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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope as if I have something to say to another forumite I will openly say it in public as I don’t say things in private that I wouldn’t post public anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "
All the time |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I did… once upon a time. But then went for it !
What’s the worst that can happen?"
You look like an archetypical single male instead of an actual nice person...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I did… once upon a time. But then went for it !
What’s the worst that can happen? You look like an archetypical single male instead of an actual nice person... "
That is the worst that can happen.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "
Just say hey to me anytime sweetcheeks I don't bite |
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"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "
Sometimes but in the new year I'm just messaging them if I want to because worst that will happen is I get no reply and I've been suprised in the past by connections I've made |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do
Sometimes but in the new year I'm just messaging them if I want to because worst that will happen is I get no reply and I've been suprised in the past by connections I've made "
yeah but with your profile pic over mine, I think that you will get more replies over moi... just saying mate  |
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"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do
Sometimes but in the new year I'm just messaging them if I want to because worst that will happen is I get no reply and I've been suprised in the past by connections I've made
yeah but with your profile pic over mine, I think that you will get more replies over moi... just saying mate "
I'm not for everyone though, we all like what we like.
Never hurts to send a message but just make sure you send it when they're online so less chance of it getting sandwiched between others |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do
Sometimes but in the new year I'm just messaging them if I want to because worst that will happen is I get no reply and I've been suprised in the past by connections I've made
yeah but with your profile pic over mine, I think that you will get more replies over moi... just saying mate
I'm not for everyone though, we all like what we like.
Never hurts to send a message but just make sure you send it when they're online so less chance of it getting sandwiched between others "
Cheers for yon heads up matey
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"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do
Sometimes but in the new year I'm just messaging them if I want to because worst that will happen is I get no reply and I've been suprised in the past by connections I've made
yeah but with your profile pic over mine, I think that you will get more replies over moi... just saying mate
I'm not for everyone though, we all like what we like.
Never hurts to send a message but just make sure you send it when they're online so less chance of it getting sandwiched between others Cheers for yon heads up matey
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The main thing OP is to read the profile first. If it is a couples profile then please do address both parties otherwise tbh you just look like an idiot! Also if the profile says they’re not meeting, like mine does, you really have to see if you have anything to say that might be interesting. Other than that. Send what you want to. Be yourself. And don’t stress about it so much xx |
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"The main thing OP is to read the profile first. If it is a couples profile then please do address both parties otherwise tbh you just look like an idiot! Also if the profile says they’re not meeting, like mine does, you really have to see if you have anything to say that might be interesting. Other than that. Send what you want to. Be yourself. And don’t stress about it so much xx"
don't stress that's a lot easier said than done
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The main thing OP is to read the profile first. If it is a couples profile then please do address both parties otherwise tbh you just look like an idiot! Also if the profile says they’re not meeting, like mine does, you really have to see if you have anything to say that might be interesting. Other than that. Send what you want to. Be yourself. And don’t stress about it so much xx"
Do you know something LB you have made my night with that repy... I can't say how muchy it has cheered me uo ty xxx |
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"The main thing OP is to read the profile first. If it is a couples profile then please do address both parties otherwise tbh you just look like an idiot! Also if the profile says they’re not meeting, like mine does, you really have to see if you have anything to say that might be interesting. Other than that. Send what you want to. Be yourself. And don’t stress about it so much xxdon't stress that's a lot easier said than done "
I know it is. But when it gets stressful just step away for a little while. Or ask for some support. Us nice people are here and will always have your back xx |
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"The main thing OP is to read the profile first. If it is a couples profile then please do address both parties otherwise tbh you just look like an idiot! Also if the profile says they’re not meeting, like mine does, you really have to see if you have anything to say that might be interesting. Other than that. Send what you want to. Be yourself. And don’t stress about it so much xx
Do you know something LB you have made my night with that repy... I can't say how muchy it has cheered me uo ty xxx"
And you are most welcome xx |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "
yes so I reply  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "
If it sounds cheesy then I wouldn't be messaging them.
I don't arse lick, if I'm giving a compliment I mean it. No point in most compliments on here as they would just assume I want a fuck.
If I want a fuck I'll ask for a fuck.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We used to be like that and then thought fuck it! Quite literally.. don’t get hung up on sending the perfect opening message, just be genuine and open! I’m sure you’ll be pleasantly surprised at the response  |
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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago
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Just me yourself OP. When I send a message, I send it as if I was sending a message to someone whos on a regular dating site, just because we are on a sex dating site, doesn't been we have to be crude or voulgar! Be respectful and honest. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Sometimes. Not even approaching it from a get your fingers/cock inside me way, more a you seem cool, I want to chat crap with you. I normally find an excuse to message off of the back of a forum thread et voila. Talking crap. |
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"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "
All the time |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I do send first messages they are never easy to write though. If it something off a thread in the forums which is rare I will usually say sorry for messaging. But then I don't send anything in a pm that I wouldn't say in public anyhow.
First messages are difficult tho and all you can do is be yourself in them.The worst that can happen is they delete it or block either way you know then they are not interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "
Nope. |
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Yes, just checked - I've been the initiator of 4 message threads in the past month, and all were sparked by one of those encouraging threads. I can't remember the last time I messaged someone based on their profile, however much I like them.
Fear of rejection can be a crippling thing. |
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"I see lots of profiles I would like to message but I feel they wouldn't be interested so I don't bother.
I'm the same. Or I type out a message and then delete rather than send "
The ladies above are stunning. If they feel like that, you might be missing a connection. Just send the envelope off |
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"I see lots of profiles I would like to message but I feel they wouldn't be interested so I don't bother.
I'm the same. Or I type out a message and then delete rather than send
The ladies above are stunning. If they feel like that, you might be missing a connection. Just send the envelope off "
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"I see lots of profiles I would like to message but I feel they wouldn't be interested so I don't bother."
You wrote me a lovely, kind, thoughtful message on the back of a 'reaching out at Christmas' thread and it made my week!
Maybe that's part of it, OP - women probably get so many sexual messages on here they are wary, or jaded. But if the message is just appreciative, genuine, and kind, perhaps it will cut through the background noise? |
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"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "
If I fancy someone, I'll probably say at some point, so not in that sense. I don't mind offering a bit of tongue-in-cheek cheese!
But there are people I think are funny/interesting that I don't message, either as I don't want them to think it's a 'come on' or because we don't really interact on the forum so I assume that means they wouldn't be up for a chat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "
All the damn time  |
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We need a club for shy Fabbers!
We'll never speak to each other, of course. That would be rude. But it will be a comfort to look up from the wingback occasionally and see a fellow member snoring under their newspaper. |
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"We need a club for shy Fabbers!
We'll never speak to each other, of course. That would be rude. But it will be a comfort to look up from the wingback occasionally and see a fellow member snoring under their newspaper. "
I would like to sign up for lifetime membership, please. |
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"We need a club for shy Fabbers!
We'll never speak to each other, of course. That would be rude. But it will be a comfort to look up from the wingback occasionally and see a fellow member snoring under their newspaper.
I would like to sign up for lifetime membership, please. "
In, Member 002 (001 reserved for me, I'm afraid!).
The first rule of Shy Club... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We need a club for shy Fabbers!
We'll never speak to each other, of course. That would be rude. But it will be a comfort to look up from the wingback occasionally and see a fellow member snoring under their newspaper.
I would like to sign up for lifetime membership, please.
In, Member 002 (001 reserved for me, I'm afraid!).
The first rule of Shy Club... "
Could I please join the club as well?  |
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"We need a club for shy Fabbers!
We'll never speak to each other, of course. That would be rude. But it will be a comfort to look up from the wingback occasionally and see a fellow member snoring under their newspaper.
I would like to sign up for lifetime membership, please.
In, Member 002 (001 reserved for me, I'm afraid!).
The first rule of Shy Club...
Could I please join the club as well? "
(Whispering.) In. And sshhh. People are asleep. |
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"We need a club for shy Fabbers!
We'll never speak to each other, of course. That would be rude. But it will be a comfort to look up from the wingback occasionally and see a fellow member snoring under their newspaper.
I would like to sign up for lifetime membership, please.
In, Member 002 (001 reserved for me, I'm afraid!).
The first rule of Shy Club... "
Noted (and thank you) *whispers* |
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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago
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"Do you ever look at someone's profile or see them posting on the forums regularly and think... I would love to message them, and then you open up a PM to them and think... what the hell can I say to to them, that doesn't sound cheesy or anything like that... I know I do "
Yes every time I see someone worth messaging.  |
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