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over a year ago
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Do you think you can move on and find love again when you have lost a partner
I lost my gorgeous man 7 half years ago and I still have huge moments of guilt when I even chat to men |
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You can never move on as that person will always be a part of you. But absolutely you can love again and I'm sure the person you lost would want that for you too. Don't feel guilty for being happy again, you need to look after yourself too  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You can never move on as that person will always be a part of you. But absolutely you can love again and I'm sure the person you lost would want that for you too. Don't feel guilty for being happy again, you need to look after yourself too "
Thank you,and I agree he would want me to be happy x |
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"No I don't think you can. Although mine is still very fresh having just lost him in October. But I've no intentions of wanting to meet another man for a relationship"
I'm so very sorry for your lossive learned to live without him but il never get over losing him |
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I don't think you can move on from him, but I think you can move on in life, meeting someone else won't replace what you had that will always remain, I'm sure he'd want you to be happy.
My aunt lost her husband young and never moved on, she did eventually meet someone but never shared her room and it was always noted that she was married to her late husband and would not re Mary, she eventually got buried with him, I did kinda feel bad for the other partner mind.
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"Do you think you can move on and find love again when you have lost a partner
I lost my gorgeous man 7 half years ago and I still have huge moments of guilt when I even chat to men"
You can never stop loving that person - but that doesn’t mean you can’t open your heart to somebody else. As harsh as it sounds - your marriage vows are “till death do is part” - which means you’ve done your duty to your man and you have been loyal - but now it’s time to try and find some happiness in life. Would he really want you to be hung up over him for the rest of his life? No man would want that for their partner!
By loving somebody else you’re not replacing him - you’re just opening your heart and accepting companionship x |
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Mt best friend lost her husband very young to and she's never met anyone else or ever shown any interest in men which tbh I think is very sad but I also know how how she feels x |
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"Do you think you can move on and find love again when you have lost a partner
I lost my gorgeous man 7 half years ago and I still have huge moments of guilt when I even chat to men
You can never stop loving that person - but that doesn’t mean you can’t open your heart to somebody else. As harsh as it sounds - your marriage vows are “till death do is part” - which means you’ve done your duty to your man and you have been loyal - but now it’s time to try and find some happiness in life. Would he really want you to be hung up over him for the rest of his life? No man would want that for their partner!
By loving somebody else you’re not replacing him - you’re just opening your heart and accepting companionship x"
Thank you and yes he would want me to find love again he was a good man who wanted the best for everyone x |
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"Do you think you can move on and find love again when you have lost a partner
I lost my gorgeous man 7 half years ago and I still have huge moments of guilt when I even chat to men
You can never stop loving that person - but that doesn’t mean you can’t open your heart to somebody else. As harsh as it sounds - your marriage vows are “till death do is part” - which means you’ve done your duty to your man and you have been loyal - but now it’s time to try and find some happiness in life. Would he really want you to be hung up over him for the rest of his life? No man would want that for their partner!
By loving somebody else you’re not replacing him - you’re just opening your heart and accepting companionship x
Thank you and yes he would want me to find love again he was a good man who wanted the best for everyone x"
I think you’ve got your answer then - don’t worry about the approval of others you’ve got to think about yourself. And to be honest most people would be accepting of it anyway x |
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"Do you think you can move on and find love again when you have lost a partner
I lost my gorgeous man 7 half years ago and I still have huge moments of guilt when I even chat to men"
Yes you can love someone else. You deserve love. Guilt is what we do to ourselves. There is nothing to be guilty about. You will never forget your 'man' but you will love again. |
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Honestly I'm sure that he would want you to be happy and noone should be thinking anything else than that is such a strong lady for keeping going every day as losing someone you love is devastating and no matter what your told the pain never gets less you just get better at dealing with it and sometimes you need an extra cuddle or whatever just treat yourself well and do what you want to. Having lost someone very close to me 10 years ago and trying to end it all at one point now I realise that you have to look after yourself and try and do anything that makes you happy. Apologies for the rambling but sometimes my brain just let's it all hang out |
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I've never been in that situation so I honestly couldn't say.
I just know if I loved someone and want their life after me to be fulfilled and happy.
What that exactly means for each individual person is probably different.
I definitely don't think you should feel any guilt |
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You have to live with you
If it feels wrong, don't do it.
If it feels right, go ahead.
I never thought I'd be married to a man again when my first husband of 40 years passed away in 2016.
But here I am, wed to a wonderful man who found me on here so for me it was a case of never say never again 
Only you can know whats right in this situation, good luck to you and all the best x |
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Do you think he would have wanted you to be lonely and full of guilt?
These kind of feelings are perfectly natural and too be expected but as you know far better than I life is to short and if you can find comfort and company with someone else no-one is going to blame you.
But equally if you don't feel it's right don't force it.
Good luck OP x |
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