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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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It depends. I don't think I really identify as either, I like fucking and I like the myriad of responses each lover elicits in me.
Sometimes I want to pull their hair as we kiss, or guide their face as a cock fucks it, or bite into their flesh or edge them, other times I want to be erm... well facefucked. Spanked/bitten. Marked and...(redacted for rude stuff). So yes, it varies a lot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A bit of both, really depends on who it’s with. Sometimes I like being a more in control, watching how much pleasure they are getting from what I’m doing to them, teasing and seeing them desperate to cum turns me on massively.
Other times I like being dominated. Being restrained , spanked , hair being pulled etc etc. I’m away for a lie down I think I’m in heat today  |
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"A bit of both, really depends on who it’s with. Sometimes I like being a more in control, watching how much pleasure they are getting from what I’m doing to them, teasing and seeing them desperate to cum turns me on massively.
Other times I like being dominated. Being restrained , spanked , hair being pulled etc etc. I’m away for a lie down I think I’m in heat today "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A bit of both, really depends on who it’s with. Sometimes I like being a more in control, watching how much pleasure they are getting from what I’m doing to them, teasing and seeing them desperate to cum turns me on massively.
Other times I like being dominated. Being restrained , spanked , hair being pulled etc etc. I’m away for a lie down I think I’m in heat today "
And....how do you tease now?. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not really sure to be honest. I think I may lean more on the submissive side as I get pleasure from giving it so always want to do things they like and enjoy. Although I have heard the viewpoint that it may make me more dominant as I like being in control of their pleasure. It all just condlfuses me to be honest  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With men I'm usually submissive but doesn't have to be every time.
With women I find I end up being the dominant one. Would love to meet a lady that could take me in hand sometime |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
Wherever I lay my hat |
I don't pigeonhole myself and like to mix it up. I like to be picked up, thrown around, butt slapped, hair pulled, called a slut etc. but then will turn it on a sixpence and take control myself. Have had experiences with both a very dominant guy and a very submissive one - neither were my cup of tea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not really sure to be honest. I think I may lean more on the submissive side as I get pleasure from giving it so always want to do things they like and enjoy. Although I have heard the viewpoint that it may make me more dominant as I like being in control of their pleasure. It all just condlfuses me to be honest "
I think it’s about the way you like to give the other pleasure. Having a woman sit on your face as you bring her to orgasm is seen as more submissive than maybe having her blindfolded while using different toys to give her pleasure. Either way it doesn’t really matter as long as you’re enjoying it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not really sure to be honest. I think I may lean more on the submissive side as I get pleasure from giving it so always want to do things they like and enjoy. Although I have heard the viewpoint that it may make me more dominant as I like being in control of their pleasure. It all just condlfuses me to be honest
I think it’s about the way you like to give the other pleasure. Having a woman sit on your face as you bring her to orgasm is seen as more submissive than maybe having her blindfolded while using different toys to give her pleasure. Either way it doesn’t really matter as long as you’re enjoying it. "
Ah that makes a lot of sense to be honest, in that case I think I definitely lean more towards the submissive side but can have some dominant traits depending what they're into such as spanking, hair pulling etc. |
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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago
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Definitely more left of the slash. I find it difficult to trust enough to give up control. I like to be in control of the situation, but it really does depend on the individual how far that goes. |
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"When it comes to sex, which side do you veer on the most? Prefer being in control or having them take the lead?
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I'm a switch. It depends on the day and my mood to be honest. I usually let the men lead with the kissing and touching but I often soon can take over after a few minutes and often get under their clothes before they can get under mine. |
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I'm always in charge but I don't want to be. I have only met a couple of guys who can actually take the lead from me, the others talk the talk but when they walk in to all 6ft 2 of me in my heels, lingerie, and naturally authoritative nature, they melt very quickly and its me in charge. I would love nothing more than to just relax and let the man take the lead, but it just doesn't happen. |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
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"Just love fluidity! One moment I slap his face as I ride him for my pleasure, the next he has me pinned down and fucking me senseless.. Just greedy I guess 
Why? Don't you like him?  "
Oh I more than like him!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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not everyone is dom or sub - many of us enjoy an equal balance and as we do we like to give a bit of direction to ensure the other person is in tune with the sexual mood that day.... sometimes its as simple as "would you like your cock sucked" or a simple "I'd love you to eat my pussy" balance all the way we say... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It really depends on my partner at the time. I'm not naturally submissive or overly dominant I just know what I like.
If someone can bring out my sub side as it is there then we'll I can be pretty sub. |
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We are both flip of a sort. I am not sub with other men. Only john gets that. But i can flip with ladies but prefer to be both in a really horny meet with them. John is predominantly top but will flip for the right guy. Jo. |
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"not everyone is dom or sub - many of us enjoy an equal balance and as we do we like to give a bit of direction to ensure the other person is in tune with the sexual mood that day.... sometimes its as simple as "would you like your cock sucked" or a simple "I'd love you to eat my pussy" balance all the way we say..."
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Traditionally the brat and masochist tendencies would indicate I was on the submissive side, but mostly I prefer to play with people as equals. Sometimes I like hands around my throat and being fucked down to size, sometimes I like to pin my partner down and tease and edge for hours, but nothing is ever a given, everything is determined by the mood and dynamic of the moment. |
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Dominant, entirely. If I could be a little submissive occasionally it would probably make me a more effective Dominant, but, like when I tried to be bi, it just doesn't take. It's not just a bedroom thing, either. Not even mostly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As I’m getting older sexual appetite getting worse a lot of kinks and want to do so oi you get yourself over hear
So dominant tends to start with kissing snogging that’s when usually take over |
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I like to take the lead, I just love the feel of someone who's completely put themselves my hands. I not however comfortable putting myself in others hands. I'm also quite sadistic when it comes to kink. Which may seem odd being such a pleasant guy but hey its always the people you least expect right? I get a lot enjoyment out of playful sadism. My cheif enjoyment is letting bratty types fall into their own traps and be the instigators of their downfall. Irony, creativity and surprises plays a big part in my play. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm always in charge but I don't want to be. I have only met a couple of guys who can actually take the lead from me, the others talk the talk but when they walk in to all 6ft 2 of me in my heels, lingerie, and naturally authoritative nature, they melt very quickly and its me in charge. I would love nothing more than to just relax and let the man take the lead, but it just doesn't happen. "
 oh my. I’d do whatever you asked me too…sorry im with the guys who would melt |
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"I'm always in charge but I don't want to be. I have only met a couple of guys who can actually take the lead from me, the others talk the talk but when they walk in to all 6ft 2 of me in my heels, lingerie, and naturally authoritative nature, they melt very quickly and its me in charge. I would love nothing more than to just relax and let the man take the lead, but it just doesn't happen.
oh my. I’d do whatever you asked me too…sorry im with the guys who would melt "
That's ok, it's normal for me and if I am the dominant one in the room, you'll know it, and do as you're told  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm always in charge but I don't want to be. I have only met a couple of guys who can actually take the lead from me, the others talk the talk but when they walk in to all 6ft 2 of me in my heels, lingerie, and naturally authoritative nature, they melt very quickly and its me in charge. I would love nothing more than to just relax and let the man take the lead, but it just doesn't happen. "
Well as gorgeous as you are I definatley wouldnt, taking immediate control from the moment we meet, tall or short doesnt bother me when in dom mode i will be in charge x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm always in charge but I don't want to be. I have only met a couple of guys who can actually take the lead from me, the others talk the talk but when they walk in to all 6ft 2 of me in my heels, lingerie, and naturally authoritative nature, they melt very quickly and its me in charge. I would love nothing more than to just relax and let the man take the lead, but it just doesn't happen.
oh my. I’d do whatever you asked me too…sorry im with the guys who would melt
That's ok, it's normal for me and if I am the dominant one in the room, you'll know it, and do as you're told "
Lol no chance
You do as your told handcuffs and whip ready you on Santas naughty list |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can someone tell me What submissive means? Because I don’t know.
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It's when a "Submariner" writes a very long letter to a loved one. That letter is known as a "Missive"."
and this shows why I never knew. |
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"I'm always in charge but I don't want to be. I have only met a couple of guys who can actually take the lead from me, the others talk the talk but when they walk in to all 6ft 2 of me in my heels, lingerie, and naturally authoritative nature, they melt very quickly and its me in charge. I would love nothing more than to just relax and let the man take the lead, but it just doesn't happen.
Well as gorgeous as you are I definatley wouldnt, taking immediate control from the moment we meet, tall or short doesnt bother me when in dom mode i will be in charge x"
Where have you been all my life? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can someone tell me What submissive means? Because I don’t know. "
A person who agrees to submit or give up control in a relationship, scene, or activity.
Source kinktionary |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"fuck knows
depends who what and when
so many fucking labels... i prefer to just be"
Very much this… Fair to say, depends on the person but I tend to submissive with the right one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm always in charge but I don't want to be. I have only met a couple of guys who can actually take the lead from me, the others talk the talk but when they walk in to all 6ft 2 of me in my heels, lingerie, and naturally authoritative nature, they melt very quickly and its me in charge. I would love nothing more than to just relax and let the man take the lead, but it just doesn't happen.
oh my. I’d do whatever you asked me too…sorry im with the guys who would melt
That's ok, it's normal for me and if I am the dominant one in the room, you'll know it, and do as you're told "
Yes ma'am |
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Neither and both.
Why do people think that everything in life is binary?
I don't have to choose......... So many other factors both physical , mental and emotional ( that's both +1 ) come into play at all times.
Sometimes I will , sometimes I won't , sometimes I want sommat that I didn't want the other day .......... now stop with the daft Q's |
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"I'm a dominant personality but not a dom, make of that what you will, not that you're interested in my answer "
I'm interested, and this is a good point. For me, I'm quietly dominant, in terms of control, taking the lead, etc, in life and in the bedroom. But often, someone whose life involves a lot of responsibility craves to hand that over in one limited but important area. And vice versa, of course. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"I'm a dominant personality but not a dom, make of that what you will, not that you're interested in my answer
I'm interested, and this is a good point. For me, I'm quietly dominant, in terms of control, taking the lead, etc, in life and in the bedroom. But often, someone whose life involves a lot of responsibility craves to hand that over in one limited but important area. And vice versa, of course."
Of course i agree but in the bedroom I'm all about her pleasure but in a I'll do what you want me to kind of way |
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"She is the dominant one but has masochist tendencies; he is the submissive (to her) one who is quite the sexual sadist."
Another really good point, yes! Dominant doesn't always track with sadistic, nor submissive with masochistic. I'm not remotely sadistic. At least, not physically. |
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I (Mrs R) am definitely more on the sub side. I prefer to be taken control of rather than be the one in control and as part of that I particularly like being tied up. If there is something I want Mr R to do I will say to him and he will do it, although often not right away. He will tease me by making me wait knowing its something I want. |
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neither as I dont see myself as sub/dom with sex .. I just see it as mutual experience ... I think many people mistake passive / active sex roles with sub/dom roles which are different things entirely |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"neither as I dont see myself as sub/dom with sex .. I just see it as mutual experience ... I think many people mistake passive / active sex roles with sub/dom roles which are different things entirely "
See its this exactly. Glad it's mot just me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are both people who want each other to have the most amazing orgasms, because of that we are both happy to be in charge of the other person, we both lead and we both submit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"neither as I dont see myself as sub/dom with sex .. I just see it as mutual experience ... I think many people mistake passive / active sex roles with sub/dom roles which are different things entirely "
Good point! Even many 'dom' types seem to want to be led from the bottom too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both and, often preferably, neither. Or like switchy back and forth even in the moment with a person it works like that with.
Prefer to play with others who don't have particularly fixed ideas on the matter. If they do then definitely not into chaps who only want to dom. |
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We definitely are switch, he tends to be dominant more and she loves to sub for him but she also has a dominant streak she likes to let out of her own too.
It works for us but it’s something we keep for just us rather than bring others into it x
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I'm definitely not submissive. I wouldn't really say that I'm dominant either, I know what I like and how to ask for it, but I'm never going to demand it...fantastic sex is about give and take in my opinion. |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"I'm definitely not submissive. I wouldn't really say that I'm dominant either, I know what I like and how to ask for it, but I'm never going to demand it...fantastic sex is about give and take in my opinion. "
That! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like lulling them into a false sense of security, them thinking they’re in control. And then I like running rings around them.
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Sssshhh don't let them in on it!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like lulling them into a false sense of security, them thinking they’re in control. And then I like running rings around them.
Sssshhh don't let them in on it! "
Don't worry some of us will still fall for it |
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