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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi y'all
So I need some  writing advice as my messages to fab hot women seem to be falling flat.. maybe I could ask the sexy fab hive mind for essential feedback? eg
1) what kind of written message do single fabby horny women like to get?
2) What do successful white single guys write to fab white or colored single women that gets interest back?
3) What do successful black bulls write to fab single women or couples or cuck couples that gets them into their fab horny wives knickers, blowing on their massive black dicks* and blasting hot jizz all over them indoors, outdoors or in a car up a discrete lane lol?
4) and what about group action? Wife swappers and doggers?
5) Is it just statistics and a question of hammering out approaches? Apparently rl dating is a statistical exercise of approaching people but in dodgy times here we all are online..
*apologies in advance for any stereotyping here
Feedback appreciated
cheers y'all
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh dear, another one who thinks there's some secret formula or magic bullet and that it's all about the message. 
The very first thing anyone you message is going to do is check out your profile.
If they don't find you attractive, or find you appealing then they won't bother even reading your message, so it's going to make little difference as they'll have likely already made their decision about you.
And, as the majority browse the site in  mode, you won't even know they've taken a peek.
Just be yourself. But don't fall into the trap of thinking that you're having a live conversation - as so many on here seem to operate.
Think of it as writing a letter.
Just consider that you'll likely only appeal to a select few
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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its kewl lol, the piccy was intended for ladies, it was one I took b4 going shopping in lockdown one time. Not into masks unless a lady asks, there are ones without inside and ones without underpants as well for ladyfriends/fiends too heh
"I mean, don't be a hater here, but...your profile pic for starters..."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I mean, don't be a hater here, but...your profile pic for starters...
Is awesome!"
I 2nd this.
And bud stop trying to please everyone.
Send a message that suits you and that makes sense for the person your messaging if they like it great. If not at least your being yourself |
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"its kewl lol, the piccy was intended for ladies, it was one I took b4 going shopping in lockdown one time. Not into masks unless a lady asks, there are ones without inside and ones without underpants as well for ladyfriends/fiends too heh
I mean, don't be a hater here, but...your profile pic for starters... "
As a woman I wouldn’t bother looking at your profile *because* of the photo.
Each to their own, but it’s not something that’s appealing when I’m looking for someone to have sex with. I can’t be the only one.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I mean, don't be a hater here, but...your profile pic for starters...
Is awesome!
I 2nd this.
And bud stop trying to please everyone.
Send a message that suits you and that makes sense for the person your messaging if they like it great. If not at least your being yourself "
Exactly, why are guys always intent on kissing up to women. Be yourself, have pictures that express who you are, if they don't like you, fuck em.
Well, obviously not literally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe not refer to black women as 'coloured'?
Its not the 1970's.
Biggest red flag of them all on his profile. Gross. "
You mean 'Massa' or 'Race Play'?
Im confused why someone wanting advice on how to compose a message for more success, wants to know what messages Black Bulls send to couples/cuckolds.? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe not refer to black women as 'coloured'?
Its not the 1970's.
Biggest red flag of them all on his profile. Gross.
You mean 'Massa' or 'Race Play'?
Im confused why someone wanting advice on how to compose a message for more success, wants to know what messages Black Bulls send to couples/cuckolds.? "
Yeah sorry that's what I mean, people were commenting about his pics and they were the least concerning part for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"‘Eee by gum woman! I dearly wants to fook thee!’ - invariably works for me. (In getting me instantly blocked)  "
Never fails to loosen my knicker elastic. And not from giggling either  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe not refer to black women as 'coloured'?
Its not the 1970's.
Biggest red flag of them all on his profile. Gross.
You mean 'Massa' or 'Race Play'?
Im confused why someone wanting advice on how to compose a message for more success, wants to know what messages Black Bulls send to couples/cuckolds.?
Yeah sorry that's what I mean, people were commenting about his pics and they were the least concerning part for me."
No, i got what you meant after i actually took the time to read his...er...interesting profile, and saw those phrases.
Yeah, VERY red flags.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe not refer to black women as 'coloured'?
Its not the 1970's.
Biggest red flag of them all on his profile. Gross.
You mean 'Massa' or 'Race Play'?
Im confused why someone wanting advice on how to compose a message for more success, wants to know what messages Black Bulls send to couples/cuckolds.?
Yeah sorry that's what I mean, people were commenting about his pics and they were the least concerning part for me.
No, i got what you meant after i actually took the time to read his...er...interesting profile, and saw those phrases.
Yeah, VERY red flags.
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He clearly needs a lot of education on why that's so problematic. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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you cant ask others how to write a message to others for the reason that no one knows you and no one knows who your writing to ...
when you joined what did you think the site would be \\\\// you must have known that you'll need to stand out due to the number of men on here and that would involve writing messages ? |
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"Don't feed the...
Seriously folks 
Don't feed the racist? Do you mean people should just let him carry on? Or have I missed your point?"
Why give him oxygen? He started the thread and put a halo emoji at the end as a huge sign that it's a grenade thread but like most of these threads they hit their target every time because people are triggered by words on a screen |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't feed the...
Seriously folks
Don't feed the racist? Do you mean people should just let him carry on? Or have I missed your point?
Why give him oxygen? He started the thread and put a halo emoji at the end as a huge sign that it's a grenade thread but like most of these threads they hit their target every time because people are triggered by words on a screen"
I never knew about the halo emoji thing. I'd rather waste my time calling out a racist than be the type of person to just sit back and let him think it's acceptable. The attitude of "just ignore it" is problematic in itself. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Hi y'all
So I need some writing advice as my messages to fab hot women seem to be falling flat.. maybe I could ask the sexy fab hive mind for essential feedback? eg
1) what kind of written message do single fabby horny women like to get?
2) What do successful white single guys write to fab white or colored single women that gets interest back?
3) What do successful black bulls write to fab single women or couples or cuck couples that gets them into their fab horny wives knickers, blowing on their massive black dicks* and blasting hot jizz all over them indoors, outdoors or in a car up a discrete lane lol?
4) and what about group action? Wife swappers and doggers?
5) Is it just statistics and a question of hammering out approaches? Apparently rl dating is a statistical exercise of approaching people but in dodgy times here we all are online..
*apologies in advance for any stereotyping here
Feedback appreciated
cheers y'all
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Just offer them cash. Works like a charm and cuts out all the bullshit! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi y'all
So I need some writing advice as my messages to fab hot women seem to be falling flat.. maybe I could ask the sexy fab hive mind for essential feedback? eg
1) what kind of written message do single fabby horny women like to get?
2) What do successful white single guys write to fab white or colored single women that gets interest back?
3) What do successful black bulls write to fab single women or couples or cuck couples that gets them into their fab horny wives knickers, blowing on their massive black dicks* and blasting hot jizz all over them indoors, outdoors or in a car up a discrete lane lol?
4) and what about group action? Wife swappers and doggers?
5) Is it just statistics and a question of hammering out approaches? Apparently rl dating is a statistical exercise of approaching people but in dodgy times here we all are online..
*apologies in advance for any stereotyping here
Feedback appreciated
cheers y'all
Just offer them cash. Works like a charm and cuts out all the bullshit! "
On an unrelated topic.... how much cash exactly |
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I'm not quite sure where to start on this one.
I suspect your current status will put some people off - "Write now to play my devils bagpipe thick and fast until your tonsils are rewarded with a creamy load of magician's wax foaming from my fat beef wand!" 
My general advice is to show that you might be able to hold a conversation and have some interesting things to say. I'm not really getting that vibe from you though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I feel your pain, tho I have written sincere stuff without jokes and been blocked instantly as well. Such a waste of my better prose too lol
"‘Eee by gum woman! I dearly wants to fook thee!’ - invariably works for me. (In getting me instantly blocked)
Never fails to loosen my knicker elastic. And not from giggling either
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks I'll look into that and er make some changes. I'm interested in what people say that hits the right note. Diversity is a big thing now and knowing what works for everyone and not causing offense really helps. This feedback is so useful. So sorry about the raceplay reference too, I'll keep that for FL where I discovered it. Thanks y'all..
"Maybe not refer to black women as 'coloured'?
Its not the 1970's.
Biggest red flag of them all on his profile. Gross.
You mean 'Massa' or 'Race Play'?
Im confused why someone wanting advice on how to compose a message for more success, wants to know what messages Black Bulls send to couples/cuckolds.?
Yeah sorry that's what I mean, people were commenting about his pics and they were the least concerning part for me.
No, i got what you meant after i actually took the time to read his...er...interesting profile, and saw those phrases.
Yeah, VERY red flags.
He clearly needs a lot of education on why that's so problematic. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm ok with the writing thank you, everyone gets a unique message based on what they say they like supposedly. So I just like to know how people approach eg making a good connection on the fab site with singles and couples including interracial, as its called er fabswingers.com if you get me and sex can obviously be a sensitive thing. Thanks for your comment
"you cant ask others how to write a message to others for the reason that no one knows you and no one knows who your writing to ...
when you joined what did you think the site would be \\\\// you must have known that you'll need to stand out due to the number of men on here and that would involve writing messages ?"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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It was honestly a sincere attempt to get good advice thank you
"Don't feed the...
Seriously folks
Don't feed the racist? Do you mean people should just let him carry on? Or have I missed your point?
Why give him oxygen? He started the thread and put a halo emoji at the end as a huge sign that it's a grenade thread but like most of these threads they hit their target every time because people are triggered by words on a screen"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for your advice, you were completely right. I just added bits to it over time and will give it a rewrite at some point. I didnt expect a lit crit of what I wrote but its appreciated so thanks so much.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I'm really not a racist as you so casually put it. Raceplay is a real thing and I did not invent it. It works both ways on this site if you have not noticed yet and is perfectly acceptable in a private safe sane and consensual setting or outdoors in a car up a lane on all fours lol. Its not for everyone obv. some folk are really not into interracial and thats fine as well. The halo emoji was just decoration it does not mean anything and the post was def not a troll as someone says lol.
"Don't feed the...
Seriously folks
Don't feed the (deleted by xmas angels)? Do you mean people should just let him carry on? Or have I missed your point?
Why give him oxygen? He started the thread and put a halo emoji at the end as (not) a huge sign that it's a grenade thread but like most of these threads they hit their target every time because people are triggered by words on a screen (making stuff up lol)
I never knew about the halo emoji thing. I'd rather waste my time calling out a (deleted by xmas angels) than be the type of person to just sit back and let him think it's acceptable. The attitude of "just ignore it" is problematic in itself. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Really? Well yes some ladies seem to think the site is a ticket to a free lunch on a blind date but I guess anyone can join and take advantage of guys lol though maybe some guys will trade lunch for company so its up to them really. Obviously there are clubs and events on here that are worth a ticket too. If there is a rule against paypigs and people selling personal services, I have not seen it but nothing wrong with making a living or doing something you enjoy.
"Hi y'all
So I need some writing advice as my messages to fab hot women seem to be falling flat.. maybe I could ask the sexy fab hive mind for essential feedback? eg
1) what kind of written message do single fabby horny women like to get?
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cheers y'all
Just offer them cash. Works like a charm and cuts out all the bullshit! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Look there may be women out there for sure and absolutely do be yourself, but also think about if you may look intimidating, that's all!
If you're not getting replies, they may have checked your profile so that's the first thing to really make nice and warm you know? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Yeah maybe its a wee bit OTT. I stole that status wording from a girl that likes to write porn. It was meant in jest and only meant to get users to look at my profile. I like to joke and obv I am looking for users with a VGSOH to put up with me lol I hope these replies and later adjustments at the backend will improve my vibe rating. maybe a vibe rating could be a site feature. Thanks for your comment, really appreciated.
"I'm not quite sure where to start on this one.
I suspect your current status will put some people off - "Write now to play my devils bagpipe thick and fast until your tonsils are rewarded with a creamy load of magician's wax foaming from my fat beef wand!"
My general advice is to show that you might be able to hold a conversation and have some interesting things to say. I'm not really getting that vibe from you though. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for that, much appreciated x
"Just be you. Always be you.
Some women read messages and profiles and some won't ever, unless it's some brown nosing smoke blowing bullshit.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I intend to but there is a pronoun issue in many arty rl mainstream clubs now. Though tbh as a rock goth metal enjoying dude our scenes are mixed age and tolerant of just about anyone who likes the music. Women coming onto you at these just want to check you are not gay as a first question. Fair enough to avoid wasting time. Gotta say I usually end up chatting to the hot lesbian in the kitchen at parties. I should maybe start by asking if they are gay as well lol
"I've given up. Too much competition. Go to a club instead."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah I get you, will tweak the profile to be me but in another, warm, fuzzy way, full of empathy, care communication, etc, esp if it means more shags lol (That last bit was a joke btw!)
"Look there may be women out there for sure and absolutely do be yourself, but also think about if you may look intimidating, that's all!
If you're not getting replies, they may have checked your profile so that's the first thing to really make nice and warm you know? "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I rarely get the courtesy of a reply either way, instant blocks are slightly more likely but more often messages go unread or are deleted with no reply! But your courtesy and politeness to men etc is noted ..and yes I looked at your profile, the brat word is hot and the tentacle got me curious. Impressed! x
"Usually the first message I write back to someone is 'No thanks.'"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah maybe its a wee bit OTT. I stole that status wording from a girl that likes to write porn. It was meant in jest and only meant to get users to look at my profile. I like to joke and obv I am looking for users with a VGSOH to put up with me lol I hope these replies and later adjustments at the backend will improve my vibe rating. maybe a vibe rating could be a site feature. Thanks for your comment, really appreciated.
I'm not quite sure where to start on this one.
I suspect your current status will put some people off - "Write now to play my devils bagpipe thick and fast until your tonsils are rewarded with a creamy load of magician's wax foaming from my fat beef wand!"
My general advice is to show that you might be able to hold a conversation and have some interesting things to say. I'm not really getting that vibe from you though. "
I thought your status was funny. You seem like you'd be mad chatty and fun to be around. Like attracts like.
Possibly a small catchment group but spread your net wider. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Probably not. Not one male has written to say what worked for them! maybe the whole site and idea of fab is a low overhead fantasy wish fulfillment service for most users. No one writing has said they actually had any sex here at all yet. Live in hope though x
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Thanks for that! You got that it was meant to be funny; I'm usually hanging in some alternative, art, performance, music or other dodgy scene or pub, when there isn't a massive global crisis going on in the background. Add me as a friend anytime, we could have a laugh online maybe. Hugs! x
"Yeah maybe its a wee bit OTT. I stole that status wording from a girl that likes to write porn. It was meant in jest and only meant to get users to look at my profile. I like to joke and obv I am looking for users with a VGSOH to put up with me lol I hope these replies and later adjustments at the backend will improve my vibe rating. maybe a vibe rating could be a site feature. Thanks for your comment, really appreciated.
I'm not quite sure where to start on this one.
I suspect your current status will put some people off - "Write now to play my devils bagpipe thick and fast until your tonsils are rewarded with a creamy load of magician's wax foaming from my fat beef wand!"
My general advice is to show that you might be able to hold a conversation and have some interesting things to say. I'm not really getting that vibe from you though.
I thought your status was funny. You seem like you'd be mad chatty and fun to be around. Like attracts like.
Possibly a small catchment group but spread your net wider. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably not. Not one male has written to say what worked for them! maybe the whole site and idea of fab is a low overhead fantasy wish fulfillment service for most users. No one writing has said they actually had any sex here at all yet. Live in hope though x
I don't think anyone can help you"
I very rarely actually send many messages maby one or two a week, but when I do whats worked for me is simply paying attention to there profile including there current status, make sure they look like they would be a match and make sure I fit their criteria and that they are within a reasonable distance, I'd also possibly check there verifications to see what the guys they have met are like, then Taylor a message for that person making sure they can see you have read through there profile and have payed attention. It's then down to my own profile as before they even consider messaging me back they will most likely be checking it out.
If for any reason you read though there profile and think that you wouldn't click for what ever reason go with your instinct and don't message them, the likelihood is you would be wasting your time, |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Solid advice cheers feller, good luck out there.
"Probably not. Not one male has written to say what worked for them! maybe the whole site and idea of fab is a low overhead fantasy wish fulfillment service for most users. No one writing has said they actually had any sex here at all yet. Live in hope though x
I don't think anyone can help you
I very rarely actually send many messages maby one or two a week, but when I do whats worked for me is simply paying attention to there profile including there current status, make sure they look like they would be a match and make sure... snipped for brevity
...If for any reason you read though there profile and think that you wouldn't click for what ever reason go with your instinct and don't message them, the likelihood is you would be wasting your time,"
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I can tell you exactly what totally turns me off and want to block them: instant sex chat. Desperation messages. Arrogant messages.
What I prefer:
Something to show me they read my message, have good manners, intelligent, humble and is a gentleman. |
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"Probably not. Not one male has written to say what worked for them! maybe the whole site and idea of fab is a low overhead fantasy wish fulfillment service for most users. No one writing has said they actually had any sex here at all yet. Live in hope though x
I don't think anyone can help you
I very rarely actually send many messages maby one or two a week, but when I do whats worked for me is simply paying attention to there profile including there current status, make sure they look like they would be a match and make sure I fit their criteria and that they are within a reasonable distance, I'd also possibly check there verifications to see what the guys they have met are like, then Taylor a message for that person making sure they can see you have read through there profile and have payed attention. It's then down to my own profile as before they even consider messaging me back they will most likely be checking it out.
If for any reason you read though there profile and think that you wouldn't click for what ever reason go with your instinct and don't message them, the likelihood is you would be wasting your time,"
I wish I got a £ for every message who definitely didn't read my profile, I be richer than Bill Gates  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Solid advice here as well, thanks you are a sport!
"I can tell you exactly what totally turns me off and want to block them: instant sex chat. Desperation messages. Arrogant messages.
What I prefer:
Something to show me they read my message, have good manners, intelligent, humble and is a gentleman."
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"***Thanks for that! You got that it was meant to be funny; I'm usually hanging in some alternative, art, performance, music or other dodgy scene or pub, when there isn't a massive global crisis going on in the background. Add me as a friend anytime, we could have a laugh online maybe. Hugs! x ***
Yeah maybe its a wee bit OTT. I stole that status wording from a girl that likes to write porn. It was meant in jest and only meant to get users to look at my profile. I like to joke and obv I am looking for users with a VGSOH to put up with me lol I hope these replies and later adjustments at the backend will improve my vibe rating. maybe a vibe rating could be a site feature. Thanks for your comment, really appreciated.
I'm not quite sure where to start on this one.
I suspect your current status will put some people off - "Write now to play my devils bagpipe thick and fast until your tonsils are rewarded with a creamy load of magician's wax foaming from my fat beef wand!"
My general advice is to show that you might be able to hold a conversation and have some interesting things to say. I'm not really getting that vibe from you though.
I thought your status was funny. You seem like you'd be mad chatty and fun to be around. Like attracts like.
Possibly a small catchment group but spread your net wider. "
*** (Sorry it confuses me that you reply at the top of a post and not the bottom) 
Yep I figured you were that type of guy from your profile. It's cool.
You might like social events, can be easier than chatting online. Body language, smiling, laughing, all make a difference I think. |
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"Definitely most men think it's instant fulfillment coming on fab. They should just stick to wanking infront of their computer screen at porn."
But not send a vid of them wanking to porn with their first message? Just checking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t tend to write first messages
But if you do then just be yourself perhaps say why you are messaging and introduce yourself, short and sweet "
I’m the opposite of this, I’d try to be somebody else because I’m a dickhead |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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OMG my conservative party councillor! Nice to see you like to get around your constituents and are not a total quockerwodger like all the other tory politicians lol
"Hey I recognise you …..!
No. Do not do this.
I would recognise your smile anywhere "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Friend request incoming if that's ok x
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*** (Sorry it confuses me that you reply at the top of a post and not the bottom)
Yep I figured you were that type of guy from your profile. It's cool.
You might like social events, can be easier than chatting online. Body language, smiling, laughing, all make a difference I think. "
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