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By *ingpong OP Man
over a year ago
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Why don't women simply delete messages if you're not interested, I send messages, I ask them to let me know if they're interested or not, they've clearly read it, they're clearly not interested, I get that you girls get bombarded with messages on a daily basis and probably struggle to keep up, I also get that you can't reply to everyone, but the delete button takes a nanosecond, surely it would be quicker and easier, I'd get the message that you're not interested and I wouldn't message you again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe they’re keeping you as a fall back fuck? Or hoping that you see they’ve read it and not deleted in the hope that you message them again, they love that I’ve heard |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because they can do what ever it is they want with there received messages, just like me or you can, it's there choice and no one has the right to tell them what to do with them |
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"Maybe they’re keeping you as a fall back fuck? Or hoping that you see they’ve read it and not deleted in the hope that you message them again, they love that I’ve heard"
I've heard that women don't delete messages so they can go Mwahhhhhhhahahahahahaahaaaaaaa he keeps looking. I have the power in my beauty.....
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By *ingpong OP Man
over a year ago
Wallsend |
I don't, but I've got read messages in my outbox and still uncertain whether they're interested, if the delete or reply then I'll know and can delete from my end.
Your response doesn't answer the question |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because they come in faster than I can delete individually
Bloody fast cummers...
Story of my life  "
Maybe make some horrific bear growls next time during? See how that works out? Just...not for me please yeah? Danke!  |
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"If they're not interested, then yes, then I'll know they aren't interested, it's not rocket science "
I don't want to be argumentative but you say in your first post that you know they're clearly not interested. I get that it's annoying that your message isn't deleted but lots of men complain that there messages*are* deleted, there doesn't seem to be a way of dealing with it that keeps everyone happy. Hence my suggestion that you delete your sent message as a way of alleviating your annoyance  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't, but I've got read messages in my outbox and still uncertain whether they're interested, if the delete or reply then I'll know and can delete from my end.
Your response doesn't answer the question "
If they reply they might be interested if they don't then maybe there not, weather they delete the messages, leave them on unread or read them and do nothing with them is irrelevant |
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"If they're not interested, then yes, then I'll know they aren't interested, it's not rocket science
I don't want to be argumentative but you say in your first post that you know they're clearly not interested. I get that it's annoying that your message isn't deleted but lots of men complain that there messages*are* deleted, there doesn't seem to be a way of dealing with it that keeps everyone happy. Hence my suggestion that you delete your sent message as a way of alleviating your annoyance "
Yep damned if you do, damned if you don't! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they have never replied or acknowledged it after reading, wait for them to.
Some people on here get arsey about follow up messages even if you've messaged them back and forth 50 times before. Which I think is ridiculous but that's some people on here! So for 'success' at least, don't write more than one message in a row
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"I think they just like to keep people hanging on"
I’d say the fact they don’t send a reply after reading them tells you all you need to know anyway, take care of your own admin, you can also just delete and block, as you say it’s not rocket science |
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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago
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"Why don't women simply delete messages if you're not interested, I send messages, I ask them to let me know if they're interested or not, they've clearly read it, they're clearly not interested, I get that you girls get bombarded with messages on a daily basis and probably struggle to keep up, I also get that you can't reply to everyone, but the delete button takes a nanosecond, surely it would be quicker and easier, I'd get the message that you're not interested and I wouldn't message you again."
In case you message again so she can get angry.. if your lucky, you'll get blocked! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't send more than one message, but if I did they'd complain they get spammed, if they delete it I'll know they're not interested "
They're not interested enough to react either way unfortunately |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't send more than one message, but if I did they'd complain they get spammed, if they delete it I'll know they're not interested "
But they're not interested because they haven't replied.
Either way, they can just block you anyway if you get on their tits! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't send more than one message, but if I did they'd complain they get spammed, if they delete it I'll know they're not interested "
Surely by them not replying you should know they’re not interested |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
MADERIA Wherever I lay my hat |
"Because they come in faster than I can delete individually
Bloody fast cummers...
Story of my life
Maybe make some horrific bear growls next time during? See how that works out? Just...not for me please yeah? Danke! "
I'm a bit throaty ATM so that is currently the HC standard offer. Close your eyes and you would think you were fucking Barry White  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because they come in faster than I can delete individually
Bloody fast cummers...
Story of my life
Maybe make some horrific bear growls next time during? See how that works out? Just...not for me please yeah? Danke!
I'm a bit throaty ATM so that is currently the HC standard offer. Close your eyes and you would think you were fucking Barry White "
Well at least it would be romantic I guess... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not if they were going to reply later"
...what's the issue? You said earlier they should delete now you're saying they might reply later. Let it go, stop torturing yourself. Delete your sent msgs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't, but I've got read messages in my outbox and still uncertain whether they're interested, if the delete or reply then I'll know and can delete from my end.
Your response doesn't answer the question "
They’re definitely not interested. They’d reply if they were. Delete all your sent items. |
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I usually delete any messages without a profile pic, pic attached or bio straight away without even reading it. Then I have every intention of looking over the rest, only to log in, go to the forums and get caught up in conversation here. It’s very hard to keep on top of everything. I suspect that’s the cast for most ladies!
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By *.T.Man
over a year ago
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Why even look at your sent emails?
If you sent them a letter via Royal Mail, you wouldn't know if it had been opened, read, used as a firelighter etc.
People use fab how they want to. No point in stressing about it... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We thought from a similar thread that no reply means "no thanks"?
That surely is preferable to being blocked but if that saves having to reply to dozens of not suitable (which does often invite abuse!)we shall now just block on those we don't match! |
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"I think they just like to keep people hanging on"
Just delete your sent box your end, or don't check your sent box. If uou get a reply at a later date you get a reply, if you don't you don't.
It ain't about keeping people hanging on like some kind of gingerbread trail or mind game, most of the time it's simply a case of "can't be fucking arsed coz it really isn't important, and anyone placing importance on it has their mindset wonky"
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"Why don't women simply delete messages if you're not interested, I send messages, I ask them to let me know if they're interested or not, they've clearly read it, they're clearly not interested, I get that you girls get bombarded with messages on a daily basis and probably struggle to keep up, I also get that you can't reply to everyone, but the delete button takes a nanosecond, surely it would be quicker and easier, I'd get the message that you're not interested and I wouldn't message you again."
Get over yourself dude |
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"Not if they were going to reply later"
Deleting from your sent box doesn't delete the message from their inbox.
Do yourself a service and either steer clear of your sent box or delete sent messages. |
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"Why don't women simply delete messages if you're not interested, I send messages, I ask them to let me know if they're interested or not, they've clearly read it, they're clearly not interested, I get that you girls get bombarded with messages on a daily basis and probably struggle to keep up, I also get that you can't reply to everyone, but the delete button takes a nanosecond, surely it would be quicker and easier, I'd get the message that you're not interested and I wouldn't message you again."
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"I don't, but I've got read messages in my outbox and still uncertain whether they're interested, if the delete or reply then I'll know and can delete from my end.
Your response doesn't answer the question "
They don't delete because they don't want to.
Why do you not delete your sent messages?
If they were interested they would reply.
Just delete at your end instead of stressing yourself out watching your sent messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They haven't said they're nit interested, they've read it but haven't replied
Site rules state no reply=no thanks. If they haven't replied they are obviously not interested. "
But how can he know unless they reply to say so, delete the message, delete their account and then leave the country. Vauge ass women |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why don't women simply delete messages if you're not interested, I send messages, I ask them to let me know if they're interested or not, they've clearly read it, they're clearly not interested, I get that you girls get bombarded with messages on a daily basis and probably struggle to keep up, I also get that you can't reply to everyone, but the delete button takes a nanosecond, surely it would be quicker and easier, I'd get the message that you're not interested and I wouldn't message you again."
I read this a lot OP, I am sure you have seen many post of this kind and also the replies.
OP single men are seen as bottom feeders pond life, the bottom of the barrel.
On reading that post many moons ago now, I realised that if I reversed my position and it was single men in demand, how would I act if I received more messages that I could read.
Would I be up my own arse?
If I owned a club, would I charge single men extra , because I know their looking for easy sex?
Would I feel entitled because couples and single women pay more to see single guys?
Would I become fussy because I have a large pool of paying people who are searching for others like me?
OP stand back and observe the forum it's all there the answers to all your questions and why.
But because you posted this thread I feel you already know the answer.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP single men are seen as bottom feeders pond life, the bottom of the barrel..
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Speak for yourself I'm a fucking Rockstar.
I don't get treated like setting at the bottom of a barrell because I dont act like something at the bottom of a barrel (like clicking into send mails constantly to see if someone is paying attention to me)
And if someone acts that way I write them off, not their whole gender
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OP single men are seen as bottom feeders pond life, the bottom of the barrel..
Speak for yourself I'm a fucking Rockstar.
I don't get treated like setting at the bottom of a barrell because I dont act like something at the bottom of a barrel (like clicking into send mails constantly to see if someone is paying attention to me)
And if someone acts that way I write them off, not their whole gender
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Fucking bottom feeders *sigh*
I agree with your post completely.
There are plenty of blokes on here who act like bottom feeders, that cannot be denied. Treating others as human beings rather than holes to be filled usually clears the murky water. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're working from the bottom up and delete an individual message it takes you right back to the top again so you lose your place. It's maybe just their system, open them all in order then bulk delete later. Or there is no system and it really doesn't matter anyway, as you said yourself they've read it and not replied so that speaks for itself. Can see why it sucks but whatcha gonna do  ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do some men watch their sent box... Stop fucking torturing yourself over other people's actions! "
Exactly what I do when I message people first
Its pure torture other wise  |
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I don’t delete messages because I use them for reference, I reply to all messages eg “sorry not interested “etc, I often get exactly the same messages and pictures sent time and time again obviously can’t remember messaging me previously? The reply I give is the same as it was when you messaged previously, often they get abusive and hopefully they block me (which is good because I have no interest in them anyway) |
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"Why do some men watch their sent box... Stop fucking torturing yourself over other people's actions! "
It's that moment of humour/dread when you've got an unread message, knowing someone's kicking off  |
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"I don’t delete messages because I use them for reference, I reply to all messages eg “sorry not interested “etc, I often get exactly the same messages and pictures sent time and time again obviously can’t remember messaging me previously? The reply I give is the same as it was when you messaged previously, often they get abusive and hopefully they block me (which is good because I have no interest in them anyway)"
Oh this is so annoying. It always makes me think, they were interested enough to message twice but not interested enough to remember who we are...x |
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Because maybes it’s up to them what they do with their own messages 
I delete most of mine (a lot of them without opening), but occasionally I’ll read a message and then forget to delete it because all manner of other things takes priority… tasks at work, cooking dinner, getting a phone call etc etc
If they don’t reply, they’re not interested. End of |
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"They haven't said they're nit interested, they've read it but haven't replied
Site rules state no reply=no thanks. If they haven't replied they are obviously not interested.
But how can he know unless they reply to say so, delete the message, delete their account and then leave the country. Vauge ass women"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well it wouldn't be anything that is worthy of "can you believe what was sent" and all of my messages are respectful "
Dude. Women rule here. And they have lives.
A song from 'Frozen' comes to mind. |
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"Well it wouldn't be anything that is worthy of "can you believe what was sent" and all of my messages are respectful
Dude. Women rule here. And they have lives.
A song from 'Frozen' comes to mind."
Hahaha |
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Damned if we do, damned if we don't.... what's a girl to do??
Why don't men send and then immediately delete? That way they can't obsess over which of their messages have been sent, read and deleted, and they get a lovely surprise when they get a reply! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you've got nothing constructive to say, don't say anything, I posted in a forum to raise a point, not to receive crap like this"
You need to hit reply and quote so people know who you’re responding to, I think the point most women have made though is that just because you message doesn’t mean they need to reply or delete it, it’s their account, but take the lack of reply as a no and move on |
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"If you've got nothing constructive to say, don't say anything, I posted in a forum to raise a point, not to receive crap like this"
And a number of us have replied to your question.
We don't need to reply or delete just because it would be easier for you.
No reply means not interested, it really is that simple. |
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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago
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"If you've got nothing constructive to say, don't say anything, I posted in a forum to raise a point, not to receive crap like this"
Marra. Howay. What did you really expect to happen |
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Simple fix here OP:
1. Send your message.
2. Head to your sent messages, and delete the one you just sent.
3. That's it. Now you've got nothing to check up on and get annoyed about. Just assume they're deleted unless you get a response.
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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I can speak for myself not all women & I do delete them ,many without even reading.
Op why not delete them from your outbox once sent ,then you won't know and if you get a reply ,it's all good.
Maybe some just bulk delete at times ,or forget ,who knows ,try not to worry about what others do you can't control it .
Take anything but a reply as a no thanks - & your time on fab will be less stressful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you've got nothing constructive to say, don't say anything, I posted in a forum to raise a point, not to receive crap like this"
As an aside, is that a photo of you fucking a chair on your profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you've got nothing constructive to say, don't say anything, I posted in a forum to raise a point, not to receive crap like this
As an aside, is that a photo of you fucking a chair on your profile? "
Do you not fuck your chairs? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've always assumed if you do not reply you are not interested but do delete the messages.
The problem i have found is if you reply saying no thank you, a lot of single guys take it that you have now engaged with them so thats a green light for chatting.
We just don't have the time to chat with everyone and it does wear you down in the end  |
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"Why don't women simply delete messages if you're not interested, I send messages, I ask them to let me know if they're interested or not, they've clearly read it, they're clearly not interested, I get that you girls get bombarded with messages on a daily basis and probably struggle to keep up, I also get that you can't reply to everyone, but the delete button takes a nanosecond, surely it would be quicker and easier, I'd get the message that you're not interested and I wouldn't message you again."
if they didn't reply to the first message there is your answer ... dont make up stuff in your head that a no reply no delete means they are interested lol
just delete your sent. box after sending the message and move on . if you et a reply then a winner , if not then no matter , |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There could be any number of reasons - and only they will know why they haven't deleted it.
I shouldn't worry about it though OP.
If they're interested, they'll reply.
And that's all you need to know.
They might be keeping it in their inbox because they could perhaps be considering you as a possible for the future.
Or, they might view it as an ego boost and so keep it to look at every now and then.
They might keep it in their inbox as a reminder that you've messaged them - in the same way that not everyone uses the hotlist for the same purposes. |
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"Speaking on behalf of all women, we do it on purpose because we love these threads.
We agreed it at the last meeting.
I attended this meeting and confirm this to be entirely true "
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I would like to see the Minutes to this meeting please, in addition to any AOB items on the agenda. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I delete messages if I'm not interested
I never used to though but sending a polite no often meant getting an abusive reply so it's less grief just deleting |
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"Speaking on behalf of all women, we do it on purpose because we love these threads.
We agreed it at the last meeting.
I attended this meeting and confirm this to be entirely true
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I would like to see the Minutes to this meeting please, in addition to any AOB items on the agenda."
Yes of course. They will be published in the proper manner via the forums. The post will be titled “how many more of these bloody threads are we going to get”
Hope that provides clarity |
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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago
Stafford |
I like to save up all my messages to bulk delete. But I have to pull out a "delete" from a hat, but there's also "don't delete" in there too.
The hat decides most of the time don't delete.
The hat gets what the hat wants |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It looks like a long con,
The lure is the promise of sex.
The let down is when the messages do not get answered.
The hope is going to the forums in search of answers.
The hook is " ho go to a club"
The sting, go to club pay the membership fee, towel fee (depends on club) locker fee and entry fee, 80 pounds.
The mark enters the club, finds no one attractive, is treated like the wanking dead, sits in corner knowing that the money they paid is gone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Speaking on behalf of all women, we do it on purpose because we love these threads.
We agreed it at the last meeting.
I attended this meeting and confirm this to be entirely true "
Why was there a high cleaning bill for towels? |
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"Why don't women simply delete messages if you're not interested, I send messages, I ask them to let me know if they're interested or not, they've clearly read it, they're clearly not interested, I get that you girls get bombarded with messages on a daily basis and probably struggle to keep up, I also get that you can't reply to everyone, but the delete button takes a nanosecond, surely it would be quicker and easier, I'd get the message that you're not interested and I wouldn't message you again."
I always read and delete without answering if I'm not interested. After them sending about 5 more unanswered messages I block them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not very popular in real life. Most men consider me a little chubby rat. So I like to keep the thousands of messages I get to remind me how worthy I am. I pick a new one to read every 5 minutes to boost my confidence. I leave them there so I have a lifetime supply of confidence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not very popular in real life. Most men consider me a little chubby rat. So I like to keep the thousands of messages I get to remind me how worthy I am. I pick a new one to read every 5 minutes to boost my confidence. I leave them there so I have a lifetime supply of confidence. "
ooh pick me!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not very popular in real life. Most men consider me a little chubby rat. So I like to keep the thousands of messages I get to remind me how worthy I am. I pick a new one to read every 5 minutes to boost my confidence. I leave them there so I have a lifetime supply of confidence. "
To be fair, I send about 900 of those. |
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There's a bigger picture than just beyond fab messages here. Much wider that that I feel.
Anecdotally, I have noticed a gender split in email/messaging retention between men and women.
Women will tend to keep more, going back to goodness knows when. More often their mailbox sizes will need increasing or they have to go on a dedicated purge.
Men tend to keep less, and delete as they go.
I say anecdotally, as both me as Mrs DS prove the exception to the rule.
Her non-fab email inbox is empty. Nada.
Zilch.
Mine has 32K items in it, going back over a decade at least.
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By *.T.Man
over a year ago
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what worries me the most is some people who believe that any action is an expression of interest up to the point where someone has to say, "sorry, I'm not interested"
fab a pic? gagging for it.
Send a wink? ready to fuck now.
Don't delete a message? Must be saving it to reply at their convenience.
Replied to my email? jumping in the car already
And conversely...
Didn't accept unsolicited friend request? stuck up whore
Deleted message? munter
etc etc
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"what worries me the most is some people who believe that any action is an expression of interest up to the point where someone has to say, "sorry, I'm not interested"
fab a pic? gagging for it.
Send a wink? ready to fuck now.
Don't delete a message? Must be saving it to reply at their convenience.
Replied to my email? jumping in the car already
And conversely...
Didn't accept unsolicited friend request? stuck up whore
Deleted message? munter
etc etc"
Exactly this! Why do some need to be told point blank - ‘I’m not interested, so leave me alone!’
Even when I delete messages, I still get ‘thought I’d try my luck one more time’ or ‘just in case you missed my last message’ - NO! I deleted it for a reason. If I was interested, I would reply.
Why do some have to be rejected multiple times before they’ll take the hint?
Why do some think they’d have more of a chance on Fab than in real life when you wouldn’t touch them with a ten foot pole?
That’s my rant for the morning! Have a blessed Monday everyone  |
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"what worries me the most is some people who believe that any action is an expression of interest up to the point where someone has to say, "sorry, I'm not interested"
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I think this is at the heart of why so many people find fab so frustrating and confusing. They assume the interest of the other person is a given simply because of the type of site it is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"what worries me the most is some people who believe that any action is an expression of interest up to the point where someone has to say, "sorry, I'm not interested"
fab a pic? gagging for it.
Send a wink? ready to fuck now.
Don't delete a message? Must be saving it to reply at their convenience.
Replied to my email? jumping in the car already
And conversely...
Didn't accept unsolicited friend request? stuck up whore
Deleted message? munter
etc etc
Exactly this! Why do some need to be told point blank - ‘I’m not interested, so leave me alone!’
Even when I delete messages, I still get ‘thought I’d try my luck one more time’ or ‘just in case you missed my last message’ - NO! I deleted it for a reason. If I was interested, I would reply.
Why do some have to be rejected multiple times before they’ll take the hint?
Why do some think they’d have more of a chance on Fab than in real life when you wouldn’t touch them with a ten foot pole?
That’s my rant for the morning! Have a blessed Monday everyone "
good rant, although I'm going to flip it.
I know that some people just can't be bothered to go through 100s of old messages, so just look at the more recent ones. There's a chance then my message has been missed, even if I am you're type. Without going over sent messages, I don't know if it's been read, deleted or just missed. This is where fabs no reply equal no thank you falls down. Even if I know it's deleted that doesn't always tell me I'm rejected. People bulk delete. Those who say "in case you missed it" may be genuine. They may not know you deleted it.
They may not also know you "wouldn't touch them" irl. I get fab and internet dating makes it easier to "approach" so you all get a load of fabmin.... But we can't mind read your type. And I'd hate to think someone looked at my profile and thought they were so beneath me I'd not touch them with a ten foot barge pole. That lack of self esteem must be horrible. Sure, some people aren't my type, but that hirachal hal phrase puts shudders into me.
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Just accept it. If I send a message to someone I haven't chatted with and it's not read in a week, I delete it. People I have chatted with get two weeks.. |
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I don't always know if I'm interested in that moment I receive a message. Sometimes my attention span has jetted off into the cosmos and I'm just not capable of reliable, ongoing communication.
Also worth pointing out that for many women, our sex drives are much more cyclical than men are, so at one point in the month we might see a message and think "eurgh a cock" yet a couple of weeks later be sent completely giddy by the same message. Sometimes it's just "not now" rather than "not ever". |
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"I don't always know if I'm interested in that moment I receive a message. Sometimes my attention span has jetted off into the cosmos and I'm just not capable of reliable, ongoing communication.
Also worth pointing out that for many women, our sex drives are much more cyclical than men are, so at one point in the month we might see a message and think "eurgh a cock" yet a couple of weeks later be sent completely giddy by the same message. Sometimes it's just "not now" rather than "not ever"."
gents, this does not mean send a dick pic once a week for a month to hit her cycle ! I've copywrited that hack .... |
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"what worries me the most is some people who believe that any action is an expression of interest up to the point where someone has to say, "sorry, I'm not interested"
I think this is at the heart of why so many people find fab so frustrating and confusing. They assume the interest of the other person is a given simply because of the type of site it is. "
Very wise words 
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"what worries me the most is some people who believe that any action is an expression of interest up to the point where someone has to say, "sorry, I'm not interested"
fab a pic? gagging for it.
Send a wink? ready to fuck now.
Don't delete a message? Must be saving it to reply at their convenience.
Replied to my email? jumping in the car already
And conversely...
Didn't accept unsolicited friend request? stuck up whore
Deleted message? munter
etc etc
Exactly this! Why do some need to be told point blank - ‘I’m not interested, so leave me alone!’
Even when I delete messages, I still get ‘thought I’d try my luck one more time’ or ‘just in case you missed my last message’ - NO! I deleted it for a reason. If I was interested, I would reply.
Why do some have to be rejected multiple times before they’ll take the hint?
Why do some think they’d have more of a chance on Fab than in real life when you wouldn’t touch them with a ten foot pole?
That’s my rant for the morning! Have a blessed Monday everyone good rant, although I'm going to flip it.
I know that some people just can't be bothered to go through 100s of old messages, so just look at the more recent ones. There's a chance then my message has been missed, even if I am you're type. Without going over sent messages, I don't know if it's been read, deleted or just missed. This is where fabs no reply equal no thank you falls down. Even if I know it's deleted that doesn't always tell me I'm rejected. People bulk delete. Those who say "in case you missed it" may be genuine. They may not know you deleted it.
They may not also know you "wouldn't touch them" irl. I get fab and internet dating makes it easier to "approach" so you all get a load of fabmin.... But we can't mind read your type. And I'd hate to think someone looked at my profile and thought they were so beneath me I'd not touch them with a ten foot barge pole. That lack of self esteem must be horrible. Sure, some people aren't my type, but that hirachal hal phrase puts shudders into me.
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Personally, I don’t bulk delete messages, so any I delete, it’s because I’m not interested.
Also, if someone sending a message had read my bio, they’d have a pretty good idea if they may be my type or not as it is pretty specific. So when I get messages from guys that have no resemblance to what I’ve said I’m looking for whatsoever, it just shows that they either haven’t bothered to read my bio, or read it and then thought they’d ignore it and message anyways |
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"what worries me the most is some people who believe that any action is an expression of interest up to the point where someone has to say, "sorry, I'm not interested"
fab a pic? gagging for it.
Send a wink? ready to fuck now.
Don't delete a message? Must be saving it to reply at their convenience.
Replied to my email? jumping in the car already
And conversely...
Didn't accept unsolicited friend request? stuck up whore
Deleted message? munter
etc etc
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"what worries me the most is some people who believe that any action is an expression of interest up to the point where someone has to say, "sorry, I'm not interested"
fab a pic? gagging for it.
Send a wink? ready to fuck now.
Don't delete a message? Must be saving it to reply at their convenience.
Replied to my email? jumping in the car already
And conversely...
Didn't accept unsolicited friend request? stuck up whore
Deleted message? munter
etc etc
Exactly this! Why do some need to be told point blank - ‘I’m not interested, so leave me alone!’
Even when I delete messages, I still get ‘thought I’d try my luck one more time’ or ‘just in case you missed my last message’ - NO! I deleted it for a reason. If I was interested, I would reply.
Why do some have to be rejected multiple times before they’ll take the hint?
Why do some think they’d have more of a chance on Fab than in real life when you wouldn’t touch them with a ten foot pole?
That’s my rant for the morning! Have a blessed Monday everyone good rant, although I'm going to flip it.
I know that some people just can't be bothered to go through 100s of old messages, so just look at the more recent ones. There's a chance then my message has been missed, even if I am you're type. Without going over sent messages, I don't know if it's been read, deleted or just missed. This is where fabs no reply equal no thank you falls down. Even if I know it's deleted that doesn't always tell me I'm rejected. People bulk delete. Those who say "in case you missed it" may be genuine. They may not know you deleted it.
They may not also know you "wouldn't touch them" irl. I get fab and internet dating makes it easier to "approach" so you all get a load of fabmin.... But we can't mind read your type. And I'd hate to think someone looked at my profile and thought they were so beneath me I'd not touch them with a ten foot barge pole. That lack of self esteem must be horrible. Sure, some people aren't my type, but that hirachal hal phrase puts shudders into me.
Personally, I don’t bulk delete messages, so any I delete, it’s because I’m not interested.
Also, if someone sending a message had read my bio, they’d have a pretty good idea if they may be my type or not as it is pretty specific. So when I get messages from guys that have no resemblance to what I’ve said I’m looking for whatsoever, it just shows that they either haven’t bothered to read my bio, or read it and then thought they’d ignore it and message anyways "
like I said, I'd have no idea if you deleted it. And then, no idea your reasons.
I do get the frustration with people ignoring preferences especially if in profiles. It's more the way you phrased it I think isn't helpful. But that's a different thread! |
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