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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
After 2 years of being single and living in my own, I truly realised that I am not cut out to be in a monogamous relationship.
My last two monogamous long term relationships ended in disaster, both I might point out started on here.
Am I destined to be left on the shelf, unloved and unwanted, or will the future provide me with a harem of loving, accepting women, who are happy to share |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After 2 years of being single and living in my own, I truly realised that I am not cut out to be in a monogamous relationship.
My last two monogamous long term relationships ended in disaster, both I might point out started on here.
Am I destined to be left on the shelf, unloved and unwanted, or will the future provide me with a harem of loving, accepting women, who are happy to share "
Depends on why they ended in disaster. I wouldn't be looking for a monogamous relationship on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Am I destined to be left on the shelf, unloved and unwanted, or will the future provide me with a harem of loving, accepting women, who are happy to share "
Probably neither. Relationships are possible at any time of life but we do need to be realistic in our expectations. Perhaps a nice FWB rather than a harem.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been single for 15 years. The advantages outweigh the disadvantages (for me) even when there are times I think I’m missing out on something. Certain times of the year make being single feel harder don’t you find? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Let me buy you a drink and tell you a tale of regret, misery and self loathing… 
I’m in two places at the moment, but I hear what you say.
I’m still getting over something which was wonderful (marriage 1-1 and ended) and still kinda want a partner for life. But it’s all this kinky stuff that rocks the boat for that when the person you might like isn’t into it. It’s not worth making a promise I can’t keep, and they need to do what they need to do. (I always say my mind is very open, others, not so much)
So as long as you are true to yourself op, you’ll be fine even is you are alone right now. Someone will find you and share part of your life.  *hippy shite I know. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Let me buy you a drink and tell you a tale of regret, misery and self loathing…
I’m in two places at the moment, but I hear what you say.
I’m still getting over something which was wonderful (marriage 1-1 and ended) and still kinda want a partner for life. But it’s all this kinky stuff that rocks the boat for that when the person you might like isn’t into it. It’s not worth making a promise I can’t keep, and they need to do what they need to do. (I always say my mind is very open, others, not so much)
So as long as you are true to yourself op, you’ll be fine even is you are alone right now. Someone will find you and share part of your life. *hippy shite I know. "
Could this be the start of a beautiful fab straight relationship ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ah
you are who you are... probably not best place to start a regular relationship tbh but..does it matter.. no.
is it a relationship you want? friendship? to be at one with the universe?
hiarchy of needs...
and you dont always get what you want..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Let me buy you a drink and tell you a tale of regret, misery and self loathing…
I’m in two places at the moment, but I hear what you say.
I’m still getting over something which was wonderful (marriage 1-1 and ended) and still kinda want a partner for life. But it’s all this kinky stuff that rocks the boat for that when the person you might like isn’t into it. It’s not worth making a promise I can’t keep, and they need to do what they need to do. (I always say my mind is very open, others, not so much)
So as long as you are true to yourself op, you’ll be fine even is you are alone right now. Someone will find you and share part of your life. *hippy shite I know.
Could this be the start of a beautiful fab straight relationship ? "
Haha. He wishes.  |
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I sometimes feel a bit sad about being single... This morning my friend sent a pic of a freshly mopped bathroom floor... Her husband had pissed all over it after he came in d*unk, it was very nearly the bedroom floor... Now I don't feel sad at all. |
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The problem lies in being resolute enough in saying no to anyone who might be more or less ok to settle down with.
Having a harem takes a lot of beating (I should know) and it gets horrendously complicated and expensive around Christmas time.
Some people are lucky and meet the perfect partner and I admire those who do (even more so if they share them at clubs with the rest of us!).
I remember my Dad saying to me when I went away to college "Don't marry the first girl you like" but of course I did. Luckily she kept me on the rails for over 20 years so it wasn't all that bad.
A mischievous (married) friend of mine says "Marriage is all right for those with nothing else going for them".
This has held true for me since my divorce and timely vasectomy. I've had plenty going for me as, no doubt has the worthy Agent. However, time will tell what happens to us long term! |
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The problem lies in being resolute enough in saying no to anyone who might be more or less ok to settle down with.
Having a harem takes a lot of beating (I should know) and it gets horrendously complicated and expensive around Christmas time.
Some people are lucky and meet the perfect partner and I admire those who do (even more so if they share them at clubs with the rest of us!).
I remember my Dad saying to me when I went away to college "Don't marry the first girl you like" but of course I did. Luckily she kept me on the rails for over 20 years so it wasn't all that bad.
A mischievous (married) friend of mine says "Marriage is all right for those with nothing else going for them".
This has held true for me since my divorce and timely vasectomy. I've had plenty going for me as, no doubt has the worthy Agent. However, time will tell what happens to us long term! |
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