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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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Irritation. When it flares up, how do you handle it? Are you a sit with it and wait for the emotions to pass sort of person? Do you go from 1-100 in a fit of rage? What's the best method of calming your irk? |
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Hi Meli. Hope you’re not too irritated?
I find it helps to take myself out of the situation - “flight” as it were. Then I can have a proper think about it rather than flying off the handle. Then I have a little mantra that helps me every time.
“I never did mind the little things”
Hope that can help a bit but if you need a rant I’ve had the day from hell… quite literally… so feel free to message me for one  |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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Flash in the pan with me.
It takes a lot to irritate me, but it comes with a bang and then is gone.
I don't harbour ill feelings either. If someone is really irritating me on a long term basis I cut them out of my life; or I blank it out if it's family. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Irritation. When it flares up, how do you handle it? Are you a sit with it and wait for the emotions to pass sort of person? Do you go from 1-100 in a fit of rage? What's the best method of calming your irk? "
It takes a lot to get me to boiling point, I sit and simmer for a while, but when it does…
Hell hath no fury like a dickhead scorned!
As for calming it down… it depends on whats caused it.
Lego can be a good mood calmer.
Music as well.
Other times a bit of righteous vengeance goes a long way. |
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"Irritation. When it flares up, how do you handle it? Are you a sit with it and wait for the emotions to pass sort of person? Do you go from 1-100 in a fit of rage? What's the best method of calming your irk? "
I tend to go off and cry and/or bottle things up.
Unless I’m confronted… then I will vent… |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wish I could say I'm always in control of my emotions but hell no. When I'm irritated those who live with me know about it. I do admit to them how I'm feeling so they will give me a wide birth. Recently I have been really trying not to flare up so quickly, count to 10 before I blow, walk out of the room and calm down. It's not always easy, but as I say I'm trying. |
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Meli I have been called the Welsh Dragon in work (I work in England). Once someone pushes my button I go off like a firework. Luckily I work with about 30 truckers and they always bring me yum yums from Greggs the next time they see me. That usually helps. 
Not great for my ass fat though! |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Irritation. When it flares up, how do you handle it? Are you a sit with it and wait for the emotions to pass sort of person? Do you go from 1-100 in a fit of rage? What's the best method of calming your irk?
I tend to go off and cry and/or bottle things up.
Unless I’m confronted… then I will vent… "
Bottling things up isn’t great  |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"What's the best method of calming your irk?
Brutal murder."
I mean yeah, this could help. Only if it's done proper folk style, you know worship some ancient pagan deity, be in touch with dark feminine energy...
Chuck in a floral crown and some peculiar chanting in tongue and I'll be a happy soul*
*this is a joke. I would never do such a thing. Murder is bad, kids. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's something I'm awful at and need to get better at and it's the same with all my emotions, really. I just feel overwhelmed with it all at once which goes from ranting, getting irritated with other small things that I don't need to get worked up over and then I'm calm and just get on with it. It's honestly exhausting and probably the worst way of dealing with it because even when you're calm, what you've done or even said remains. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Hi Meli. Hope you’re not too irritated?
I find it helps to take myself out of the situation - “flight” as it were. Then I can have a proper think about it rather than flying off the handle. Then I have a little mantra that helps me every time.
“I never did mind the little things”
Hope that can help a bit but if you need a rant I’ve had the day from hell… quite literally… so feel free to message me for one "
You're a delight Littlebird, I genuinely mean that. Sorry to read you've had the day from hell, that's really rather rubbish.
Might start chanting your mantra. Through gritted teeth counts doesn't it? |
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"Hi Meli. Hope you’re not too irritated?
I find it helps to take myself out of the situation - “flight” as it were. Then I can have a proper think about it rather than flying off the handle. Then I have a little mantra that helps me every time.
“I never did mind the little things”
Hope that can help a bit but if you need a rant I’ve had the day from hell… quite literally… so feel free to message me for one
You're a delight Littlebird, I genuinely mean that. Sorry to read you've had the day from hell, that's really rather rubbish.
Might start chanting your mantra. Through gritted teeth counts doesn't it?"
Oh sweetheart. Just say it. I promise it will help  |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Oh once my irritation itch has been triggered, there’s nothing to do…. I either need to erupt & get it out or sleep."
Sleeping is good. But when you're rather... grrrr how do you sleep? I've taken myself to bed. Like a petulant child. The poor fiancé must be one step away from sending me to a nunnery.  |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I’m not very good at hiding it if I’m irritated. It usually ends up with me erupting if I can’t get myself out of the situation. "
Ach, eruptions aren't good but they are understandable.
I'm trying to be better by posting it into this random void of horny, bored or poo-ing people. I can almost predict what my friends will say if I message them. So instead it's on here and it's kind of stopping it becoming a Big Thing. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"I’m not very good at hiding it if I’m irritated. It usually ends up with me erupting if I can’t get myself out of the situation.
Ach, eruptions aren't good but they are understandable.
I'm trying to be better by posting it into this random void of horny, bored or poo-ing people. I can almost predict what my friends will say if I message them. So instead it's on here and it's kind of stopping it becoming a Big Thing. "
Become a Domme and take it out on your subs!  |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Flash in the pan with me.
It takes a lot to irritate me, but it comes with a bang and then is gone.
I don't harbour ill feelings either. If someone is really irritating me on a long term basis I cut them out of my life; or I blank it out if it's family. "
See, this is quite a rational, mature response. The sort of calm logic I wish I had. I'm not sure if it's the Italian blood but I feel emotions far too keenly. Not harbouring ill wishes is very healthy - they don't serve you or them. So you need to find a way to move past it. |
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By *eli OP Woman
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"Irritation. When it flares up, how do you handle it? Are you a sit with it and wait for the emotions to pass sort of person? Do you go from 1-100 in a fit of rage? What's the best method of calming your irk?
It takes a lot to get me to boiling point, I sit and simmer for a while, but when it does…
Hell hath no fury like a dickhead scorned!
As for calming it down… it depends on whats caused it.
Lego can be a good mood calmer.
Music as well.
Other times a bit of righteous vengeance goes a long way. "
Righteous vengeance. Do you have a playlist for that sort of mood?
I think there's a natural tipping point isn't there? There's only so much a person can take before they just... snap. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Flash in the pan with me.
It takes a lot to irritate me, but it comes with a bang and then is gone.
I don't harbour ill feelings either. If someone is really irritating me on a long term basis I cut them out of my life; or I blank it out if it's family.
See, this is quite a rational, mature response. The sort of calm logic I wish I had. I'm not sure if it's the Italian blood but I feel emotions far too keenly. Not harbouring ill wishes is very healthy - they don't serve you or them. So you need to find a way to move past it. "
I've always been this way. I'm not much of an arguer because not much pisses me off, and I can hold my temper.
Once I pop though all hell is unleashed-for about a minute-and then I'm cool again.
Being angry takes up too much of my emotional energy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m not very good at hiding it if I’m irritated. It usually ends up with me erupting if I can’t get myself out of the situation.
Ach, eruptions aren't good but they are understandable.
I'm trying to be better by posting it into this random void of horny, bored or poo-ing people. I can almost predict what my friends will say if I message them. So instead it's on here and it's kind of stopping it becoming a Big Thing. "
I hope whatever is going on it all works out for you lovely |
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Ok
I thought this was regarding advice on soothing creams and ointments!
I'm quite easy. If someone irritates me then normally il just shrug it off and forget it.
I'm generally fine with any online abuse but if my wife and I have a big argument, 99 times I ignore it and just annoy her by not caring... but otherwise il probably lock myself in the bathroom and sob my little eyes out in secret then all is well again. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Irritation. When it flares up, how do you handle it? Are you a sit with it and wait for the emotions to pass sort of person? Do you go from 1-100 in a fit of rage? What's the best method of calming your irk?
I tend to go off and cry and/or bottle things up.
Unless I’m confronted… then I will vent… "
Do you ever angry cry? It's a particularly irritating habit of mine. Like I can't quite process or get out all these emotions so instead my brain thinks "I know, I'll make her cry, sure she read it's cathartic somewhere".
I've already not picked up one call so I don't vent unfairly because my instinctive response and heightened emotions might result in me not being fair. So I'm going to sit and post crap on here. And hope that people I fancy don't read this and think fuck no. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Irritation. When it flares up, how do you handle it? Are you a sit with it and wait for the emotions to pass sort of person? Do you go from 1-100 in a fit of rage? What's the best method of calming your irk?
It takes a lot to get me to boiling point, I sit and simmer for a while, but when it does…
Hell hath no fury like a dickhead scorned!
As for calming it down… it depends on whats caused it.
Lego can be a good mood calmer.
Music as well.
Other times a bit of righteous vengeance goes a long way.
Righteous vengeance. Do you have a playlist for that sort of mood?
I think there's a natural tipping point isn't there? There's only so much a person can take before they just... snap."
I think so.
Too many entitled people get away with their behaviour because people are afraid to act. People need ro realise that their actions have consequences. |
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I am a slow burn type of person, it will irk me for a bit, before I go from 0 to 10000.
As for calming me down, no idea how to do that now. Years ago. I would thrash the bike. After a few miles, you get it out of your system and start to ride the bike nicely. |
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"Irritation. When it flares up, how do you handle it? Are you a sit with it and wait for the emotions to pass sort of person? Do you go from 1-100 in a fit of rage? What's the best method of calming your irk?
I tend to go off and cry and/or bottle things up.
Unless I’m confronted… then I will vent…
Do you ever angry cry? It's a particularly irritating habit of mine. Like I can't quite process or get out all these emotions so instead my brain thinks "I know, I'll make her cry, sure she read it's cathartic somewhere".
I've already not picked up one call so I don't vent unfairly because my instinctive response and heightened emotions might result in me not being fair. So I'm going to sit and post crap on here. And hope that people I fancy don't read this and think fuck no. "
Oh god yes! I do the angry cry… the frustrated cry… the fuck you, you asshole cry
It’s weird but once I’ve cried I do feel better… lighter. And can process things more clearly.
And it’s good to take time out for yourself… be selfish! I’m trying to do this more as I tend to let my emotions get the better of me.
Nothing wrong with posting crap either… and my inbox is always open if you need to vent… I’m a pretty good listener and can (occasionally) offer advice that isn’t total bollocks  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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When i reach tipping point i try to do something physical, like digging, walking, listening to music or dancing... I try to reframe my perspective and take a breath... Usually it works... But the underlying annoyance must be dealt with at some point |
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I'm so much less fiery than I used to be. Nowadays I tend to just tell people bluntly that they're irritating me and why. I'm happy to discuss it calmly, but I'm going to let them know that I think they're being an arse.
It's a rare occasion when I lose my rag, but when I do I explode... I have a long fuse, but a viscous temper. If I get to that point I need to let it out, then take myself off to calm down alone.
I have angry cried at work...I told my ex boss that I wasn't upset, it was just the sheer effort of not headbutting him because he wasn't worth getting sacked over. |
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I have no limits once I'm angry, but it happens exceptionally rarely. I can think of two occasions in my life.
Most of the time, I feel no more than icy, Parnassian contempt, Nietzsche-style, for the mouth-breathing, oxygen-thieving, crawling, slack-jawed üntermenschen who try to thwart me.
Ahem. That's actually a little better. Thank you for the opportunity, Meli. Hope your irritation fades like a winter frost in spring sunshine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I used to be that person who flew off the handle pretty quickly. It took me a long time to change that and I'm a lot more chilled these days. I've learnt to take a breath, pick my battles and not to react to things based on my own expectations. If something has really irritated me I will voice it later on when my heads clear and not in that moment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m not very good at hiding it if I’m irritated. It usually ends up with me erupting if I can’t get myself out of the situation.
Ach, eruptions aren't good but they are understandable.
I'm trying to be better by posting it into this random void of horny, bored or poo-ing people. I can almost predict what my friends will say if I message them. So instead it's on here and it's kind of stopping it becoming a Big Thing. "
But if you feel it's a Big Thing, then it is. Why would your friends invalidate your feelings? You can be irritated or angry or sad or really fucking annoyed if you want to. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Angerwank "
Yeah, this helped.
I also took myself off and ignored everyone while watching a horror film. And it's a new day so I'm less... *teeth gnashing*. Thank you for all the lovely advice and insight into how you manage things echo chamber residents. |
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I'm like the Hulk, always angry so my emotions are always in a state of high anxiety.
I'm definitely going to drop dead before much longer.
I find cat cuddles and strokes help and I don't mean stroking your lovely lady pussy,but if it helps |
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"Irritation. When it flares up, how do you handle it? Are you a sit with it and wait for the emotions to pass sort of person? Do you go from 1-100 in a fit of rage? What's the best method of calming your irk? "
I grind my teeth to powder and curse the human race !! |
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