, to me.
I suspect (very generally speaking) more women and couples than single men read profiles properly, but it strikes me it’s still more about personal attributes, pictures and that first message.
NB If anyone has any suggestions for improvements to my profile, please do so. I’m not precious! |
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Well this prompted me to re-read my profile. Nothing has changed so won’t change the wording. Need to update pictures as it’s 2023 now and I think updating annually (annUally) is a good thing to do. |
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When I was actively looking to meet, I re-wrote my profile several times. It's amazing how a profile that basically says the same, but worded differently to the previous iteration, can attract a completely different type of communication from others (yes, there there are always the FAF, meet now, wuu2 messages no matter what the profile says, but I'm talking about civilised conversations).
I've forgotten what the OP was, and the above is probably completely irrelevant, but anyway, human behaviour fascinates me |
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"I've been rewriting ours for a couple of days. I envy the witty and erudite authors on here.
Me too....I wish I had that kind of witty flow...very tempted to hire a ghost writer; I wonder if that could be a talent - Fab Profile Writer
imagine the disappointment. You imagine you're meeting Shakespeare and I turn up "
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If a Diamond was extolled in your name and you turned up looking like Platinum, I can assure you there would be a cohort of lustful Libertines knocking on the door of your fragile heart. |
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Most people don't read the first line.
Often get a " Hi, how are you?"
Being polite I reply, then we have a chat, then the guy asks for a meet, I say sorry you aren't what we are looking for.
They then moan that I have wasted their time... |
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By *eli OP Woman
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"When I was actively looking to meet, I re-wrote my profile several times. It's amazing how a profile that basically says the same, but worded differently to the previous iteration, can attract a completely different type of communication from others (yes, there there are always the FAF, meet now, wuu2 messages no matter what the profile says, but I'm talking about civilised conversations).
I've forgotten what the OP was, and the above is probably completely irrelevant, but anyway, human behaviour fascinates me "
It's so fascinating isn't it? Why do people people?
I've had such different messages since tweaking my profile recently. Really lovely ones, people are opening up more, suggesting things. I'm going to start taking people up on things. I'd always thought that maybe folk weren't quite as keen on doing things but it's been a lovely surprise. |
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"Most people don't read the first line.
Often get a " Hi, how are you?"
Being polite I reply, then we have a chat, then the guy asks for a meet, I say sorry you aren't what we are looking for.
They then moan that I have wasted their time... "
Why just black guys and no Asians? Seems racist |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most people don't read the first line.
Often get a " Hi, how are you?"
Being polite I reply, then we have a chat, then the guy asks for a meet, I say sorry you aren't what we are looking for.
They then moan that I have wasted their time...
Why just black guys and no Asians? Seems racist "
Why don't you fuck men? Seems homophobic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most people don't read the first line.
Often get a " Hi, how are you?"
Being polite I reply, then we have a chat, then the guy asks for a meet, I say sorry you aren't what we are looking for.
They then moan that I have wasted their time...
Why just black guys and no Asians? Seems racist
Why don't you fuck men? Seems homophobic. "
I’m not gay |
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