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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Who do you trust less ?
Your own sex or the opposite sex ?
I know the stock answers will be 'it's done on an individual basis' or 'it depends on the situation' but lets lump it all together and make some generalisations
If you trust men less, then why ?
likewise, if you trust women less, then why ? |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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For me it is not gender specific and I will initially give everybody the same kind of benefit of doubt. In fact I would go as far as saying that it would be a stereotyping of some kind to make men or women the more or less trustworthy gender... I really believe somebody's trustworthiness depends on their upbringing and moral landscape (e.g. that it is not ok to lie) as well as the value they attach to the relationship they are in if that makes sense. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For me it is not gender specific and I will initially give everybody the same kind of benefit of doubt. In fact I would go as far as saying that it would be a stereotyping of some kind to make men or women the more or less trustworthy gender... I really believe somebody's trustworthiness depends on their upbringing and moral landscape (e.g. that it is not ok to lie) as well as the value they attach to the relationship they are in if that makes sense. "
We'll get you off that fence one of these days !
Just hope I don't come down with ya  |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"For me it is not gender specific and I will initially give everybody the same kind of benefit of doubt. In fact I would go as far as saying that it would be a stereotyping of some kind to make men or women the more or less trustworthy gender... I really believe somebody's trustworthiness depends on their upbringing and moral landscape (e.g. that it is not ok to lie) as well as the value they attach to the relationship they are in if that makes sense.
We'll get you off that fence one of these days !
Just hope I don't come down with ya "
Tis true lol... but hey sliding down a fence with you ... sounds a reather sexy idea? |
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"Women.... I don't get on with them.
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That was not a fair statement of me... i have had more trust issues with female friends than male friends but I take everyone at face value before judging and I like you.... |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I would have probably have said women more, but I have been stung quite deeply by some men on here!
And with some of them, who needs enermies when you have them as friends, but friends they are no longer! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For me it is not gender specific and I will initially give everybody the same kind of benefit of doubt. In fact I would go as far as saying that it would be a stereotyping of some kind to make men or women the more or less trustworthy gender... I really believe somebody's trustworthiness depends on their upbringing and moral landscape (e.g. that it is not ok to lie) as well as the value they attach to the relationship they are in if that makes sense.
We'll get you off that fence one of these days !
Just hope I don't come down with ya Tis true lol... but hey sliding down a fence with you ... sounds a reather sexy idea? "
watch out for the splinters ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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very generally i trust guys more - ive worked with both in small and large groups - blokes can be nasty but theyre straight and to the point so you know where you stand with them - girls can tend to be sly, devious and bitchy -
saying again very generally of course there are exceptions |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"For me it is not gender specific and I will initially give everybody the same kind of benefit of doubt. In fact I would go as far as saying that it would be a stereotyping of some kind to make men or women the more or less trustworthy gender... I really believe somebody's trustworthiness depends on their upbringing and moral landscape (e.g. that it is not ok to lie) as well as the value they attach to the relationship they are in if that makes sense.
We'll get you off that fence one of these days !
Just hope I don't come down with ya Tis true lol... but hey sliding down a fence with you ... sounds a reather sexy idea?
watch out for the splinters !"
What ... besides the big one?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For me it is not gender specific and I will initially give everybody the same kind of benefit of doubt. In fact I would go as far as saying that it would be a stereotyping of some kind to make men or women the more or less trustworthy gender... I really believe somebody's trustworthiness depends on their upbringing and moral landscape (e.g. that it is not ok to lie) as well as the value they attach to the relationship they are in if that makes sense.
We'll get you off that fence one of these days !
Just hope I don't come down with ya Tis true lol... but hey sliding down a fence with you ... sounds a reather sexy idea?
watch out for the splinters !
What ... besides the big one?
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there are always exceptions to every rule
and to use your line, i like to take each fence individually |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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Joke aside... I can understand how anybody whose trust has been broken is going to be more cautious next time round.
If this happens more than once... the chance of trusting again is going to be smaller because naturally people dont want to get hurt and by keeping others at arm's length and not trusting them they are protecting themselves from that potential hurt.
I believe though that there is a risk involved with everything we do.. and trusting somebody after having been betrayed in some way means taking a new risk.
If we dont trust again.. we deprive ourselves of new chances of friendships, relationships and love.
Just my tuppence worth |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Joke aside... I can understand how anybody whose trust has been broken is going to be more cautious next time round.
If this happens more than once... the chance of trusting again is going to be smaller because naturally people dont want to get hurt and by keeping others at arm's length and not trusting them they are protecting themselves from that potential hurt.
I believe though that there is a risk involved with everything we do.. and trusting somebody after having been betrayed in some way means taking a new risk.
If we dont trust again.. we deprive ourselves of new chances of friendships, relationships and love.
Just my tuppence worth"
I agree but it can sometimes feel as though you are in a pattern of making the same mistakes over and over again.
A very dear friend died earlier this year. One of the last things he said to me was to forgive the last man that had betrayed me because to do anything else would mean that he had altered me in a bad way.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Some people I trust instantly
Some I want to trust, yet know I never fully will
Some I shouldn't trust, but do to a degree
Others I will never trust as long as my arse points down
If I did have to pinpoint a sex though, I would say I trusted men more than women
Only because I think men are more open with other men and tend to cut the crap - at least on a 1 to 1 basis.
I have however been burnt by both sexes to varying degrees |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Women as they can be very manipulative and deceitful  "
Same here...both sexes bitch, but women tend to be more vengeful! Have always got on better with Guys, and I also think some women are jealous of that despite the fact that my friendships with men (away from FAB!) are rarely if ever sexual |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Who do you trust less ?
Your own sex or the opposite sex ?
I know the stock answers will be 'it's done on an individual basis' or 'it depends on the situation' but lets lump it all together and make some generalisations
If you trust men less, then why ?
likewise, if you trust women less, then why ?"
Gnomes. They're sneaky little sods. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Once the trust as been broken its very hard to find it again amongst all the rubble....i tend not to trust many people at all regardless of what sex they are. |
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