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Is the wink pointless
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it pointless I don’t look at my winks
I also find that if they can’t pluck up the courage just to send a message
Then what’s it going to be like them trying to pluck up the courage to meet me |
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"they are lazy..."
After 10 years in Fab, I can count the number of first messages from single ladies AND couples on one hand. Winks, on the other hand (see what I did there?  ), have started many a conversation, and resulted in many great shared times  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Winks can be an ice breaker for some obviously must've read the bio to send one showing some interest. It's one of those where a woman may wink in real life but expect the guy to make the first move she's unable to play with her hair  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only send winks....its a way of saying I like your photos /profile if you like mine let me know.
Beats sending a detailed personal message that you've spent time to think of and get deleted 99% of the time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s not pointless but sometimes they can get lost in the mire of so many winks. If you like them wink then message. What’s the worst they can say?  "
Fancy a fuck usually |
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The proplem is some look at them some don't so when you wink you have no idea which camp the winkee is in. I look at them about one a week and read the profiles of any winker in Reading as location is important to me. If i like the profile I'll wink back. |
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"It’s not pointless but sometimes they can get lost in the mire of so many winks. If you like them wink then message. What’s the worst they can say?
Fancy a fuck usually "
That’s the worst they can say?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They work just fine if both parties use them, but lots of people don't. It seems a shame if someone's thinking the person they winked isn't interested when actually they'll just never see it. I'd always go with a message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I bulk delete winks. I prefer a message. I also bulk delete friend invites from guys who don't bother messaging either. "
I leave mine there cause it stops them from sending another for at least 30 days lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Using them with a Msg is prob the best way to use a wink or when seeing an old friend you haven't spoke to for a while on here."
So effectively your day the wink is pointless if you're going to message them anyway  |
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"Using them with a Msg is prob the best way to use a wink or when seeing an old friend you haven't spoke to for a while on here.
So effectively your day the wink is pointless if you're going to message them anyway "
Am I missing something?
It reads to me...a wink and a message works best. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Winks are OK but can be very hit and miss 
I normally make sure I'm on the right profile before sending
It usually helps 
Nope, still no wink then  "
It does help if you read profiles |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Winks are OK but can be very hit and miss
I normally make sure I'm on the right profile before sending
It usually helps
Nope, still no wink then
It does help if you read profiles "
I'm illiterate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Winks are OK but can be very hit and miss
I normally make sure I'm on the right profile before sending
It usually helps
Nope, still no wink then
It does help if you read profiles
I'm illiterate "
Don't they have tablets for that now?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Winks are OK but can be very hit and miss
I normally make sure I'm on the right profile before sending
It usually helps
Nope, still no wink then
It does help if you read profiles
I'm illiterate
Don't they have tablets for that now? "
Typical, bloody Apple think they can cure everything |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
Maidstone |
"Am I missing something?
It reads to me...a wink and a message works best."
Haha and I read it as...
Is the Weakest Link pointless?
I would say I like The Weakest Link when Anne hosted it compared to Romesh...
Pointless is just that... Pppfffttt |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
Reading |
I send winks more often than messages. Nearly all if I like profile or looked at mine. Yes can work . But may not. My thought has been . If profile looked at , so can see . You like that profile and send wink. I did see that profiles responded to wink . Yet stated not interested in my age , single male etc . So could not contact .? |
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By *aked_magicMan
over a year ago
the gutter looking at the stars (UAE) |
I like the Wink, i dont always spot them immediately but i dont mind checking somebody out after receiving one. I will sometimes send one myself if I'm not sure i fit what theyre looking for after reading their profile. As has been been said already though, not everybody checks them so theyre very hit n miss |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They're ok but would not gain priority in comparison to someone who has taken their time to message me. Tendency to delete winks more often than not (lazy form of communication). Much rather receive a message in lieu of a |
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"Is the wink pointless or does it serve it's purpose. Asking for a friend lol "
Yes I get my meets from guys winking or vice versa. I prefer winks as initial step then prefer them to message me after we winked at eachother |
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By *hil39Man
over a year ago
Dagenham |
"they are lazy..."
That may be true but it is very annoying having taken the trouble to write a message that just gets deleted. So I thought doing a lazy "wink" could be a way of contact, if the person does not respond then fair enough nothing lost. Maybe it just doesn't work how it was possibly intended |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We love a wink - there’s either mutual appreciation in which a message gets sent or not.
When you’re dealing with hundreds of messages it’s a super quick way to respond. "
I love reading this type of positive thinking. #thinkpositive. |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat |
"Pointless. I can count the number of times that I have responded to a wink on one thumb!
Okay. Why? "
I like a guy to put some effort in. Hitting a wink button takes even less thought than messaging 'hi/wwu2/faf' |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat |
"We love a wink - there’s either mutual appreciation in which a message gets sent or not.
When you’re dealing with hundreds of messages it’s a super quick way to respond. "
But this is what I love about the forums. I am always open to having my opinions challenged and approaching things differently in future |
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By *XZRMan
over a year ago
Highland |
"they are lazy...
After 10 years in Fab, I can count the number of first messages from single ladies AND couples on one hand. Winks, on the other hand (see what I did there? ), have started many a conversation, and resulted in many great shared times "
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Pointless to most people on here because most of them on ere are so far up there own arse they don’t even know what a wink is!!!!and before you get excited I said “most people”
Just a polite thanks but no thanks would be sufficient |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pointless. I can count the number of times that I have responded to a wink on one thumb!
Okay. Why?
I like a guy to put some effort in. Hitting a wink button takes even less thought than messaging 'hi/wwu2/faf' "
So what would you personally do (and I can generise what most do) when you have many, possibly hundreds of messages and each and everyone has put some sort of effort into a message? Several paragraphs maybe.
And each one includes a photo and your not interested. You understand where I’m leading here.
I think the wink button has a hard time, i think it was supposed to be an icebreaker but it’s got a reputation along the way as lazininess. Users will use a website as they think fits I suppose.
*had to add who I was replying to.  |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat |
"Pointless. I can count the number of times that I have responded to a wink on one thumb!
Okay. Why?
I like a guy to put some effort in. Hitting a wink button takes even less thought than messaging 'hi/wwu2/faf'
So what would you personally do (and I can generise what most do) when you have many, possibly hundreds of messages and each and everyone has put some sort of effort into a message? Several paragraphs maybe.
And each one includes a photo and your not interested. You understand where I’m leading here.
I think the wink button has a hard time, i think it was supposed to be an icebreaker but it’s got a reputation along the way as lazininess. Users will use a website as they think fits I suppose.
*had to add who I was replying to. "
I absolutely get where you are coming from Woody. I know what the wink is intended for and I feel crap about the genuine guys who have taken the time to ready my (long) profile and send an articulate and original message but are buried in the 1200 unread messages. Even if I'm not interested, they are worthy of a polite 'thanks for taking the time to message but it's a no thanks' reply. Trying to sort the wheat from the chaff in my messages AND checking out who has winked at me just isn't an option. Maybe it's time I turn my usual approach on its head and block messages from single guys but encourage winks and go Bumble style. |
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There’s no point in winking us because don’t respond to them and never have. We want to see people’s personalities coming through in a message because also helps filter in or out the people may or may not like. The people who we’re interested in are the ones who send us a good message and we like the look of them.
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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago
southeast , midlands, southern France |
For me a wink is to show that you are interested in that person, if you get a wink back then great, I then initiate a conversation.
I like a lot of people on here have spent hours writing messages to people to get it deleted, or worse still having the message ignored with out it even being read! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Winks are a great ice breaker and an indication they are interested. If I get a wink back I’ll be more inclined to send a message and take it from there.
I rarely send first messages as they just get lost. So the wink & wink back gives me some hope they’d reply if I sent the first message. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"they are lazy..."
They are not lazy it’s just the bar has been raised for men to make more effort. Women send winks to let you know they are potentially interested and require a full application from you
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Winks are a great ice breaker and an indication they are interested. If I get a wink back I’ll be more inclined to send a message and take it from there.
I rarely send first messages as they just get lost. So the wink & wink back gives me some hope they’d reply if I sent the first message."
That’s how they should be used yes. But I think women get so many messages they don’t check winks. Maybe it would he better if you had to wink and wink back before you could message someone , that’s how other apps work you can’t just spam anyone |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat |
"Winks are a great ice breaker and an indication they are interested. If I get a wink back I’ll be more inclined to send a message and take it from there.
I rarely send first messages as they just get lost. So the wink & wink back gives me some hope they’d reply if I sent the first message.
That’s how they should be used yes. But I think women get so many messages they don’t check winks. Maybe it would he better if you had to wink and wink back before you could message someone , that’s how other apps work you can’t just spam anyone "
Couldn't agree more. This would transform the Fab experience for so many |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
For a guy receiving one no absolutely not, it signifies they are interested so you can send a well thought out message referring to profile and send a face pic, if you're lucky they like your look and off you go  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd say they're more useful for women than men due to the dynamics of fab. We receive far less attention on average and are more likely to check / notice them."
Yep, pretty much this. Even if they don't message, it's better they wink as at least it shows some sort of interest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think a wink is pointless made some very sexy lady friends on hear through it one in particular suppose it’s what you make of it
Happy fab Thursday all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think winks are a good idea of showing interest.
But I find that when I've recieved them first, I will reply with a message and get nothing back. Other times I'll just see that their profile is private |
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"What’s the point of composing a message using the context of their profile if it only gets deleted. Id sooner use the wink process and of I get one back start chatting. "
This. I like them personally. The initial message just comes down to ‘I’m interested, want to chat’, and a wink does that more quickly. I like receiving them too. |
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"What’s the point of composing a message using the context of their profile if it only gets deleted. Id sooner use the wink process and of I get one back start chatting.
This. I like them personally. The initial message just comes down to ‘I’m interested, want to chat’, and a wink does that more quickly. I like receiving them too. "
It’s a good point. Though I try (normally fail) to add something clever, the first message is generally just an amalgam of my profile and what, from their profile, I think they want. I really ought to use my time more efficiently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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