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over a year ago
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I just sent merry Christmas to the bloke that ghosted me after a 16 month relationship. Of course I got ignored and now feel like shite ffs. Why did I think it was a good idea  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just sent merry Christmas to the bloke that ghosted me after a 16 month relationship. Of course I got ignored and now feel like shite ffs. Why did I think it was a good idea "
Nah, you did the good thing, and if anything he’ll feel a dick when he has to make the choice to be one and not reply.
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It demonstrates a level of benevolence from your side, a gracious gesture of no ill-feeling. He should take it in the spirit of you just offering your best wishes.
Just ensure that you have no expectations from this.
I think you did ok. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have all done it. Usually in my own experience I have done it to see if there is anything there still it's an ego thing for me really if I'm fully honest about it.
I had a meet a few months ago it was amazing he said he wanted to meet again then he stopped talking to me lol. I keep thinking should I message him but meh it's my ego talking and worrying myself if I did something wrong.
If he can just ghost you after 16 months he really isn't worth it. Your looking for some form of closure maybe? Just try and move on block him if it makes it easier. |
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"I just sent merry Christmas to the bloke that ghosted me after a 16 month relationship. Of course I got ignored and now feel like shite ffs. Why did I think it was a good idea "
Was alcohol involved? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only dick is the guy one for ghosting you and not have the balls to admit it and 2 for not replying to you and how he left it on bad terms. You did the right thing and you shouldn’t feel bad |
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"I just sent merry Christmas to the bloke that ghosted me after a 16 month relationship. Of course I got ignored and now feel like shite ffs. Why did I think it was a good idea "
Your in the Christmas spirit it's ok. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You've done the nice thing if people choose not to reciprocate that's not your problem,don't take it to heart,sounds like you've a heart of gold and you can't help it if others are made of ston.
Just forget about it and enjoy your day.
Merry Christmas xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just sent merry Christmas to the bloke that ghosted me after a 16 month relationship. Of course I got ignored and now feel like shite ffs. Why did I think it was a good idea "
We all do stuff we regret I have received some lovely messages from lady’s and gents today hope you day gets better  |
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Don’t beat yourself up about it OP. Being the bigger person is about being kind. And that’s exactly what you did. The other persons actions are quite their own.
Enjoy your day and leave them to it  |
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"I just sent merry Christmas to the bloke that ghosted me after a 16 month relationship. Of course I got ignored and now feel like shite ffs. Why did I think it was a good idea "
Because you are obviously a fucking awesome lovely kind thoughtful forgiving person.
If he can't be kind enough to atleast reply then only 1 person should feel shite and its not you |
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"I just sent merry Christmas to the bloke that ghosted me after a 16 month relationship. Of course I got ignored and now feel like shite ffs. Why did I think it was a good idea "
Don't be hard on yourself... I would delete his number... I also need to take my own advice lol |
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"I just sent merry Christmas to the bloke that ghosted me after a 16 month relationship. Of course I got ignored and now feel like shite ffs. Why did I think it was a good idea "
Because you're a good person.
Merry Christmas  |
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"I just sent merry Christmas to the bloke that ghosted me after a 16 month relationship. Of course I got ignored and now feel like shite ffs. Why did I think it was a good idea "
You sent a seasonal greeting to a bloke you know.
Nothing more, nothing less.
A nice gesture.
We wish you and everyone else who may read this a happy Christmas too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just sent merry Christmas to the bloke that ghosted me after a 16 month relationship. Of course I got ignored and now feel like shite ffs. Why did I think it was a good idea "
Because Christmas brings out the good in us. I’ve done the same kind of, I’ve wished an ex FWB a good Christmas knowing he will likely ignore it, but at the end of the day I don’t bear him any bad feelings. We haven’t spoken for months |
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
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"I just sent merry Christmas to the bloke that ghosted me after a 16 month relationship. Of course I got ignored and now feel like shite ffs. Why did I think it was a good idea "
I did something similar & feel bloody stupid 
Sometimes you need to remind yourself why you're better off without someone in your life x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s ok, breathe. Now you know you can move on. What he’s done, as cruel as it seems, is actually kind - he’s put a break in that cycle x"
This sadly.
People go, but how they go stays with you forever. Mixed messages and attempts to console another can leave so much damage. It's horrible but you know where you stand.  |
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"Sometimes you need to remind yourself why you're better off without someone in your life x"
It’s daft how many people don’t realise just how much they have to offer, and the other person just wasn’t who they hoped they were. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Even though I’m emotionally plastic and lacking in empathy I feel for ya. You could take this as an opportunity to grow, be a better person, break the circle as Red put it.
Personally I’d txt again and say sorry damn autocorrect I meant fuck you ghoster 
What’s done is done. Own it. Don’t feel shit about it. |
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There's a small number of ladies from the past that I pass regards to, new year and their birthday mostly. A small number reply sometimes, I don't hold it against the others not to, not sure they even get the messages, might have blocked me I guess. Its sad, but ultimately I think you can't run your life according to others. And of course, there are always wonderful new ladies to meet  |
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