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Do you usually find you make the first move?!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Sister thread here to my other one.
Are you usually the one making the first move?! I love women making the first move but usually give in myself first to the tension.
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I like to build that frustration game, almost like sexual harassment chicken, and I don't like to lose, so usually the other party breaks and initiates. I'm not opposed to initiating sometimes though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am awful at making the first move, so much so I have missed out on lots of fun.
I like it if someone else makes a big hint or makes first move, from there I am good to go and very happy to lead just need that obvious green light I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope and I really think I'm going to change this
Old fashioned values are hard to break but what's the worst that can happen  "
You saying no to guy getting in his car!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope and I really think I'm going to change this
Old fashioned values are hard to break but what's the worst that can happen
You saying no to guy getting in his car!! "
Hahaha if that certain guy had been serious then I would have jumped at it and jumped on him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope and I really think I'm going to change this
Old fashioned values are hard to break but what's the worst that can happen
You saying no to guy getting in his car!!
Hahaha if that certain guy had been serious then I would have jumped at it and jumped on him "
Confident you shoulda called his bluff to see him in the buff |
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I don't really make the first move at all because (and this isn't a plea for pity or compliments) sexually, I think I have quite low self esteem so feel as though if they were really interested, they would make the first move as it's the only sure way of knowing they would be interested. Although I realise I need to do it more as I'll probably end up missing out on more opportunities by not saying anything and giving off a vibe that I'm not interested when I really am by downplaying any flirtiness or advances. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would. I have. I hate the thought of a missed connection.
I really like to be woo'ed though so a guy taking the lead is still my preference.
I like the anticipation, the excitement and thrill of being pursued.
Doing the woo'ing can be a turn on for me though, the thrill of exposure when putting myself out on a limb is exhilarating  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't really make the first move at all because (and this isn't a plea for pity or compliments) sexually, I think I have quite low self esteem so feel as though if they were really interested, they would make the first move as it's the only sure way of knowing they would be interested. Although I realise I need to do it more as I'll probably end up missing out on more opportunities by not saying anything and giving off a vibe that I'm not interested when I really am by downplaying any flirtiness or advances."
I subscribe to this...same reasons I don't make the first move |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't really make the first move at all because (and this isn't a plea for pity or compliments) sexually, I think I have quite low self esteem so feel as though if they were really interested, they would make the first move as it's the only sure way of knowing they would be interested. Although I realise I need to do it more as I'll probably end up missing out on more opportunities by not saying anything and giving off a vibe that I'm not interested when I really am by downplaying any flirtiness or advances."
This was me a year or two ago.
Then I figured, what would I hate more? The missed connection and all the possibilities and positives from that? Or the momentary awkwardness of a no?
Because I've had a no and given a no since then.
Those I've given haven't been done with any sense of 'omfg this guy!!' cringe so I'll assume any no I've received is equally just one of those things, no chemistry or different life stages. Not a personal cringeworthy ewwww.
Well that's my thinking anyhow and I'm sticking to it 
So I say feck it and leap |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The way meets normally build up for me it gets to the point where my mind is playing out many different scenarios and I give in. Although that said I have been pretty instantly pounced on a few times |
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