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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey all
I don’t expect or want details of personal matters but would like to know if anyone has tried the above and how they found it. Even better if you could contrast against other therapy styles. This would be a first foray into therapy after talking to a couple of friends who’ve found it useful. I like taking time to consider what I say and find writing helps that which is why I’m considering email but then is the whole non verbal communication side missing?!
Idea is 2023 should be a year for me to knuckle down and deal with things I’ve escaped from or let lie for too long. Sure I’m not alone in that as an intention and hope anyone else looking to change their lives in the coming year great success in it. Best wishes for the new year |
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Hi Jack,
I've not heard of this but I can see it working on an advice front but not on a listening front......
Do you write to the therapist till you've used up the whole internet and they respond with ...... and how does that make you feel ? and then off you go again ...
I do see a use for it but I see it as limited in what it can offer |
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Give it a go to see if it works, however conventional therapy may be more effective. I found 1:1 face to face as being the most effective, but we’re all different.
As said above, just be wary of handing over your money for what is little more than cold reading. |
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I've not done therapy by email. I would be wary that you would produce something polished and not getting into the nuts and bolts of your issues.
There's also risk of unethical practitioners in the online space - the group Better Help has come under some scrutiny in the last year (some of which has remained online despite their litigious nature). |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think writing stuff down is a great way to get some feelings out, however I think this should be something that goes alongside therapy. Emails and messages can be misconstrued in tonality, and that is something that's very important in getting your feelings across.
Therapy has helped me immensely, and I feel like everybody could do with it! I would say though, that it took me a while to find someone who I was totally comfortable speaking with openly and didn't feel condescended by, so don't worry if you don't find the right person to begin with! Good luck!  |
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I've never had therapy of any kind but the first thing that springs to mind is you saying this appeals to you because you like to consider before you speak. Would the therapist be getting your true reaction or a reasoned reaction? |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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With the rise of AI chatbots it'd be difficult to trust you were getting qualified help and not generic replies than when you're seeing someone face to face.
With therapy I would think advice or approaches are more nuanced, accountable and can be revised - if a chatbot gets it wrong because you've left something out or typed something wrong, you are stuck with whatever therapy given.
That is unless you get a therapist actually replying - which I'd think would be pretty labour intensive and open to scrutiny, as replies would be in text not verbal, where they are open to interpretation.
(this took too much thinking, time and correcting in replying). |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you everyone! I’ve had a think about it and agree email may work best alongside either video or in person therapy. I do believe it will be healthy to find an outside independent sounding board.
Ps happy 2023 and wishing you all a Fab year x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thank you everyone! I’ve had a think about it and agree email may work best alongside either video or in person therapy. I do believe it will be healthy to find an outside independent sounding board.
Ps happy 2023 and wishing you all a Fab year x "
So as someone with experience in this, I'd suggest in person or online, nothing beats in the moment, be careful about email, as your subconscious biases will be at play alot more |
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A charity I help with, we do a lot of help via email. It will work for those that struggle with face to face.
Me personally had email been a thing when I needed it then I'd have been happier to do it that way. However I have journalled since I was about 8 years old. I find it easier to be honest and open up in written form than face to face. ..
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"I've not done therapy by email. I would be wary that you would produce something polished and not getting into the nuts and bolts of your issues.
There's also risk of unethical practitioners in the online space - the group Better Help has come under some scrutiny in the last year (some of which has remained online despite their litigious nature)."
I think the risk of unethical practitioners is very important. One of my kids works for a firm giving therapy and one of the key stages early on is the assessment & deciding if they take a client on, if they don’t believe their particular service can help they can’t take the client on because there’s risk of doing damage. This is mostly based on the clients willingness to be honest, open up and want to get well well etc but also not every treatment is right for every client.
I’d been keen to know how they assess clients for suitability - sounds like a possible scam. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm currently receiving therapy through email but I haven't found it useful at all. It feels very impersonal so I'm now on a waiting list for face to face therapy.
I was recommended email therapy by a few people who said it was amazing for them. So it totally depends on how you respond to it. It's worth giving it a shot and seeing how you get on. You've got nothing to lose.
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"Thank you everyone! I’ve had a think about it and agree email may work best alongside either video or in person therapy. I do believe it will be healthy to find an outside independent sounding board.
Ps happy 2023 and wishing you all a Fab year x "
Definitely do the live video or live text chat alongside (whichever a particular therapist provides, or both if possible), it's really beneficial.
Also don't be too worried about asking for another therapist if you feel you aren't connecting with the one you have, some of them are specialist by their own admission.
There's some great services and some... not too great ones, but I'm sure you've done a bit of homework on whatever platform you pick.
Excited for you, pal |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My gut feel is whatever the benefit of doing it via email is lost.
Indeed other than it may be cheaper and easier (maybe) to find time for I don't get why this is a good idea. Email will likely be moderated. And the therapist will not be able to guage reactions. That feels like a huge loss from my experience. My sense (may be completely off kilter) is it feels nicer... But the hard parts of therapy are often the valuable parts.
It's not one I'd do. As much as it probably would have appealed when I stated my journey. But that's because I avoiding talking about emotions and conflict !!! |
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