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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've been on here awhile now really struggling to get started any tips?
Apart from bio ive seen much worse than mine and they got loads of verification and meets so. |
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Advice.
Don't expect anything.
Put yourself out there,try to get to some social events but go with zero expectations look at it as networking.
Get your face known and usually things happen on their own.
You'll be chatting and suddenly you will get an invite to play.
If you are part of a local social group then as a young single reliable guy you will find yourself in demand.
Don't expect miracles.
But in all honesty you can be the best looking guy around but it's usually about being in the right place at the right time,but if you don't put yourself in those places it's never going to happen.
And lastly don't be pushy sending ten messages when one will do.
If a woman or couple are interested they'll let you know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on here awhile now really struggling to get started any tips?
Apart from bio ive seen much worse than mine and they got loads of verification and meets so."
Welcome to fab.
Just my penniesworth. Don’t compare yourself to others.  |
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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago
Where the flamboyance of flamingos live |
"The rough, yank and spank would put me off, im sure others would be into that though but it will narrow down your options.
Mrs "
Agree with the about I love a spank but reading that would put me off. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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Hi op
I think it's because you'll only appeal to certain members due to what you mention in your bio.
Not all will be into rough sex & domination.
You probably need to specifically look for those who are after the same & only contact them . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on here awhile now really struggling to get started any tips?
Apart from bio ive seen much worse than mine and they got loads of verification and meets so."
I’d advise someone new and looking to get started to attend socials and join a club. It’s a cliche and I’m sure you’ve probably heard it before but it’s something I recommend, if you really want to get started.
I don’t know what your experience is around others but if you go to a club you can potentially experience things, meet people and see if the scene is for you.
There’s nothing particularly wrong with your profile, but what you are looking for will narrow your searches down. Those things you’re into aren’t that common, especially with people meeting newbies. So it’s just having some patience and literally just striking the right time and place, regarding messaging someone who is into that.
I wouldn’t compare your profile to someone else’s because everyone is different they might be a club regular or been on before, there are loads of reasons why he might have more verifications…
All the best!
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"I've been on here awhile now really struggling to get started any tips?
Apart from bio ive seen much worse than mine and they got loads of verification and meets so."
Your bio will frighten most women off. And we are not a piece of meet for you to use and abuse! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Deleted somethings on my bio guys so cheers for that. TMontana i noticed you're from sheffield any clubs round Sheff/donny/leeds area? also you are definitely the kind of guy i see killing it on a site like this. swear a guy has to look like you to get sucess on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on here awhile now really struggling to get started any tips?
Apart from bio ive seen much worse than mine and they got loads of verification and meets so."
What do you mean by no ‘baggage’  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Deleted somethings on my bio guys so cheers for that. TMontana i noticed you're from sheffield any clubs round Sheff/donny/leeds area? also you are definitely the kind of guy i see killing it on a site like this. swear a guy has to look like you to get sucess on here."
Sadly La Chambre and Asylum closed in lockdown and never reopened. Leeds has two clubs though which are supposedly good. Quest and Pandora.
No don’t say that, there are many people that don’t like the way I look  everyone is different and looking for different things that’s the beauty of the scene…
All you can do is be yourself. I wouldn’t have deleted it because ultimately that’s what you were looking for and soon enough you’ll come across someone seeking that. |
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I would drop the part about playing for a semi professional football team, whatever one of those is as I don't think they would want you telling people on a swingers site, especially with your face showing to public which would probably get you dropped by the club if the team name came out |
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"I've been on here awhile now really struggling to get started any tips?
Apart from bio ive seen much worse than mine and they got loads of verification and meets so.
What do you mean by no ‘baggage’ "
I don't think he wants to meet them after doing the supermarket shop  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personality how do I convey that on a bio? "
Write it like you're having a conversation.
That's what I do, I mean it's conversations in my head but still. It works. |
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"Deleted somethings on my bio guys so cheers for that. TMontana i noticed you're from sheffield any clubs round Sheff/donny/leeds area? also you are definitely the kind of guy i see killing it on a site like this. swear a guy has to look like you to get sucess on here."
This 100% |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP I think you’re good looking and I would consider meeting you by your profile picture, but when I read your text it would probably be a no.
What you’re looking for is probably quite niche that might be why you’re struggling |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on here awhile now really struggling to get started any tips?
Apart from bio ive seen much worse than mine and they got loads of verification and meets so.
What do you mean by no ‘baggage’
I don't think he wants to meet them after doing the supermarket shop "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on here awhile now really struggling to get started any tips?
Apart from bio ive seen much worse than mine and they got loads of verification and meets so.
Welcome to fab.
Just my penniesworth. Don’t compare yourself to others. "
Be yourself  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wanna see personality.
I don’t look at their personality when I’m ploughing away at her love hole  "
Exactly they trolling when they talking about personality |
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"for the people saying looks dont matter on here why are women deleting my mails when i said a photo then..."
You need a mix of ingredients to make a good sandwich...the bread without the filling isn't very satisfying...I think |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on here awhile now really struggling to get started any tips?
Apart from bio ive seen much worse than mine and they got loads of verification and meets so.
Welcome to fab.
Just my penniesworth. Don’t compare yourself to others.
Be yourself "
Exactly. Unless playing Dungeons and Dragons, because the whole idea is to be someone else. . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on here awhile now really struggling to get started any tips?
Apart from bio ive seen much worse than mine and they got loads of verification and meets so.
Welcome to fab.
Just my penniesworth. Don’t compare yourself to others.
Be yourself "
Unless your name is Mac Foster |
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"for the people saying looks dont matter on here why are women deleting my mails when i said a photo then...
You need a mix of ingredients to make a good sandwich...the bread without the filling isn't very satisfying...I think"
This translates to (fill your butt with tuna, sweetcorn and mayo and take a spread arse pic) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wanna see personality.
I don’t look at their personality when I’m ploughing away at her love hole
Exactly they trolling when they talking about personality"
No honestly they’re not. Personality goes a long way |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"I've been on here awhile now really struggling to get started any tips?
Apart from bio ive seen much worse than mine and they got loads of verification and meets so.
Welcome to fab.
Just my penniesworth. Don’t compare yourself to others.
Be yourself "
Being himself isn't doing him any good he needs to be somebody else  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on here awhile now really struggling to get started any tips?
Apart from bio ive seen much worse than mine and they got loads of verification and meets so.
Welcome to fab.
Just my penniesworth. Don’t compare yourself to others.
Be yourself Being himself isn't doing him any good he needs to be somebody else "
I’d try Tmontana, I don’t think anyone could go wrong they could pull him off.
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"I've been on here awhile now really struggling to get started any tips?
Apart from bio ive seen much worse than mine and they got loads of verification and meets so."
Some great tips on this thread.....
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/1376577
Winston
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"Deleted somethings on my bio guys so cheers for that. TMontana i noticed you're from sheffield any clubs round Sheff/donny/leeds area? also you are definitely the kind of guy i see killing it on a site like this. swear a guy has to look like you to get sucess on here."
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You've been here eight weeks. That really isn't long at all in the grand scheme of things. As the other gentlefolk have suggested get yourself to a Fab Organised social (or even a club), meet some fellow fabbers and cultivate those friendships. Leave your expectations at home; those will follow through eventually as you slowly build your connections.
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Oh, and TMontana is still a puppy; I mentored him.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Deleted somethings on my bio guys so cheers for that. TMontana i noticed you're from sheffield any clubs round Sheff/donny/leeds area? also you are definitely the kind of guy i see killing it on a site like this. swear a guy has to look like you to get sucess on here."
Had to scroll up to make sure F&B didn’t post this  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Weirdly OP I’ve had you on my hotlist for quite some time but despite being pretty spot on for your wish list in a woman, I would quite frankly eat you alive "
This haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are a couples of typos in your bio text.
‘Open minded’
And
‘Someone I’m attracted to’ (the ‘to’ is missing)
Apologies. Good spelling and grammar is my jam  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are a couples of typos in your bio text.
‘Open minded’
And
‘Someone I’m attracted to’ (the ‘to’ is missing)
Apologies. Good spelling and grammar is my jam "
I thought your...you know what I'll leave that for DMs |
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"Weirdly OP I’ve had you on my hotlist for quite some time but despite being pretty spot on for your wish list in a woman, I would quite frankly eat you alive "
Lol!
I meet men scared to go to a club and my second time at Hellfire I made 3 men get fully undressed to join me in the cage on the stage.
My first MMF at Rio's
Yeah I'm not for the scared. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile is still fairly generic.
Why do you feel the need to mention your height in your bio when that information is already available elsewhere on your profile?
It's just one of those things that gives others the impression that you've put it together in a hurry.
Given that men outnumber women on fab by around 100 to 1, you really need to stand out. Have a USP. Something special to catch someones attention.
And as most of those you message will check out your profile before even considering opening your message (though you'll likely know nothing about is as most browse in mode) if your profile doesn't grab their interest, why should they bother to read what you've sent them, let alone reply?
A lot of guys come on the forum after a short time being here, complaining about a lack of 'success' thinking that there's some magic silver bullet or something to getting meets.
Spoiler alert! - There isn't.
What works for one person might not work for someone else.
At the end of the day, not everyone you fancy is going to fancy you back - and vice versa.
Unfortunately, most guys join fab on the assumption that there are desperate horny women just gagging for it who will fuck anyone - which couldn't be futher from the truth.
Realign your expectations.
Effort in - rewards out |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"I've been on here awhile now really struggling to get started any tips?
Apart from bio ive seen much worse than mine and they got loads of verification and meets so."
turn the ignition on |
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"Your profile is still fairly generic.
Why do you feel the need to mention your height in your bio when that information is already available elsewhere on your profile?
It's just one of those things that gives others the impression that you've put it together in a hurry.
Given that men outnumber women on fab by around 100 to 1, you really need to stand out. Have a USP. Something special to catch someones attention.
And as most of those you message will check out your profile before even considering opening your message (though you'll likely know nothing about is as most browse in mode) if your profile doesn't grab their interest, why should they bother to read what you've sent them, let alone reply?
A lot of guys come on the forum after a short time being here, complaining about a lack of 'success' thinking that there's some magic silver bullet or something to getting meets.
Spoiler alert! - There isn't.
What works for one person might not work for someone else.
At the end of the day, not everyone you fancy is going to fancy you back - and vice versa.
Unfortunately, most guys join fab on the assumption that there are desperate horny women just gagging for it who will fuck anyone - which couldn't be futher from the truth.
Realign your expectations.
Effort in - rewards out"
He can add the height twice. I like making 6-foot men squirm and moan....twice. Lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m having deja vu… I’m sure I seen a post on the forum yesterday from someone with your profile pic that had joined about a year ago asking a similar thing "
I want what she’s been drinking |
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"I’m having deja vu… I’m sure I seen a post on the forum yesterday from someone with your profile pic that had joined about a year ago asking a similar thing
I want what she’s been drinking "
Spunk? |
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"I’m having deja vu… I’m sure I seen a post on the forum yesterday from someone with your profile pic that had joined about a year ago asking a similar thing
I want what she’s been drinking "
I hope someone pipes up and agrees with me, unless the OP has posted virtually the same question in the forum twice. The bio is the same. The comments yesterday were about him sounding too dominant  … someone back me up |
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"I’m having deja vu… I’m sure I seen a post on the forum yesterday from someone with your profile pic that had joined about a year ago asking a similar thing
I want what she’s been drinking
I hope someone pipes up and agrees with me, unless the OP has posted virtually the same question in the forum twice. The bio is the same. The comments yesterday were about him sounding too dominant … someone back me up "
Green arrow |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Weirdly OP I’ve had you on my hotlist for quite some time but despite being pretty spot on for your wish list in a woman, I would quite frankly eat you alive
This haha"
Danm brah you as cold as ice |
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"I’m having deja vu… I’m sure I seen a post on the forum yesterday from someone with your profile pic that had joined about a year ago asking a similar thing
I want what she’s been drinking
I hope someone pipes up and agrees with me, unless the OP has posted virtually the same question in the forum twice. The bio is the same. The comments yesterday were about him sounding too dominant … someone back me up
Green arrow "
I don’t know what the green arrow does |
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"I’m having deja vu… I’m sure I seen a post on the forum yesterday from someone with your profile pic that had joined about a year ago asking a similar thing "
There's another thread, from a few weeks ago on a different section of the forum. |
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"I’m having deja vu… I’m sure I seen a post on the forum yesterday from someone with your profile pic that had joined about a year ago asking a similar thing
I want what she’s been drinking
I hope someone pipes up and agrees with me, unless the OP has posted virtually the same question in the forum twice. The bio is the same. The comments yesterday were about him sounding too dominant … someone back me up
Green arrow
I don’t know what the green arrow does "
Click on the green arrow by his name, shows you all the threads he's made/commented on |
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"I’m having deja vu… I’m sure I seen a post on the forum yesterday from someone with your profile pic that had joined about a year ago asking a similar thing
There's another thread, from a few weeks ago on a different section of the forum."
Thank you! I thought I was going mad |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m having deja vu… I’m sure I seen a post on the forum yesterday from someone with your profile pic that had joined about a year ago asking a similar thing "
That's because he did. The Green arrow reveals all. |
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"I’m having deja vu… I’m sure I seen a post on the forum yesterday from someone with your profile pic that had joined about a year ago asking a similar thing
That's because he did. The Green arrow reveals all. "
Thank you. I wasn’t aware that’s what the green arrow was for. Seems a bit odd to start two almost identical threads when the other one was still active  |
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"I’m having deja vu… I’m sure I seen a post on the forum yesterday from someone with your profile pic that had joined about a year ago asking a similar thing
I want what she’s been drinking
I hope someone pipes up and agrees with me, unless the OP has posted virtually the same question in the forum twice. The bio is the same. The comments yesterday were about him sounding too dominant … someone back me up "
Someone posted the link you may be thinking of further up is this thread.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m having deja vu… I’m sure I seen a post on the forum yesterday from someone with your profile pic that had joined about a year ago asking a similar thing
There's another thread, from a few weeks ago on a different section of the forum.
Thank you! I thought I was going mad "
Good PI skills Sam. Can I use those skills for the reverse gangbang? |
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If like you bio says you are only looking women then why are you saying that you are looking couples as well bit of mixed messages there in our opinion might be a good idea to choose 1 or the other |
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"I’m having deja vu… I’m sure I seen a post on the forum yesterday from someone with your profile pic that had joined about a year ago asking a similar thing
I want what she’s been drinking
I hope someone pipes up and agrees with me, unless the OP has posted virtually the same question in the forum twice. The bio is the same. The comments yesterday were about him sounding too dominant … someone back me up
Green arrow
I don’t know what the green arrow does
Click on the green arrow by his name, shows you all the threads he's made/commented on"
Cackle this is too entertaining. |
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"I’m having deja vu… I’m sure I seen a post on the forum yesterday from someone with your profile pic that had joined about a year ago asking a similar thing
I want what she’s been drinking
I hope someone pipes up and agrees with me, unless the OP has posted virtually the same question in the forum twice. The bio is the same. The comments yesterday were about him sounding too dominant … someone back me up
Green arrow
I don’t know what the green arrow does "
i didnt know this either,, hmm interesting |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Green arrow
I don’t know what the green arrow does i didnt know this either,, hmm interesting "
If you click on the Green Arrow by a persons name in the thread, it brings up a list of threads that person has commented on |
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