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By *EAT..85 OP Woman
over a year ago
Nottingham |
I'm probably actually more upset, but I'm angry right now.
I found out yesterday that a work friend went home feeling unwell on Sunday, collapsed in her kitchen and died that evening. She was 53. I've known her for four years and she worked every hour she was capable of, 2 jobs, overtime, 7 days a week. She owned 2 houses, had tonnes of money and over the last year was asking me what was the point of life, she had all of this money but had nothing to spend it on. A few times she asked me what she should do with her life/money. I said go on a long holiday, travel the world- she answered she had no one to go with. I said so? Go alone or pay for someone to go with you. Oh she couldn't do that. Get a hobby, join a club, do SOMETHING that she enjoyed.
She never did any of it and now she's gone. I guess what I'm saying is live your life as well as you can. Money isn't everything. Sure it helps, but there is free joy to be had as well.
I'm gonna miss her 
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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago
Gateway to the Beacons |
"I'm probably actually more upset, but I'm angry right now.
I found out yesterday that a work friend went home feeling unwell on Sunday, collapsed in her kitchen and died that evening. She was 53. I've known her for four years and she worked every hour she was capable of, 2 jobs, overtime, 7 days a week. She owned 2 houses, had tonnes of money and over the last year was asking me what was the point of life, she had all of this money but had nothing to spend it on. A few times she asked me what she should do with her life/money. I said go on a long holiday, travel the world- she answered she had no one to go with. I said so? Go alone or pay for someone to go with you. Oh she couldn't do that. Get a hobby, join a club, do SOMETHING that she enjoyed.
She never did any of it and now she's gone. I guess what I'm saying is live your life as well as you can. Money isn't everything. Sure it helps, but there is free joy to be had as well.
I'm gonna miss her
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Sorry for your loss
We only have this moment to live, create memories not collect things is my motto |
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"I'm probably actually more upset, but I'm angry right now.
I found out yesterday that a work friend went home feeling unwell on Sunday, collapsed in her kitchen and died that evening. She was 53. I've known her for four years and she worked every hour she was capable of, 2 jobs, overtime, 7 days a week. She owned 2 houses, had tonnes of money and over the last year was asking me what was the point of life, she had all of this money but had nothing to spend it on. A few times she asked me what she should do with her life/money. I said go on a long holiday, travel the world- she answered she had no one to go with. I said so? Go alone or pay for someone to go with you. Oh she couldn't do that. Get a hobby, join a club, do SOMETHING that she enjoyed.
She never did any of it and now she's gone. I guess what I'm saying is live your life as well as you can. Money isn't everything. Sure it helps, but there is free joy to be had as well.
I'm gonna miss her
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I’m sorry to hear that.
It’s a lesson for us all. X |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Yep.
No point in being the richest person in the graveyard.
I'd rather enjoy my time while I can. Odds are I'll be working til death anyway and I might get hit by a bus (or stray stampeding cow) tomorrow, so I've never been one to worry about building up huge savings.
As long as we can pay the bills all is good.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm probably actually more upset, but I'm angry right now.
I found out yesterday that a work friend went home feeling unwell on Sunday, collapsed in her kitchen and died that evening. She was 53. I've known her for four years and she worked every hour she was capable of, 2 jobs, overtime, 7 days a week. She owned 2 houses, had tonnes of money and over the last year was asking me what was the point of life, she had all of this money but had nothing to spend it on. A few times she asked me what she should do with her life/money. I said go on a long holiday, travel the world- she answered she had no one to go with. I said so? Go alone or pay for someone to go with you. Oh she couldn't do that. Get a hobby, join a club, do SOMETHING that she enjoyed.
She never did any of it and now she's gone. I guess what I'm saying is live your life as well as you can. Money isn't everything. Sure it helps, but there is free joy to be had as well.
I'm gonna miss her
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Sorry for you’re loss
Very sad reading this and sometimes money is not everything without someone to share it with tragic loss still young as well hope you’re anger turns in to happy thoughts the times you had together as friends memories last a lifetime  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel your loss and you are absolutely right. I have a relative with this mindset. Doesn’t matter what you try to tell him won't change. Its work, work making more money.
This last 6 months I've been to funerals of 2 people, who's weddings I went to 3 years ago. One in his 20s and one in her 30s. Its a stark reminder to all of us. Unfortunately a lot of people struggle to find the balance between working to live and living to work.. |
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I'm sorry she died
She lived her life *her* way and did what she felt best at the time. We all have doubts about the direction we've taken especially at the point she was in life.
Celebrate her, don't regret her life.  |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"I'm probably actually more upset, but I'm angry right now.
I found out yesterday that a work friend went home feeling unwell on Sunday, collapsed in her kitchen and died that evening. She was 53. I've known her for four years and she worked every hour she was capable of, 2 jobs, overtime, 7 days a week. She owned 2 houses, had tonnes of money and over the last year was asking me what was the point of life, she had all of this money but had nothing to spend it on. A few times she asked me what she should do with her life/money. I said go on a long holiday, travel the world- she answered she had no one to go with. I said so? Go alone or pay for someone to go with you. Oh she couldn't do that. Get a hobby, join a club, do SOMETHING that she enjoyed.
She never did any of it and now she's gone. I guess what I'm saying is live your life as well as you can. Money isn't everything. Sure it helps, but there is free joy to be had as well.
I'm gonna miss her
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awww sad story but as you said you get one life live it, my ex landlady just like her she had loads of money owned 8 properties which she rented out, she didn't get on with her family, she had a job until just before lockdown, she has female friends but doesn't do anything she stays up late and gets up late  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm probably actually more upset, but I'm angry right now.
I found out yesterday that a work friend went home feeling unwell on Sunday, collapsed in her kitchen and died that evening. She was 53. I've known her for four years and she worked every hour she was capable of, 2 jobs, overtime, 7 days a week. She owned 2 houses, had tonnes of money and over the last year was asking me what was the point of life, she had all of this money but had nothing to spend it on. A few times she asked me what she should do with her life/money. I said go on a long holiday, travel the world- she answered she had no one to go with. I said so? Go alone or pay for someone to go with you. Oh she couldn't do that. Get a hobby, join a club, do SOMETHING that she enjoyed.
She never did any of it and now she's gone. I guess what I'm saying is live your life as well as you can. Money isn't everything. Sure it helps, but there is free joy to be had as well.
I'm gonna miss her
"
Hello. I am sorry to read of your loss and understand your frustration. I think it confirms that your own principles are right though...live, enjoy, experience.
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Sorry for your loss OP
There is a life lesson in there somewhere,
Cant bring your money /wealth with you in the end,
Invest it in memories i always say.
Get out there and spend it as often as you can, see the world and by doing so you leave your mark. |
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By *rolicUsCouple
over a year ago
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I’m so sorry for your friend. A close friend of mine died young five years ago, and it changed my life. I left the job that was making me ill, and now live life to the fullest, partly the reason for our ENM journey.
We could die tomorrow. I hope we don’t but I don’t want to regret a life half lived.
Go easy on yourself. She will have appreciated your wishes for her and felt supported. Xx
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Heat I hope you're ok, must have been a shock to you. And I completely understand your anger and frustration.
Some people are just like that, think for some it's a response to poverty when they were younger. Who knows, but you offered her advice and you did the right thing x |
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By *EAT..85 OP Woman
over a year ago
Nottingham |
Thank you all for the kind words.
You're probably all right, she hoarded cash in reaction to struggling in former years and old habits are hard to break. She knew there was something missing in her life but was too busy working to change it.
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"I'm probably actually more upset, but I'm angry right now.
I found out yesterday that a work friend went home feeling unwell on Sunday, collapsed in her kitchen and died that evening. She was 53. I've known her for four years and she worked every hour she was capable of, 2 jobs, overtime, 7 days a week. She owned 2 houses, had tonnes of money and over the last year was asking me what was the point of life, she had all of this money but had nothing to spend it on. A few times she asked me what she should do with her life/money. I said go on a long holiday, travel the world- she answered she had no one to go with. I said so? Go alone or pay for someone to go with you. Oh she couldn't do that. Get a hobby, join a club, do SOMETHING that she enjoyed.
She never did any of it and now she's gone. I guess what I'm saying is live your life as well as you can. Money isn't everything. Sure it helps, but there is free joy to be had as well.
I'm gonna miss her
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she was living her life in her own way, just because it's not your way it doesn't mean she didn't live less of a life |
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"I'm probably actually more upset, but I'm angry right now.
I found out yesterday that a work friend went home feeling unwell on Sunday, collapsed in her kitchen and died that evening. She was 53. I've known her for four years and she worked every hour she was capable of, 2 jobs, overtime, 7 days a week. She owned 2 houses, had tonnes of money and over the last year was asking me what was the point of life, she had all of this money but had nothing to spend it on. A few times she asked me what she should do with her life/money. I said go on a long holiday, travel the world- she answered she had no one to go with. I said so? Go alone or pay for someone to go with you. Oh she couldn't do that. Get a hobby, join a club, do SOMETHING that she enjoyed.
She never did any of it and now she's gone. I guess what I'm saying is live your life as well as you can. Money isn't everything. Sure it helps, but there is free joy to be had as well.
I'm gonna miss her
she was living her life in her own way, just because it's not your way it doesn't mean she didn't live less of a life "
I agree with what you said but the op said the lady in question was asking what is the point of life so it seems like she wanted more out of life.
Sorry for your loss op.
Life is for living. I'd rather be broke and have a great life than be rich and miserable |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This reminds me a bit of my Grandma. Different person, different circumstances, and I didn’t know the lady you’re talking about. But my Grandma complained about being lonely, not knowing what to do with her money, etc etc but she had a lot of family who loved her deeply and visited her VERY regularly, called her, wrote to her. She laughed a lot, had a beautiful home, a dog, an active social life and enjoyed cooking things for people. Sometimes she just said things…for conversation, and she was always looking for more more more from life! If we challenged her and said, are you really fed up? She’d smile and say no.
Maybe your friend was like my Grandma, and secretly her life was perfect for her x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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53 is very young, and sorry for your loss.
I've known people like your friend who have had fantastic lives in early retirement when their money has enabled them to fulfil all sorts of dreams. I've also known people who have 'lived for the day' and ended up skint and miserable at 50 with an uncertain future. There's no instruction book for life, unfortunately. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"I'm probably actually more upset, but I'm angry right now.
I found out yesterday that a work friend went home feeling unwell on Sunday, collapsed in her kitchen and died that evening. She was 53. I've known her for four years and she worked every hour she was capable of, 2 jobs, overtime, 7 days a week. She owned 2 houses, had tonnes of money and over the last year was asking me what was the point of life, she had all of this money but had nothing to spend it on. A few times she asked me what she should do with her life/money. I said go on a long holiday, travel the world- she answered she had no one to go with. I said so? Go alone or pay for someone to go with you. Oh she couldn't do that. Get a hobby, join a club, do SOMETHING that she enjoyed.
She never did any of it and now she's gone. I guess what I'm saying is live your life as well as you can. Money isn't everything. Sure it helps, but there is free joy to be had as well.
I'm gonna miss her
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. I am sorry for your loss and in some ways I feel I identify with your friend. I am 54 I will be 55 in January.I am mortgage free and I have another property I rent out I work full time and I have savings.I have few friends and no hobbies and not one for holidays.Part of me wants to take my work pension which I can at 55 and retire whilst another part feels I should continue working until I find what it is I am looking for. |
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"I'm probably actually more upset, but I'm angry right now.
I found out yesterday that a work friend went home feeling unwell on Sunday, collapsed in her kitchen and died that evening. She was 53. I've known her for four years and she worked every hour she was capable of, 2 jobs, overtime, 7 days a week. She owned 2 houses, had tonnes of money and over the last year was asking me what was the point of life, she had all of this money but had nothing to spend it on. A few times she asked me what she should do with her life/money. I said go on a long holiday, travel the world- she answered she had no one to go with. I said so? Go alone or pay for someone to go with you. Oh she couldn't do that. Get a hobby, join a club, do SOMETHING that she enjoyed.
She never did any of it and now she's gone. I guess what I'm saying is live your life as well as you can. Money isn't everything. Sure it helps, but there is free joy to be had as well.
I'm gonna miss her
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Thats sad.
Sorry you are feeling upset.
Something similar happened to me a cpl of times with work colleagues.
Yes. Life is for living. Put the bad or boring things off if you can and do the fun stuff now
I'd rather die never having cleaned out the drains than never visiting the place or person I always wanted to see |
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