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By *rettyflamingo OP Woman
over a year ago
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Question how many chances do you give someone?
I was supposed to meet someone for lunch a few Avis but they cancelled. We arranged to meet today, hun coming over to mine for lunch, I bought in steak etc specially. He’s now just messaged and cancelled again. This is not a fab meet by the way.
Twice now he’s cancelled should I call it a day?
Really annoyed and upset what the fucks wrong with me ? |
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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago
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"Question how many chances do you give someone?
I was supposed to meet someone for lunch a few Avis but they cancelled. We arranged to meet today, hun coming over to mine for lunch, I bought in steak etc specially. He’s now just messaged and cancelled again. This is not a fab meet by the way.
Twice now he’s cancelled should I call it a day?
Really annoyed and upset what the fucks wrong with me ? "
Nothing wrong with you
Fuck him off
Give someone else a chance
Medium rare please |
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By *rettyflamingo OP Woman
over a year ago
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guess whats the reason?
..everyone gets a second chance... but a third? unless something serious.."
So ethical g that he has to sort out today apparently? No sign of this in the conversation last night . |
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guess whats the reason?
..everyone gets a second chance... but a third? unless something serious..
So ethical g that he has to sort out today apparently? No sign of this in the conversation last night ."
sort out day??? lunch is part of that
you know what you have to do... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You know them more than I (or us). I think genuinely can’t make it is fine, but when you get blown off for a silly reason it’s hard to take.
Like going for a run #theyknowwho  or tidying up (seriously   ) it’s hard to accept or forgive if that happens more than twice. Can you accept being pissed about 3 times op? Because it’s you and not us.
*I just don’t ask again.  "
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Depends… if it’s genuine then definitely give another chance. Sometimes life happens.
However by now he should be really embarrassed about it and offering the next meet at his expense.
Use your senses, does it feel like he’s genuine or is this some power game where he proves you’re not important enough? If there’s any doubt, sack him off. |
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"Question how many chances do you give someone?
I was supposed to meet someone for lunch a few Avis but they cancelled. We arranged to meet today, hun coming over to mine for lunch, I bought in steak etc specially. He’s now just messaged and cancelled again. This is not a fab meet by the way.
Twice now he’s cancelled should I call it a day?
Really annoyed and upset what the fucks wrong with me ? "
Wheres he from? |
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By *rettyflamingo OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Question how many chances do you give someone?
I was supposed to meet someone for lunch a few Avis but they cancelled. We arranged to meet today, hun coming over to mine for lunch, I bought in steak etc specially. He’s now just messaged and cancelled again. This is not a fab meet by the way.
Twice now he’s cancelled should I call it a day?
Really annoyed and upset what the fucks wrong with me ?
Wheres he from?"
Swansea and the last time he cancelled he didn’t even say just ghosted me then made contact again saying he scared about letting people in? Load of bollucks and more fool me |
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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago
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"Question how many chances do you give someone?
I was supposed to meet someone for lunch a few Avis but they cancelled. We arranged to meet today, hun coming over to mine for lunch, I bought in steak etc specially. He’s now just messaged and cancelled again. This is not a fab meet by the way.
Twice now he’s cancelled should I call it a day?
Really annoyed and upset what the fucks wrong with me ? "
Bring the steak with the mercy mission tea |
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" the last time he cancelled he didn’t even say just ghosted me then made contact again saying he scared about letting people in? Load of bollucks and more fool me "
I’ve changed my mind, no more chances. |
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"Question how many chances do you give someone?
I was supposed to meet someone for lunch a few Avis but they cancelled. We arranged to meet today, hun coming over to mine for lunch, I bought in steak etc specially. He’s now just messaged and cancelled again. This is not a fab meet by the way.
Twice now he’s cancelled should I call it a day?
Really annoyed and upset what the fucks wrong with me ?
Wheres he from?
Swansea and the last time he cancelled he didn’t even say just ghosted me then made contact again saying he scared about letting people in? Load of bollucks and more fool me "
Ahh so you can't blame the icy roads today. Or even your Swan tattoo 
His loss, have Steak and Steak for dinner. Loads of garlic, medium rare and count yourself lucky |
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Don't beat yourself up, since if they're unable to explain themselves which would be the courtesist thing to do, giving you a valid reason behind their cancellations - it's evident they're unreliable and therefore, you need not give them anymore of your precious time. Plenty fish in the sea, to find a tasty catch. |
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By *rettyflamingo OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Question how many chances do you give someone?
I was supposed to meet someone for lunch a few Avis but they cancelled. We arranged to meet today, hun coming over to mine for lunch, I bought in steak etc specially. He’s now just messaged and cancelled again. This is not a fab meet by the way.
Twice now he’s cancelled should I call it a day?
Really annoyed and upset what the fucks wrong with me ?
Wheres he from?
Swansea and the last time he cancelled he didn’t even say just ghosted me then made contact again saying he scared about letting people in? Load of bollucks and more fool me
Ahh so you can't blame the icy roads today. Or even your Swan tattoo
His loss, have Steak and Steak for dinner. Loads of garlic, medium rare and count yourself lucky "
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By (user no longer on site)
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A - have you asked him why he keeps cancelling? Could it be nerves or anxiety?
B - Are the reasons he’s cancelled good reasons, or clearly stupid made up ones?
I’m having the same problem with simple communication, this guy is lovely and we’ve met a few times, but his method of communication pisses me off, takes him hours to reply, never calls when he says he will, but never misses a FaceTime call when we fancy a bit of sexy video fun!
The truth is, it’s not on you, there’s nothing at all wrong with you, it’s that some people are just quite selfish - wether aware of it or not - don’t think about how they make others feel.
Of course you have many people who, when your back is turned, are already looking for something “better”….
Never think it’s you though, it’s absolutely not. Nobody should be allowed to make you feel like it is either. xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you're being regularly let down or messed about you are probably making poor choices about who you connect with. Perhaps think about why you made those choices and what different ones you could have made. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question how many chances do you give someone?
I was supposed to meet someone for lunch a few Avis but they cancelled. We arranged to meet today, hun coming over to mine for lunch, I bought in steak etc specially. He’s now just messaged and cancelled again. This is not a fab meet by the way.
Twice now he’s cancelled should I call it a day?
Really annoyed and upset what the fucks wrong with me ?
Wheres he from?
Swansea and the last time he cancelled he didn’t even say just ghosted me then made contact again saying he scared about letting people in? Load of bollucks and more fool me "
Have you ever met him before?
Hope the steak was good.  |
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By *rettyflamingo OP Woman
over a year ago
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"If you're being regularly let down or messed about you are probably making poor choices about who you connect with. Perhaps think about why you made those choices and what different ones you could have made."
Twice hun and thanks for making it sound like it’s my fault due to my choices . I don’t actually think so, this was not a meet via fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you're being regularly let down or messed about you are probably making poor choices about who you connect with. Perhaps think about why you made those choices and what different ones you could have made."
Ah yes. Blame the woman. I expect she was wearing a short skirt so deserved everything she got too!?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm wondering this exact thing at the moment. I've met a guy I know, many times. We chat quite a bit when we're not meeting. It's just sex on both sides so I know I shouldn't be annoyed when he cancels, and every part of me wants to believe he's genuine because I cannot for the life of me work out why he would feel the need to make excuses. It's because i thought we were completely open and honest that i thought he wouldn't arrange to meet if he didn't want to. I think i may have got it wrong though after this last time. It has got to the point that I actually assume it won't happen on the run up to meeting him, which takes out all of the excitement for me.
I think I've answered the question for both of us. If something isn't working recognise it and change it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you're being regularly let down or messed about you are probably making poor choices about who you connect with. Perhaps think about why you made those choices and what different ones you could have made.
Twice hun and thanks for making it sound like it’s my fault due to my choices . I don’t actually think so, this was not a meet via fab "
Well clearly in this case you made a bad choice about who to invite over as he's an unreliable person. |
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By *rettyflamingo OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm wondering this exact thing at the moment. I've met a guy I know, many times. We chat quite a bit when we're not meeting. It's just sex on both sides so I know I shouldn't be annoyed when he cancels, and every part of me wants to believe he's genuine because I cannot for the life of me work out why he would feel the need to make excuses. It's because i thought we were completely open and honest that i thought he wouldn't arrange to meet if he didn't want to. I think i may have got it wrong though after this last time. It has got to the point that I actually assume it won't happen on the run up to meeting him, which takes out all of the excitement for me.
I think I've answered the question for both of us. If something isn't working recognise it and change it. "
Some people ahh we are both worth more x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you're being regularly let down or messed about you are probably making poor choices about who you connect with. Perhaps think about why you made those choices and what different ones you could have made.
Ah yes. Blame the woman. I expect she was wearing a short skirt so deserved everything she got too!?? "
I didn't say anything remotely like that, obviously. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nope!
Its not meant to be!
I have been cancelled on more than once by a guy I really quite liked, we had met previously, twice and got on great.
But I have decided not to go there again after his last excuse, which was long winded, but basically that he couldnt be arsed! |
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"Question how many chances do you give someone?
I was supposed to meet someone for lunch a few Avis but they cancelled. We arranged to meet today, hun coming over to mine for lunch, I bought in steak etc specially. He’s now just messaged and cancelled again. This is not a fab meet by the way.
Twice now he’s cancelled should I call it a day?
Really annoyed and upset what the fucks wrong with me ?
Wheres he from?
Swansea and the last time he cancelled he didn’t even say just ghosted me then made contact again saying he scared about letting people in? Load of bollucks and more fool me "
Think you have dodged a bullet.
Nutter alert.
Move on, have fun.
My old boss said once "never give a sucker an even break"
You are here to meet and have fun not an unpaid therapist.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Twice hun and thanks for making it sound like it’s my fault due to my choices . I don’t actually think so, this was not a meet via fab
Well clearly in this case you made a bad choice about who to invite over as he's an unreliable person."
I’m sure you mean well Leo, but this is one of those moments where the OP has already realised she’s worth more (Flamingo has blocked the person involved) and needs lifting up. Rather than an extra kick in the teeth, which is what your comments are effectively doing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you're being regularly let down or messed about you are probably making poor choices about who you connect with. Perhaps think about why you made those choices and what different ones you could have made.
Ah yes. Blame the woman. I expect she was wearing a short skirt so deserved everything she got too!?? "
Wtf is wrong with you? He didn't infer anything like that!!  |
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"Question how many chances do you give someone?
I was supposed to meet someone for lunch a few Avis but they cancelled. We arranged to meet today, hun coming over to mine for lunch, I bought in steak etc specially. He’s now just messaged and cancelled again. This is not a fab meet by the way.
Twice now he’s cancelled should I call it a day?
Really annoyed and upset what the fucks wrong with me ? "
I would sack it off at that now after 2. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you're being regularly let down or messed about you are probably making poor choices about who you connect with. Perhaps think about why you made those choices and what different ones you could have made.
Ah yes. Blame the woman. I expect she was wearing a short skirt so deserved everything she got too!??
Wtf is wrong with you? He didn't infer anything like that!! "
Thanks, and of course I wouldn't ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Cancelling a drinks. Okay if enough notice and a good reason. It's noted in my book.
Cancelling if I'm cooking. That's a straight red. I'd need a good reason to even go to VAR.
The two combined. Early shower for sure. |
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"Question how many chances do you give someone?
I was supposed to meet someone for lunch a few Avis but they cancelled. We arranged to meet today, hun coming over to mine for lunch, I bought in steak etc specially. He’s now just messaged and cancelled again. This is not a fab meet by the way.
Twice now he’s cancelled should I call it a day?
Really annoyed and upset what the fucks wrong with me ? "
Depends what his reasons are? Go with your gut. Nobody else can because they don't have all the facts at hand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Twice hun and thanks for making it sound like it’s my fault due to my choices . I don’t actually think so, this was not a meet via fab
Well clearly in this case you made a bad choice about who to invite over as he's an unreliable person.
I’m sure you mean well Leo, but this is one of those moments where the OP has already realised she’s worth more (Flamingo has blocked the person involved) and needs lifting up. Rather than an extra kick in the teeth, which is what your comments are effectively doing. "
I don't think I was doing that and as the OP doesn't know me from Adam I'm sure my opinion is easily ignored. But she did ask for opinions and I gave mine, nothing more.  |
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