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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
If someone contacted you to let you know that you may have been in contact with someone who tested positive for an STI (easily treatable) would you pause all play until you got checked out, wait until your next screen (you have no symptoms after all) or just say fuck ir and get laid?
How do you view people who are cavalier with their own and by extension your sexual health? |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"Definitely stop all play until checked. Isn't that what all sensible grown ups would do??"
You’d like to think so wouldn’t you.
Sadly the lure of a good time proves too much for some  |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"This seems like a very straight forward answer "
You would think so wouldn’t you.
However, the number of people who sulk and throw their toys out of the pram when you mention it is worrying. |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"Don't even see why this a question
Health is wealth
Anyone who would carry on is not a very nice human"
And yet it goes on more than people realise, and in some cases by people who “should know better”!
How open are you about your last test date and results? |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"Personally I would err on the side of caution and get tested before any further meets, symptoms or no, out of respect for would be playmates and their wives G F's boyfriends etc.
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Even if it mean having to postpone a meet months in the making? |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"I've known a few guys who would carry on.
They are what is commonly known as a knob. "
Do you think there is a disparity between men and women when it comes to sexual health, with men perhaps being more risky while women are more risk averse? |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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why would you not stop ?
you cant trust what others do (people lie) you can only do what you can do to protct yourself .. and rememmber no such thing as safe sex its only safer ..safe sex is no sex
anyone who swings should at the very least get regular testing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well obviously noone is going to say of course they would keep playing on here.
I'm sure plenty could convince themselves that there was no way that person could have passed them on the STI due to timing, protection, lack or symptoms etc... |
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"Personally I would err on the side of caution and get tested before any further meets, symptoms or no, out of respect for would be playmates and their wives G F's boyfriends etc.
Even if it mean having to postpone a meet months in the making?"
Yes |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"Well obviously noone is going to say of course they would keep playing on here.
I'm sure plenty could convince themselves that there was no way that person could have passed them on the STI due to timing, protection, lack or symptoms etc..."
Oh I agree. No one is going to out themselves as unsafe.
Its interesting that people will say one thing yet do another. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Erm, please don't fuck anyone if you may have an STI...
Is it okay if you both test positive?
Two wrongs and all that?  "
Trade your genital warts for Chlamydia? Sure if they agree to it why not |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"why would you not stop ?
you cant trust what others do (people lie) you can only do what you can do to protct yourself .. and rememmber no such thing as safe sex its only safer ..safe sex is no sex
anyone who swings should at the very least get regular testing"
What is considered good for regular?
Once every 3 months, between sexual partners, if it starts to burn when you pee? |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"Erm, please don't fuck anyone if you may have an STI...
Is it okay if you both test positive?
Two wrongs and all that?
Trade your genital warts for Chlamydia? Sure if they agree to it why not "
Gotta catch em all! |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"I really don't see any reason why people would carry on. Out of respect for others and myself I'd absolutely stop. "
But if you really really really really wanted to fuck them… that makes it okay right? |
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Id stop and probably bring forward my next screening. Though obviously depends on timings as no point if it's still a very recent meet.
Unfortunately, anyone who doesn't care probably wouldn't answer this question. But it's one of the reasons I will browse through posts about bareback and "creampies" from time to time. People are more likely to give away how they'd act in a place where they feel it would be accepted. I can then pre-emptively block lol. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'd stop. Honestly, sexual health is really important to me. And if someone isn't prepared to have an adult conversation with me about their unprotected antics, it would be condoms from then on or no sex. Depending on a few things.
I think sometimes I might come across as being daft but I think that for me, I'm not comfortable with a more cavalier attitude towards sexual health and I need to respect my own boundaries. |
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"I really don't see any reason why people would carry on. Out of respect for others and myself I'd absolutely stop.
But if you really really really really wanted to fuck them… that makes it okay right?"
Only if you've the morals of an alley cat! |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"Id stop and probably bring forward my next screening. Though obviously depends on timings as no point if it's still a very recent meet.
Unfortunately, anyone who doesn't care probably wouldn't answer this question. But it's one of the reasons I will browse through posts about bareback and "creampies" from time to time. People are more likely to give away how they'd act in a place where they feel it would be accepted. I can then pre-emptively block lol."
I agree.
While I may post on BB threads, its mainly to act as Captain boring to remind people to get tested.
I have seen some surprising names post in some of the BB threads though, profiles riddled with “safe sex” only claims. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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Would be highly unlikely in my case as I prefer safe sex and I understand can be by other means but taking the time to get my own treatment sorted and a break as we never realise how long it could take from nothing to something tests are always accurate |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"I'd stop. Honestly, sexual health is really important to me. And if someone isn't prepared to have an adult conversation with me about their unprotected antics, it would be condoms from then on or no sex. Depending on a few things.
I think sometimes I might come across as being daft but I think that for me, I'm not comfortable with a more cavalier attitude towards sexual health and I need to respect my own boundaries. "
Remember that we could be talking about oral transmission, so not necessarily from unprotected anal or vaginal sex.
It is an important boundary and more people should include it in their pre meet conversations. |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"I really don't see any reason why people would carry on. Out of respect for others and myself I'd absolutely stop.
But if you really really really really wanted to fuck them… that makes it okay right?
Only if you've the morals of an alley cat! "
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"But if you really really really really wanted to fuck them… that makes it okay right?"
I do think it can depend on the level of trust, communication and consent there is. Like for me I might still have protected sex with a partner who I know is fully aware of the risk, regularly gets checked and who can be trusted to openly communicate the risk on to others. But wouldn't if someone was like "oh it doesn't matter, I'll be fine", because they are showing no awareness of wider impact. Does that make sense?
It's a different situation, but I'm currently getting over Covid. The number of men who have messaged saying they don't care if they catch it, without any recognition of the fact they could in turn spread it on  A lot of blocking happening because its a clear red flag to me. |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"I've only met with one person in almost 3 years but we trust each other implicitly and share our test results with each other.
The slightest doubt and all play is postponed until we are tested. "
Thats good you have that connection.
Unfortunately I think there is such a stigma associated with it, that you are somehow dirty, that many people will lie.
I showed someone a while back how easy it is to spoof an “all clear” text message. |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"But if you really really really really wanted to fuck them… that makes it okay right?
I do think it can depend on the level of trust, communication and consent there is. Like for me I might still have protected sex with a partner who I know is fully aware of the risk, regularly gets checked and who can be trusted to openly communicate the risk on to others. But wouldn't if someone was like "oh it doesn't matter, I'll be fine", because they are showing no awareness of wider impact. Does that make sense?
It's a different situation, but I'm currently getting over Covid. The number of men who have messaged saying they don't care if they catch it, without any recognition of the fact they could in turn spread it on A lot of blocking happening because its a clear red flag to me."
No that makes perfect sense.
It’s amazing the paths people are willing to walk just to have sex with someone.
They may be cavalier with their own health, but anyone else they come into contact with hasn’t consented to that risk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Without doubt would pause until i was checked and /or treated. In honesty it would put me off unprotected sex and also shared toys
Also why I'd never meet someone who has regular meets with lots of different people |
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Very few people actually have this kind of conversation.
I've only had one person cancel on me due to this, his friend had taken part in a gang bang, I wouldn't have wanted to be her having to tell numerous people they needed to get checked! |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I'd stop. Honestly, sexual health is really important to me. And if someone isn't prepared to have an adult conversation with me about their unprotected antics, it would be condoms from then on or no sex. Depending on a few things.
I think sometimes I might come across as being daft but I think that for me, I'm not comfortable with a more cavalier attitude towards sexual health and I need to respect my own boundaries.
Remember that we could be talking about oral transmission, so not necessarily from unprotected anal or vaginal sex.
It is an important boundary and more people should include it in their pre meet conversations."
Ah I didn't mean condoms or no sex. I meant I would choose to use only condoms with them for all acts or decide not to have sex.
I think that a lot of people don't discuss it. Not openly anyway. There's this whole notion that you shouldn't talk about others which is great, yeah sure, I agree with that but if you can't discuss if you're having unprotected sex with others honestly, it gives me the ick and makes me lose a bit of trust. And that kills the libido.
We forget how easily things are transmitted. How we could have unprotected sex (all kinds) with A who is also having it with B who is doing it with C and D. The more you open it up, the greater the risk. I wish people would be more honest and open. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've only met with one person in almost 3 years but we trust each other implicitly and share our test results with each other.
The slightest doubt and all play is postponed until we are tested.
Thats good you have that connection.
Unfortunately I think there is such a stigma associated with it, that you are somehow dirty, that many people will lie.
I showed someone a while back how easy it is to spoof an “all clear” text message."
Its so easy to get tested from the comfort of your home, discreet, fast, easy, painless. It's sad that people don't do it, but so many people are selfish /thoughtless |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would be highly unlikely in my case as I prefer safe sex and I understand can be by other means but taking the time to get my own treatment sorted and a break as we never realise how long it could take from nothing to something tests are always accurate"
Unfortunately even safe sex carries risks to some STIs and it’s not detectable even in testing |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Without doubt would pause until i was checked and /or treated. In honesty it would put me off unprotected sex and also shared toys
Also why I'd never meet someone who has regular meets with lots of different people "
Yep. As soon as I find that out, I'm out sadly. |
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Having had a STI earlier in a year, I immediately stop playing and contacted all the men that I had contacted with. Where most were ok and got checked out.
I was surprised that a few said that they don't have any symptoms so was ok, and then asked if I wanted to meet up.
The answer was NO. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Without doubt would pause until i was checked and /or treated. In honesty it would put me off unprotected sex and also shared toys
Also why I'd never meet someone who has regular meets with lots of different people
Yep. As soon as I find that out, I'm out sadly. "
The problem is that many people don't declare veris, i think for that reason?? |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"Without doubt would pause until i was checked and /or treated. In honesty it would put me off unprotected sex and also shared toys
Also why I'd never meet someone who has regular meets with lots of different people "
I do get this.
We use condoms with toys, however are happy when people want to use their own, and even suggest it.
How regular would be too regular for you?
Days or weeks between meets? |
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People ignore all types of red flags on here every day due to fomo, desperation or a need for validation.
If they are prepared to play Russian roulette with documented abusers and predators it's no surprise they might overlook sexual health concerns.
Some adults truly believe they are invulnerable and even when they discover they aren't, don't have the ability to admit their mistakes.
They won't get knocked down if they close their eyes before stepping into traffic. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Without doubt would pause until i was checked and /or treated. In honesty it would put me off unprotected sex and also shared toys
Also why I'd never meet someone who has regular meets with lots of different people
Yep. As soon as I find that out, I'm out sadly.
The problem is that many people don't declare veris, i think for that reason?? "
Yes, definitely. But I'm not a swinger so people like that aren't compatible with me and that's okay. You can easily work out when people do can't you? |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"Very few people actually have this kind of conversation.
I've only had one person cancel on me due to this, his friend had taken part in a gang bang, I wouldn't have wanted to be her having to tell numerous people they needed to get checked!"
My one and only scare was a good few years back after seeing someone. I will always remember her saying it was an occupational hazard with casual sex.
It put me right off, even after I was cleared, it took me a while to get my mojo back |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"Having had a STI earlier in a year, I immediately stop playing and contacted all the men that I had contacted with. Where most were ok and got checked out.
I was surprised that a few said that they don't have any symptoms so was ok, and then asked if I wanted to meet up.
The answer was NO. "
And thats the type of attitude we need to stamp out so we can enjoy our hobby safely.
Many people are asymptomatic with their STI’s |
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"Without doubt would pause until i was checked and /or treated. In honesty it would put me off unprotected sex and also shared toys
Also why I'd never meet someone who has regular meets with lots of different people
I do get this.
We use condoms with toys, however are happy when people want to use their own, and even suggest it.
How regular would be too regular for you?
Days or weeks between meets?"
I never considered a condom for a toy
That is a good a Q... In honesty i don't know how to answer |
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"Without doubt would pause until i was checked and /or treated. In honesty it would put me off unprotected sex and also shared toys
Also why I'd never meet someone who has regular meets with lots of different people
Yep. As soon as I find that out, I'm out sadly.
The problem is that many people don't declare veris, i think for that reason??
Yes, definitely. But I'm not a swinger so people like that aren't compatible with me and that's okay. You can easily work out when people do can't you? "
Yes I think so, I think we are similar from that perspective |
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"Having had a STI earlier in a year, I immediately stop playing and contacted all the men that I had contacted with. Where most were ok and got checked out.
I was surprised that a few said that they don't have any symptoms so was ok, and then asked if I wanted to meet up.
The answer was NO.
And thats the type of attitude we need to stamp out so we can enjoy our hobby safely.
Many people are asymptomatic with their STI’s"
According to the NHS website.
About 50% of men and women who are infected do not have any symptoms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do people know how long after having sex you should you wait to get tested ?"
I think some things don't show up if they are within 2 weeks of meeting someone who is infected |
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"You get checked out immediately and stop all play until you have been given the all clear obviously. "
If you meet someone on the Saturday and they told you on Monday that they have tested positive for a STD how long should you wait until you can get checked? |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"Do people know how long after having sex you should you wait to get tested ?"
I assume most don’t.
I have heard people talking about getting tested the day after meeting someone new… |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"You get checked out immediately and stop all play until you have been given the all clear obviously.
If you meet someone on the Saturday and they told you on Monday that they have tested positive for a STD how long should you wait until you can get checked?"
From memory the place I get my test kits from suggests either 2 weeks or 20 days (one of the two) between sex and getting tested for things like chlamydia and gonorrhoea, and longer for HIV and syphillis.
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"Do people know how long after having sex you should you wait to get tested ?
I assume most don’t.
I have heard people talking about getting tested the day after meeting someone new…"
This is what I am taking about a lot of people get tested to soon and think they are ok where in fact they could have a STI . |
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"You get checked out immediately and stop all play until you have been given the all clear obviously.
If you meet someone on the Saturday and they told you on Monday that they have tested positive for a STD how long should you wait until you can get checked?
From memory the place I get my test kits from suggests either 2 weeks or 20 days (one of the two) between sex and getting tested for things like chlamydia and gonorrhoea, and longer for HIV and syphillis.
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yep. 2 weeks recommended
syphilis and HIV can be untraceable until after 3 months...
best get checked regularly anyway...
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"You get checked out immediately and stop all play until you have been given the all clear obviously.
If you meet someone on the Saturday and they told you on Monday that they have tested positive for a STD how long should you wait until you can get checked?"
I imagine they wouldn't realise for at least a week, then a week of procrastination/worry, a week to get tested, a week to wait for results and a week of putting off how to tell people?.. So 5-6 weeks if you are lucky?
If they have no symptoms you'll never know unless you get tested routinely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No they don't. We had our dry towels pinched while we were in the hot at a club. Two towels left we just used and subsequently caught an sti. Best part the clinic said who ever it was knew they had it. Bastards!  |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"We use condoms with toys, however are happy when people want to use their own, and even suggest it.
How regular would be too regular for you?
Days or weeks between meets?
I never considered a condom for a toy
That is a good a Q... In honesty i don't know how to answer "
Condoms are great for wands and insertable’s etc
Metal and glass toys can be sterilised with an autoclave or boiling water.
We use saddle soap for leather items as well as baby sterilisation tablets. |
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"You get checked out immediately and stop all play until you have been given the all clear obviously.
If you meet someone on the Saturday and they told you on Monday that they have tested positive for a STD how long should you wait until you can get checked?"
At least two weeks but it depends I think some can take longer to show up. So I would have a conversation with the clinic telling them what I've been exposed to and see what the recommendations are with the wait for testing.
I've never caught anything myself as I'm extremely careful and safe sex well as safe as I can make it is paramount. Regular testing , condoms obviously, no cold sores or open cuts etc. I'm as careful as I can be. |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"You get checked out immediately and stop all play until you have been given the all clear obviously.
If you meet someone on the Saturday and they told you on Monday that they have tested positive for a STD how long should you wait until you can get checked?
I imagine they wouldn't realise for at least a week, then a week of procrastination/worry, a week to get tested, a week to wait for results and a week of putting off how to tell people?.. So 5-6 weeks if you are lucky?
If they have no symptoms you'll never know unless you get tested routinely "
I have heard horror stories of people relying on others to get tested and let them know if they have anything. Which might work, if they were honest about having something.
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"We use condoms with toys, however are happy when people want to use their own, and even suggest it.
How regular would be too regular for you?
Days or weeks between meets?
I never considered a condom for a toy
That is a good a Q... In honesty i don't know how to answer
Condoms are great for wands and insertable’s etc
Metal and glass toys can be sterilised with an autoclave or boiling water.
We use saddle soap for leather items as well as baby sterilisation tablets."
Thank you.. I'll enquire what is currently done! |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"No they don't. We had our dry towels pinched while we were in the hot at a club. Two towels left we just used and subsequently caught an sti. Best part the clinic said who ever it was knew they had it. Bastards! "
All the consequences but none of the fun!
I hope you were both okay, and didn’t have too bad a symptoms |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"Condoms are great for wands and insertable’s etc
Metal and glass toys can be sterilised with an autoclave or boiling water.
We use saddle soap for leather items as well as baby sterilisation tablets.
Thank you.. I'll enquire what is currently done! "
Apart from where a toy is caked in blood for dramatic effect obviously 
With whips, the cracker should be changed between people as they are often fluid bonded. |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"How many people know that you can get vaccinated against some STD or take PrEP ?
All available free of charge at your local clinic. "
How many people know where their nearest clinic is?  |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"Without doubt would pause until i was checked and /or treated. In honesty it would put me off unprotected sex and also shared toys
Also why I'd never meet someone who has regular meets with lots of different people
Yep. As soon as I find that out, I'm out sadly.
The problem is that many people don't declare veris, i think for that reason??
Yes, definitely. But I'm not a swinger so people like that aren't compatible with me and that's okay. You can easily work out when people do can't you? "
I wouldn’t say you aren’t a swinger, as you are here. Its just a label and a label doesn’t define you. You live an alternate lifestyle, and just want to find compatible people.
It does pose a question though, if people use veri’s to determine if they want to meet someone, will that just lead to veris being hidden or not requested?
Should the veri summary be mandatory? |
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"Without doubt would pause until i was checked and /or treated. In honesty it would put me off unprotected sex and also shared toys
Also why I'd never meet someone who has regular meets with lots of different people
Yep. As soon as I find that out, I'm out sadly.
The problem is that many people don't declare veris, i think for that reason??
Yes, definitely. But I'm not a swinger so people like that aren't compatible with me and that's okay. You can easily work out when people do can't you?
I wouldn’t say you aren’t a swinger, as you are here. Its just a label and a label doesn’t define you. You live an alternate lifestyle, and just want to find compatible people.
It does pose a question though, if people use veri’s to determine if they want to meet someone, will that just lead to veris being hidden or not requested?
Should the veri summary be mandatory?"
How would you mandate that? People would just stop giving them.. Or say they used protection |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What about if you had not been checked in a long time, and its more about knowing for yourself?
Would you pause all play before knowing, or would you carry on regardless?"
I get checked, even when I'm not playing.. Peace of mind for me |
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I had this happen to me recently. Someone I used to meet regularly had been in contact with someone who had met with others who had tested positive. My meet let me know, but the other persons reaction was that they were more worried about their own reputation than letting people know. I get it can be embarrassing but I find it incredibly selfish that people would jeopardize the sexual health of others.
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"I had this happen to me recently. Someone I used to meet regularly had been in contact with someone who had met with others who had tested positive. My meet let me know, but the other persons reaction was that they were more worried about their own reputation than letting people know. I get it can be embarrassing but I find it incredibly selfish that people would jeopardize the sexual health of others.
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I imagine this is why there are so many infections going around |
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"I had this happen to me recently. Someone I used to meet regularly had been in contact with someone who had met with others who had tested positive. My meet let me know, but the other persons reaction was that they were more worried about their own reputation than letting people know. I get it can be embarrassing but I find it incredibly selfish that people would jeopardize the sexual health of others.
I imagine this is why there are so many infections going around "
It’s why I’ve put a stop on all play until I get my results.
Even though the chance is small I may have caught something (as I hadn’t played with them in awhile) I’d still not risk the health of my new playmate. That’s just cuntish. |
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"I had this happen to me recently. Someone I used to meet regularly had been in contact with someone who had met with others who had tested positive. My meet let me know, but the other persons reaction was that they were more worried about their own reputation than letting people know. I get it can be embarrassing but I find it incredibly selfish that people would jeopardize the sexual health of others.
I imagine this is why there are so many infections going around
It’s why I’ve put a stop on all play until I get my results.
Even though the chance is small I may have caught something (as I hadn’t played with them in awhile) I’d still not risk the health of my new playmate. That’s just cuntish. "
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"Without doubt would pause until i was checked and /or treated. In honesty it would put me off unprotected sex and also shared toys
Also why I'd never meet someone who has regular meets with lots of different people
Yep. As soon as I find that out, I'm out sadly.
The problem is that many people don't declare veris, i think for that reason??
Yes, definitely. But I'm not a swinger so people like that aren't compatible with me and that's okay. You can easily work out when people do can't you?
I wouldn’t say you aren’t a swinger, as you are here. Its just a label and a label doesn’t define you. You live an alternate lifestyle, and just want to find compatible people.
It does pose a question though, if people use veri’s to determine if they want to meet someone, will that just lead to veris being hidden or not requested?
Should the veri summary be mandatory?"
People just make new profiles to get over a high number on the veri summary and then ask previous meets not to re veri them |
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"Without doubt would pause until i was checked and /or treated. In honesty it would put me off unprotected sex and also shared toys
Also why I'd never meet someone who has regular meets with lots of different people
Yep. As soon as I find that out, I'm out sadly.
The problem is that many people don't declare veris, i think for that reason??
Yes, definitely. But I'm not a swinger so people like that aren't compatible with me and that's okay. You can easily work out when people do can't you?
I wouldn’t say you aren’t a swinger, as you are here. Its just a label and a label doesn’t define you. You live an alternate lifestyle, and just want to find compatible people.
It does pose a question though, if people use veri’s to determine if they want to meet someone, will that just lead to veris being hidden or not requested?
Should the veri summary be mandatory?
People just make new profiles to get over a high number on the veri summary and then ask previous meets not to re veri them"
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"Would be highly unlikely in my case as I prefer safe sex and I understand can be by other means but taking the time to get my own treatment sorted and a break as we never realise how long it could take from nothing to something tests are always accurate
Unfortunately even safe sex carries risks to some STIs and it’s not detectable even in testing "
Inaccurate I meant at times it takes longer to know symptoms.... But it might but also limited in safe |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"How many people know that you can get vaccinated against some STD or take PrEP ?
All available free of charge at your local clinic.
How many people know where their nearest clinic is? "
Yes and always notice few from here |
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"Do people know how long after having sex you should you wait to get tested ?
I assume most don’t.
I have heard people talking about getting tested the day after meeting someone new…
This is what I am taking about a lot of people get tested to soon and think they are ok where in fact they could have a STI . "
This was why I mentioned timings if I was to bring a regular check up forward. There's no point if it's only been a few days since the potential risk.
At the end of the day, we all need to remember that a test is a moment in time. Between taking a test and getting results you could become positive. Taking blood samples too early or swabbing the wrong place could be the difference between a positive and a negative.
Also remember that condoms aren't infallible. How many people use oral dams for instance? Or gloves? It starts getting very clinical eventually. Abstinence is then the best method but even that isn't foolproof should people share items (as with the towels story further up). Just have to do the best you can and be open and honest with others. The more people talk about these things, the less shameful and taboo they can become. |
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I'm probably borderline having health anxiety about STI's, I get tested every 2-3 months and always use condoms.
Even with my last partner I made him get tested and had the results back before we had unprotected sex, he was over the 90 days abstinence period when he was tested so knew the test would be accurate.
So yeah if a meet told me they could have one I would not meet anyone else until I had been tested.
Some of the nurses at my local sexual health clinic would even wonder why I would get tested so regularly, I said it's advised and I have no shame in taking care of my sexual health but now get the home kits which is easier and have the hiv test done when I give blood too x |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Stop all fun, time out, abstain! Call it what you want. Surprised you're even asking this OP. It's common sense after all "
Well…. The reason for asking is that in conversation with others it’s not so common after all. |
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"I'm probably borderline having health anxiety about STI's, I get tested every 2-3 months and always use condoms.
Even with my last partner I made him get tested and had the results back before we had unprotected sex, he was over the 90 days abstinence period when he was tested so knew the test would be accurate.
So yeah if a meet told me they could have one I would not meet anyone else until I had been tested.
Some of the nurses at my local sexual health clinic would even wonder why I would get tested so regularly, I said it's advised and I have no shame in taking care of my sexual health but now get the home kits which is easier and have the hiv test done when I give blood too x"
I do the home kits.. The blood one covers more than the swabs |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I had this happen to me recently. Someone I used to meet regularly had been in contact with someone who had met with others who had tested positive. My meet let me know, but the other persons reaction was that they were more worried about their own reputation than letting people know. I get it can be embarrassing but I find it incredibly selfish that people would jeopardize the sexual health of others.
I imagine this is why there are so many infections going around
It’s why I’ve put a stop on all play until I get my results.
Even though the chance is small I may have caught something (as I hadn’t played with them in awhile) I’d still not risk the health of my new playmate. That’s just cuntish. "
Its all about personal responsibility.
While the likelihood is low that you may have caught something, until you know its not a no! |
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"I do the home kits.. The blood one covers more than the swabs
Do your home test kits come with oral swabs?"
The girls kits are different to the boys kits.. I think they are just vaginal swabs |
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"I'm probably borderline having health anxiety about STI's, I get tested every 2-3 months and always use condoms.
Even with my last partner I made him get tested and had the results back before we had unprotected sex, he was over the 90 days abstinence period when he was tested so knew the test would be accurate.
So yeah if a meet told me they could have one I would not meet anyone else until I had been tested.
Some of the nurses at my local sexual health clinic would even wonder why I would get tested so regularly, I said it's advised and I have no shame in taking care of my sexual health but now get the home kits which is easier and have the hiv test done when I give blood too x
I do the home kits.. The blood one covers more than the swabs"
Yeah last time I did the blood one at home it was shaken too much in transit back to the lab and the cells had broken down too much to test and it takes me so long to get enough out, have to use about 4 finger pricks so just get the nurse to do that one now and do the swabs myself |
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"I'm probably borderline having health anxiety about STI's, I get tested every 2-3 months and always use condoms.
Even with my last partner I made him get tested and had the results back before we had unprotected sex, he was over the 90 days abstinence period when he was tested so knew the test would be accurate.
So yeah if a meet told me they could have one I would not meet anyone else until I had been tested.
Some of the nurses at my local sexual health clinic would even wonder why I would get tested so regularly, I said it's advised and I have no shame in taking care of my sexual health but now get the home kits which is easier and have the hiv test done when I give blood too x
I do the home kits.. The blood one covers more than the swabs
Yeah last time I did the blood one at home it was shaken too much in transit back to the lab and the cells had broken down too much to test and it takes me so long to get enough out, have to use about 4 finger pricks so just get the nurse to do that one now and do the swabs myself"
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By (user no longer on site)
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In my PW days I played a forum game where I displayed a status that another forumite had written.
I don't remember exactly how it was worded but it said that I had an sti.
I had men message me saying they still would have sex with me, asking which sti it was as they had one and if it was the same one then why not, and some stated it was fine if they were using a condom, and others would still bareback.
That was just from a one sentence status!
Personally I'd stay away from everyone till tested and treated. It goes without saying.
But clearly not all would do the same.
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"Definitely stop all play until checked. Isn't that what all sensible grown ups would do??
You’d like to think so wouldn’t you.
Sadly the lure of a good time proves too much for some "
Unfortunately so true. Too many more interested in getting their fix no matter where it’s from without any respect for themselves or unsuspecting partners whether that be so called loved ones at home or the quick fuck they met on the sly |
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It's interesting how many people appear shocked that some people would happily still meet people with an STI, or even assume that everyone gets tested. Or that veris prove who they met.
Or that they just got tested and it was all clear and they always use condoms and never fuck anyone off the site. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"It's interesting how many people appear shocked that some people would happily still meet people with an STI, or even assume that everyone gets tested. Or that veris prove who they met.
Or that they just got tested and it was all clear and they always use condoms and never fuck anyone off the site. "
Or that their ‘trusted’ fwb who is the only person they BB with, is also meeting others, and in turn their fwb is also having unprotected sex. And so it goes on …
For some reason sexual health is not a health priority. |
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"It's interesting how many people appear shocked that some people would happily still meet people with an STI, or even assume that everyone gets tested. Or that veris prove who they met.
Or that they just got tested and it was all clear and they always use condoms and never fuck anyone off the site.
Or that their ‘trusted’ fwb who is the only person they BB with, is also meeting others, and in turn their fwb is also having unprotected sex. And so it goes on …
For some reason sexual health is not a health priority. "
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"It's interesting how many people appear shocked that some people would happily still meet people with an STI, or even assume that everyone gets tested. Or that veris prove who they met.
Or that they just got tested and it was all clear and they always use condoms and never fuck anyone off the site. "
I don't think anyone said veris prove who they met. Or is naive enough to think people don't meet others off site as well. |
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"It's interesting how many people appear shocked that some people would happily still meet people with an STI, or even assume that everyone gets tested. Or that veris prove who they met.
Or that they just got tested and it was all clear and they always use condoms and never fuck anyone off the site.
I don't think anyone said veris prove who they met. Or is naive enough to think people don't meet others off site as well. "
Perhaps not on this thread but people do believe the above. Proven by comments on previous threads.  |
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"Definitely stop all play until checked. Isn't that what all sensible grown ups would do??
You’d like to think so wouldn’t you.
Sadly the lure of a good time proves too much for some "
This really sounds like someone has angered You Know Who and now they are spreading malicious gossip around the chat groups about that person.
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"I'm probably borderline having health anxiety about STI's, I get tested every 2-3 months and always use condoms.
Even with my last partner I made him get tested and had the results back before we had unprotected sex, he was over the 90 days abstinence period when he was tested so knew the test would be accurate.
So yeah if a meet told me they could have one I would not meet anyone else until I had been tested.
Some of the nurses at my local sexual health clinic would even wonder why I would get tested so regularly, I said it's advised and I have no shame in taking care of my sexual health but now get the home kits which is easier and have the hiv test done when I give blood too x
I do the home kits.. The blood one covers more than the swabs
Yeah last time I did the blood one at home it was shaken too much in transit back to the lab and the cells had broken down too much to test and it takes me so long to get enough out, have to use about 4 finger pricks so just get the nurse to do that one now and do the swabs myself"
Hot tip (literally) for getting good blood flow out of a finger to fill a vial - hold your hands on a hot water bottle for a few minutes prior to your sample taking. You won't have to prick more than once! |
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I catastrophise everything, and normally feel bad when I've not done anything wrong.
The idea of potentially having something, and giving to someone else takes over my thoughts until I get the all clear. So I wouldn't sleep with anyone until sorted. |
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"I'm probably borderline having health anxiety about STI's, I get tested every 2-3 months and always use condoms.
Even with my last partner I made him get tested and had the results back before we had unprotected sex, he was over the 90 days abstinence period when he was tested so knew the test would be accurate.
So yeah if a meet told me they could have one I would not meet anyone else until I had been tested.
Some of the nurses at my local sexual health clinic would even wonder why I would get tested so regularly, I said it's advised and I have no shame in taking care of my sexual health but now get the home kits which is easier and have the hiv test done when I give blood too x
I do the home kits.. The blood one covers more than the swabs
Yeah last time I did the blood one at home it was shaken too much in transit back to the lab and the cells had broken down too much to test and it takes me so long to get enough out, have to use about 4 finger pricks so just get the nurse to do that one now and do the swabs myself
Took me an hour to get enough blood.. I've been shown where to prick in future "
Doesn’t help if you are only given one needle that retracts after a single use lol. Bloody frustrating trying to fill a vial from one pin prick lol
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Remember that we could be talking about oral transmission, so not necessarily from unprotected anal or vaginal sex.
It is an important boundary and more people should include it in their pre meet conversations."
This is absolutely correct and so many people forget about unprotected oral sex being a way of contracting or passing on an infection.
We all need to get more clued up on this and be more responsible. |
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"I'm probably borderline having health anxiety about STI's, I get tested every 2-3 months and always use condoms.
Even with my last partner I made him get tested and had the results back before we had unprotected sex, he was over the 90 days abstinence period when he was tested so knew the test would be accurate.
So yeah if a meet told me they could have one I would not meet anyone else until I had been tested.
Some of the nurses at my local sexual health clinic would even wonder why I would get tested so regularly, I said it's advised and I have no shame in taking care of my sexual health but now get the home kits which is easier and have the hiv test done when I give blood too x"
Have you had your HPV, hepatitis A, and hepatitis B vaccines and take PrEP ? |
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