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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
Isn’t it annoying ! Its worse than if you don’t find them hot, it’s like a cruel ironic punishment for spending too long in the sweet shop earlier in life.
And why is it we feel so bad excusing ourselves and going home yet for girls thats just normal. The surprised / hurt face you get like you’ve done the worst possible thing in the world to them 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest that’s why I take time to talk to people in advance. Phone calls and video calls. And always a social first.
Physical attraction for me is just part of the jigsaw |
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Anyone who expects yhat all people being met will have 100% mutual compatibility, is being unrealistic. And, even if you have mutual compatibility, the timing of the meeting may not be right.
People in fab with unrealistic expectations are just settling themselves up for disappointment. |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Anyone who expects yhat all people being met will have 100% mutual compatibility, is being unrealistic. And, even if you have mutual compatibility, the timing of the meeting may not be right.
People in fab with unrealistic expectations are just settling themselves up for disappointment. "
I get that but when they are so good looking , fit and one of your dream nationalities you kind of assume it’s a given . What I learned tonight is how language barriers can just kill all the chemistry |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"At least you didn't just carry on and pretend you liked them just to get sex.
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Indeed. Better to find out sooner that you are not compatible than later on when one of you then feels used! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At least you didn't just carry on and pretend you liked them just to get sex.
Indeed. Better to find out sooner that you are not compatible than later on when one of you then feels used!"
Yep!! |
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"Anyone who expects yhat all people being met will have 100% mutual compatibility, is being unrealistic. And, even if you have mutual compatibility, the timing of the meeting may not be right.
People in fab with unrealistic expectations are just settling themselves up for disappointment.
I get that but when they are so good looking , fit and one of your dream nationalities you kind of assume it’s a given . What I learned tonight is how language barriers can just kill all the chemistry "
You mean there's more to attraction than just looks, body and nationality? Who knew |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Anyone who expects yhat all people being met will have 100% mutual compatibility, is being unrealistic. And, even if you have mutual compatibility, the timing of the meeting may not be right.
People in fab with unrealistic expectations are just settling themselves up for disappointment.
I get that but when they are so good looking , fit and one of your dream nationalities you kind of assume it’s a given . What I learned tonight is how language barriers can just kill all the chemistry
You mean there's more to attraction than just looks, body and nationality? Who knew "
Often there isn’t , I’ve seen people fucking people at parties they haven’t even seen each other face or spoken but they seem to enjoy it |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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Could have been worse, could have been sexual chemistry and the sex could have been shit, but I know what you mean, good chats and on sit down you're nodding off or looking for an exit after 5 minutes. |
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"Isn’t it annoying ! Its worse than if you don’t find them hot, it’s like a cruel ironic punishment for spending too long in the sweet shop earlier in life.
And why is it we feel so bad excusing ourselves and going home yet for girls thats just normal. The surprised / hurt face you get like you’ve done the worst possible thing in the world to them
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Tbh I find that a pretty rare occurrence. If there’s a mutual physical attraction I’ve tended to find there’s good chemistry too.
The only exception had been with guys who are attractive but have very little personality. Now I’ve been around for donkeys years I tend to be able to tell at the messaging stage if they don’t have enough about them to keep me entertained in between bouts of jiggy jiggy!  |
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"Isn’t it annoying ! Its worse than if you don’t find them hot, it’s like a cruel ironic punishment for spending too long in the sweet shop earlier in life.
And why is it we feel so bad excusing ourselves and going home yet for girls that's just normal. The surprised / hurt face you get like you’ve done the worst possible thing in the world to them
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This is exactly why I ask for a social with no expectations; if there's no fireworks over a coffee, there won't be any in a bedroom either.
I know what you mean about telling them you won't be looking to take things further though......  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone who expects yhat all people being met will have 100% mutual compatibility, is being unrealistic. And, even if you have mutual compatibility, the timing of the meeting may not be right.
People in fab with unrealistic expectations are just settling themselves up for disappointment.
I get that but when they are so good looking , fit and one of your dream nationalities you kind of assume it’s a given . What I learned tonight is how language barriers can just kill all the chemistry "
Oh the ol' language and cultural barriers. Can make the best joke have you looking like a pleb  |
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"I'll chat here for a while, then move to kik/WhatsApp. If I feel there's not much effort being put into chatting, then I end it there."
I'm the same; first 'Lol x' reply I get, and I'm out of there  |
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"Isn’t it annoying ! Its worse than if you don’t find them hot, it’s like a cruel ironic punishment for spending too long in the sweet shop earlier in life.
And why is it we feel so bad excusing ourselves and going home yet for girls that's just normal. The surprised / hurt face you get like you’ve done the worst possible thing in the world to them
This is exactly why I ask for a social with no expectations; if there's no fireworks over a coffee, there won't be any in a bedroom either.
I know what you mean about telling them you won't be looking to take things further though...... "
Yeah me too.. even if you've made it clear it's a social only, you still have to break it to them. It always makes me feel bad, I don't like to hurt peoples feelings No matter how 'nice' you are about it, it has to sting  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ahhhh it's not easy to let someone know you dont want to take it further. Good on you though for being honest and not just going through with it just for the sake of it.
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"Ahhhh it's not easy to let someone know you dont want to take it further. Good on you though for being honest and not just going through with it just for the sake of it.
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This is why group socials are great ...you can see if you really fancy someone or a special kind of woman. Maybe steal a kiss and then know for sure that there is chemistry  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ahhhh it's not easy to let someone know you dont want to take it further. Good on you though for being honest and not just going through with it just for the sake of it.
This is why group socials are great ...you can see if you really fancy someone or a special kind of woman. Maybe steal a kiss and then know for sure that there is chemistry "
My thoughts exactly  |
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"Ahhhh it's not easy to let someone know you dont want to take it further. Good on you though for being honest and not just going through with it just for the sake of it.
This is why group socials are great ...you can see if you really fancy someone or a special kind of woman. Maybe steal a kiss and then know for sure that there is chemistry
My thoughts exactly "
Great minds Ruby x |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Ahhhh it's not easy to let someone know you dont want to take it further. Good on you though for being honest and not just going through with it just for the sake of it.
This is why group socials are great ...you can see if you really fancy someone or a special kind of woman. Maybe steal a kiss and then know for sure that there is chemistry
My thoughts exactly
Great minds Ruby x"
Just hijack my thread and flirt , it’s fine really 
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I treat the social as just a social, chatting and coffee but I don’t talk about whether or not I would like to take things further.
It’s fine to say there’s no chemistry. Did you finish your drink first?  |
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"Ahhhh it's not easy to let someone know you dont want to take it further. Good on you though for being honest and not just going through with it just for the sake of it.
This is why group socials are great ...you can see if you really fancy someone or a special kind of woman. Maybe steal a kiss and then know for sure that there is chemistry "
Group socials are a great idea, especially if there’s one local to you, where you could potentially make some meaningful connections |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Ahhhh it's not easy to let someone know you dont want to take it further. Good on you though for being honest and not just going through with it just for the sake of it.
This is why group socials are great ...you can see if you really fancy someone or a special kind of woman. Maybe steal a kiss and then know for sure that there is chemistry
Group socials are a great idea, especially if there’s one local to you, where you could potentially make some meaningful connections "
Ah yes Mr HN, maybe you should try some group socials - you might end up making meaningful connections. There are a couple not too far from you.
That aside, you shouldn't feel bad for going home. You weren't feeling it, that's reason enough. People can be on the same date but two completely different dates. Hope you're feeling better this morning. |
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"Isn’t it annoying ! Its worse than if you don’t find them hot, it’s like a cruel ironic punishment for spending too long in the sweet shop earlier in life.
And why is it we feel so bad excusing ourselves and going home yet for girls thats just normal. The surprised / hurt face you get like you’ve done the worst possible thing in the world to them
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Out of sight out of my mind is how I see things. Better to be blunt to point if it’s not for you and not waste anymore time for you or them
They will get over it op , if that’s the biggest problem they have in life well they are doing well. I wouldn’t worry about it as they get over it fast enough  |
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