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By *humper. OP Man
over a year ago
northumberland/scotland |
I posted a little while ago on here about how I was starting to be comfortable in my own skin, and how my father's attitudes and opinions had influenced who I had been for 39 out of my 40 years. (His homophobia, general closed mindedness, amongst other things) and how even he had accepted me for who I'm becoming (or, always was?, dunno, another topic for another day)
The response to that thread was lovely. Thought I'd follow up.
Anyway, he had booked a surprise holiday for him and his fiance, and she couldn't get time off so... invited me. Said we needed to build bridges and shit. Initially I had made my excuses why I couldn't come. We hadn't as much as had a pint together in 5 years, rarely talked. Didn't even see him last year at Christmas etc etc. The thought of a week together terrified me.
I decided it was a "now or never" thing though and packed a bag
Lying here, with my toenails painted, enjoying the sun and free food/beers and talking openly about swinging, clubs, this site etc. Laughing and enjoying eachothers company.
It's funny what can come from having those conversations you've always feared. Admitting the things you never thought you would. Taking the chances you never dared.
Anyway, I'm full of free whisky and possible sunstroke. So maybe over sharing again but, moral of the story... don't hide. Take the mask off.
Also, if its free, drink it.
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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago
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"I posted a little while ago on here about how I was starting to be comfortable in my own skin, and how my father's attitudes and opinions had influenced who I had been for 39 out of my 40 years. (His homophobia, general closed mindedness, amongst other things) and how even he had accepted me for who I'm becoming (or, always was?, dunno, another topic for another day)
The response to that thread was lovely. Thought I'd follow up.
Anyway, he had booked a surprise holiday for him and his fiance, and she couldn't get time off so... invited me. Said we needed to build bridges and shit. Initially I had made my excuses why I couldn't come. We hadn't as much as had a pint together in 5 years, rarely talked. Didn't even see him last year at Christmas etc etc. The thought of a week together terrified me.
I decided it was a "now or never" thing though and packed a bag
Lying here, with my toenails painted, enjoying the sun and free food/beers and talking openly about swinging, clubs, this site etc. Laughing and enjoying eachothers company.
It's funny what can come from having those conversations you've always feared. Admitting the things you never thought you would. Taking the chances you never dared.
Anyway, I'm full of free whisky and possible sunstroke. So maybe over sharing again but, moral of the story... don't hide. Take the mask off.
Also, if its free, drink it.
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over a year ago
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"I posted a little while ago on here about how I was starting to be comfortable in my own skin, and how my father's attitudes and opinions had influenced who I had been for 39 out of my 40 years. (His homophobia, general closed mindedness, amongst other things) and how even he had accepted me for who I'm becoming (or, always was?, dunno, another topic for another day)
The response to that thread was lovely. Thought I'd follow up.
Anyway, he had booked a surprise holiday for him and his fiance, and she couldn't get time off so... invited me. Said we needed to build bridges and shit. Initially I had made my excuses why I couldn't come. We hadn't as much as had a pint together in 5 years, rarely talked. Didn't even see him last year at Christmas etc etc. The thought of a week together terrified me.
I decided it was a "now or never" thing though and packed a bag
Lying here, with my toenails painted, enjoying the sun and free food/beers and talking openly about swinging, clubs, this site etc. Laughing and enjoying eachothers company.
It's funny what can come from having those conversations you've always feared. Admitting the things you never thought you would. Taking the chances you never dared.
Anyway, I'm full of free whisky and possible sunstroke. So maybe over sharing again but, moral of the story... don't hide. Take the mask off.
Also, if its free, drink it.
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Have you at least got suncream on?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good for you!!! I think we all evolve with the years and even our parents do sometimes (although not always for the best).
Very happy for you that everything seems to be falling into place  |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
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Amazing story. So great to develop that relationship with your father. I didn't have that with my parents but work at it with my grown up kids. It's so special: good on you for taking that step and reaping the rewards. |
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I was immensely proud and happy to know you when I read that original thread, man.
It was so open and lovely.
But this time you can piss off with your sun and your free drinks; hope you burst into flames, babe.
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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Some people change.
Others don’t.
Some you don’t see who they are until its too late, others you’ve always known they were a dick.
I am always an optimist and like to think relationships can be mended, however realise that not all can be saved.
It’s good you and your dad may be on the mend and that you want it.
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By *humper. OP Man
over a year ago
northumberland/scotland |
"I posted a little while ago on here about how I was starting to be comfortable in my own skin, and how my father's attitudes and opinions had influenced who I had been for 39 out of my 40 years. (His homophobia, general closed mindedness, amongst other things) and how even he had accepted me for who I'm becoming (or, always was?, dunno, another topic for another day)
The response to that thread was lovely. Thought I'd follow up.
Anyway, he had booked a surprise holiday for him and his fiance, and she couldn't get time off so... invited me. Said we needed to build bridges and shit. Initially I had made my excuses why I couldn't come. We hadn't as much as had a pint together in 5 years, rarely talked. Didn't even see him last year at Christmas etc etc. The thought of a week together terrified me.
I decided it was a "now or never" thing though and packed a bag
Lying here, with my toenails painted, enjoying the sun and free food/beers and talking openly about swinging, clubs, this site etc. Laughing and enjoying eachothers company.
It's funny what can come from having those conversations you've always feared. Admitting the things you never thought you would. Taking the chances you never dared.
Anyway, I'm full of free whisky and possible sunstroke. So maybe over sharing again but, moral of the story... don't hide. Take the mask off.
Also, if its free, drink it.
Have you at least got suncream on?
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I had a dribble of factor 20 around 9am. I'm not an idiot. |
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By *humper. OP Man
over a year ago
northumberland/scotland |
"I was immensely proud and happy to know you when I read that original thread, man.
It was so open and lovely.
But this time you can piss off with your sun and your free drinks; hope you burst into flames, babe.
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You're cute when you're frostbiten  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m pleased for Op.
Not everyone will or has the best parents. And we sometimes want , need more from our parents but it won’t ever be reciprocated.
To anyone like me who didn’t have the parents and relationships you needed or wanted. Let it go, don’t let toxicity live within you. My parents are deceased so it’s a moot point for me.
Xmas can be such a troubling time so wishing you all that this has resonated with all the best . |
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This is what I want with my dad - he’s so closed but I also know that’s he’s lived his life.
I want to pass on my openness to my son, not hide it away and bury my head in the sand so it’s refreshing to read that a dad who you thought would never change, has and you can have that openness
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over a year ago
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"I posted a little while ago on here about how I was starting to be comfortable in my own skin, and how my father's attitudes and opinions had influenced who I had been for 39 out of my 40 years. (His homophobia, general closed mindedness, amongst other things) and how even he had accepted me for who I'm becoming (or, always was?, dunno, another topic for another day)
The response to that thread was lovely. Thought I'd follow up.
Anyway, he had booked a surprise holiday for him and his fiance, and she couldn't get time off so... invited me. Said we needed to build bridges and shit. Initially I had made my excuses why I couldn't come. We hadn't as much as had a pint together in 5 years, rarely talked. Didn't even see him last year at Christmas etc etc. The thought of a week together terrified me.
I decided it was a "now or never" thing though and packed a bag
Lying here, with my toenails painted, enjoying the sun and free food/beers and talking openly about swinging, clubs, this site etc. Laughing and enjoying eachothers company.
It's funny what can come from having those conversations you've always feared. Admitting the things you never thought you would. Taking the chances you never dared.
Anyway, I'm full of free whisky and possible sunstroke. So maybe over sharing again but, moral of the story... don't hide. Take the mask off.
Also, if its free, drink it.
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Best thread ever |
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"I was immensely proud and happy to know you when I read that original thread, man.
It was so open and lovely.
But this time you can piss off with your sun and your free drinks; hope you burst into flames, babe.
You're cute when you're frostbiten "
You're cute when you steal my lines, you bastard
Have a great time out there, the pair of you. So glad this is happening for you, drink it in.
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It's nice that you built bridge
Unfortunately, I'm in the camp of it being unnecessary to share detail of your sex life with a parent. Once that's in their head, they have to find a way to deal with it and I don't imagine there would always be such a positive outcome |
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"I posted a little while ago on here about how I was starting to be comfortable in my own skin, and how my father's attitudes and opinions had influenced who I had been for 39 out of my 40 years. (His homophobia, general closed mindedness, amongst other things) and how even he had accepted me for who I'm becoming (or, always was?, dunno, another topic for another day)
The response to that thread was lovely. Thought I'd follow up.
Anyway, he had booked a surprise holiday for him and his fiance, and she couldn't get time off so... invited me. Said we needed to build bridges and shit. Initially I had made my excuses why I couldn't come. We hadn't as much as had a pint together in 5 years, rarely talked. Didn't even see him last year at Christmas etc etc. The thought of a week together terrified me.
I decided it was a "now or never" thing though and packed a bag
Lying here, with my toenails painted, enjoying the sun and free food/beers and talking openly about swinging, clubs, this site etc. Laughing and enjoying eachothers company.
It's funny what can come from having those conversations you've always feared. Admitting the things you never thought you would. Taking the chances you never dared.
Anyway, I'm full of free whisky and possible sunstroke. So maybe over sharing again but, moral of the story... don't hide. Take the mask off.
Also, if its free, drink it.
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Hugs Thumper. I didn't see the previous thread but discovered this year in therapy that I spend half of my life wanting my parents' and by extension other people's approval.
My parents live in the tropics and I see them once a year. It gives me so much anxiety to travel to see that I have to be sedated on the flight and this year I throw out the uber window on the way to Heathrow.
That said once I get there it was much better than I anticipated and my mother is a retired nurse so she does her best to patch me up and I let her. My father's penance is to ply me with lots of coconut water, avocados and dirty jokes over rum. Everyone knows a millennial's weakness is free avocados the size of your head.
I try not to be mad at them now...they did the best they could with the knowledge that they had at the time. Now they actually listen to me....about 25% of the time....before they never listened So that's a win for me.
I'm waiting for my sibling to show them the tattoo before I get my full-body one. Lol! They didn't have a heart attack from the sibling's nose piercing.
I grew up in a very homophobic society and I'm still working my head around that.
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"I posted a little while ago on here about how I was starting to be comfortable in my own skin, and how my father's attitudes and opinions had influenced who I had been for 39 out of my 40 years. (His homophobia, general closed mindedness, amongst other things) and how even he had accepted me for who I'm becoming (or, always was?, dunno, another topic for another day)
The response to that thread was lovely. Thought I'd follow up.
Anyway, he had booked a surprise holiday for him and his fiance, and she couldn't get time off so... invited me. Said we needed to build bridges and shit. Initially I had made my excuses why I couldn't come. We hadn't as much as had a pint together in 5 years, rarely talked. Didn't even see him last year at Christmas etc etc. The thought of a week together terrified me.
I decided it was a "now or never" thing though and packed a bag
Lying here, with my toenails painted, enjoying the sun and free food/beers and talking openly about swinging, clubs, this site etc. Laughing and enjoying eachothers company.
It's funny what can come from having those conversations you've always feared. Admitting the things you never thought you would. Taking the chances you never dared.
Anyway, I'm full of free whisky and possible sunstroke. So maybe over sharing again but, moral of the story... don't hide. Take the mask off.
Also, if its free, drink it.
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Thank you for sharing xx |
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"We are missing crucial details here.
Namely…what colour toenails?
Midnight blue, matte finish on the toes. Black on the thumb. "
Even more envious now...It's bloody snowing here and my toenails need re-doing but I'm avoiding going outside. |
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"It's nice that you built bridge
Unfortunately, I'm in the camp of it being unnecessary to share detail of your sex life with a parent. Once that's in their head, they have to find a way to deal with it and I don't imagine there would always be such a positive outcome "
I haven't told the sibling about swinging per se but they know I have multiple lovers on a poly basis.
I haven't told them because they are on their own journey and nearly a decade younger than me. But if they ask I will say.
I think my parents might be too old to actually care now. They might probably write it off as part of my crazy. And I am crazy so meh either way. |
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over a year ago
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"I posted a little while ago on here about how I was starting to be comfortable in my own skin, and how my father's attitudes and opinions had influenced who I had been for 39 out of my 40 years. (His homophobia, general closed mindedness, amongst other things) and how even he had accepted me for who I'm becoming (or, always was?, dunno, another topic for another day)
The response to that thread was lovely. Thought I'd follow up.
Anyway, he had booked a surprise holiday for him and his fiance, and she couldn't get time off so... invited me. Said we needed to build bridges and shit. Initially I had made my excuses why I couldn't come. We hadn't as much as had a pint together in 5 years, rarely talked. Didn't even see him last year at Christmas etc etc. The thought of a week together terrified me.
I decided it was a "now or never" thing though and packed a bag
Lying here, with my toenails painted, enjoying the sun and free food/beers and talking openly about swinging, clubs, this site etc. Laughing and enjoying eachothers company.
It's funny what can come from having those conversations you've always feared. Admitting the things you never thought you would. Taking the chances you never dared.
Anyway, I'm full of free whisky and possible sunstroke. So maybe over sharing again but, moral of the story... don't hide. Take the mask off.
Also, if its free, drink it.
"
That's awesome as sounds like the decision to go saved your relationship with him, or got it back on track sooner.
Am.completely open with everyone about my sexuality and sleeping with men, everyone apart from my Father as I don't necessarily think he'll turn his back on me (we're close I see him for dinner once a week and go to the pub when England play rugby) but think it could change our relationship and not add to it. He's nearly 70 and has cancer (operable so should be fine) but concerned of souring a healthy relationship.
Sorry not intended to hijack just made me think of my Dad as is on my mind now and again. |
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By *humper. OP Man
over a year ago
northumberland/scotland |
"I posted a little while ago on here about how I was starting to be comfortable in my own skin, and how my father's attitudes and opinions had influenced who I had been for 39 out of my 40 years. (His homophobia, general closed mindedness, amongst other things) and how even he had accepted me for who I'm becoming (or, always was?, dunno, another topic for another day)
The response to that thread was lovely. Thought I'd follow up.
Anyway, he had booked a surprise holiday for him and his fiance, and she couldn't get time off so... invited me. Said we needed to build bridges and shit. Initially I had made my excuses why I couldn't come. We hadn't as much as had a pint together in 5 years, rarely talked. Didn't even see him last year at Christmas etc etc. The thought of a week together terrified me.
I decided it was a "now or never" thing though and packed a bag
Lying here, with my toenails painted, enjoying the sun and free food/beers and talking openly about swinging, clubs, this site etc. Laughing and enjoying eachothers company.
It's funny what can come from having those conversations you've always feared. Admitting the things you never thought you would. Taking the chances you never dared.
Anyway, I'm full of free whisky and possible sunstroke. So maybe over sharing again but, moral of the story... don't hide. Take the mask off.
Also, if its free, drink it.
That's awesome as sounds like the decision to go saved your relationship with him, or got it back on track sooner.
Am.completely open with everyone about my sexuality and sleeping with men, everyone apart from my Father as I don't necessarily think he'll turn his back on me (we're close I see him for dinner once a week and go to the pub when England play rugby) but think it could change our relationship and not add to it. He's nearly 70 and has cancer (operable so should be fine) but concerned of souring a healthy relationship.
Sorry not intended to hijack just made me think of my Dad as is on my mind now and again. "
No need to apologise. My dad's a similar age, 67. I think it's a generational thing. Sending good vibes for your fathers health man. |
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"I posted a little while ago on here about how I was starting to be comfortable in my own skin, and how my father's attitudes and opinions had influenced who I had been for 39 out of my 40 years. (His homophobia, general closed mindedness, amongst other things) and how even he had accepted me for who I'm becoming (or, always was?, dunno, another topic for another day)
The response to that thread was lovely. Thought I'd follow up.
Anyway, he had booked a surprise holiday for him and his fiance, and she couldn't get time off so... invited me. Said we needed to build bridges and shit. Initially I had made my excuses why I couldn't come. We hadn't as much as had a pint together in 5 years, rarely talked. Didn't even see him last year at Christmas etc etc. The thought of a week together terrified me.
I decided it was a "now or never" thing though and packed a bag
Lying here, with my toenails painted, enjoying the sun and free food/beers and talking openly about swinging, clubs, this site etc. Laughing and enjoying eachothers company.
It's funny what can come from having those conversations you've always feared. Admitting the things you never thought you would. Taking the chances you never dared.
Anyway, I'm full of free whisky and possible sunstroke. So maybe over sharing again but, moral of the story... don't hide. Take the mask off.
Also, if its free, drink it.
That's awesome as sounds like the decision to go saved your relationship with him, or got it back on track sooner.
Am.completely open with everyone about my sexuality and sleeping with men, everyone apart from my Father as I don't necessarily think he'll turn his back on me (we're close I see him for dinner once a week and go to the pub when England play rugby) but think it could change our relationship and not add to it. He's nearly 70 and has cancer (operable so should be fine) but concerned of souring a healthy relationship.
Sorry not intended to hijack just made me think of my Dad as is on my mind now and again.
No need to apologise. My dad's a similar age, 67. I think it's a generational thing. Sending good vibes for your fathers health man. "
Yeah, I think your right about generational.
Thank you! Outlook is positive. Enjoy the rest of your holiday. |
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By *humper. OP Man
over a year ago
northumberland/scotland |
"I posted a little while ago on here about how I was starting to be comfortable in my own skin, and how my father's attitudes and opinions had influenced who I had been for 39 out of my 40 years. (His homophobia, general closed mindedness, amongst other things) and how even he had accepted me for who I'm becoming (or, always was?, dunno, another topic for another day)
The response to that thread was lovely. Thought I'd follow up.
Anyway, he had booked a surprise holiday for him and his fiance, and she couldn't get time off so... invited me. Said we needed to build bridges and shit. Initially I had made my excuses why I couldn't come. We hadn't as much as had a pint together in 5 years, rarely talked. Didn't even see him last year at Christmas etc etc. The thought of a week together terrified me.
I decided it was a "now or never" thing though and packed a bag
Lying here, with my toenails painted, enjoying the sun and free food/beers and talking openly about swinging, clubs, this site etc. Laughing and enjoying eachothers company.
It's funny what can come from having those conversations you've always feared. Admitting the things you never thought you would. Taking the chances you never dared.
Anyway, I'm full of free whisky and possible sunstroke. So maybe over sharing again but, moral of the story... don't hide. Take the mask off.
Also, if its free, drink it.
That's awesome as sounds like the decision to go saved your relationship with him, or got it back on track sooner.
Am.completely open with everyone about my sexuality and sleeping with men, everyone apart from my Father as I don't necessarily think he'll turn his back on me (we're close I see him for dinner once a week and go to the pub when England play rugby) but think it could change our relationship and not add to it. He's nearly 70 and has cancer (operable so should be fine) but concerned of souring a healthy relationship.
Sorry not intended to hijack just made me think of my Dad as is on my mind now and again.
No need to apologise. My dad's a similar age, 67. I think it's a generational thing. Sending good vibes for your fathers health man.
Yeah, I think your right about generational.
Thank you! Outlook is positive. Enjoy the rest of your holiday. "
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I loved your other post, Thumper, and really pleased to hear things are moving in such a positive direction with your Dad. I get the "don't hide" bit, and know I can be too buttoned up on all kinds of things at times.
I am extremely close to my Mum, less so my Dad (my parents are divorced; it's not that I just like one more than the other), though I genuinely wouldn't want to discuss my (or their!!) sex life with either of them, because that's just not us. But it's lovely that you're feeling closer to your Dad - perhaps I'll make more of an effort! Have a great holiday! |
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By *humper. OP Man
over a year ago
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"I loved your other post, Thumper, and really pleased to hear things are moving in such a positive direction with your Dad. I get the "don't hide" bit, and know I can be too buttoned up on all kinds of things at times.
I am extremely close to my Mum, less so my Dad (my parents are divorced; it's not that I just like one more than the other), though I genuinely wouldn't want to discuss my (or their!!) sex life with either of them, because that's just not us. But it's lovely that you're feeling closer to your Dad - perhaps I'll make more of an effort! Have a great holiday! "
I've not went into detail, it was more a case of what it is I'm doing these days. He knows I split up with my ex of 6 years, mother of my son etc so when he asked if I was seeing anyone I was just like.... wwwwwellllll, not so much haha. It's mote that from being so homophobic (disowned his step son when he came out) to, being comfortable laid next to me, painted toes, knowing I'm bisexual, that I'm a swinger etc.
I've not went into details. Yet. The whisky is free haha
It's more the, being able to just be me, than detailing what that entails. If that makes sense. |
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Glad he reached out to you. Maybe he had a lot of thinking time to digest and reflect on his own attitudes.
As parents I think you always have an idea of what you perceive your children will be as future adults and it can cause discord when they don't conform to the image you had
You both took a big step and laid a foundation, you can only build up.
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"I loved your other post, Thumper, and really pleased to hear things are moving in such a positive direction with your Dad. I get the "don't hide" bit, and know I can be too buttoned up on all kinds of things at times.
I am extremely close to my Mum, less so my Dad (my parents are divorced; it's not that I just like one more than the other), though I genuinely wouldn't want to discuss my (or their!!) sex life with either of them, because that's just not us. But it's lovely that you're feeling closer to your Dad - perhaps I'll make more of an effort! Have a great holiday!
I've not went into detail, it was more a case of what it is I'm doing these days. He knows I split up with my ex of 6 years, mother of my son etc so when he asked if I was seeing anyone I was just like.... wwwwwellllll, not so much haha. It's mote that from being so homophobic (disowned his step son when he came out) to, being comfortable laid next to me, painted toes, knowing I'm bisexual, that I'm a swinger etc.
I've not went into details. Yet. The whisky is free haha
It's more the, being able to just be me, than detailing what that entails. If that makes sense. "
Yes, of course, and it's lovely. I meant that - wasn't trying to be snarky in any way! |
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By *humper. OP Man
over a year ago
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"I loved your other post, Thumper, and really pleased to hear things are moving in such a positive direction with your Dad. I get the "don't hide" bit, and know I can be too buttoned up on all kinds of things at times.
I am extremely close to my Mum, less so my Dad (my parents are divorced; it's not that I just like one more than the other), though I genuinely wouldn't want to discuss my (or their!!) sex life with either of them, because that's just not us. But it's lovely that you're feeling closer to your Dad - perhaps I'll make more of an effort! Have a great holiday!
I've not went into detail, it was more a case of what it is I'm doing these days. He knows I split up with my ex of 6 years, mother of my son etc so when he asked if I was seeing anyone I was just like.... wwwwwellllll, not so much haha. It's mote that from being so homophobic (disowned his step son when he came out) to, being comfortable laid next to me, painted toes, knowing I'm bisexual, that I'm a swinger etc.
I've not went into details. Yet. The whisky is free haha
It's more the, being able to just be me, than detailing what that entails. If that makes sense.
Yes, of course, and it's lovely. I meant that - wasn't trying to be snarky in any way! "
Didn't think you were, apologies if my reply came across that way. We're good |
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"I posted a little while ago on here about how I was starting to be comfortable in my own skin, and how my father's attitudes and opinions had influenced who I had been for 39 out of my 40 years. (His homophobia, general closed mindedness, amongst other things) and how even he had accepted me for who I'm becoming (or, always was?, dunno, another topic for another day)
The response to that thread was lovely. Thought I'd follow up.
Anyway, he had booked a surprise holiday for him and his fiance, and she couldn't get time off so... invited me. Said we needed to build bridges and shit. Initially I had made my excuses why I couldn't come. We hadn't as much as had a pint together in 5 years, rarely talked. Didn't even see him last year at Christmas etc etc. The thought of a week together terrified me.
I decided it was a "now or never" thing though and packed a bag
Lying here, with my toenails painted, enjoying the sun and free food/beers and talking openly about swinging, clubs, this site etc. Laughing and enjoying eachothers company.
It's funny what can come from having those conversations you've always feared. Admitting the things you never thought you would. Taking the chances you never dared.
Anyway, I'm full of free whisky and possible sunstroke. So maybe over sharing again but, moral of the story... don't hide. Take the mask off.
Also, if its free, drink it.
That's awesome as sounds like the decision to go saved your relationship with him, or got it back on track sooner.
Am.completely open with everyone about my sexuality and sleeping with men, everyone apart from my Father as I don't necessarily think he'll turn his back on me (we're close I see him for dinner once a week and go to the pub when England play rugby) but think it could change our relationship and not add to it. He's nearly 70 and has cancer (operable so should be fine) but concerned of souring a healthy relationship.
Sorry not intended to hijack just made me think of my Dad as is on my mind now and again.
No need to apologise. My dad's a similar age, 67. I think it's a generational thing. Sending good vibes for your fathers health man.
Yeah, I think your right about generational.
Thank you! Outlook is positive. Enjoy the rest of your holiday. "
My dad is 75 and is an absolute menace. He can't be the morality police to me when he drives d*unk with night-blindness and gets brought home by the cops after midnight after hitting two cars... ( Am I raising a teenager or caring for an elderly parent?!?!) He lives overseas....otherwise, I would ask the judge here to bind him over and take his licence.
I have no idea how he's still alive. Handsdown he wins the competition for most reckless and possibly criminal. All we are doing is fucking people with their consent and dressing how we want....um...until our clothes come off. then we are all naked....except for tattoos and nail polish.
My dad also wanted to break all the Covid laws out there....he probably did break some behind my mother's back. 
I have to meditate and practice radical acceptance of his behavior. Good thing he lives 4000 miles away. 
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"I loved your other post, Thumper, and really pleased to hear things are moving in such a positive direction with your Dad. I get the "don't hide" bit, and know I can be too buttoned up on all kinds of things at times.
I am extremely close to my Mum, less so my Dad (my parents are divorced; it's not that I just like one more than the other), though I genuinely wouldn't want to discuss my (or their!!) sex life with either of them, because that's just not us. But it's lovely that you're feeling closer to your Dad - perhaps I'll make more of an effort! Have a great holiday! "
My mother snitched on my Dad and said that he watches porn on the tablet that my sibling gave him for his 70th....
I was like how is this information that I need to know!? What did she think I was going to do about it?
Luckily I had an out and said.. well I didn't buy him the tablet...speak to the sibling....She know better than to say that to the sibling who might have an anxiety panic attack from this information. Lol!  
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What an absolutely delightful post to read. The parent/child bond is so important. I'm so pleased you are able to live life as the 'real' you and that your father is now muchvmore open minded and willing to understand.
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Y’know what Thumper? Good on your Dad as well. Good on him for managing to grow and change as a person as well. If he’s gone on a bit of a journey from closed-mindedness and fear to acceptance and maybe even positivity … then good on him.
Even if it is just the free whisky helping him take those steps.
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