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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Any advice on 3somes. I've had 3sums before and very much enjoyed them.
I guess I'm more asking has anyone had a 3some with their friend and her friends husband?
Both are very hot and very sexual but I was thinking about the aftermath. I met her thorough work and we have became good friends. We would often go to lunch together and call to each others houses.
I'm worried about how it would our friendship? Anyone done it before and what was the outcome? |
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Your friendship needs to be bombproof and your friends relationship needs to be bombproof. There needs to be total clarity and honesty between all.
If not don’t do it.
We’ve lost some very special friends in the past through this kind of thing and it’s heartbreaking.
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"Any advice on 3somes. I've had 3sums before and very much enjoyed them.
I guess I'm more asking has anyone had a 3some with their friend and her friends husband?
Both are very hot and very sexual but I was thinking about the aftermath. I met her thorough work and we have became good friends. We would often go to lunch together and call to each others houses.
I'm worried about how it would our friendship? Anyone done it before and what was the outcome?"
Seems an ideal scenario. Friends who have fun. Never experienced it. But there's always a risk it could get in the way of the friendship. Guess it depends which you value the most.? As much as sex is a great thing... Good friends are better. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have they suggested it? Or are you just thinking about it?"
She has suggested it. They have done it before. She suggested it over Christmas while out for a drink. She's always flirting with me and very touchy. |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
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I think there's a big risk of changing your friendship forever. If that's not an issue, go for it!
Personally, I think it's easier to make friends with someone you swing with, rather than swing with friends.
Keep us posted!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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robin reliants had a problem rolling over a lot.
issue with stability..
3 can be a magic number - luke a triangle - but all sides need to be equal to keep balance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Realty is friendship and sex never mix well
One party will catch feelings for another be it the male off the couple or the female off the couple with the other person
Always leads to someone getting hurt
I would say probably best to just avoid it and tell them they friends only |
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"Have they suggested it? Or are you just thinking about it?
She has suggested it. They have done it before. She suggested it over Christmas while out for a drink. She's always flirting with me and very touchy. "
personally I’d go for it but that’s just me x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your friendship needs to be bombproof and your friends relationship needs to be bombproof. There needs to be total clarity and honesty between all.
If not don’t do it.
We’ve lost some very special friends in the past through this kind of thing and it’s heartbreaking.
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I'd be afraid of this happening especially as we work together too. I don't want to make things awkward. The other side is I am extremely attracted to her. |
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"Your friendship needs to be bombproof and your friends relationship needs to be bombproof. There needs to be total clarity and honesty between all.
If not don’t do it.
We’ve lost some very special friends in the past through this kind of thing and it’s heartbreaking.
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Absolutely 100% agree with this. |
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"Your friendship needs to be bombproof and your friends relationship needs to be bombproof. There needs to be total clarity and honesty between all.
If not don’t do it.
We’ve lost some very special friends in the past through this kind of thing and it’s heartbreaking.
I'd be afraid of this happening especially as we work together too. I don't want to make things awkward. The other side is I am extremely attracted to her."
Work colleague and friend and swinging buddy? Asking for trouble.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t do it. Imagine it goes wrong. He/she starts texting, telling you they don’t want to stay with their partner, they want you now. The other finds out and lets all your tyres down.
Ok, maybe not that, but there are many ways this could turn into an awkward scenario for all involved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Imo, you'd need the same level of trust and communication as when swinging with your OH.
Only you know that.
Any doubts, and say no. Unless you are happy that the experience is worth the friendship. |
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I think the above advice pretty much covers it.
I'd just ask if they've already got experience with this? Can they be in it just for the fun or would this be their first time and a risk of someone catching complicating feels?
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By *979Man
over a year ago
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From experience, don’t do it, best off meeting a couple who are actually swingers before friends
"Any advice on 3somes. I've had 3sums before and very much enjoyed them.
I guess I'm more asking has anyone had a 3some with their friend and her friends husband?
Both are very hot and very sexual but I was thinking about the aftermath. I met her thorough work and we have became good friends. We would often go to lunch together and call to each others houses.
I'm worried about how it would our friendship? Anyone done it before and what was the outcome?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've just started having threesomes with my best friend I've known 30 years and her husband.
Totally unexpected on my part, she's been hinting and asking for a while.
It happened for the first time a month ago and she changed her mind halfway through, we both felt terrible the next day and yes I was worried it might ruin our friendship so we said never again.
A week later we had another one which was incredible!!! No bad after feelings at all that time.
Then Christmas day we had the third one and again she turned halfway through, I think the thought for her is amazing and the reality is a bit different, she said she was happy for us to continue when she wanted to stop but we never would have.
She calls the shots with it but I don't think we should do it again and just chalk it up to a fun December. It could well become an issue. I know he's very keen to continue but i don't want her thinking every time i come over that she has to share her husband.
She lead it but backing away I feel is for the best now x |
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I used to have 3sums with my best friend and her partner frequently. It never affected things with me and her, I was the one who ended the fun when I got into a relationship. 7 years on from our first night of fun we are still best friends and well, he’s no longer around lol |
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"I've just started having threesomes with my best friend I've known 30 years and her husband.
Totally unexpected on my part, she's been hinting and asking for a while.
It happened for the first time a month ago and she changed her mind halfway through, we both felt terrible the next day and yes I was worried it might ruin our friendship so we said never again.
A week later we had another one which was incredible!!! No bad after feelings at all that time.
Then Christmas day we had the third one and again she turned halfway through, I think the thought for her is amazing and the reality is a bit different, she said she was happy for us to continue when she wanted to stop but we never would have.
She calls the shots with it but I don't think we should do it again and just chalk it up to a fun December. It could well become an issue. I know he's very keen to continue but i don't want her thinking every time i come over that she has to share her husband.
She lead it but backing away I feel is for the best now x"
And this is the perfect example of why it shouldn’t happen.
It’s already altering and blurring the friendship.
I’d say to stear clear - have the conversation and state why as much as you’d like to, you’d rather keep their friendship.
Working together too just complicates it further.
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By *979Man
over a year ago
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"I used to have 3sums with my best friend and her partner frequently. It never affected things with me and her, I was the one who ended the fun when I got into a relationship. 7 years on from our first night of fun we are still best friends and well, he’s no longer around lol"
Sounded like they went went well to be fair |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don’t do it. Imagine it goes wrong. He/she starts texting, telling you they don’t want to stay with their partner, they want you now. The other finds out and lets all your tyres down.
Ok, maybe not that, but there are many ways this could turn into an awkward scenario for all involved."
This is very true. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I used to have 3sums with my best friend and her partner frequently. It never affected things with me and her, I was the one who ended the fun when I got into a relationship. 7 years on from our first night of fun we are still best friends and well, he’s no longer around lol"
I guess it's finding a balance. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've just started having threesomes with my best friend I've known 30 years and her husband.
Totally unexpected on my part, she's been hinting and asking for a while.
It happened for the first time a month ago and she changed her mind halfway through, we both felt terrible the next day and yes I was worried it might ruin our friendship so we said never again.
A week later we had another one which was incredible!!! No bad after feelings at all that time.
Then Christmas day we had the third one and again she turned halfway through, I think the thought for her is amazing and the reality is a bit different, she said she was happy for us to continue when she wanted to stop but we never would have.
She calls the shots with it but I don't think we should do it again and just chalk it up to a fun December. It could well become an issue. I know he's very keen to continue but i don't want her thinking every time i come over that she has to share her husband.
She lead it but backing away I feel is for the best now x
And this is the perfect example of why it shouldn’t happen.
It’s already altering and blurring the friendship.
I’d say to stear clear - have the conversation and state why as much as you’d like to, you’d rather keep their friendship.
Working together too just complicates it further.
K"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just started having threesomes with my best friend I've known 30 years and her husband.
Totally unexpected on my part, she's been hinting and asking for a while.
It happened for the first time a month ago and she changed her mind halfway through, we both felt terrible the next day and yes I was worried it might ruin our friendship so we said never again.
A week later we had another one which was incredible!!! No bad after feelings at all that time.
Then Christmas day we had the third one and again she turned halfway through, I think the thought for her is amazing and the reality is a bit different, she said she was happy for us to continue when she wanted to stop but we never would have.
She calls the shots with it but I don't think we should do it again and just chalk it up to a fun December. It could well become an issue. I know he's very keen to continue but i don't want her thinking every time i come over that she has to share her husband.
She lead it but backing away I feel is for the best now x"
Jesus. I'd definitely be backing away. She doesn't sound like she's comfortable with it at all. I can easily see you losing your best friend here if you continue.  |
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over a year ago
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"I've just started having threesomes with my best friend I've known 30 years and her husband.
Totally unexpected on my part, she's been hinting and asking for a while.
It happened for the first time a month ago and she changed her mind halfway through, we both felt terrible the next day and yes I was worried it might ruin our friendship so we said never again.
A week later we had another one which was incredible!!! No bad after feelings at all that time.
Then Christmas day we had the third one and again she turned halfway through, I think the thought for her is amazing and the reality is a bit different, she said she was happy for us to continue when she wanted to stop but we never would have.
She calls the shots with it but I don't think we should do it again and just chalk it up to a fun December. It could well become an issue. I know he's very keen to continue but i don't want her thinking every time i come over that she has to share her husband.
She lead it but backing away I feel is for the best now x
Jesus. I'd definitely be backing away. She doesn't sound like she's comfortable with it at all. I can easily see you losing your best friend here if you continue. "
Yes she said last night it was fun but she doesn't want to do it again, from what I've said I knew she wasn't completely comfortable with it so definitely the right decision x |
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Am I missing something here, a woman wants a 3some, been offered by her best friend and partner. There’s plenty of couples asking for woman on here so OP will have no trouble finding people on here for 3some, tell your friends to join fab and find their own playmates. That way you keep your friendship they and you find your 3some buddies |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Any advice on 3somes. I've had 3sums before and very much enjoyed them.
I guess I'm more asking has anyone had a 3some with their friend and her friends husband?
Both are very hot and very sexual but I was thinking about the aftermath. I met her thorough work and we have became good friends. We would often go to lunch together and call to each others houses.
I'm worried about how it would our friendship? Anyone done it before and what was the outcome?"
I've had many 3somes but once involved it was mainly me and the wife thinking about it, not with friends though, that doesn't sound feasible  |
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There is an old saying about never employ a friend.
The same applies to fucking them.
Terrible idea. Odds are it will change things for the worse and beyond repair.
I have had it happen with people I knew only from our sexual friendships where one party develops regrets and even that hurts.
If it was long time social friends I do not feel it would be worth the risk.
Look at the general trend of the responses.
Avoid. |
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"Any advice on 3somes. I've had 3sums before and very much enjoyed them.
I guess I'm more asking has anyone had a 3some with their friend and her friends husband?
Both are very hot and very sexual but I was thinking about the aftermath. I met her thorough work and we have became good friends. We would often go to lunch together and call to each others houses.
I'm worried about how it would our friendship? Anyone done it before and what was the outcome?"
If you are a friend that goes to their home I wouldn’t recommend it as you will become a threat to their relationship during tough times.
You could get in their disputes and asked to take a side.
The hubby would never look at you the same again which means she would too.
How close is tour friendship? Not close enough to matter or close enough to be completely honest and open. Anything in between isn’t worth the risk.
I take it you’re attracted to the hubby in that case too. So where would the boundaries be? |
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over a year ago
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"Any advice on 3somes. I've had 3sums before and very much enjoyed them.
I guess I'm more asking has anyone had a 3some with their friend and her friends husband?
Both are very hot and very sexual but I was thinking about the aftermath. I met her thorough work and we have became good friends. We would often go to lunch together and call to each others houses.
I'm worried about how it would our friendship? Anyone done it before and what was the outcome?
If you are a friend that goes to their home I wouldn’t recommend it as you will become a threat to their relationship during tough times.
You could get in their disputes and asked to take a side.
The hubby would never look at you the same again which means she would too.
How close is tour friendship? Not close enough to matter or close enough to be completely honest and open. Anything in between isn’t worth the risk.
I take it you’re attracted to the hubby in that case too. So where would the boundaries be?"
Yah I am really attracted to both of them to be fair. I do love the idea of a 3sum with people I know rather than strangers but also get what everyone else is saying. So it's a tough decision but in leaning towards saying no. |
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"Any advice on 3somes. I've had 3sums before and very much enjoyed them.
I guess I'm more asking has anyone had a 3some with their friend and her friends husband?
Both are very hot and very sexual but I was thinking about the aftermath. I met her thorough work and we have became good friends. We would often go to lunch together and call to each others houses.
I'm worried about how it would our friendship? Anyone done it before and what was the outcome?
If you are a friend that goes to their home I wouldn’t recommend it as you will become a threat to their relationship during tough times.
You could get in their disputes and asked to take a side.
The hubby would never look at you the same again which means she would too.
How close is tour friendship? Not close enough to matter or close enough to be completely honest and open. Anything in between isn’t worth the risk.
I take it you’re attracted to the hubby in that case too. So where would the boundaries be?
Yah I am really attracted to both of them to be fair. I do love the idea of a 3sum with people I know rather than strangers but also get what everyone else is saying. So it's a tough decision but in leaning towards saying no."
100 %agree On your point of having the fun with people you know rather than randoms. Never understood the thing with strangers and one offs. But there's a difference between workmates and best mates and swinging mates. Only you know your situation. |
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over a year ago
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"Any advice on 3somes. I've had 3sums before and very much enjoyed them.
I guess I'm more asking has anyone had a 3some with their friend and her friends husband?
Both are very hot and very sexual but I was thinking about the aftermath. I met her thorough work and we have became good friends. We would often go to lunch together and call to each others houses.
I'm worried about how it would our friendship? Anyone done it before and what was the outcome?
If you are a friend that goes to their home I wouldn’t recommend it as you will become a threat to their relationship during tough times.
You could get in their disputes and asked to take a side.
The hubby would never look at you the same again which means she would too.
How close is tour friendship? Not close enough to matter or close enough to be completely honest and open. Anything in between isn’t worth the risk.
I take it you’re attracted to the hubby in that case too. So where would the boundaries be?
Yah I am really attracted to both of them to be fair. I do love the idea of a 3sum with people I know rather than strangers but also get what everyone else is saying. So it's a tough decision but in leaning towards saying no.
100 %agree On your point of having the fun with people you know rather than randoms. Never understood the thing with strangers and one offs. But there's a difference between workmates and best mates and swinging mates. Only you know your situation. "
Yah quite true. We met through work and became friends from their. We have been friends for about 3 years and occasionally go out together. We have been I'm each others houses a couple of times for dinner, drinks etc |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m lucky enough to be friends with two gorgeous women who are a couple and sometimes we play as a threesome.
Sounds like lots off fun  very much so xx"
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My two cents is the working together element is probably the biggest risk. If it was just a friends situation you could always just distance yourself. But you can't do that when you're both awkwardly waiting the kettle to boil in the work canteen
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I would never play with close friends. My friendship with my close friends is much more valuable than sex. I wouldn't want to risk it."
Yep. That's very much the same for me. That doesn't mean I don't occasionally have very weird and disturbing sex dreams about them (weird and disturbing because they feature in it). But having had a good handful of ffms, I'd rather the other f was a friend but not a close one. Friendships are more important to me than a few hours of great sex. |
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