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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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its always been had for men even before the rush of the internet it was hard if you were a guy fast forward to a time where 95% of the site is men and more joining every day it will only get harder
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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It can take time also, I’m a nightmare as I hate the thought I’d of had sex with a dick so to speak, all the people we have met we have stayed good friends with, none of this oh I wish we hadn’t met them  |
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"To be rebellious... what is "a connection" though?"
To expand ... a connection on here could be something different than a connection in a long term relationship.. noting different people use Fab for different things of course ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Connection or meets or both? From what I seem to understand, and I have only been here a few months, there are lots of blokes on here, but only a small handful that are decent. Probably a lot us that chat on posts like this. It will make it very difficult for the single women or couple to filter the good from so much bad.
Just my 2 pence worth. |
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"To be rebellious... what is "a connection" though?
It's not a can you meet and fuck, NOW kinda meet!
Ok ... but are you free the second week of January?  "
Hmmmm let me check my 'fuck' diary...I may be able to pencil you in |
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"To be rebellious... what is "a connection" though?
It's not a can you meet and fuck, NOW kinda meet!
Ok ... but are you free the second week of January?
Hmmmm let me check my 'fuck' diary...I may be able to pencil you in"
Ooft pencil ... you kinky minx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be rebellious... what is "a connection" though?
To expand ... a connection on here could be something different than a connection in a long term relationship.. noting different people use Fab for different things of course ..."
To me it’s more of a feeling being on the same page, when you can just talk to them about everything and anything. That spark and bond, you feel in tune and understand each other… |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't know OP. I tend to find them when I'm not looking for them and it's never been too difficult.
I'm quite fickle and prone to growing bored/losing interest quickly but ach... maybe it's the disposable way we treat people? Always on the look out for another and never quite satisfied. Content.
I think it's harder to find the connection because people aren't willing to invest in it as such. And on a site like this, at times, it can feel less like people want to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know OP. I tend to find them when I'm not looking for them and it's never been too difficult.
I'm quite fickle and prone to growing bored/losing interest quickly but ach... maybe it's the disposable way we treat people? Always on the look out for another and never quite satisfied. Content.
I think it's harder to find the connection because people aren't willing to invest in it as such. And on a site like this, at times, it can feel less like people want to."
Yep!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most people don’t have the attention span to create one anymore, there’s always someone potentially a bit better just a click away and enough bad experiences to be cynical of anyone new."
I totally ag... Oh look, a puppy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Difficult. Women want a certain guy to wow them , however won't say what. Men aren't sure how to approach, and a typical compliment/gesture etc can be taken the long way/not interested/not the right words, however the man would be unaware of this..lack of communication I think comes to my mind these days, and fact people think grass is always greener, too many options, too little time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Difficult. Women want a certain guy to wow them , however won't say what. Men aren't sure how to approach, and a typical compliment/gesture etc can be taken the long way/not interested/not the right words, however the man would be unaware of this..lack of communication I think comes to my mind these days, and fact people think grass is always greener, too many options, too little time "
The probably don’t say “what” so you don’t just say it, to get that connection. The best connections just come from being in the right time and place and naturally being yourself in my opinion…
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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It’s surprising how many times you read on here how people thought they had a connection, only to find after the physical meet the connections gone and the person doesn’t actually even to speak to them anymore, (ghosting is it?) and how veris disappear after a week or so of meeting because now one doesn’t like the other, makes you wonder how good a connection it was in the first place, maybe just physical attraction and not connection as they portray, sometimes people say things to get what they want, so I’m in the mind set that true connections are hard to come by though not impossible, good luck to those in their search for one xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Difficult. Women want a certain guy to wow them , however won't say what. Men aren't sure how to approach, and a typical compliment/gesture etc can be taken the long way/not interested/not the right words, however the man would be unaware of this..lack of communication I think comes to my mind these days, and fact people think grass is always greener, too many options, too little time
The probably don’t say “what” so you don’t just say it, to get that connection. The best connections just come from being in the right time and place and naturally being yourself in my opinion…
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Naturally being yourself... you've hit the nail on the head. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Difficult. Women want a certain guy to wow them , however won't say what. Men aren't sure how to approach, and a typical compliment/gesture etc can be taken the long way/not interested/not the right words, however the man would be unaware of this..lack of communication I think comes to my mind these days, and fact people think grass is always greener, too many options, too little time
The probably don’t say “what” so you don’t just say it, to get that connection. The best connections just come from being in the right time and place and naturally being yourself in my opinion…
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Never wise to say what you're looking for as people will just say anything to get their holes filled. |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
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I have to admit that I've found it impossible to create a connection on here, and just spend my time on the forums now, which I enjoy.
I'm now at the stage where I don't even think about making connections for meets now, as I find that to be incredibly easy in the street, in shops, work etc.
The whole artificial and impersonal nature of any site (whether it's dating or swinging) makes the process more difficult than it needs to be, due to a number of variables  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Difficult. Women want a certain guy to wow them , however won't say what. Men aren't sure how to approach, and a typical compliment/gesture etc can be taken the long way/not interested/not the right words, however the man would be unaware of this..lack of communication I think comes to my mind these days, and fact people think grass is always greener, too many options, too little time
The probably don’t say “what” so you don’t just say it, to get that connection. The best connections just come from being in the right time and place and naturally being yourself in my opinion…
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Totally agree with that. |
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I've never really found it difficult, perhaps I've been lucky, perhaps I was never looking for as deep a connection as others are looking for. I have friends from the scene from before Fab even began, there are people I've met long ago who I'm still in (albeit sporadic) contact with, there are people I regard as friends, and I found himself on here...there are some wonderful people knocking around, and I've been lucky enough to find some of them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Difficult. Women want a certain guy to wow them , however won't say what. Men aren't sure how to approach, and a typical compliment/gesture etc can be taken the long way/not interested/not the right words, however the man would be unaware of this..lack of communication I think comes to my mind these days, and fact people think grass is always greener, too many options, too little time
The probably don’t say “what” so you don’t just say it, to get that connection. The best connections just come from being in the right time and place and naturally being yourself in my opinion…
Never wise to say what you're looking for as people will just say anything to get their holes filled. "
Is that why your profile says nothing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to admit that I've found it impossible to create a connection on here, and just spend my time on the forums now, which I enjoy.
I'm now at the stage where I don't even think about making connections for meets now, as I find that to be incredibly easy in the street, in shops, work etc.
The whole artificial and impersonal nature of any site (whether it's dating or swinging) makes the process more difficult than it needs to be, due to a number of variables "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Please can someone tell me am I doing something wrong? I've been on this site over two years and not one bite of the cherry! "
Go in the Lounge forum and hit the 'Post new topic' button.
Post what you've said above.  |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
Dudley |
That's very true...but of some women too, along with some men. Personally, I need some kind of connection upfront with any meet. Obviously it's not going to be the same as "real " friends (although certainly those friends can be made over time) but gone are the days where I want to indulge in fun with just anyone without at least a cuppa (or something atronger if required) and a chat. It vreaks the ice and gives both / all parties the chance to see if there's a spark there to fan into a flame in the bedroom  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I need a connection on a social. Because of its not there it won't be there in the bedroom. However it seems most men on here want ti get straight into bed.. "
I see you mean a social? I totally get that but some posters are looking for some higher level connection or am I overthinking the post? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Difficult. Women want a certain guy to wow them , however won't say what. Men aren't sure how to approach, and a typical compliment/gesture etc can be taken the long way/not interested/not the right words, however the man would be unaware of this..lack of communication I think comes to my mind these days, and fact people think grass is always greener, too many options, too little time
The probably don’t say “what” so you don’t just say it, to get that connection. The best connections just come from being in the right time and place and naturally being yourself in my opinion…
Never wise to say what you're looking for as people will just say anything to get their holes filled. "
That’s exactly it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes just had a gorgeous man with big cock message me. But i found the conversation very awkward "
When you say awkward was the conversation punctuated by pregnant pauses? |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
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"Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website "
There are definitely a lot of fake profiles on here, dude...far too many, in fact...and some of them are really obvious too.
It's one of a few reasons why I'm not even thinking of looking for a meet on here anymore. I do really well outside of this site, so just use this for the forums now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website
There are definitely a lot of fake profiles on here, dude...far too many, in fact...and some of them are really obvious too.
It's one of a few reasons why I'm not even thinking of looking for a meet on here anymore. I do really well outside of this site, so just use this for the forums now "
The only thing I can say to that is - If they’re really obvious, then they’re really easy to avoid and find the “real” people |
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"Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website "
How do these fake accounts even get past the initial verification stage where you need to send a photo of you holding your fab name on a piece of paper?? |
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"The analogy I use is the following
It’s like standing on stage at a festival and spotting the “one” in the crowd at the back……
Almost impossible on here nowadays "
I been on here for years but I can say I met afew that were magical so don't give up |
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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago
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"The analogy I use is the following
It’s like standing on stage at a festival and spotting the “one” in the crowd at the back……
Almost impossible on here nowadays
I been on here for years but I can say I met afew that were magical so don't give up "
I’m sure there are only a few on here but a lot only like/want “the chase” |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website
There are definitely a lot of fake profiles on here, dude...far too many, in fact...and some of them are really obvious too.
It's one of a few reasons why I'm not even thinking of looking for a meet on here anymore. I do really well outside of this site, so just use this for the forums now "
When you say you do well outside the confines of Fab what does that mean exactly? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Has it ever been easy? absolutely not try being a bloke!
try being a woman and going thru the tons of junk we get every single day ?"
Filters.
If your settings allow 90% of the single male population to contact you then of course you'll get more messages and ergo more crap.
Why not change things up a little. Block all incoming messages, be proactive and make first contact with those guys you have an initial interest in.
Problem solved. Your inbox won't be full of crap, you can guarantee that you're only engaging with those there's a chance you'll be interested in and you'll not have the agony of sifting through a burgeoning inbox looking for decent applicants.
Or is that too simple a solution........ 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has it ever been easy? absolutely not try being a bloke!
try being a woman and going thru the tons of junk we get every single day ?
Filters.
If your settings allow 90% of the single male population to contact you then of course you'll get more messages and ergo more crap.
Why not change things up a little. Block all incoming messages, be proactive and make first contact with those guys you have an initial interest in.
Problem solved. Your inbox won't be full of crap, you can guarantee that you're only engaging with those there's a chance you'll be interested in and you'll not have the agony of sifting through a burgeoning inbox looking for decent applicants.
Or is that too simple a solution........
A"
I find it bizarre at times how those that complain they receive too many messages, don’t do this. |
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"Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website "
What's your definition of a fake account?
Winston |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website
There are definitely a lot of fake profiles on here, dude...far too many, in fact...and some of them are really obvious too.
It's one of a few reasons why I'm not even thinking of looking for a meet on here anymore. I do really well outside of this site, so just use this for the forums now
When you say you do well outside the confines of Fab what does that mean exactly?"
It means that I have no problem meeting and connecting with some very lovely ladies in shops, in the street, work or wherever else.
Online connections worked for me back when I used dating sites, but not on here.
That's why I don't use this for meeting anyone anymore. I just enjoy the forums.
Everyone has different experiences, and some people do really well on here. I guess it all comes down to a number of factors, but for me personally, I haven't found connecting on here to be a viable alternative to meeting ladies in person. |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website
There are definitely a lot of fake profiles on here, dude...far too many, in fact...and some of them are really obvious too.
It's one of a few reasons why I'm not even thinking of looking for a meet on here anymore. I do really well outside of this site, so just use this for the forums now
The only thing I can say to that is - If they’re really obvious, then they’re really easy to avoid and find the “real” people "
That's a valid point, dude...but fake profiles aside, it's about a difficulty for me personally in connecting on here.
Everyone's different though, and I can see that there are many decent and genuine people on here...and many of them do really well on here too, which is great |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website
What's your definition of a fake account?
Winston "
Great question
Is it those fabsters that have more than one account? Maybe the fabsters who sell underwear or the profiles that ask for contributions to impending purchases? Or is it those folks who are married and are seeking a bit of an escape from who knows what? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think it’s ever been easy but it does seem really tough to find people we both connect with! Always seems to be one of us finds a connection but the other isn’t feeling it..
Here’s to hoping that changes in 2023!  |
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"Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website
What's your definition of a fake account?
Winston
Great question
Is it those fabsters that have more than one account? Maybe the fabsters who sell underwear or the profiles that ask for contributions to impending purchases? Or is it those folks who are married and are seeking a bit of an escape from who knows what? "
None of those = fake account though. And if they're that obvious, they're easily ignored.
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Has it ever been easy? absolutely not try being a bloke!
try being a woman and going thru the tons of junk we get every single day ?
Filters.
If your settings allow 90% of the single male population to contact you then of course you'll get more messages and ergo more crap.
Why not change things up a little. Block all incoming messages, be proactive and make first contact with those guys you have an initial interest in.
Problem solved. Your inbox won't be full of crap, you can guarantee that you're only engaging with those there's a chance you'll be interested in and you'll not have the agony of sifting through a burgeoning inbox looking for decent applicants.
Or is that too simple a solution........
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I find it bizarre at times how those that complain they receive too many messages, don’t do this. "
Yep.
Not once in my life have I ever bought something from junk mail that fell through the letterbox or a spam email from a company I'd never heard of.
I like to do my research first. I read product specifications and look at images so I know both the function and form of something and can then establish if it's the kind of product that may be suitable for me.
Only then will I decide to buy it, and always with a view that if it arrives not as described or doesn't work as it was stated in the details.....I'll send it back and never look to buy again.
And then start looking for an alternative that may be more suitable.
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"Has it ever been easy? absolutely not try being a bloke!
try being a woman and going thru the tons of junk we get every single day ?
Filters.
If your settings allow 90% of the single male population to contact you then of course you'll get more messages and ergo more crap.
Why not change things up a little. Block all incoming messages, be proactive and make first contact with those guys you have an initial interest in.
Problem solved. Your inbox won't be full of crap, you can guarantee that you're only engaging with those there's a chance you'll be interested in and you'll not have the agony of sifting through a burgeoning inbox looking for decent applicants.
Or is that too simple a solution........
A
I find it bizarre at times how those that complain they receive too many messages, don’t do this.
Yep.
Not once in my life have I ever bought something from junk mail that fell through the letterbox or a spam email from a company I'd never heard of.
I like to do my research first. I read product specifications and look at images so I know both the function and form of something and can then establish if it's the kind of product that may be suitable for me.
Only then will I decide to buy it, and always with a view that if it arrives not as described or doesn't work as it was stated in the details.....I'll send it back and never look to buy again.
And then start looking for an alternative that may be more suitable.
A
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Trouble is, that involves doing some legwork. It's much easier to just moan about crap messages.
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over a year ago
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"Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website
What's your definition of a fake account?
Winston
Great question
Is it those fabsters that have more than one account? Maybe the fabsters who sell underwear or the profiles that ask for contributions to impending purchases? Or is it those folks who are married and are seeking a bit of an escape from who knows what?
None of those = fake account though. And if they're that obvious, they're easily ignored.
Winston "
Then what constitutes a fake account? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Has it ever been easy? absolutely not try being a bloke!
try being a woman and going thru the tons of junk we get every single day ?
Filters.
If your settings allow 90% of the single male population to contact you then of course you'll get more messages and ergo more crap.
Why not change things up a little. Block all incoming messages, be proactive and make first contact with those guys you have an initial interest in.
Problem solved. Your inbox won't be full of crap, you can guarantee that you're only engaging with those there's a chance you'll be interested in and you'll not have the agony of sifting through a burgeoning inbox looking for decent applicants.
Or is that too simple a solution........
A
I find it bizarre at times how those that complain they receive too many messages, don’t do this.
Yep.
Not once in my life have I ever bought something from junk mail that fell through the letterbox or a spam email from a company I'd never heard of.
I like to do my research first. I read product specifications and look at images so I know both the function and form of something and can then establish if it's the kind of product that may be suitable for me.
Only then will I decide to buy it, and always with a view that if it arrives not as described or doesn't work as it was stated in the details.....I'll send it back and never look to buy again.
And then start looking for an alternative that may be more suitable.
A
Trouble is, that involves doing some legwork. It's much easier to just moan about crap messages.
Winston "
True.
But in with all that research you get to browse bums, knobs and tiddies.....
So it's not as if it's not time we'll spent. 
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"The analogy I use is the following
It’s like standing on stage at a festival and spotting the “one” in the crowd at the back……
Almost impossible on here nowadays
I been on here for years but I can say I met afew that were magical so don't give up
I’m sure there are only a few on here but a lot only like/want “the chase” "
Yeah I seen a million profiles and messages to spot the fantasists |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
Dudley |
The problem is that all dating or swinging sites are going to have plenty of fake profiles, scammers, liars and timewasters.
Then in some cases if the lack of connections is due to oneself, then that will of course carry over to whichever site we decide to try.
It depends on the reason(s) for the original lack of online connections |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The analogy I use is the following
It’s like standing on stage at a festival and spotting the “one” in the crowd at the back……
Almost impossible on here nowadays
I been on here for years but I can say I met afew that were magical so don't give up
I’m sure there are only a few on here but a lot only like/want “the chase”
Yeah I seen a million profiles and messages to spot the fantasists"
I have told you ten million times to stop exaggerating! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Please can someone tell me am I doing something wrong? I've been on this site over two years and not one bite of the cherry! "
You have a verification from a meet with a woman so you're statement doesn't make sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Even harder as a single guy .. I know u girls get bombarded by idiots and shit one line messages .. so often the nice guys too quickly over looked without a chance to chat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website
There are definitely a lot of fake profiles on here, dude...far too many, in fact...and some of them are really obvious too.
It's one of a few reasons why I'm not even thinking of looking for a meet on here anymore. I do really well outside of this site, so just use this for the forums now
When you say you do well outside the confines of Fab what does that mean exactly?
It means that I have no problem meeting and connecting with some very lovely ladies in shops, in the street, work or wherever else.
Online connections worked for me back when I used dating sites, but not on here.
That's why I don't use this for meeting anyone anymore. I just enjoy the forums.
Everyone has different experiences, and some people do really well on here. I guess it all comes down to a number of factors, but for me personally, I haven't found connecting on here to be a viable alternative to meeting ladies in person."
I look better online but prefer meeting people in person.
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Agree it’s hard for single guys too. Would love someone to find a connection with makes things more intense if it gets that far. Always love chatting a bit before a meet |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
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"Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website
There are definitely a lot of fake profiles on here, dude...far too many, in fact...and some of them are really obvious too.
It's one of a few reasons why I'm not even thinking of looking for a meet on here anymore. I do really well outside of this site, so just use this for the forums now
When you say you do well outside the confines of Fab what does that mean exactly?
It means that I have no problem meeting and connecting with some very lovely ladies in shops, in the street, work or wherever else.
Online connections worked for me back when I used dating sites, but not on here.
That's why I don't use this for meeting anyone anymore. I just enjoy the forums.
Everyone has different experiences, and some people do really well on here. I guess it all comes down to a number of factors, but for me personally, I haven't found connecting on here to be a viable alternative to meeting ladies in person.
I look better online but prefer meeting people in person.
Body language is missing from online 'chat'. "
That's very true...certain body language, expressions, glances laughter, etc can be very attractive and build up sexual tension.
It's the opposite with me...I look better in person. Maybe sometimes that's our own opinion of ourselves though? |
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I think it's harder to find the connection because people aren't willing to invest in it as such. And on a site like this, at times, it can feel less like people want to."
All of this^^^^
We live in a culture off online, fast paced, throw away, click click.
An online connection does and can happen but it is so rare. Even on relationship match sites.
You have more change of find a connection in your supermarket than online these days.
It is probably a reason why phyiscal realness and the art of body language is so incredibly important to our species.
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Even harder as a single guy .. I know u girls get bombarded by idiots and shit one line messages .. so often the nice guys too quickly over looked without a chance to chat
That's not always the fault of the person receiving a message though.
Most women and couples will view a profile before opening a message. If there just a couple of cock shots and one or two lines of dull text then they won't even read the message.
Some people are their own worst enemies. It's often the lack of effort put into profiles that prevents interest and contact rather than anything getting 'lost' in amongst other messages.
There could be zero other messages in someone's inbox. It still doesn't mean they'll reply.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website
There are definitely a lot of fake profiles on here, dude...far too many, in fact...and some of them are really obvious too.
It's one of a few reasons why I'm not even thinking of looking for a meet on here anymore. I do really well outside of this site, so just use this for the forums now
When you say you do well outside the confines of Fab what does that mean exactly?
It means that I have no problem meeting and connecting with some very lovely ladies in shops, in the street, work or wherever else.
Online connections worked for me back when I used dating sites, but not on here.
That's why I don't use this for meeting anyone anymore. I just enjoy the forums.
Everyone has different experiences, and some people do really well on here. I guess it all comes down to a number of factors, but for me personally, I haven't found connecting on here to be a viable alternative to meeting ladies in person.
I look better online but prefer meeting people in person.
Body language is missing from online 'chat'.
That's very true...certain body language, expressions, glances laughter, etc can be very attractive and build up sexual tension.
It's the opposite with me...I look better in person. Maybe sometimes that's our own opinion of ourselves though?"
I’d suggest going to socials and clubs |
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"Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website
There are definitely a lot of fake profiles on here, dude...far too many, in fact...and some of them are really obvious too.
It's one of a few reasons why I'm not even thinking of looking for a meet on here anymore. I do really well outside of this site, so just use this for the forums now
When you say you do well outside the confines of Fab what does that mean exactly?
It means that I have no problem meeting and connecting with some very lovely ladies in shops, in the street, work or wherever else.
Online connections worked for me back when I used dating sites, but not on here.
That's why I don't use this for meeting anyone anymore. I just enjoy the forums.
Everyone has different experiences, and some people do really well on here. I guess it all comes down to a number of factors, but for me personally, I haven't found connecting on here to be a viable alternative to meeting ladies in person.
I look better online but prefer meeting people in person.
Body language is missing from online 'chat'. "
I adapted and learnt to read language through text though to engage type of character they are. To me a face can tell me so much about a person. Learn to be intuitive.
All my fabbers i met in person say I'm much better in person |
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"Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website
There are definitely a lot of fake profiles on here, dude...far too many, in fact...and some of them are really obvious too.
It's one of a few reasons why I'm not even thinking of looking for a meet on here anymore. I do really well outside of this site, so just use this for the forums now
When you say you do well outside the confines of Fab what does that mean exactly?
It means that I have no problem meeting and connecting with some very lovely ladies in shops, in the street, work or wherever else.
Online connections worked for me back when I used dating sites, but not on here.
That's why I don't use this for meeting anyone anymore. I just enjoy the forums.
Everyone has different experiences, and some people do really well on here. I guess it all comes down to a number of factors, but for me personally, I haven't found connecting on here to be a viable alternative to meeting ladies in person.
I look better online but prefer meeting people in person.
Body language is missing from online 'chat'.
That's very true...certain body language, expressions, glances laughter, etc can be very attractive and build up sexual tension.
It's the opposite with me...I look better in person. Maybe sometimes that's our own opinion of ourselves though?
I’d suggest going to socials and clubs "
I prefer online. Clubs don't do anything for me. Above all that noise, competition and short space of time to find someone you connect with it really difficult and pressurising. Prefer just slowly getting to know people online |
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I find it hard as being a single man I try and be polite and chat to people to try and build up a connection but usually just get totally blanked, yes we know why we're here but I find most of the time a mental connection with someone is far sexier than what's in their pictures, and it's doesn't help that in crap of taking pics of myself. Give me a chance get to know me and I might actually surprise you. Lol |
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over a year ago
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"That's very true...certain body language, expressions, glances laughter, etc can be very attractive and build up sexual tension.
It's the opposite with me...I look better in person. Maybe sometimes that's our own opinion of ourselves though?
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I’d suggest going to socials and clubs
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I prefer online. Clubs don't do anything for me. Above all that noise, competition and short space of time to find someone you connect with it really difficult and pressurising. Prefer just slowly getting to know people online"
- Well I was talking to the guy saying he looks better in person, suggesting clubs if that’s the case |
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"Has it ever been easy? absolutely not try being a bloke!
try being a woman and going thru the tons of junk we get every single day ?
Filters.
If your settings allow 90% of the single male population to contact you then of course you'll get more messages and ergo more crap.
Why not change things up a little. Block all incoming messages, be proactive and make first contact with those guys you have an initial interest in.
Problem solved. Your inbox won't be full of crap, you can guarantee that you're only engaging with those there's a chance you'll be interested in and you'll not have the agony of sifting through a burgeoning inbox looking for decent applicants.
Or is that too simple a solution........
A
I find it bizarre at times how those that complain they receive too many messages, don’t do this.
Yep.
Not once in my life have I ever bought something from junk mail that fell through the letterbox or a spam email from a company I'd never heard of.
I like to do my research first. I read product specifications and look at images so I know both the function and form of something and can then establish if it's the kind of product that may be suitable for me.
Only then will I decide to buy it, and always with a view that if it arrives not as described or doesn't work as it was stated in the details.....I'll send it back and never look to buy again.
And then start looking for an alternative that may be more suitable.
A
Trouble is, that involves doing some legwork. It's much easier to just moan about crap messages.
Winston
True.
But in with all that research you get to browse bums, knobs and tiddies.....
So it's not as if it's not time we'll spent.
A"
What have you been doing all day?
I've spent 19 hours on Fab looking at tiddies and vageens, the rest I wasted.
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
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I have considered clubs, but looking at other forums, it seems that single guys get hammered with extortionate entrance fees, then get largely ignored by regulars who are "cliquey".
Obviously, I'm not sure if these are the experiences of "sex pests" who follow ladies and couples with their todgers flapping, or whether there's some validation to the "tales".
I definitely need to give it a try for myself, as it's the only way I'll know for certain |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website
There are definitely a lot of fake profiles on here, dude...far too many, in fact...and some of them are really obvious too.
It's one of a few reasons why I'm not even thinking of looking for a meet on here anymore. I do really well outside of this site, so just use this for the forums now
When you say you do well outside the confines of Fab what does that mean exactly?
It means that I have no problem meeting and connecting with some very lovely ladies in shops, in the street, work or wherever else.
Online connections worked for me back when I used dating sites, but not on here.
That's why I don't use this for meeting anyone anymore. I just enjoy the forums.
Everyone has different experiences, and some people do really well on here. I guess it all comes down to a number of factors, but for me personally, I haven't found connecting on here to be a viable alternative to meeting ladies in person.
I look better online but prefer meeting people in person.
Body language is missing from online 'chat'.
I adapted and learnt to read language through text though to engage type of character they are. To me a face can tell me so much about a person. Learn to be intuitive.
All my fabbers i met in person say I'm much better in person "
I've met loads of people in person at forum socials and they pretty much all said that I was 'different' to what they expected.
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"Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website
There are definitely a lot of fake profiles on here, dude...far too many, in fact...and some of them are really obvious too.
It's one of a few reasons why I'm not even thinking of looking for a meet on here anymore. I do really well outside of this site, so just use this for the forums now
When you say you do well outside the confines of Fab what does that mean exactly?
It means that I have no problem meeting and connecting with some very lovely ladies in shops, in the street, work or wherever else.
Online connections worked for me back when I used dating sites, but not on here.
That's why I don't use this for meeting anyone anymore. I just enjoy the forums.
Everyone has different experiences, and some people do really well on here. I guess it all comes down to a number of factors, but for me personally, I haven't found connecting on here to be a viable alternative to meeting ladies in person.
I look better online but prefer meeting people in person.
Body language is missing from online 'chat'.
I adapted and learnt to read language through text though to engage type of character they are. To me a face can tell me so much about a person. Learn to be intuitive.
All my fabbers i met in person say I'm much better in person
I've met loads of people in person at forum socials and they pretty much all said that I was 'different' to what they expected.
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You were definitely hotter than I expected.
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over a year ago
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"Been in nearly 2 month not had a single chat that even look like it might lead to a meet alot of fakes accounts on this site such a shame used to be a wicked website
There are definitely a lot of fake profiles on here, dude...far too many, in fact...and some of them are really obvious too.
It's one of a few reasons why I'm not even thinking of looking for a meet on here anymore. I do really well outside of this site, so just use this for the forums now
When you say you do well outside the confines of Fab what does that mean exactly?
It means that I have no problem meeting and connecting with some very lovely ladies in shops, in the street, work or wherever else.
Online connections worked for me back when I used dating sites, but not on here.
That's why I don't use this for meeting anyone anymore. I just enjoy the forums.
Everyone has different experiences, and some people do really well on here. I guess it all comes down to a number of factors, but for me personally, I haven't found connecting on here to be a viable alternative to meeting ladies in person.
I look better online but prefer meeting people in person.
Body language is missing from online 'chat'.
I adapted and learnt to read language through text though to engage type of character they are. To me a face can tell me so much about a person. Learn to be intuitive.
All my fabbers i met in person say I'm much better in person
I've met loads of people in person at forum socials and they pretty much all said that I was 'different' to what they expected.
You were definitely hotter than I expected.
Winston "
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"Has it ever been easy? absolutely not try being a bloke!
try being a woman and going thru the tons of junk we get every single day ? tell me about it "
I think finding humour & chatting lots helps definitely need to meet for a drink even if not sexual attraction we have made a lot of friends. |
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I'm alright with ripping each others clothes off and ravaging each other upon meeting but, for a social before hand or a coffee and a chat after, there would need to be some sort of chemistry beyond physical attraction |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I found an amazing connection with someone on here and then he needed to move a long way from me so after three years its ended we are friends still which can be difficult but trying to find that again not sure I will |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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Some connections are insanely strong. And some less so.
A connection doesn't have to be instant, it doesn't have to be all consuming, and it doesn't have to be unending. It has to be important.
But that's to me. And I'm blessed that I have made connections on fab. They're incredible and enhance my life so very much.
I hope anyone who craves that manages to find it. |
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"I have considered clubs, but looking at other forums, it seems that single guys get hammered with extortionate entrance fees, then get largely ignored by regulars who are "cliquey".
Obviously, I'm not sure if these are the experiences of "sex pests" who follow ladies and couples with their todgers flapping, or whether there's some validation to the "tales".
I definitely need to give it a try for myself, as it's the only way I'll know for certain "
You need to add its because you're not African either as it seems African men get all the attention in clubs. Personally see clubs just as difficult as being on here. At least there's more choice online |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah it's pretty easy.
You get out what you put in.
If you can't see the wood from the trees, hi, I'm the wood.
Seriously though, you just have to be open to possibilities and pursue them with zero expectations. Where might they lead, who knows, but I think that being open to discussion and having the appetite to discovering them is key.
And if you'll excuse me, I'm off to get ready for mine |
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For me a connection just heightens everything, adds a certain note of intimacy and can turn the physical into something magical.
I know I’m not the most attractive or the hunkiest on here, I don’t even have the gift of the gab, but I’m a good, nice guy and those I connect with know I’ll do all I can to make to please and make our time together enjoyable. |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
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Having sex and having sex with someone you have a connection with are two different things. It takes time to get to know someone and have the same things in common, buidling trust and understanding each other like and dislikes. If you click with someone, it can be add to the exitement of exploring the connection you have but I think its something that takes time. |
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"For me a connection just heightens everything, adds a certain note of intimacy and can turn the physical into something magical.
I know I’m not the most attractive or the hunkiest on here, I don’t even have the gift of the gab, but I’m a good, nice guy and those I connect with know I’ll do all I can to make to please and make our time together enjoyable. "
Don't need to be any of that to find connection. Finding connection is someone on your wavelength. Nothing to do with looks and how charismatic you are. |
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"Having sex and having sex with someone you have a connection with are two different things. It takes time to get to know someone and have the same things in common, buidling trust and understanding each other like and dislikes. If you click with someone, it can be add to the exitement of exploring the connection you have but I think its something that takes time."
I just couldn't imagine wanting sex with someone I had no connection. Isn't it like fucking a inflatable doll? Lol |
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Don't need to be any of that to find connection. Finding connection is someone on your wavelength. Nothing to do with looks and how charismatic you are. "
But it all helps with getting the foot in the door
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Don't need to be any of that to find connection. Finding connection is someone on your wavelength. Nothing to do with looks and how charismatic you are.
But it all helps with getting the foot in the door
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I disagree as all you get is door closing many times over. Looks aren't everything |
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It is , indeed, the hardest part. But, not impossible.
I’d say that you ought not look for it, and it will come ( as cliché as it sounds)
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Don't need to be any of that to find connection. Finding connection is someone on your wavelength. Nothing to do with looks and how charismatic you are.
But it all helps with getting the foot in the door
I disagree as all you get is door closing many times over. Looks aren't everything "
That’s good to hear from someone.
I’ve had a number of replies to messages saying that from my photos I’m not their type, but types are subjective and at least I’ve had a reply |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't know OP. I tend to find them when I'm not looking for them and it's never been too difficult.
I'm quite fickle and prone to growing bored/losing interest quickly but ach... maybe it's the disposable way we treat people? Always on the look out for another and never quite satisfied. Content.
I think it's harder to find the connection because people aren't willing to invest in it as such. And on a site like this, at times, it can feel less like people want to."
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