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So I was one of the lucky single guys that got a meet impromptu the other day to meet at a pub, we'd exchanged alot of messages and was quite clear it was just a social and there would definitely be no sex, I was happy with this grabbed my wallet slapped on the sauvage and off I popped.
Anyway one thing led to another back to hers and a couple of bottles in were in the bedroom and I'm happily performing oral she returned the favour.
THEN she says put a condom on to which I replied "where are they"?
She didn't have any........ And made out it was my duty to of had some and asked me to leave!!
So should of had some to hand?
And if ladies if this situation arrised with yourself would a wank be out of the question??    |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess if you weren't expecting more than a drink and a laugh them no but it's fab and there is always a chance it might become more so probably best to have some ready in future |
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I understand the annoyance there if you were under the assumption it was a social only. BUT yes, it's your responsibility to provide your own condoms. I wouldn't expect a woman I met to have a stock for all sizes, so I would have a few of my own on hand.
You live and learn OP. Sounds like the social went well so I'm sure you'll have another opportunity
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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I don't wank men off who can't be bothered to pop to the shop for condoms.
I do have my own, but I have a conversation with the man to ask if he wants to use mine or prefers his own.
I've come across lots of men who think it's the other person's responsibility to put a condom on his penis.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I don't believe she should have put the onus 100% onto you to have had condoms on you. To start with as you said you believed it was just going to be a social and secondly why does she not have a stash seeing as you were at her house?
I have only met people at clubs and I always carry my own stash of condoms on me....I think it is not only wrong to leave it up the man to provide the condoms but actually quite rude to just expect a man to provide them. |
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over a year ago
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"Personally I don't believe she should have put the onus 100% onto you to have had condoms on you. To start with as you said you believed it was just going to be a social and secondly why does she not have a stash seeing as you were at her house?
I have only met people at clubs and I always carry my own stash of condoms on me....I think it is not only wrong to leave it up the man to provide the condoms but actually quite rude to just expect a man to provide them."
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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"So I was one of the lucky single guys that got a meet impromptu the other day to meet at a pub, we'd exchanged alot of messages and was quite clear it was just a social and there would definitely be no sex, I was happy with this grabbed my wallet slapped on the sauvage and off I popped.
Anyway one thing led to another back to hers and a couple of bottles in were in the bedroom and I'm happily performing oral she returned the favour.
THEN she says put a condom on to which I replied "where are they"?
She didn't have any........ And made out it was my duty to of had some and asked me to leave!!
So should of had some to hand?
And if ladies if this situation arrised with yourself would a wank be out of the question?? "
. School boy error mate you should have had some condoms with you it’s not as if they would take up that much space in your trouser or jacket pockets is it |
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I can see the issue here, you weren't planning on anything happening so why would you take one?
On the other hand it's a social from a site we're we all love sex.
Personally I always carry at least one with me because you never know but not expect anything |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
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Only you know your size though... so I'd say in order to avoid being either a) embarrassed or b)risk ripping a condom / discomfort that's supplied by someone else, what's the harm in having one in a wallet... just keep an eye on the expiry date  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always be prepared no mater what
And for me yes it would be out the question
I have a rule
If your not going to fuck me I am not going to suck or wank it
To meny guys play the oooo I forgot the condom can I just get a bj game |
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I always have my own and prefer to use them, but will still ask if they have any with them.
Someone that turns up to any kind of meet from here with no protection thats a red flag that they don’t bother using if if they can get away with it. It takes up very little room in a pocket or wallet so to me it says you had none at home and don’t normally use them.
I also wouldn’t be buying any story that someone had just run out … if you have a high sex drive and regular sex thats something you keep stocked up when you see it get low, during a regular shop just like you would toothpaste or shampoo |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"OP do you carry tampons when you're out with a woman in case she needs them?
Implying it's only the woman that "needs" the condom?
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A menstruating woman wouldn't expect a man to have a tampon on him for her to use. |
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"I am genuinely amazed that a guy wouldn’t bring his own condom. The idea of expecting a lady to provide them just blows my mind. "
It was a social, taking a condom to a social is a bit expecting more than a social isn't it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Obviously you weren’t expecting anything to happen but it is fab and you should have taken some just incase. You’re responsible for keeping yourself safe. We do keep condoms but would expect the guy to have his own. You shouldn’t have gone ahead without knowing if you’d be able to keep yourself protected or not. |
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"I am genuinely amazed that a guy wouldn’t bring his own condom. The idea of expecting a lady to provide them just blows my mind.
It was a social, taking a condom to a social is a bit expecting more than a social isn't it?"
Or like wearing removable layers on a spring day
If it stays cold then no harm done, but if you get lucky and the sun comes out you were prepared |
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"I am genuinely amazed that a guy wouldn’t bring his own condom. The idea of expecting a lady to provide them just blows my mind.
It was a social, taking a condom to a social is a bit expecting more than a social isn't it?"
If a man told me at a social that he'd brought condoms 'just in case', I'd leave.
A social is a social.
The OP and social woman should have stopped at a shop on the way back to her place. She had made it clear it was just a social and she should have been happy that he respected that. |
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"I am genuinely amazed that a guy wouldn’t bring his own condom. The idea of expecting a lady to provide them just blows my mind.
It was a social, taking a condom to a social is a bit expecting more than a social isn't it?"
I always carry a condom. I would definitely take one on a social as you never know how these things will play out. |
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over a year ago
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"Why did you expect her to supply the condom?"
I dunno, I’m with the op on this one. *and just my own thought and opinions.
I’m out, probably wouldn’t have expected anything so I wouldn’t pick up condoms.
If I took them back to mine, that’s where the sexy sex happens and I’d want protection if I needed it in a not so planned situation.
So why not expect the same from a woman’s bedroom?
Op. No, something happened to didn’t plan on, it’s not your fault. Or hers for that matter. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Why did you expect her to supply the condom?
I dunno, I’m with the op on this one. *and just my own thought and opinions.
I’m out, probably wouldn’t have expected anything so I wouldn’t pick up condoms.
If I took them back to mine, that’s where the sexy sex happens and I’d want protection if I needed it in a not so planned situation.
So why not expect the same from a woman’s bedroom?
Op. No, something happened to didn’t plan on, it’s not your fault. Or hers for that matter. "
Would you ask her if she had any before you went to hers? |
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"Why did you expect her to supply the condom?
I dunno, I’m with the op on this one. *and just my own thought and opinions.
I’m out, probably wouldn’t have expected anything so I wouldn’t pick up condoms.
If I took them back to mine, that’s where the sexy sex happens and I’d want protection if I needed it in a not so planned situation.
So why not expect the same from a woman’s bedroom?
Op. No, something happened to didn’t plan on, it’s not your fault. Or hers for that matter. "
For all we know the woman had a drawer full. Even if i had condoms in the drawer, if they hadn’t brought any there is a high chance i would still ask them to leave. Starting play with no regard for sexual safety as things progress would be a turn off for me. |
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By *XZRMan
over a year ago
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If she asked you to leave....you need to vet who you meet a little better.
Totally understand you should provide, not disputing that but asking you to leave just shows a pretty two faced attitude.... lesson learned and a bullet dodged.
If you've any self respect you'll not go running back with a wallet full of condoms. |
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"OP do you carry tampons when you're out with a woman in case she needs them?
Implying it's only the woman that "needs" the condom?
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Actually it's the other way round.
If only the woman needed a condom then, sure, she should have them.
We only use our own (latex free) but the fact a bloke turned up without any would be a major red flag. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You should have popped to a shop or garage to get some.
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I said something similar above!!
My story- She jumped in the car with me too, wanted to see me get all embarrassed asking for them at the window. It was hilarious. |
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"Why did you expect her to supply the condom?
I dunno, I’m with the op on this one. *and just my own thought and opinions.
I’m out, probably wouldn’t have expected anything so I wouldn’t pick up condoms.
If I took them back to mine, that’s where the sexy sex happens and I’d want protection if I needed it in a not so planned situation.
So why not expect the same from a woman’s bedroom?
Op. No, something happened to didn’t plan on, it’s not your fault. Or hers for that matter.
For all we know the woman had a drawer full. Even if i had condoms in the drawer, if they hadn’t brought any there is a high chance i would still ask them to leave. Starting play with no regard for sexual safety as things progress would be a turn off for me. "
But it did stop when the sex was on the cards didn’t it? A snog is not risking your health.
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"Why did you expect her to supply the condom?
I dunno, I’m with the op on this one. *and just my own thought and opinions.
I’m out, probably wouldn’t have expected anything so I wouldn’t pick up condoms.
If I took them back to mine, that’s where the sexy sex happens and I’d want protection if I needed it in a not so planned situation.
So why not expect the same from a woman’s bedroom?
Op. No, something happened to didn’t plan on, it’s not your fault. Or hers for that matter.
Would you ask her if she had any before you went to hers? "
I don’t know. Did she say ‘fancy a drink at mine?’ No I would t have expected sex.
If she said ‘fancy sone fun at mine?’ I’d have probably made it clear, I have nothing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always have a condom on me, I assume men always have a condom on them, especially with this kind of lifestyle as you never know.
I also go with the assumption that a social is never just a social, I am sure they do happen but majority of the time, I would assume play would commence.
However, I also have condoms at my house, a have a small drawer full of them (I have a husband and as both swing so "our" drawer.
I don't think it should just be down to the man to provide the condoms, obviously he should 100% but in this instance where the lady made it clear it was a social, she should have some available. |
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For all we know the woman had a drawer full. Even if i had condoms in the drawer, if they hadn’t brought any there is a high chance i would still ask them to leave. Starting play with no regard for sexual safety as things progress would be a turn off for me.
But it did stop when the sex was on the cards didn’t it? A snog is not risking your health.
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He didn’t say they had a snog … they made it back to her house , then her bedroom and then as far as oral on each other. At which point she had to bring it up - the OP had given zero thought so far to condoms. And as an extra slap in the face was expecting to be finished off manually when sex wasn’t on the table.
From experience there are 3 categories of guys that don’t bring protection when meeting someone from fab - selfish and happy just to get his (red flag), wreckless with his sexual health (red flag), or cheating so can’t carry condoms around with him incase he forgets they are in his wallet (red flag) |
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Dunno, based on your story, it sounds like there was at least one opportunity to go to a shop to quickly buy some. If “one thing led to another” and then you both actively left the pub to go back to hers, that’s when you should have broached the topic.
In any case, you learned a lesson we all do at some point. Always carry one just in case. |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
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"Also. I e been in that situation. It was a 20mins drive to a garage. "
Was she worth the time and expense on petrol?!
For what it's worth I wouldn't turn up to a social in a pair of granny pants and without a condom (just in case as I don't want to risk being caught out). But as it was meant to just be a social she was a bit hard (fnar fnar) on you for not raiding her stash (again, I always have some at Chez Couga) |
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For all we know the woman had a drawer full. Even if i had condoms in the drawer, if they hadn’t brought any there is a high chance i would still ask them to leave. Starting play with no regard for sexual safety as things progress would be a turn off for me.
But it did stop when the sex was on the cards didn’t it? A snog is not risking your health.
He didn’t say they had a snog … they made it back to her house , then her bedroom and then as far as oral on each other. At which point she had to bring it up - the OP had given zero thought so far to condoms. And as an extra slap in the face was expecting to be finished off manually when sex wasn’t on the table.
From experience there are 3 categories of guys that don’t bring protection when meeting someone from fab - selfish and happy just to get his (red flag), wreckless with his sexual health (red flag), or cheating so can’t carry condoms around with him incase he forgets they are in his wallet (red flag) "
Ok, but she got to that stage aswell and gave zero thought to condoms?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe this one just gets striked down as experience and learning…. To save debating ‘blame’ next time you know to always have the essentials ….wallet…phone….condom…food & water for 24 hours…..and a sleeping bag….
As the scouts say… always be prepared…. Dib dib dib  |
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For all we know the woman had a drawer full. Even if i had condoms in the drawer, if they hadn’t brought any there is a high chance i would still ask them to leave. Starting play with no regard for sexual safety as things progress would be a turn off for me.
But it did stop when the sex was on the cards didn’t it? A snog is not risking your health.
He didn’t say they had a snog … they made it back to her house , then her bedroom and then as far as oral on each other. At which point she had to bring it up - the OP had given zero thought so far to condoms. And as an extra slap in the face was expecting to be finished off manually when sex wasn’t on the table.
From experience there are 3 categories of guys that don’t bring protection when meeting someone from fab - selfish and happy just to get his (red flag), wreckless with his sexual health (red flag), or cheating so can’t carry condoms around with him incase he forgets they are in his wallet (red flag)
Ok, but she got to that stage aswell and gave zero thought to condoms?
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Ive already said we dont know that
Had it been me, even with a drawer full of condoms, if a guy had gotten as far as into my bed without even considering what he was using for protection i would have asked him to leave too |
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For all we know the woman had a drawer full. Even if i had condoms in the drawer, if they hadn’t brought any there is a high chance i would still ask them to leave. Starting play with no regard for sexual safety as things progress would be a turn off for me.
But it did stop when the sex was on the cards didn’t it? A snog is not risking your health.
He didn’t say they had a snog … they made it back to her house , then her bedroom and then as far as oral on each other. At which point she had to bring it up - the OP had given zero thought so far to condoms. And as an extra slap in the face was expecting to be finished off manually when sex wasn’t on the table.
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Maybe I’m mistaken, but I’ve got a good sense of humour. And I picked up the comment of a wank to be a joke. I dunno.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fault on both sides, clearly - I always have condoms, but I’d be irritated by someone who uses a casual sex website and leaves safety up to everyone else except himself. |
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over a year ago
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I always have some with me but ultimately a man should too. If a man turned up without any, I'd assume he was planning to go into the cave without a coat on. |
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It’s a tricky one.
I always carry them, for that reason. Not that I expect anything more to happen but you just never know and I don’t see the harm in carrying one.
Also as I have a latex allergy I wouldn’t use anyone else’s, I’ve always brought my own and think men should provide them. |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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Lesson learned for you to always expect the unexpected especially with fab, people say it’s a social so they can see if you look like your pics and to see if the sparks there so I think if she invited you back to hers then the thought was probably with her you would be having sex so if she knew she had no condoms perhaps she should have asked the question if you did just in case things did progress from just chat. Two people having sex two people should be being responsible, not quite sure why people think it’s just down to the guy.
Hopefully you will get another meet, well that’s if you want one after being thrown out  |
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I always have a good supply of condoms at my house in case of situations like this. If it is meant to be a social meet then I would not personally expect you too supply your own. xx |
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"As you weren't expecting sex then I can understand why you didn't have them, although having socials turn into sex I'd always take some just incase.
I'd say it's both parties responsibility.
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No problem for me as I always have a stash I tell them no need to bring condoms unless they want a particular brand.
Can't be doing with quibbling over a condom after all I want sex as much as them |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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I always have condoms. I have a latex allergy. They don’t fit all sizes though.
I have had guys tell me that they also have a latex allergy as an excuse not to use anything. The look on their face when I told them I fortunately had latex free condoms was a classic He actually only got a mutual wank though. Completely safe fun lol |
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Mrs always takes the one's we buy for a few reasons.
1: skyns are the only ones she doesn't get a reaction to and makes her sore.
2: we prefer our own one's as we know they are in date and tamper free also strong enough for rigorous sex. |
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"Mrs always takes the one's we buy for a few reasons.
1: skyns are the only ones she doesn't get a reaction to and makes her sore.
2: we prefer our own one's as we know they are in date and tamper free also strong enough for rigorous sex."
And she carries different sizes |
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If we’re going on any kind of a fab social or meet then we’ll always take precautions with us.
Condoms, lube, fake nose and glasses, face paints, bottle of ketchup, roll of carpet tape, zip ties and most importantly a can of mace. |
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over a year ago
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Superbad moment…
A condom and one little bottle of spermicidal lube!
Tbh tho… if I’d have been told categorically “NO SEX” I wouldn’t have even bothered changing me underpants!…
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You changed the rules of engagement the moment you went back to hers.
A social is a social.
You should have stuck to what was agreed, met for a drink, a chat and pleasantries. Leave it at that with the intention of meeting in the near future.
I can only vouch for myself and have always stuck to my guns when meeting for a social.
A social doesn't lead to a bedroom, so she's in the wrong asking you to put a condom on. You're in the wrong for not having one and you're both in the wrong for going that far on a social LOL! |
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"So I was one of the lucky single guys that got a meet impromptu the other day to meet at a pub, we'd exchanged alot of messages and was quite clear it was just a social and there would definitely be no sex, I was happy with this grabbed my wallet slapped on the sauvage and off I popped.
Anyway one thing led to another back to hers and a couple of bottles in were in the bedroom and I'm happily performing oral she returned the favour.
THEN she says put a condom on to which I replied "where are they"?
She didn't have any........ And made out it was my duty to of had some and asked me to leave!!
So should of had some to hand?
And if ladies if this situation arrised with yourself would a wank be out of the question?? "
Hi op.
I see where you’re coming from - but best to have them handy. I used to have loads of free gum clinic condoms handy - but they tended to be very thick and rather tight if you’re well endowed - so little sensitivity/pleasure for the chap.
I generally do have a few of the ‘better’ condoms in stock but no woman can cater for every size, preference, allergies etc.
if you want your meet to be a great experience for your willy then you need to find the ideal condom for you anyway - rather than just one a woman might have to hand. |
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"OP do you carry tampons when you're out with a woman in case she needs them?"
I do have a mate that carries them when he's out on his Ducati motorbike. He's got a small oil leak somewhere in the Vee and the tampon does a brilliant job soaking it up |
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Yep down to the guy to bring one or two for a night out not always expecting sex but you never know where the notion might take ya!
It's called being grown up and mature enough to respect women simples and your own sexual health |
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"Mrs always takes the one's we buy for a few reasons.
1: skyns are the only ones she doesn't get a reaction to and makes her sore.
2: we prefer our own one's as we know they are in date and tamper free also strong enough for rigorous sex."
As an aside - I find it surprising how many fab males have so little knowledge/experience of condoms - and use this to argue the case for bareback as they struggle to maintain an erection when wearing one.
Guys - your willy is important so it’s worth spending a little time, money and effort to keep him happy and safe during intercourse.
Most supermarkets offer discounts on higher end brands (Durex and Skyns both offer ultra thin but durable varieties).
Before you have a meet - practice wanking whilst wearing them. When you can do this without losing your erection then you’re ready to stick it inside a vagina.
You’re welcome. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I've always brought my own condoms to meets. But in saying that I find it annoying that some men don't bring any with them . It's not a lot to ask for someone to bring condoms with them and not be expecting others to provide for them all the time.
And even when I am meeting for a social I always have some with me just in case on the off chance it goes farther.
And no op a wank would not be on offer if there was no condoms either I just couldn't be bothered if I'm honest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always carry condoms if Im On a meet social or otherwise yes most expect men to have them and most do but I'm responsible for me so prefer to have them |
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"Yep down to the guy to bring one or two for a night out not always expecting sex but you never know where the notion might take ya!
It's called being grown up and mature enough to respect women simples and your own sexual health "
So women are exempt from being grown up and mature about their own sexual health  |
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"So I was one of the lucky single guys that got a meet impromptu the other day to meet at a pub, we'd exchanged alot of messages and was quite clear it was just a social and there would definitely be no sex, I was happy with this grabbed my wallet slapped on the sauvage and off I popped.
Anyway one thing led to another back to hers and a couple of bottles in were in the bedroom and I'm happily performing oral she returned the favour.
THEN she says put a condom on to which I replied "where are they"?
She didn't have any........ And made out it was my duty to of had some and asked me to leave!!
So should of had some to hand?
And if ladies if this situation arrised with yourself would a wank be out of the question??
Hi op.
I see where you’re coming from - but best to have them handy. I used to have loads of free gum clinic condoms handy - but they tended to be very thick and rather tight if you’re well endowed - so little sensitivity/pleasure for the chap.
I generally do have a few of the ‘better’ condoms in stock but no woman can cater for every size, preference, allergies etc.
if you want your meet to be a great experience for your willy then you need to find the ideal condom for you anyway - rather than just one a woman might have to hand. "
Point noted and will never forget again. |
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If I was in this situation we would just do soft stuff, I wouldn’t kick him out for that alone but wouldn’t do penetrative sex.
I only use condoms for prevention of STI’s, I’m 110% protected from pregnancy but I would not be amused to catch something for the first time in 28 years!
Nothing wrong with a social escalating into a meet, many of us have been there I’m sure. |
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over a year ago
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I always have a stash at home plus one in my bag for such impromptu moments, I never ever assume the man will have a condom but might also be wise to pop one in your wallet or car for future |
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Well, you aren’t expecting sex so that’s fair to not have them but it don’t think it should’ve been her job to provide them. condoms come in different sizes and she might have one that’s too small or too big. Couldve went to the shop to get one |
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I dont know,
But if you are playing the game (Fab) then surely you (both of you) dont rock up to a meet without thinking every angle is covered, lesson learned here OP, next time add a rubber to the wallet grab and a splash of smelly, |
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Neither come off great imo.
Noone discussed this until very late.
Noone was prepared.
She may edge it as she mentioned it. Were you planning to go bare back ?
Personally I'd have my own. Because durex are fucking erection killers. If I was caught by suprise on a social I'd stop off when it looked more than that. It doesn't even have to be a big deal or need a discussion tbh.
Safe words. Now that's something that needs to be discussed |
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"So I was one of the lucky single guys that got a meet impromptu the other day to meet at a pub, we'd exchanged alot of messages and was quite clear it was just a social and there would definitely be no sex, I was happy with this grabbed my wallet slapped on the sauvage and off I popped.
Anyway one thing led to another back to hers and a couple of bottles in were in the bedroom and I'm happily performing oral she returned the favour.
THEN she says put a condom on to which I replied "where are they"?
She didn't have any........ And made out it was my duty to of had some and asked me to leave!!
So should of had some to hand?
And if ladies if this situation arrised with yourself would a wank be out of the question?? "
It is your responsibility to have one and she was right to say no. Despite it being unexpected it is always worth popping one in your wallet just in case. |
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As it's Fab and you never know what may happen in the moment, I'd always take a couple just in case as it's better to have them and not need them.
Of the meets I have had though, the couple or woman have always had condoms but normally prefer to use my own unless they also have the same brand I use. If she had initiated it though, I would've expected her to have some but I also you that only you can control what you do |
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Some years ago I met a guy from fab for sex at his. It was very late night on a very quiet road, so started off a little bit nervously. He was much older and when I revealed my school outfit he got very excited for me. Then it all came crashing down when I asked for his condoms.
To this day I cannot quite explain it, but when I opened the packet, there was some sort of yellowish crusty fluid inside the condom. If I recall correctly, there was some dusty yellow 'flakes' for lack of a better word. "That's odd" I remarked and asked for some others. He gave me 2 more and insisted they were all brand new, unused, and they did seem to be unopened, but they all had that crusty slime inside.
Needless to say a complete dampener so we wanked each other off and left it at that. Im still utterly confused by it tho  |
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I always carry condoms even as a woman because I have a latex allergy and you never know when fun things can happen.
Men who aren't prepared always flag up as a risk.
Some women think it's the man's job to provide them, but I do think all women should have some emergency ones just in case. |
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So surely when you were leaving the pub it was obvious where it was heading so would have been an ideal time to pop to the machine in the toilet
I think it's sensible for women to carry spares but it's not their responsibility. |
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"If I was in this situation we would just do soft stuff, I wouldn’t kick him out for that alone but wouldn’t do penetrative sex.
I only use condoms for prevention of STI’s, I’m 110% protected from pregnancy but I would not be amused to catch something for the first time in 28 years!
Nothing wrong with a social escalating into a meet, many of us have been there I’m sure. "
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I quite like the p+sitive spin on this response and the assured diplomacy.
Clearly responsibility lies on both sides when it comes to any form of prophylaxis, but a soft play or some form of 'enhanced social' would have been ideal to diffuse the situation. |
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"I always carry condoms even as a woman because I have a latex allergy and you never know when fun things can happen.
Men who aren't prepared always flag up as a risk.
Some women think it's the man's job to provide them, but I do think all women should have some emergency ones just in case."
Having sex is hardly an emergency.  |
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Having sex is hardly an emergency.
Not in itself, but having sex with a latex condom can result in a trip to the emergency room so."
Fair point.
I'd never trust a man's condoms anyway. He may have had them for 10 years. |
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Having sex is hardly an emergency.
Not in itself, but having sex with a latex condom can result in a trip to the emergency room so.
Fair point.
I'd never trust a man's condoms anyway. He may have had them for 10 years. "
I don’t trust other people’s condoms cos they aren’t guaranteed to fit me. |
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Seems like a strange way to end the meet regardless.
Between the pub and going back to hers it might if popped into your head where it was heading?
Also it'd be interested to see how many active fab members wouldn't have some condoms in their house even if they weren't planning anything.
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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It's always sensible to go equipped some may think it's a chance thing thinking far too ahead like it's only thing on the mind but also prepared rather than it being awkward killing the moment |
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"I don't wank men off who can't be bothered to pop to the shop for condoms.
I do have my own, but I have a conversation with the man to ask if he wants to use mine or prefers his own.
I've come across lots of men who think it's the other person's responsibility to put a condom on his penis.
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Not a responsibility to provide it but a lot more fun if the other person puts it on.. |
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Having sex is hardly an emergency.
Not in itself, but having sex with a latex condom can result in a trip to the emergency room so."
The reason why I only carry latex free....god forbid I'd be the one to put someone in a&e.  |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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"Why did you expect her to supply the condom?"
Probably a grey area on opinions there. The lady supplying one would mean she would know that nothing has been tampered with. But the guy should always have a couple spare.
That’s how I would view it. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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My thoughts are that it was a social
Would I take condoms to a social at a coffee shop or bar probably not actually, as I wouldn’t take a kit bag.
If I was having a social at someone’s house, you don’t want to sound presumptuous by taking them but it’s always good to have a couple on you just in case
I am surprised that the lady didn’t have any at all. If she had said it was a social at her house and things escalated then would have thought she would have some also
However I suppose it’s fine line with being prepared and presumptuous. A friend years ago go changed in my hotel room then said to me a few weeks later why I didn’t offer to join her in shower
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If neither of you thought to stop off at the shop going home, and then were too pissed to drive to a shop to buy any I would have got you on your knees and had you wank over my feet as punishment for not having one in your wallet. Next time both our pockets would be overflowing with condoms and all would be fine  |
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"So I was one of the lucky single guys that got a meet impromptu the other day to meet at a pub, we'd exchanged alot of messages and was quite clear it was just a social and there would definitely be no sex, I was happy with this grabbed my wallet slapped on the sauvage and off I popped.
Anyway one thing led to another back to hers and a couple of bottles in were in the bedroom and I'm happily performing oral she returned the favour.
THEN she says put a condom on to which I replied "where are they"?
She didn't have any........ And made out it was my duty to of had some and asked me to leave!!
So should of had some to hand?
And if ladies if this situation arrised with yourself would a wank be out of the question?? "
Lesson learned; always carry at least one condom, even if ‘only’ a social is arranged |
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"So I was one of the lucky single guys that got a meet impromptu the other day to meet at a pub, we'd exchanged alot of messages and was quite clear it was just a social and there would definitely be no sex, I was happy with this grabbed my wallet slapped on the sauvage and off I popped.
Anyway one thing led to another back to hers and a couple of bottles in were in the bedroom and I'm happily performing oral she returned the favour.
THEN she says put a condom on to which I replied "where are they"?
She didn't have any........ And made out it was my duty to of had some and asked me to leave!!
So should of had some to hand?
And if ladies if this situation arrised with yourself would a wank be out of the question?? "
Was there no condom machine in the pub toilets? Surely you had an inkling the social was going well and could have led to more……? |
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"So I was one of the lucky single guys that got a meet impromptu the other day to meet at a pub, we'd exchanged alot of messages and was quite clear it was just a social and there would definitely be no sex, I was happy with this grabbed my wallet slapped on the sauvage and off I popped.
Anyway one thing led to another back to hers and a couple of bottles in were in the bedroom and I'm happily performing oral she returned the favour.
THEN she says put a condom on to which I replied "where are they"?
She didn't have any........ And made out it was my duty to of had some and asked me to leave!!
So should of had some to hand?
And if ladies if this situation arrised with yourself would a wank be out of the question?? "
keep a couple in your wallet..problem solved |
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"If neither of you thought to stop off at the shop going home, and then were too pissed to drive to a shop to buy any I would have got you on your knees and had you wank over my feet as punishment for not having one in your wallet. Next time both our pockets would be overflowing with condoms and all would be fine "
Makes notes.... |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Seems like a strange way to end the meet regardless.
Between the pub and going back to hers it might if popped into your head where it was heading?
Also it'd be interested to see how many active fab members wouldn't have some condoms in their house even if they weren't planning anything.
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I do, but I would have said let's go back to mine, I have condoms. Although, a social is a social for me. |
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"Always carry a few condoms in your wallet.
I think both men and women should have condoms on hand just in case such situations arise"
Exactly. I would rather a guy be prepared on the off chance, I have plenty at home, different varieties, including latex free then there's no excuses for them not to wear one. |
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"So I was one of the lucky single guys that got a meet impromptu the other day to meet at a pub, we'd exchanged alot of messages and was quite clear it was just a social and there would definitely be no sex, I was happy with this grabbed my wallet slapped on the sauvage and off I popped.
Anyway one thing led to another back to hers and a couple of bottles in were in the bedroom and I'm happily performing oral she returned the favour.
THEN she says put a condom on to which I replied "where are they"?
She didn't have any........ And made out it was my duty to of had some and asked me to leave!!
So should of had some to hand?
And if ladies if this situation arrised with yourself would a wank be out of the question?? "
dam so you didn't even get to nut even from a blowie.. thats harsh indeed |
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"Like my dad told me just before he fucked my sister, always come prepared.
What happens in Bristol really needs to stay in Bristol
Bristol is filth I tell you all the heretics are there "
Fred West was from that neck of the woods so that’s says it all  |
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"Like my dad told me just before he fucked my sister, always come prepared.
What happens in Bristol really needs to stay in Bristol
Bristol is filth I tell you all the heretics are there
Fred West was from that neck of the woods so that’s says it all "
I dont have much positive things to say about Bristol to be honest so I am not surprised lol |
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I think that in the OP case he was not at fault for leaving the house without a condom, it was however apparently made clear it was a social only.
However, once they realised it was going further they both had the chance to get some or bring up the subject.
I don't do meets outside clubs but if I did and I had invited someone back to my house, I'd not expect him to have some on him. In fact I'd probably find it presumptuous |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Most single fella’s I’ve got jiggy with had at least one in their wallet, albeit they had to check their use by date beforehand!
I always had some in a draw when I was young childfree and single. Nothing worse then getting your pash on and you have to stop due to no condoms. |
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"Like my dad told me just before he fucked my sister, always come prepared.
What happens in Bristol really needs to stay in Bristol
Bristol is filth I tell you all the heretics are there
Fred West was from that neck of the woods so that’s says it all "
wasn't he Gloucester? |
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"I think that in the OP case he was not at fault for leaving the house without a condom, it was however apparently made clear it was a social only.
However, once they realised it was going further they both had the chance to get some or bring up the subject.
I don't do meets outside clubs but if I did and I had invited someone back to my house, I'd not expect him to have some on him. In fact I'd probably find it presumptuous "
Same. |
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I've had it happen twice to me, the men contacted me, I had met them both previously, (separately), things were going well, when I asked if they had a condom, both said no, I thought you'd have one, which I didn't, i think if the man asks to meet I would expect him to have the condom, |
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"I've had it happen twice to me, the men contacted me, I had met them both previously, (separately), things were going well, when I asked if they had a condom, both said no, I thought you'd have one, which I didn't, i think if the man asks to meet I would expect him to have the condom, "
Even if it was just a social where you had made it clear no sex was involved ? |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I think that in the OP case he was not at fault for leaving the house without a condom, it was however apparently made clear it was a social only.
However, once they realised it was going further they both had the chance to get some or bring up the subject.
I don't do meets outside clubs but if I did and I had invited someone back to my house, I'd not expect him to have some on him. In fact I'd probably find it presumptuous "
Me neither, and I'd ask him if he's ok with the ones I have.
A 1 minute conversation would have avoided this problem. |
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"I've had it happen twice to me, the men contacted me, I had met them both previously, (separately), things were going well, when I asked if they had a condom, both said no, I thought you'd have one, which I didn't, i think if the man asks to meet I would expect him to have the condom,
Even if it was just a social where you had made it clear no sex was involved ? "
I'd met them socially before, these were a naked naughty meets,
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"Yep down to the guy to bring one or two for a night out not always expecting sex but you never know where the notion might take ya!
It's called being grown up and mature enough to respect women simples and your own sexual health
So women are exempt from being grown up and mature about their own sexual health "
Nope I just assume they would be on top of that too...its just about respect for women mainly |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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As soon as she suggested going back to hers you should of gone to the men's loo and got a packet out of the machine. If there are still such things, it's been a while since I was in the men's |
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Always have condoms on hand when you're going even for an "innocent social" with someone you got to know from Fab.
"Innocent" can go to "sexy time" real quick, and you don't want to be caught off guard. Though I suppose this applies for both men and women; men shouldn't expect women to just do bareback sex with them, and women shouldn't expect men to shoulder the responsibility of sexual protection/contraception alone, i.e. you wanna be extra sure whoever you're fucking is rubbered up, make sure you have one with you and you put it on him! |
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