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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why just suspicious of single guys that can't accommodate and not single women though?
Personally I can't accommodate due to being a single Dad, and when I'm home, I have my kids. But I also don't have it all over my profile as I don't want/need the pitty. But I'm happy to dicuss it with potential "playmates" |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
Why? There are various reasons the same as couples or women who can't accommodate?
Maybe that person like myself has a lodger/ share a house with others.
Live with relatives because theyost theor house for various reasons including divorce and had to give up the house so your ex and kids have somewhere to stay. Cannot afford rent or mortgage or live in a hostel or bedsit. Just because ita a man he is a target of distrust?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, I don't question it or read anything in to it.
I prefer to not accommodate at my home, more than happy to meet at a hotel or other suitable places. We would want to build up a trusting friendship before bringing anyone into our home.
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"We get that there other genuine reasons for why people don’t/won’t/can’t accommodate but the the majority of the guys that we have interacted with, can’t accommodate because they’re playing away"
Question is .. are they honest about why they can't accommodate?
If they are playing away, are they honest about it? And are you happy to play with them ? |
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Question is .. are they honest about why they can't accommodate?
If they are playing away, are they honest about it? And are you happy to play with them ?"
It’s our preference not to play with attached singles |
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Question is .. are they honest about why they can't accommodate?
If they are playing away, are they honest about it? And are you happy to play with them ?
It’s our preference not to play with attached singles"
I think being honest why you cant accommodate is the best way but people have various reasons for it.
I suppose they will/can disclose why if they click with someone and chat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Question is .. are they honest about why they can't accommodate?
If they are playing away, are they honest about it? And are you happy to play with them ?
It’s our preference not to play with attached singles"
Best way is to say you're happy meeting attached people as long as they're honest. They are less likely to lie and will then admit it and you don't have to meet them.  |
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Question is .. are they honest about why they can't accommodate?
If they are playing away, are they honest about it? And are you happy to play with them ?
It’s our preference not to play with attached singles
Best way is to say you're happy meeting attached people as long as they're honest. They are less likely to lie and will then admit it and you don't have to meet them. "
Agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else suspicious of single guys that cannot accommodate? "
You can accommodate so prob solved. Think it's a big ask to expect a single man to have not one but 2 strangers come to his home especially when I see some of the demands made of single men by some people. Men are vulnerable too. I hear what you say about some being attached but it's not the sole reason and to be fair, if they are being upfront and telling you (which they must be if you know about it) then what's the issue, you can then decline. |
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"Anyone else suspicious of single guys that cannot accommodate?
You can accommodate so prob solved. Think it's a big ask to expect a single man to have not one but 2 strangers come to his home especially when I see some of the demands made of single men by some people. Men are vulnerable too. I hear what you say about some being attached but it's not the sole reason and to be fair, if they are being upfront and telling you (which they must be if you know about it) then what's the issue, you can then decline. "
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
No not at all.I always think they are doing the same as I do and keeping my fab life and my personal life separate.I actually find it strange that people expect men to accommodate but yet find it perfectly acceptable than women don't and don't ask them to explain themselves as to why they don't.
So no I don't get suspicious at all over that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never paid much attention to any of the tick boxes actually - accommodate, travel, body type. I think most people probably decide meeting place on a case by case basis - I wouldn't have just anyone in my house, but I'm OK with certain friends visiting. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
Anyone might not want a stranger coming round their house and knowing where they live. In fact, there are a million good reasons not to have someone you hardly know in your house, including upsetting your plans for world domination.
The only time I'd think it carried any suspicion would be if there were loads of accoutrements associated with the opposite sex in the background of their pics.  |
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"We get that there other genuine reasons for why people don’t/won’t/can’t accommodate but the the majority of the guys that we have interacted with, can’t accommodate because they’re playing away"
So it’s based on personal experience but that’s not always the case |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
"We get that there other genuine reasons for why people don’t/won’t/can’t accommodate but the the majority of the guys that we have interacted with, can’t accommodate because they’re playing away"
How do you know if they are playing away? And thats surely their problem not yours.
Fact is I find more profiles of women who are playing without their partners knowledge then men. |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
"Anyone else suspicious of single guys that cannot accommodate? "
For the record I have a lodger so I can't accommodate overnight.even if I could I would insist on meeting socially before I invited them.back and o ly whwn My housemate wasn't there.
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As has bee pointed out countless times in the forum, the imbalance of the sexes causes intense competition for the perceived chance of meeting up.
Therefore, any way of destroying the credibility of the (real or imagined) opposition is going to be, for some, worth trying.
That's life in an environment like this one. An environment in which reality and imagination mingle freely, |
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I was single for years before joining sites like fab and as a general rule i rarely brought anyone back to my home, i rented a room out and i could hardly on one hand demand a clean civilised professional tenent then on the other walk a meet around the common areas of the house every weekend, thats reason 1.
Reason 2,
When introduced to my neighbours friend at a street BBQ as a bit of a ladies man, (questioned why) they noticed meets coming and going (this was when i stopped renting a room) i became conscious of it.
Reason 3
Now a days i have 2 kids that i have 50% of the time, couple that with a 12/7 work shift pattern , meets are a rare thing these days, so i like the whole meet in City centre /Hotel thing, Craic in hotel bar followed by a quickey in the lift, straint into a room, no fuss, cleaning up is someone else's job, and i dont have to worry about the kids finding something that i dont want to (and may not know how to,) explain.
There are many reasons for not wanting to accom, not just the 1 negative one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I imagine a lot of people will put cant accom on their profile even if they can. It stops people contacting you with an expectation that they are going to come to your home.
as a CD, I get idiots contacting me expecting to come to mine and fuck me, god alone knows how bad it must be for Women, thats why my profile says cant accom |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else suspicious of single guys that cannot accommodate? "
Nope I don’t know why people would be suspicious.
It’s might be the same as a single woman or couple not accommodating…
Just don’t want you in our house and knowing where we live |
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"No. Everyone has their reasons and who are we to judge anyone else.
Are you suspicious of single ladies who say they don't accommodate? "
They just don't want a guy with bad aim peeing on their toilet seat and floor |
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"No. Everyone has their reasons and who are we to judge anyone else.
Are you suspicious of single ladies who say they don't accommodate?
They just don't want a guy with bad aim peeing on their toilet seat and floor "
That's one of the reasons I don't  |
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"No. Everyone has their reasons and who are we to judge anyone else.
Are you suspicious of single ladies who say they don't accommodate?
They just don't want a guy with bad aim peeing on their toilet seat and floor
That's one of the reasons I don't "
Some guys should really sit down when they pee   |
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I've refused offers to meet from a few women who insisted on only meeting in their own homes.
My take on it was if they had so little thought for their own personal safety they were happy to invite me as a complete stranger into their home, they weren't the type of woman I'd want to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I made the mistake of mentioning to someone on here whom I'd met that I was moving and when he asked where, I told him it was above a certain shop without thinking it through. Now everytime he's in the area I get a message telling me he's outside mine. Fortunately I told him a shop at the other end of my road rather than the actual one, but as I live alone with my kids I don't like this, not that I think he'd do anything but it feels like an invasion of my family life |
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We're not suspicious but if we get a message from a single guy and the can't we delete the message without opening it. We wouldn't feel comfortable with a guy that's playing away having our contact details and it's a good filter. |
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Sometimes for us it’s a sure sign that the M or F has a SO that isn’t on fab and doesn’t know that OH is. Sometimes yes they’re good reasons but if we have to pry it out with a crowbar we find that we just aren’t interested. Some have offered explanation without being asked and we discuss and see if we believe what is said and also if we want to continue taking with that person with a a view to meeting them. |
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No definitely not. I think the tell tell signs of them cheating behind wives and children's back be elsewhere. I can't accommodate but definitely not married. Just in shared accommodation so can't bring men back  |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
Fabville |
"Anyone else suspicious of single guys that cannot accommodate? why are you suspicious? I live in a shared house with 3 other guys, I could accomodate but not very fair on them  "
...they could have joined in..  |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Anyone else suspicious of single guys that cannot accommodate? why are you suspicious? I live in a shared house with 3 other guys, I could accomodate but not very fair on them "
not that two of them would care lol |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I'm not suspicious of not accomodating alone ,but if there's a couple of other red flags I would be.
Not accomodating doesn't always equal someone cheating ,could live with kids/family or not want strange people from the internet to know where they live. |
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"Why would anyone accommodate a stranger from the internet in their home is beyond me.
I’m more dubious of the ones that do"
This 200% .. . hotels are so cheap now to book anyway , and you can always leave whenever , or as I do if I book one is I usually give the woman at reception a heads up to check in on me later in evening with a call to room ... never not failed to work yet |
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"Clubs are the best place to meet safer all round"
Yeah I do feel safer in clubs. I don't accommodate and I'm not hiding a whole life partner and kids. It's my preference for my mental health. My home is my safe space. I panic when my mother and sibling want to come in my flat. So imagine the unease of a complete stranger who I haven't known my whole life?
For men, yes there might be a suspicion but as long as they explain and don't expect me to go sneaking around ( read discrete), it's ok. Besides I'm suspicious of everyone. I have trust issues so that's not going to magically change because someone can accommodate. I get more suspicious if they don't want to go to a swinging club. Lol! |
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I cant accomodate as i am carer for a family member with late stage alzheimers, i am akso restricted to daytime meets as i have to be there for evenings to medicate and prepare him for shower and bed. I openly state this on my profile but most people just assume you are married or cheating on a partner. Intolerance and labelling in thus manner is insulting, i would never consider a meeting in my home or anywere else with someone with this outlook. Lots of people have other priorities in their lives other than self indulgence |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or, maybe we just don’t want to get fucking stalked and murdered before being served up with a side of veg in our own home! "
That and our wives would be pissed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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and there are other reasons like living with flat-mates or house-mates. You also need the privacy and you would not like someone to hear your moans, right? |
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"and there are other reasons like living with flat-mates or house-mates. You also need the privacy and you would not like someone to hear your moans, right? "
Unless you do silent porn movie like I did the other night |
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"Why would anyone accommodate a stranger from the internet in their home is beyond me.
I’m more dubious of the ones that do
This 200% .. . hotels are so cheap now to book anyway , and you can always leave whenever , or as I do if I book one is I usually give the woman at reception a heads up to check in on me later in evening with a call to room ... never not failed to work yet "
I dunno, I noticed how hotel prices have gone up even from the summer to winter and for next year |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
"Anyone else suspicious of single guys that cannot accommodate? "
I get suspicious of couples who can't accommodate on weekends.
(Actually I don't. Lots of different reasons for lots of different people.)
Gbat |
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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago
Coventry |
"Anyone else suspicious of single guys that cannot accommodate? "
Absolutely everyone has circumstances but for us single guys that can accommodate is like a rare thing profiles don't always match up to reality |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can’t accommodate as my cat is deeply suspicious of anyone and you won’t want to fill out the 27 page entry form she has carefully curated, it s out the weirdos and the wannabes, also there’s young adults in the house and whilst they are adults I don’t need them knowing I ply strangers with hot beverages et all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else suspicious of single guys that cannot accommodate?
Yes.
Let me use a room. I’ll let you watch through key hole "
Haha. Watch what? I’ve got my own Telly. |
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"Why would anyone accommodate a stranger from the internet in their home is beyond me.
I’m more dubious of the ones that do
This 200% .. . hotels are so cheap now to book anyway , and you can always leave whenever , or as I do if I book one is I usually give the woman at reception a heads up to check in on me later in evening with a call to room ... never not failed to work yet
I dunno, I noticed how hotel prices have gone up even from the summer to winter and for next year "
I usually find hotels easy enough for 70-100 pounds that are usually suitable for an evening meet .. get in in the day, I do some filming content for online stuff , recoup my costs back on that .. then in evening just bash out a meet and go home not long after ..
Though I do get alot of heavily discounts hotels from one of my bank cards as built up bonuses over the year . I mean its not like I meet women that often anyway off fab as its very rare so maybe like 4-6 times a year at most ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can rarely accom as I rent a room, landlady lives in and their young family member lives here so isn't really feasible.
Originally had setting as can't. I got messaged daily normally from women "why can't you accom, obviously have a partner" would explain my situation (shouldn't have had to) and they'd disappear.
Fact my profile pics are all my face and my name too. Not really discreet am I lol. |
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"Why would anyone accommodate a stranger from the internet in their home is beyond me.
I’m more dubious of the ones that do
This 200% .. . hotels are so cheap now to book anyway , and you can always leave whenever , or as I do if I book one is I usually give the woman at reception a heads up to check in on me later in evening with a call to room ... never not failed to work yet
I dunno, I noticed how hotel prices have gone up even from the summer to winter and for next year
I usually find hotels easy enough for 70-100 pounds that are usually suitable for an evening meet .. get in in the day, I do some filming content for online stuff , recoup my costs back on that .. then in evening just bash out a meet and go home not long after ..
Though I do get alot of heavily discounts hotels from one of my bank cards as built up bonuses over the year . I mean its not like I meet women that often anyway off fab as its very rare so maybe like 4-6 times a year at most ..."
Yeah for me to pay that kind of money just to have sex is too expensive |
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"Anyone else suspicious of single guys that cannot accommodate? "
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Disperse your suspicions and just ask your (potential) playmate outright of what their circumstances are.
There is no merit in this thread. |
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No . Everyone has the right for privacy.
I don't hide my face on here and happily single although I don't accommodate Beacuse I choose not too , not because I have anything to hide.
If you are suspicious ask the person ( but to be fair they don't really have to explain the reason behind it ).
Simply just respect each others preferences . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m a single guy who can’t accommodate at home, I’m a carer for both parents so not the best of places to bring people back to, that said if I can I try and book a hotel |
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
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"I’m a single guy who can’t accommodate at home, I’m a carer for both parents so not the best of places to bring people back to, that said if I can I try and book a hotel "
It’s all about elf and safety
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m a single guy who can’t accommodate at home, I’m a carer for both parents so not the best of places to bring people back to, that said if I can I try and book a hotel It’s all about elf and safety"
That and there are some things I’d like to keep quiet at home |
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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago
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Nah can't accom mainly because I don't live alone & don't have enough privacy, but also because there are weirdos on here.
Although it hasn't happened to me, other people have told me about guys turning up at their house unannounced.
Ive had one weird guy try to turn up at my workplace unannounced, but I told him the wrong place so he went somewhere else & started messaging me angrily like why I ain't there, as if it was my fault that I didn't allow him to stalk me  |
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When I was a single guy on here I didn’t accom, was in a shared house and thought it’d be disrespectful shagging randoms and keep housemates awake. Also, just having an en-suite room to exist in was embarrassing, felt like a teenager |
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"Anyone else suspicious of single guys that cannot accommodate? "
"Anyone else suspicious of single guys that cannot accommodate? "
Not sure if this just the normal baiting that goes on and yes, singalong guys are an easy target for it. Many Couples, females, men profile say they can’t or don’t want to. All deserve the same level of respect and treated with the same level of curtesy. To treat one group automatically with suspicion show a lack of respect for people of that group and some sort of deep seated prejudice towards them. Why even come on here looking for men if you have such automatic mistrust of them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else suspicious of single guys that cannot accommodate?
Anyone else suspicious of single guys that cannot accommodate?
Not sure if this just the normal baiting that goes on and yes, singalong guys are an easy target for it. Many Couples, females, men profile say they can’t or don’t want to. All deserve the same level of respect and treated with the same level of curtesy. To treat one group automatically with suspicion show a lack of respect for people of that group and some sort of deep seated prejudice towards them. Why even come on here looking for men if you have such automatic mistrust of them?"
In fairness, men do have a track record.
Agree though and annoyed me when I joined getting accusatory messages from strangers simply because I can't normally accom. |
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"We get that there other genuine reasons for why people don’t/won’t/can’t accommodate but the the majority of the guys that we have interacted with, can’t accommodate because they’re playing away"
Didn’t realise you were a mind reader. Bravo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We get that there other genuine reasons for why people don’t/won’t/can’t accommodate but the the majority of the guys that we have interacted with, can’t accommodate because they’re playing away
Didn’t realise you were a mind reader. Bravo "
Lot's of guys are open about this scenario in threads in the forums. So guessing these guys probably got told outright a lot that it was the case. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope not at all. Tells me they are cautious and sensible. One of the things that annoys me about this place is the amount of people who think “can’t accommodate” means attached. "
could be self projection. |
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"I can't accommodate a lot of the time as my daughter quite often stays"
"daughter" eh... What kind of excuse is that? Didn't you realise single men are supposed to have no family or friends or neighbours or housemates or lodgers and have open house at the click of the fingers? |
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"I can't accommodate a lot of the time as my daughter quite often stays
"daughter" eh... What kind of excuse is that? Didn't you realise single men are supposed to have no family or friends or neighbours or housemates or lodgers and have open house at the click of the fingers? "
Or they could just wank their own cock be easier as and far less stressful for then eh |
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