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over a year ago
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As the new year kicks in many try to get rid of bad habits. Don't smoke, don't drink, don't eat sweets.. all the "No, No, No's!". What about creating good ones or maintaining those you already have? What will you say YES to in 2023?
Thread inspired by an article boosting a myth of 21 days being enough to create a good habit. A study showed that it can take anytime between 18 to 254 days to form new positive behaviours, but on average it is 66, depending on person and circumstances. It doesn't matter if you mess up here and then, as long as you keep going.
My good habit has been starting a day with water. Sometimes I forget, when in rush, but my body and mind thank me when I do stick with it.
In a process of reintroducing others, which I fell out of! Hoping I can trick my mind to persevere.
What is your good habit you have intention to continue or to begin?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not being stupidly lazy on my days off. I tell myself I deserve the rest coz I've worked hard, but then feel poo for doing fuck all."
That's a dilemma. How are you going to solve it? Make to do list? Do alternative lazy and performing days? Break a day into let's crack on with this shit or get out and live? And then blissful fuck all after ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Better sleep habits.
Getting out for a walk at least every other day.
Start back on the supplements."
Yes. My sleep hygiene is very inconsistent too. Any good tips?
Walking is a bliss. I try every day but Christmas was a lazy one.
What supplements ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I was having far to many take aways so I've given them up. It's been three weeks now and I hope to carry it on into the new year"
Fantastic. 3 weeks is a good go! Huge savings too I bet? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Getting up rather than having a tiny snooze again, makes me feel awful and no better rested "
Why do you feel awful?
I remember reading about some military routine for breaking that habit. I might be wrong. Something ringing in my memory.
It only makes sense to me when it's a solid 20 min or so of uninterrupted extra snooze.  |
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"Not being stupidly lazy on my days off. I tell myself I deserve the rest coz I've worked hard, but then feel poo for doing fuck all.
That's a dilemma. How are you going to solve it? Make to do list? Do alternative lazy and performing days? Break a day into let's crack on with this shit or get out and live? And then blissful fuck all after ? "
I think that's gonna have to be the plan of action , the breaking the day down into segments. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm gonna write more.
Try harder now.  
What will you write ?
Screenplays. Though I'm getting a bit old for that game so might switch to a novel. "
You can have a breakthrough any age I believe. I always wanted to write kids stories. Fingers crossed, Magneto. |
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"I was having far to many take aways so I've given them up. It's been three weeks now and I hope to carry it on into the new year
Fantastic. 3 weeks is a good go! Huge savings too I bet? "
Yes. I'm saving a fortune as they are not cheap |
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"Getting up rather than having a tiny snooze again, makes me feel awful and no better rested
Why do you feel awful?
I remember reading about some military routine for breaking that habit. I might be wrong. Something ringing in my memory.
It only makes sense to me when it's a solid 20 min or so of uninterrupted extra snooze. "
It’s to do with your REM cycles I think, even anything straight after waking up (early thanks to children) makes me feel terrible. I just got up this morn and felt so much better for it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To keep up with my menopausal health routines, it's far too easy to forget/oh I'll do it later and then my symptoms start playing up again"
I'm not very routine based person either and yes it's easy, when you feel better, to slip up occasionally. Wishing you a strong focus and feeling good as a result! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Reading every day. Has taken a while to pick it up again but now making slow progress on my unread book mountain."
My friend did a book a month through a year and posted a photo collage of them at the end of 2022 with a little review. I liked that. Seems achievable too. good luck my friend |
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"I'm gonna write more.
Try harder now.
What will you write ?
Screenplays. Though I'm getting a bit old for that game so might switch to a novel.
You can have a breakthrough any age I believe. I always wanted to write kids stories. Fingers crossed, Magneto."
Yes I agree, especially with writing, I don't have to be young and good looking you should write your kids book. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm going to say yes to more saucy anal sex, that'll do nicely
Haha when you say saucy you mean.. ?
Bareback anal? 
No, always safe, just not going to say no as often   "
I was teasing about the saucy bit
If you love it, have more of it say yes yes yeaaaaaah |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am planning to walk every day and eat better t
I’ve been getting the kids out for walks every day this week and I’ve been surprised at how good it’s been for us actuallt"
Free and feels so good. Especially if surrounded by peaceful nature. Will join you in spirit tomorrow and with my brood. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No more fabs during work hours. I can multitask…but not *that* well "
Hey. I haven't got any fabs ?!
Right - you need admin for that! I'm sure plenty will volunteer |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'm aiming to stop more and think before I respond. I'm quite an instinctive sort of person and sometimes it's good to just stop, breathe and give myself time to truly process.
I'm also going to meditate daily. Even if it's for only fifteen minutes, it helps still my mind an awful lot. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am going to try and wank myself blind ! "
Struggling to see the good bit here 
Unless it's your very last spectacular wank show after which you retire. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm gonna write more.
Try harder now.
What will you write ?
Screenplays. Though I'm getting a bit old for that game so might switch to a novel.
You can have a breakthrough any age I believe. I always wanted to write kids stories. Fingers crossed, Magneto.
Yes I agree, especially with writing, I don't have to be young and good looking you should write your kids book. "
That's probably a project for in few years time. But yes keeps playing on my mind. Shall we nag each other once in a while? |
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over a year ago
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"Brilliant sleep tips in the michael Mossley podcast series sleep well."
I'm not good with podcasts but I'll search him up. Thank you
Looks like few of us would love to improve sleeping habits. It's been better before Internet times for those who remember ! Too many distractions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am planning to walk every day and eat better t
I’ve been getting the kids out for walks every day this week and I’ve been surprised at how good it’s been for us actuallt"
The challenge is building it into your routine... I am lazy!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm aiming to stop more and think before I respond. I'm quite an instinctive sort of person and sometimes it's good to just stop, breathe and give myself time to truly process.
I'm also going to meditate daily. Even if it's for only fifteen minutes, it helps still my mind an awful lot."
I love processing  |
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By *oanne ETV/TS
over a year ago
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"I'm going to say yes to more saucy anal sex, that'll do nicely
Haha when you say saucy you mean.. ?
Bareback anal?
No, always safe, just not going to say no as often
I was teasing about the saucy bit
If you love it, have more of it say yes yes yeaaaaaah "
But of course darling   2023 is the year of fun fun fun xxxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not being stupidly lazy on my days off. I tell myself I deserve the rest coz I've worked hard, but then feel poo for doing fuck all."
Same here. I could get a lot more done. |
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"I'm gonna write more.
Try harder now.
What will you write ?
Screenplays. Though I'm getting a bit old for that game so might switch to a novel.
You can have a breakthrough any age I believe. I always wanted to write kids stories. Fingers crossed, Magneto.
Yes I agree, especially with writing, I don't have to be young and good looking you should write your kids book.
That's probably a project for in few years time. But yes keeps playing on my mind. Shall we nag each other once in a while?"
Sounds like a plan. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm gonna write more.
Try harder now.
What will you write ?
Screenplays. Though I'm getting a bit old for that game so might switch to a novel.
I’m finally going to finesse my novel"
Give me more what's the novel about without revealing too much?
Good luck.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm aiming to stop more and think before I respond. I'm quite an instinctive sort of person and sometimes it's good to just stop, breathe and give myself time to truly process.
I'm also going to meditate daily. Even if it's for only fifteen minutes, it helps still my mind an awful lot."
With a meditation app or just free flow? That sounds like a very good habit. Slowing down and watching ones thoughts. |
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"I'm aiming to stop more and think before I respond. I'm quite an instinctive sort of person and sometimes it's good to just stop, breathe and give myself time to truly process.
I'm also going to meditate daily. Even if it's for only fifteen minutes, it helps still my mind an awful lot."
Before you achieve this, fancy having sex? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm trying yo be in bed and phone off, lights out before 12 every night "
It's so easy to lose a track of time. Especially when one is on here! Just don't lose your magic slipper in the darkness, on the way to bed |
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"I'm gonna write more.
Try harder now.
What will you write ?
Screenplays. Though I'm getting a bit old for that game so might switch to a novel.
I’m finally going to finesse my novel"
Yes, get it done!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm aiming to stop more and think before I respond. I'm quite an instinctive sort of person and sometimes it's good to just stop, breathe and give myself time to truly process.
I'm also going to meditate daily. Even if it's for only fifteen minutes, it helps still my mind an awful lot.
Before you achieve this, fancy having sex? "
Risk taker. Maybe it would be a yes after giving it a thought ? |
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"I'm aiming to stop more and think before I respond. I'm quite an instinctive sort of person and sometimes it's good to just stop, breathe and give myself time to truly process.
I'm also going to meditate daily. Even if it's for only fifteen minutes, it helps still my mind an awful lot.
Before you achieve this, fancy having sex?
Risk taker. Maybe it would be a yes after giving it a thought ? "
Worth a try |
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"Go to bed earlier.
Often go to bed past midnight for no reason, then I'm annoyed the next morning as I'm tired. But I'll still be late for bed that evening as well!"
This should be mine. Working from home more over the last few years has pushed my bed time back later and later - often near 2am as I know I'll still get 6 hours, but know it's not good for me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Go to bed earlier.
Often go to bed past midnight for no reason, then I'm annoyed the next morning as I'm tired. But I'll still be late for bed that evening as well!"
How did it go last night ? before or after midnight ? |
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None of the habits I try to form are to stop something or to take something away, they're all about adding to my life.
Currently I'm finding 15 minutes a day to spend on self-care. Some days that's about going for a little walk or stepping away from a screen, sometimes it's putting on a face mask or having a chat with a friend, sometimes it's sorting out my nascent floordrobe so my bedroom feels more serene.
I've been doing this for just over a month and it's mad how the effects have snowballed. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Go to bed earlier.
Often go to bed past midnight for no reason, then I'm annoyed the next morning as I'm tired. But I'll still be late for bed that evening as well!
This should be mine. Working from home more over the last few years has pushed my bed time back later and later - often near 2am as I know I'll still get 6 hours, but know it's not good for me."
Hope you can find a solution which doesn't compromise good restful sleep. I know it's hard as I'm a night owl myself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"None of the habits I try to form are to stop something or to take something away, they're all about adding to my life.
Currently I'm finding 15 minutes a day to spend on self-care. Some days that's about going for a little walk or stepping away from a screen, sometimes it's putting on a face mask or having a chat with a friend, sometimes it's sorting out my nascent floordrobe so my bedroom feels more serene.
I've been doing this for just over a month and it's mad how the effects have snowballed."
Adding the value rather than depriving yourself. I like that and the power of simplicity. 15 minutes of sacred time to embrace things you enjoy or make you feel good - one worth stealing. Glad it helps you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There is a post on my blog regarding habits if anyone would like a read give me a shout for a link"
I'll have a look in the evening . Thanks for the link, Artylan. Ps. My phone keeps wanting to change your username to Artisan |
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