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To anyone who always struggles with this time of year, is having a stressful Christmas period, or just isn't feeling the yuletide cheer - I SEE YOU!! We see you. All the loving folks of the forum see you.
Extending a huge hug to you all, and a wooly shoulder to soak up tears if need be - Xeno  |
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"Definitely struggle this time of year, thanks for the lovely post OP x"
Bless your heart, it must be so frustrating when all around you is jingling and caroling!!! You take each day as it comes sweet x |
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Just want it all to be over.
Usually I’m the biggest Christmas lover going, but this year…
Remember that yea Queen Lizzy had a horrible anus. Or Annus Horribilis or whatever it was…
Well….
That would be a welcome change up for my bloody year.
Kids will be disappointed at their mums and I’ll be eating a whole box of Mr Kiplings exceedingly fattening mince pies for one while watching Die Hard with one hand down the front of my boxers and crumbs on my string vest….
Nah humbug and all that |
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"Thank you. I've had a few crappy Christmas's and this is the first without my beloved. But I'm going to try not to dwell"
Sending a big hug ...I know this time of year can be particularly hard after experiencing the loss of a loved one x |
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"I’ll also be pouring the Jack quite liberally so grab a glass and say when..
Can I have Gin instead please  "
Oh for gods sake.
I’ve gotta go back down the bloody shop now….
Do you know how cold it is out there???
I suppose you’ll be wanting tonic too?  |
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"I’ll also be pouring the Jack quite liberally so grab a glass and say when..
Can I have Gin instead please
Oh for gods sake.
I’ve gotta go back down the bloody shop now….
Do you know how cold it is out there???
I suppose you’ll be wanting tonic too? "
Sowie…… nah lemonade will do  |
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"I’ll also be pouring the Jack quite liberally so grab a glass and say when..
Can I have Gin instead please
Oh for gods sake.
I’ve gotta go back down the bloody shop now….
Do you know how cold it is out there???
I suppose you’ll be wanting tonic too?
Sowie…… nah lemonade will do "
Great. Now I’ve got the R Whites advert ringing in my brain. |
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"I’ll also be pouring the Jack quite liberally so grab a glass and say when..
Can I have Gin instead please
Oh for gods sake.
I’ve gotta go back down the bloody shop now….
Do you know how cold it is out there???
I suppose you’ll be wanting tonic too?
Sowie…… nah lemonade will do
Great. Now I’ve got the R Whites advert ringing in my brain. "
Oh ffs now I have  |
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"I’ll also be pouring the Jack quite liberally so grab a glass and say when..
Can I have Gin instead please
Oh for gods sake.
I’ve gotta go back down the bloody shop now….
Do you know how cold it is out there???
I suppose you’ll be wanting tonic too?
Sowie…… nah lemonade will do
Great. Now I’ve got the R Whites advert ringing in my brain.
Oh ffs now I have "
Serves you right for making me go back out into the cold for Gin and lemonade.
My heads all but frost bitten!!  |
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"I’ll also be pouring the Jack quite liberally so grab a glass and say when..
Can I have Gin instead please
Oh for gods sake.
I’ve gotta go back down the bloody shop now….
Do you know how cold it is out there???
I suppose you’ll be wanting tonic too?
Sowie…… nah lemonade will do
Great. Now I’ve got the R Whites advert ringing in my brain.
Oh ffs now I have
Serves you right for making me go back out into the cold for Gin and lemonade.
My heads all but frost bitten!! "
Well you should of worn a hat then so serves you right |
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"I’ll also be pouring the Jack quite liberally so grab a glass and say when..
Can I have Gin instead please
Oh for gods sake.
I’ve gotta go back down the bloody shop now….
Do you know how cold it is out there???
I suppose you’ll be wanting tonic too?
Sowie…… nah lemonade will do
Great. Now I’ve got the R Whites advert ringing in my brain.
Oh ffs now I have
Serves you right for making me go back out into the cold for Gin and lemonade.
My heads all but frost bitten!!
Well you should of worn a hat then so serves you right "
I was wearing a hat for your information!!! 
I left my flies open by mistake… |
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"I’ll also be pouring the Jack quite liberally so grab a glass and say when..
Can I have Gin instead please
Oh for gods sake.
I’ve gotta go back down the bloody shop now….
Do you know how cold it is out there???
I suppose you’ll be wanting tonic too?
Sowie…… nah lemonade will do
Great. Now I’ve got the R Whites advert ringing in my brain.
Oh ffs now I have
Serves you right for making me go back out into the cold for Gin and lemonade.
My heads all but frost bitten!!
Well you should of worn a hat then so serves you right
I was wearing a hat for your information!!!
I left my flies open by mistake… "
You can get a willy warmer from the charity shop to go with the suit |
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Sorry to hear that, everyone. I personally love this time of year but can understand why, for various reasons, people aren't as up for it. I still wish everyone a lovely week or 2 ahead knowing that it will get to a better time of year for you |
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"I’ll also be pouring the Jack quite liberally so grab a glass and say when..
Can I have Gin instead please
Oh for gods sake.
I’ve gotta go back down the bloody shop now….
Do you know how cold it is out there???
I suppose you’ll be wanting tonic too?
Sowie…… nah lemonade will do
Great. Now I’ve got the R Whites advert ringing in my brain.
Oh ffs now I have
Serves you right for making me go back out into the cold for Gin and lemonade.
My heads all but frost bitten!!
Well you should of worn a hat then so serves you right
I was wearing a hat for your information!!!
I left my flies open by mistake…
You can get a willy warmer from the charity shop to go with the suit "
I’ll do that next time I visit.
I nearly got done for indecent exposure.
But they let me off with lack of evidence…  |
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I’ve found Christmas hard for a good few years, it’s a family time isn’t it and when one is missing it’s never the same. I’ve always put a smile on and made it magical for the kids.
New year can be tough, I used to hate starting a new year on my own. Now I just try to think fuck it! |
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"I’ve found Christmas hard for a good few years, it’s a family time isn’t it and when one is missing it’s never the same. I’ve always put a smile on and made it magical for the kids.
New year can be tough, I used to hate starting a new year on my own. Now I just try to think fuck it! "
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"I’ll also be pouring the Jack quite liberally so grab a glass and say when..
Can I have Gin instead please
Oh for gods sake.
I’ve gotta go back down the bloody shop now….
Do you know how cold it is out there???
I suppose you’ll be wanting tonic too?
Sowie…… nah lemonade will do
Great. Now I’ve got the R Whites advert ringing in my brain.
Oh ffs now I have
Serves you right for making me go back out into the cold for Gin and lemonade.
My heads all but frost bitten!!
Well you should of worn a hat then so serves you right
I was wearing a hat for your information!!!
I left my flies open by mistake…
You can get a willy warmer from the charity shop to go with the suit
I’ll do that next time I visit.
I nearly got done for indecent exposure.
But they let me off with lack of evidence… "
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"I’ve found Christmas hard for a good few years, it’s a family time isn’t it and when one is missing it’s never the same. I’ve always put a smile on and made it magical for the kids.
New year can be tough, I used to hate starting a new year on my own. Now I just try to think fuck it! "
Yea. It’s very hard at times.
I’ll be missing my kids.
I know I’ll see then and being with them will mean the world to me.
And then I can ease off on that smile and just hope it’s all been enough to make them smile.
Thoughts are with everyone who’s Christmas isn’t going to be all that they dreamed of.  |
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"Let’s just all have a toast to being kind to each other. And making the world a slightly happier place, even when the days are hard. Because there will be better days "
I’ll raise a glass to that. |
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"To anyone who always struggles with this time of year, is having a stressful Christmas period, or just isn't feeling the yuletide cheer - I SEE YOU!! We see you. All the loving folks of the forum see you.
Extending a huge hug to you all, and a wooly shoulder to soak up tears if need be - Xeno "
My first Christmas without my wife, we loved each other intensely, and losing her so relatively young makes it even more painful. |
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"I’ll also be pouring the Jack quite liberally so grab a glass and say when..
Can I have Gin instead please
Oh for gods sake.
I’ve gotta go back down the bloody shop now….
Do you know how cold it is out there???
I suppose you’ll be wanting tonic too?
Sowie…… nah lemonade will do
Great. Now I’ve got the R Whites advert ringing in my brain.
Oh ffs now I have
Serves you right for making me go back out into the cold for Gin and lemonade.
My heads all but frost bitten!!
Well you should of worn a hat then so serves you right
I was wearing a hat for your information!!!
I left my flies open by mistake…
You can get a willy warmer from the charity shop to go with the suit
I’ll do that next time I visit.
I nearly got done for indecent exposure.
But they let me off with lack of evidence…
Lmao "
Well it’s cold isn’t it…!!!  |
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"To anyone who always struggles with this time of year, is having a stressful Christmas period, or just isn't feeling the yuletide cheer - I SEE YOU!! We see you. All the loving folks of the forum see you.
Extending a huge hug to you all, and a wooly shoulder to soak up tears if need be - Xeno "
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"I’ll also be pouring the Jack quite liberally so grab a glass and say when..
Can I have Gin instead please
Oh for gods sake.
I’ve gotta go back down the bloody shop now….
Do you know how cold it is out there???
I suppose you’ll be wanting tonic too?
Sowie…… nah lemonade will do
Great. Now I’ve got the R Whites advert ringing in my brain.
Oh ffs now I have
Serves you right for making me go back out into the cold for Gin and lemonade.
My heads all but frost bitten!!
Well you should of worn a hat then so serves you right
I was wearing a hat for your information!!!
I left my flies open by mistake…
You can get a willy warmer from the charity shop to go with the suit
I’ll do that next time I visit.
I nearly got done for indecent exposure.
But they let me off with lack of evidence…
Lmao
Well it’s cold isn’t it…!!! "
Ffs!! Did either of you read the OP or the posts from bereaved people?? Can you flirt via private message? Wtf  |
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"To anyone who always struggles with this time of year, is having a stressful Christmas period, or just isn't feeling the yuletide cheer - I SEE YOU!! We see you. All the loving folks of the forum see you.
Extending a huge hug to you all, and a wooly shoulder to soak up tears if need be - Xeno
My first Christmas without my wife, we loved each other intensely, and losing her so relatively young makes it even more painful."
Oh Ted. That is so hard. Wishing you care and hugs to get you through this difficult time |
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"To anyone who always struggles with this time of year, is having a stressful Christmas period, or just isn't feeling the yuletide cheer - I SEE YOU!! We see you. All the loving folks of the forum see you.
Extending a huge hug to you all, and a wooly shoulder to soak up tears if need be - Xeno "
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"I’ll also be pouring the Jack quite liberally so grab a glass and say when..
Can I have Gin instead please
Oh for gods sake.
I’ve gotta go back down the bloody shop now….
Do you know how cold it is out there???
I suppose you’ll be wanting tonic too?
Sowie…… nah lemonade will do
Great. Now I’ve got the R Whites advert ringing in my brain.
Oh ffs now I have
Serves you right for making me go back out into the cold for Gin and lemonade.
My heads all but frost bitten!!
Well you should of worn a hat then so serves you right
I was wearing a hat for your information!!!
I left my flies open by mistake…
You can get a willy warmer from the charity shop to go with the suit
I’ll do that next time I visit.
I nearly got done for indecent exposure.
But they let me off with lack of evidence…
Lmao
Well it’s cold isn’t it…!!!
Ffs!! Did either of you read the OP or the posts from bereaved people?? Can you flirt via private message? Wtf "
To be fair following how I’d replied about myself dreading this this Christmas, I thought a little humour may just make one or two people smile…
It’s my go to resource when I’m feeling down.
But hey…..apologies for that….
I didn’t realise there were rules…. |
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"I’ll also be pouring the Jack quite liberally so grab a glass and say when..
Can I have Gin instead please
Oh for gods sake.
I’ve gotta go back down the bloody shop now….
Do you know how cold it is out there???
I suppose you’ll be wanting tonic too?
Sowie…… nah lemonade will do
Great. Now I’ve got the R Whites advert ringing in my brain.
Oh ffs now I have
Serves you right for making me go back out into the cold for Gin and lemonade.
My heads all but frost bitten!!
Well you should of worn a hat then so serves you right
I was wearing a hat for your information!!!
I left my flies open by mistake…
You can get a willy warmer from the charity shop to go with the suit
I’ll do that next time I visit.
I nearly got done for indecent exposure.
But they let me off with lack of evidence…
Lmao
Well it’s cold isn’t it…!!!
Ffs!! Did either of you read the OP or the posts from bereaved people?? Can you flirt via private message? Wtf
To be fair following how I’d replied about myself dreading this this Christmas, I thought a little humour may just make one or two people smile…
It’s my go to resource when I’m feeling down.
But hey…..apologies for that….
I didn’t realise there were rules…."
Yeah it's fucking hilarious. |
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"To anyone who always struggles with this time of year, is having a stressful Christmas period, or just isn't feeling the yuletide cheer - I SEE YOU!! We see you. All the loving folks of the forum see you.
Extending a huge hug to you all, and a wooly shoulder to soak up tears if need be - Xeno
My first Christmas without my wife, we loved each other intensely, and losing her so relatively young makes it even more painful."
Oh my lovely....I'm sorry to see of the loss of your wife and of your pain x
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"Let’s just all have a toast to being kind to each other. And making the world a slightly happier place, even when the days are hard. Because there will be better days
I’ll raise a glass to that. "
Me too x |
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"I’ll also be pouring the Jack quite liberally so grab a glass and say when..
Can I have Gin instead please
Oh for gods sake.
I’ve gotta go back down the bloody shop now….
Do you know how cold it is out there???
I suppose you’ll be wanting tonic too?
Sowie…… nah lemonade will do
Great. Now I’ve got the R Whites advert ringing in my brain.
Oh ffs now I have
Serves you right for making me go back out into the cold for Gin and lemonade.
My heads all but frost bitten!!
Well you should of worn a hat then so serves you right
I was wearing a hat for your information!!!
I left my flies open by mistake…
You can get a willy warmer from the charity shop to go with the suit
I’ll do that next time I visit.
I nearly got done for indecent exposure.
But they let me off with lack of evidence…
Lmao
Well it’s cold isn’t it…!!!
Ffs!! Did either of you read the OP or the posts from bereaved people?? Can you flirt via private message? Wtf "
some people have no idea. B
No fucking idea. Fancy hijacking a thread like this for their own entertainment |
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"Let’s just all have a toast to being kind to each other. And making the world a slightly happier place, even when the days are hard. Because there will be better days "
Hear, hear!
I like Christmas, but it's a bit of a mixed bag for me for all kinds of reasons, but this is a message we should all get behind! |
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"Bittersweet for me, happy face for the kids and all that, but this year has far from gone to plan and what hopes were had for this Xmas are just a dream and not a reality
Tinder "
Sorry to hear this lovely |
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"To anyone who always struggles with this time of year, is having a stressful Christmas period, or just isn't feeling the yuletide cheer - I SEE YOU!! We see you. All the loving folks of the forum see you.
Extending a huge hug to you all, and a wooly shoulder to soak up tears if need be - Xeno
My first Christmas without my wife, we loved each other intensely, and losing her so relatively young makes it even more painful."
I’m sorry to read this. I can empathise, hope you have family you can be with x |
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over a year ago
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On December 21, 1988, Flight 103 was en route from Frankfurt, Germany to New York via London's Heathrow Airport. At 7:02 p.m., 27 minutes after leaving London, the plane exploded, not a year goes by lost family x |
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I was going to stay quiet and not respond
to my accusers and henceforth avoid this thread being brought into argument with disrespect and vitriol being thrown.
But you know what.
What the hell.
I’m a person and I have the right to have my say before I’m hung drawn and quartered by various Karen’s on an internet post….
I’ve resisted the temptation to say what I wanted and decided the braver and more honest thing to do would be open myself up and talk about why I chose to indulge in a couple of well mean, Leary hearted and in no way offensive replies leading to smile or maybe two.
When you’re aware of my situation and what I’ve been going through recently you can then choose to accept my take and my reasons or you can happily throw your judgemental stones from a distance.
This has been with some understatement a pretty touch year for me.
Culmination in me deciding I needed to reach out in the not too distant past.
I’ve been under UTAC recently and the Medical Health crisis team.
Psychiatrists and councillors and home visits and medication of many pretty varieties.
Following depression for many years I’ve finally hit rock bottom.
I was stopped during an attempted suicide and among with everything that has overwhelmed me (as I’m sure it has many of folks at this time of the year, )I added my 5 cents worth.
I found my fried a few years back hanging on my house.
In my house with my family!!!
I’ve breathed suicide.
I’ve smelled loss and I’ve experienced more than some people will ever see in a lifetime.
With Christmas looming so damn fast im spiralling hard and it’s pushing me to the edge of what I can handle.
But do you known what….while joining in this thread, I found someone fun who put a smile on my face.
A little joy can be found in the strangest places.
Hey. Maybe it’s a little Christmas miracle.
Was i completely disrespecting any other persons story?
I don’t think so.
In fact I invited everyone for a virtual drink in a show of digital Solidarity.
To raise a glass together and share some cheer wherever we can find it and a little camaraderie.
Quite open to sharing our problems and getting a few things off our chest.
A little flirting.
A little joking.
Humour is the best medicine.
Could you have done the decent thing and messaged me with your concerns??
Perhaps a warning that some members may feel I was giving little credence ti their feelings.
Was my crime severe enough to warrant the disrespectful tones and swearing and claims of a lack of brain power in my possession.
Walk a mile in other people shoes before spouting your negativity and making judgements on people who you have never met in your life and have no idea about.
Seriously.
All this was
A little fun to lighten a serious, heartfelt and close to home topic for me with no disrespectful undertones to anyone else who’s having a hard time because I’m in that group.
I am one of them.
Christmas is a time of goodwill to all.
Isn’t it??
All posters in this forum are equal.
But some are more equal than others……
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"On December 21, 1988, Flight 103 was en route from Frankfurt, Germany to New York via London's Heathrow Airport. At 7:02 p.m., 27 minutes after leaving London, the plane exploded, not a year goes by lost family x"
Can’t even begin to imagine that buddy.
You must be a truly strong person to keep going.
Many done.
Respect to you. |
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"On December 21, 1988, Flight 103 was en route from Frankfurt, Germany to New York via London's Heathrow Airport. At 7:02 p.m., 27 minutes after leaving London, the plane exploded, not a year goes by lost family x
Can’t even begin to imagine that buddy.
You must be a truly strong person to keep going.
Many done.
Respect to you. "
Thank you
I'm not strong because I've still not been able to go to Lockerbie even when I lived in Scotland |
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That doesn’t speak of strength.
That speaks of you being ready.
You have the strength inside you.
But only you can decide when you’re truly ready.
And even if you never are. There’s no disrespect or shame.
Guilt and shame are emotions that far too many carry round like a weigh around their neck.
If you truly want to do something you will. But not before you’re ready. |
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"Thank you. I've had a few crappy Christmas's and this is the first without my beloved. But I'm going to try not to dwell"
Last Christmas I was unexpectedly back at home after my narc ex turned my life upside down - damn I don't know sometimes how I squeezed the joy out of that one!!
I don't know your circumstances but I hope you can be gentle with yourself |
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"Just want it all to be over.
Usually I’m the biggest Christmas lover going, but this year…
Remember that yea Queen Lizzy had a horrible anus. Or Annus Horribilis or whatever it was…
Well….
That would be a welcome change up for my bloody year.
Kids will be disappointed at their mums and I’ll be eating a whole box of Mr Kiplings exceedingly fattening mince pies for one while watching Die Hard with one hand down the front of my boxers and crumbs on my string vest….
Nah humbug and all that "
Funnily enough I watched that episode of The Crown last night!
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"Thank you. I've had a few crappy Christmas's and this is the first without my beloved. But I'm going to try not to dwell
Sending a big hug ...I know this time of year can be particularly hard after experiencing the loss of a loved one x"
I'm so sorry for your loss, yes definitely returning all these group hugs!! |
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"Sorry to hear that, everyone. I personally love this time of year but can understand why, for various reasons, people aren't as up for it. I still wish everyone a lovely week or 2 ahead knowing that it will get to a better time of year for you "
Love this, thank you |
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"I’ve found Christmas hard for a good few years, it’s a family time isn’t it and when one is missing it’s never the same. I’ve always put a smile on and made it magical for the kids.
New year can be tough, I used to hate starting a new year on my own. Now I just try to think fuck it! "
I'm willing to bet the kids love their Christmases with you!! I hope it can be magical for you too, even in some small way |
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Not struggling as such but this year I just simply can't be arsed with the rigmarole of putting up a tree and decorating then cooking a meal for everyone just be left to tidy the mess up on my own on boxing day morning.
Having a takeaway Indian this year on my lap whilst watching Die Hard.
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"Let’s just all have a toast to being kind to each other. And making the world a slightly happier place, even when the days are hard. Because there will be better days "
Totally agree, love this!! |
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"I’ve found Christmas hard for a good few years, it’s a family time isn’t it and when one is missing it’s never the same. I’ve always put a smile on and made it magical for the kids.
New year can be tough, I used to hate starting a new year on my own. Now I just try to think fuck it!
Yea. It’s very hard at times.
I’ll be missing my kids.
I know I’ll see then and being with them will mean the world to me.
And then I can ease off on that smile and just hope it’s all been enough to make them smile.
Thoughts are with everyone who’s Christmas isn’t going to be all that they dreamed of. "
I don't know your circumstances but I hope the time with your kids can come ASAP for you |
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"To anyone who always struggles with this time of year, is having a stressful Christmas period, or just isn't feeling the yuletide cheer - I SEE YOU!! We see you. All the loving folks of the forum see you.
Extending a huge hug to you all, and a wooly shoulder to soak up tears if need be - Xeno
My first Christmas without my wife, we loved each other intensely, and losing her so relatively young makes it even more painful."
Oh Ted I'm so sorry for your loss |
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"Bittersweet for me, happy face for the kids and all that, but this year has far from gone to plan and what hopes were had for this Xmas are just a dream and not a reality
Tinder "
I'm so sorry, sometimes our idea of how things should go can be rather upsetting |
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"Let’s just all have a toast to being kind to each other. And making the world a slightly happier place, even when the days are hard. Because there will be better days
Hear, hear!
I like Christmas, but it's a bit of a mixed bag for me for all kinds of reasons, but this is a message we should all get behind! "
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"On December 21, 1988, Flight 103 was en route from Frankfurt, Germany to New York via London's Heathrow Airport. At 7:02 p.m., 27 minutes after leaving London, the plane exploded, not a year goes by lost family x"
Oh good lord I'm lost for words, this is an absolute nightmare I'm so so sorry |
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"Not struggling as such but this year I just simply can't be arsed with the rigmarole of putting up a tree and decorating then cooking a meal for everyone just be left to tidy the mess up on my own on boxing day morning.
Having a takeaway Indian this year on my lap whilst watching Die Hard.
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Yes that's absolutely not fair, sod that!!!  |
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"I was going to stay quiet and not respond
to my accusers and henceforth avoid this thread being brought into argument with disrespect and vitriol being thrown.
But you know what.
What the hell.
I’m a person and I have the right to have my say before I’m hung drawn and quartered by various Karen’s on an internet post….
I’ve resisted the temptation to say what I wanted and decided the braver and more honest thing to do would be open myself up and talk about why I chose to indulge in a couple of well mean, Leary hearted and in no way offensive replies leading to smile or maybe two.
When you’re aware of my situation and what I’ve been going through recently you can then choose to accept my take and my reasons or you can happily throw your judgemental stones from a distance.
This has been with some understatement a pretty touch year for me.
Culmination in me deciding I needed to reach out in the not too distant past.
I’ve been under UTAC recently and the Medical Health crisis team.
Psychiatrists and councillors and home visits and medication of many pretty varieties.
Following depression for many years I’ve finally hit rock bottom.
I was stopped during an attempted suicide and among with everything that has overwhelmed me (as I’m sure it has many of folks at this time of the year, )I added my 5 cents worth.
I found my fried a few years back hanging on my house.
In my house with my family!!!
I’ve breathed suicide.
I’ve smelled loss and I’ve experienced more than some people will ever see in a lifetime.
With Christmas looming so damn fast im spiralling hard and it’s pushing me to the edge of what I can handle.
But do you known what….while joining in this thread, I found someone fun who put a smile on my face.
A little joy can be found in the strangest places.
Hey. Maybe it’s a little Christmas miracle.
Was i completely disrespecting any other persons story?
I don’t think so.
In fact I invited everyone for a virtual drink in a show of digital Solidarity.
To raise a glass together and share some cheer wherever we can find it and a little camaraderie.
Quite open to sharing our problems and getting a few things off our chest.
A little flirting.
A little joking.
Humour is the best medicine.
Could you have done the decent thing and messaged me with your concerns??
Perhaps a warning that some members may feel I was giving little credence ti their feelings.
Was my crime severe enough to warrant the disrespectful tones and swearing and claims of a lack of brain power in my possession.
Walk a mile in other people shoes before spouting your negativity and making judgements on people who you have never met in your life and have no idea about.
Seriously.
All this was
A little fun to lighten a serious, heartfelt and close to home topic for me with no disrespectful undertones to anyone else who’s having a hard time because I’m in that group.
I am one of them.
Christmas is a time of goodwill to all.
Isn’t it??
All posters in this forum are equal.
But some are more equal than others……
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"I was going to stay quiet and not respond
to my accusers and henceforth avoid this thread being brought into argument with disrespect and vitriol being thrown.
But you know what.
What the hell.
I’m a person and I have the right to have my say before I’m hung drawn and quartered by various Karen’s on an internet post….
I’ve resisted the temptation to say what I wanted and decided the braver and more honest thing to do would be open myself up and talk about why I chose to indulge in a couple of well mean, Leary hearted and in no way offensive replies leading to smile or maybe two.
When you’re aware of my situation and what I’ve been going through recently you can then choose to accept my take and my reasons or you can happily throw your judgemental stones from a distance.
This has been with some understatement a pretty touch year for me.
Culmination in me deciding I needed to reach out in the not too distant past.
I’ve been under UTAC recently and the Medical Health crisis team.
Psychiatrists and councillors and home visits and medication of many pretty varieties.
Following depression for many years I’ve finally hit rock bottom.
I was stopped during an attempted suicide and among with everything that has overwhelmed me (as I’m sure it has many of folks at this time of the year, )I added my 5 cents worth.
I found my fried a few years back hanging on my house.
In my house with my family!!!
I’ve breathed suicide.
I’ve smelled loss and I’ve experienced more than some people will ever see in a lifetime.
With Christmas looming so damn fast im spiralling hard and it’s pushing me to the edge of what I can handle.
But do you known what….while joining in this thread, I found someone fun who put a smile on my face.
A little joy can be found in the strangest places.
Hey. Maybe it’s a little Christmas miracle.
Was i completely disrespecting any other persons story?
I don’t think so.
In fact I invited everyone for a virtual drink in a show of digital Solidarity.
To raise a glass together and share some cheer wherever we can find it and a little camaraderie.
Quite open to sharing our problems and getting a few things off our chest.
A little flirting.
A little joking.
Humour is the best medicine.
Could you have done the decent thing and messaged me with your concerns??
Perhaps a warning that some members may feel I was giving little credence ti their feelings.
Was my crime severe enough to warrant the disrespectful tones and swearing and claims of a lack of brain power in my possession.
Walk a mile in other people shoes before spouting your negativity and making judgements on people who you have never met in your life and have no idea about.
Seriously.
All this was
A little fun to lighten a serious, heartfelt and close to home topic for me with no disrespectful undertones to anyone else who’s having a hard time because I’m in that group.
I am one of them.
Christmas is a time of goodwill to all.
Isn’t it??
All posters in this forum are equal.
But some are more equal than others……
"
Sorry to hear about your troubles. I truly hope that you can keep getting help and can be happy again. You sound much stronger than you may believe.
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"I’ll also be pouring the Jack quite liberally so grab a glass and say when..
Can I have Gin instead please
Oh for gods sake.
I’ve gotta go back down the bloody shop now….
Do you know how cold it is out there???
I suppose you’ll be wanting tonic too?
Sowie…… nah lemonade will do
Great. Now I’ve got the R Whites advert ringing in my brain.
Oh ffs now I have
Serves you right for making me go back out into the cold for Gin and lemonade.
My heads all but frost bitten!!
Well you should of worn a hat then so serves you right
I was wearing a hat for your information!!!
I left my flies open by mistake…
You can get a willy warmer from the charity shop to go with the suit
I’ll do that next time I visit.
I nearly got done for indecent exposure.
But they let me off with lack of evidence…
Lmao
Well it’s cold isn’t it…!!!
Ffs!! Did either of you read the OP or the posts from bereaved people?? Can you flirt via private message? Wtf some people have no idea. B
No fucking idea. Fancy hijacking a thread like this for their own entertainment "
Exchanges like this are so commonplace I don't even bat an eyelid now  |
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"I’ll also be pouring the Jack quite liberally so grab a glass and say when..
Can I have Gin instead please
Oh for gods sake.
I’ve gotta go back down the bloody shop now….
Do you know how cold it is out there???
I suppose you’ll be wanting tonic too?
Sowie…… nah lemonade will do
Great. Now I’ve got the R Whites advert ringing in my brain.
Oh ffs now I have
Serves you right for making me go back out into the cold for Gin and lemonade.
My heads all but frost bitten!!
Well you should of worn a hat then so serves you right
I was wearing a hat for your information!!!
I left my flies open by mistake…
You can get a willy warmer from the charity shop to go with the suit
I’ll do that next time I visit.
I nearly got done for indecent exposure.
But they let me off with lack of evidence…
Lmao
Well it’s cold isn’t it…!!!
Ffs!! Did either of you read the OP or the posts from bereaved people?? Can you flirt via private message? Wtf "
I did actually and fyi I lost my dad at Christmas time as like many so a bit of light hearted fun doesn’t hurt anyone it’s how we handle things our own way…….. sad times for most ! |
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"I’ll also be pouring the Jack quite liberally so grab a glass and say when..
Can I have Gin instead please
Oh for gods sake.
I’ve gotta go back down the bloody shop now….
Do you know how cold it is out there???
I suppose you’ll be wanting tonic too?
Sowie…… nah lemonade will do
Great. Now I’ve got the R Whites advert ringing in my brain.
Oh ffs now I have
Serves you right for making me go back out into the cold for Gin and lemonade.
My heads all but frost bitten!!
Well you should of worn a hat then so serves you right
I was wearing a hat for your information!!!
I left my flies open by mistake…
You can get a willy warmer from the charity shop to go with the suit
I’ll do that next time I visit.
I nearly got done for indecent exposure.
But they let me off with lack of evidence…
Lmao
Well it’s cold isn’t it…!!!
Ffs!! Did either of you read the OP or the posts from bereaved people?? Can you flirt via private message? Wtf
I did actually and fyi I lost my dad at Christmas time as like many so a bit of light hearted fun doesn’t hurt anyone it’s how we handle things our own way…….. sad times for most !"
There's loads of threads for 'light hearted fun'.
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“There’s loads of threads for light hearted fun”.
But what if this one “Sad at Christmas” thread had actually managed to do what it was intended to do and make a few people feel like they are not alone and heaven forbid actually brought a smile to a few peoples faces.
Who are you to judge and condemn and tell people how to communicate and what is morally right or wrong when it comes to suffering and loss.
Everyone deals with depression and loss and guilt and grieving in their own way.
You had absolutely no right to judge anyone and can’t even find it in yourself at Christmas time, … (The time of good will to all men and women) to throw in a humble apology….
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"“There’s loads of threads for light hearted fun”.
But what if this one “Sad at Christmas” thread had actually managed to do what it was intended to do and make a few people feel like they are not alone and heaven forbid actually brought a smile to a few peoples faces.
Who are you to judge and condemn and tell people how to communicate and what is morally right or wrong when it comes to suffering and loss.
Everyone deals with depression and loss and guilt and grieving in their own way.
You had absolutely no right to judge anyone and can’t even find it in yourself at Christmas time, … (The time of good will to all men and women) to throw in a humble apology….
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"“There’s loads of threads for light hearted fun”.
But what if this one “Sad at Christmas” thread had actually managed to do what it was intended to do and make a few people feel like they are not alone and heaven forbid actually brought a smile to a few peoples faces.
Who are you to judge and condemn and tell people how to communicate and what is morally right or wrong when it comes to suffering and loss.
Everyone deals with depression and loss and guilt and grieving in their own way.
You had absolutely no right to judge anyone and can’t even find it in yourself at Christmas time, … (The time of good will to all men and women) to throw in a humble apology….
"
I think the objection was that you were having a long private conversation that had nothing to do with the OP and derailed a thread in which people were sharing sensitive and personal stories. |
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Checking in again with you all after the dreaded Monday 
I was a tad wobbly but managed to smash out loads of wrapping and card writing etc....as usual it gives me a buzz to be doing stuff for others!
I hope everyone had a good start to their week |
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"Checking in again with you all after the dreaded Monday
I was a tad wobbly but managed to smash out loads of wrapping and card writing etc....as usual it gives me a buzz to be doing stuff for others!
I hope everyone had a good start to their week "
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I will definitely have a sob at some point and hit rock bottom if previous form is anything to go by... Hopefully I'll be so freaked out by the weather and driving that my energy and attention will be diverted elsewhere  |
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I've had quite a good day. Finished my Christmas shopping except for one thing. I had made a wreath in arts and crafts to take to mine and my beloveds special spot which I shall take up Thursday and it's been bloody warm. Hope this weather carries on until after Christmas for everyone that's travelling over the Christmas period |
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"To anyone who always struggles with this time of year, is having a stressful Christmas period, or just isn't feeling the yuletide cheer - I SEE YOU!! We see you. All the loving folks of the forum see you.
Extending a huge hug to you all, and a wooly shoulder to soak up tears if need be - Xeno
My first Christmas without my wife, we loved each other intensely, and losing her so relatively young makes it even more painful.
I’m sorry to read this. I can empathise, hope you have family you can be with x"
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"Checking in again with you all after the dreaded Monday
I was a tad wobbly but managed to smash out loads of wrapping and card writing etc....as usual it gives me a buzz to be doing stuff for others!
I hope everyone had a good start to their week "
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"I will definitely have a sob at some point and hit rock bottom if previous form is anything to go by... Hopefully I'll be so freaked out by the weather and driving that my energy and attention will be diverted elsewhere "
I’m hoping I hit rock bottom a few days ago.
Not ashamed to admit I had a good cry and then ate half a box of Celebrations.
I’ve only got the rubbish ones left which anyone is more than welcome to should they need a good chocolate binge. |
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