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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do? |
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By *ay9971Man
over a year ago
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"Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do? "
Make them cum hehe! |
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By *idsAndyMan
over a year ago
Worcestershire |
"Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do?
Make them cum hehe!"
That plus doing things together and of course intimacy. |
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Intermucy, honesty, trust, deep emotional connection. And lastly respect. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do?
Make them cum hehe!"
Yeah, that's probably quite important! Sex is important isn't it? Well at least that intimacy with another. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In the past i only ever wanted a friendship a trust a happiness a spark lightning in a bottle to be able to feel what someone was thinking from 76.4 miles away and give what was needed at the right time of need to have someone to be there for me that way in return to laugh to be there ultimate fantasy and create unlimited multigasms
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I want nothing from nobody i give nothing il take from them everything
Theres no more room for that kind of softness be there or dont il not give enough of myself to it for it to matter anyway people will be a means to fleeting joy it will never be more than that when 1 spark of happiness looks likely il piss on it and walk away its taken me 3 years to get to this point of getting over love and i dont have the energy in middle age to try that dangerous drug again its more addictive than sugar
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Honesty , communication & realising there has to be some compromise on both sides at times. |
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Has to be communication and being honest with each other |
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Endorphins are the most important thing to forming a strong secure and lasting bond.
Non sexual adventures together at the things which will get you through the hard times and help build trust and understanding.
Outside of our dynamic we are best friends and enjoy hiking, paddle boarding, art, theatre, talking and reading.
Don’t look for things in a parter give them what you have. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Not get caught"
I mean...
We're all different aren't we? But ach. Why be in a relationship if the most important thing is not getting caught? |
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I show them they're important to me, however in the past I've done that at the detriment to myself. Gave "me" away to please them, and that's been abused in multiple ways.
The things that are important to me are compassion, honesty, understanding - or at minimum a willingness to try, trust, thought, a sense of safety (physically and emotionally)
Sadly, I don't believe I can find that in a world that's so fickle and humanity that's so inhumane.
If I ever have another relationship it'll be when both of us are dried up and want nothing more than companionship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In all honesty,i dont think I've had one where the guys isn't a lying cheating knobhead twat.
But I'm awesome at taking shite, so I'd make sure I did that.
If you can't talk absolute rubbish with someone then I don't wanna know.
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Honesty and trust and I'll always make sure that the toilet seat is down |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Relationships remind me of being in prison, but with less anal sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do? "
Make sure she feels safe, secure, happy and loved. After that being able to make a good cuppa and ensuring there's always some biccies in the cupboard |
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By *ullyMan
over a year ago
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Truth and honesty. My late wife and I never ever had secrets from each other, and she knew all about my preference for guys over girls, so no one could ever tell her or me of any circumstance we didn't already know about. Together 49 years before cancer took her. Within our marriage I had a boyfriend for 23 years, as well as other "friends". So for sure trust honesty and also of course respect. |
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The 3 f’s
Friendship
Food
Fucking
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Relationships remind me of being in prison, but with less anal sex"
Jail bae is that you? |
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"The 3 f’s
Friendship
Food
Fucking
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What about fingering? |
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Being honest with each other, but also with yourself is a lesson learnt the hard way for me. Keep talking. Even when things are hard. Especially when things are hard. Don't expect your partner to have all the answers. Make time for each other, even just in the little things each day. Touch each other. Be silly together.
A bit of a ramble from me today, OP!
Mrs TMN x |
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Trust and honesty...they get the same from me in return x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As little as possible....
It's an absolute mystery why I'm single tbh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Relationships remind me of being in prison, but with less anal sex
Jail bae is that you?"
Call me daddy like you did when we were inside |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do? "
Communication.
It may not always be honest, as honesty is not always the best policy, but the ability to clearly communicate is vital.
Something I am not great at, which is why its number 1 for me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be able to have a laugh together. If we can take the piss out of each other I’d get bored. Also being open and honest. Being able to talk about everything openly without being afraid of hurting each others feelings is really important. |
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"The 3 f’s
Friendship
Food
Fucking
What about fingering? "
4 fs
Thanks Rex - that is very important! |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Endorphins are the most important thing to forming a strong secure and lasting bond.
Non sexual adventures together at the things which will get you through the hard times and help build trust and understanding.
Outside of our dynamic we are best friends and enjoy hiking, paddle boarding, art, theatre, talking and reading.
Don’t look for things in a parter give them what you have. "
Having those shared interests and experiences can really help cement things can't they? You don't need to be in each others pockets but being able to do things together is important. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Teamwork with running the housework
Feeling loved and cared for.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Open, honest communication.. It can destroy or fix everything in an instant.. It's so critical |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Trust and honesty...they get the same from me in return x"
And a little bit more I'm guessing x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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relationships.... inevitably fail for me!
boredom, complacency kick in..
so for them to work - you have to keep fresh? keep it going? bit more than just a date night? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly & not to get complacent, just a start |
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I don't think romantic relationships as being different to any other emotional relationship. So for me it has to be a two way street, there needs to be give and take. And a feeling of being wanted and appreciated, else what is the point? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Relationships remind me of being in prison, but with less anal sex
Jail bae is that you?
Call me daddy like you did when we were inside "
Woah. Saved by the filters |
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Loyality, respect, laughter and care, all both ways.
Also the little things affection, random kisses, ass grabs, dancing in the kitchen and snuggles before bed, the little things make such a big difference.
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I show them they're important to me, however in the past I've done that at the detriment to myself. Gave "me" away to please them, and that's been abused in multiple ways.
The things that are important to me are compassion, honesty, understanding - or at minimum a willingness to try, trust, thought, a sense of safety (physically and emotionally)
Sadly, I don't believe I can find that in a world that's so fickle and humanity that's so inhumane.
If I ever have another relationship it'll be when both of us are dried up and want nothing more than companionship. "
Hey you.
I think it can be found. Believe it can (I probably wouldn't be engaged and dating another if I didn't think that). But it's really hard when you've seen so much that makes you think humanity is inhumane. I like the things that are important to you a lot, they're mine as well. Do you know, I spent the best part of a decade thinking I was needy for wanting those things? Somehow unreasonable and didn't deserve them. Now I think fuck that, that's a bare minimum for me. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Being honest with each other, but also with yourself is a lesson learnt the hard way for me. Keep talking. Even when things are hard. Especially when things are hard. Don't expect your partner to have all the answers. Make time for each other, even just in the little things each day. Touch each other. Be silly together.
A bit of a ramble from me today, OP!
Mrs TMN x"
I love your rambles TMN! You're a fantastic poster to have on any thread and I (not so, now) secretly hope you'll reply whenever I post one.
I think when things are hard is very important - if you love someone it's not just through the good times is it? You're meant to tackle the hard times as a team or at the very least be there for the other. I hope you can keep being honest with yourself, x |
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"Trust and honesty...they get the same from me in return x
And a little bit more I'm guessing x"
Now that would be telling x |
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All we need is love and understanding |
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Honesty and trust be able to laugh with each other and compromise .Never go to sleep on a argument.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All we need is love and understanding "
Like football comes before sex? |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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Find one, Meli. I think finding one first might help me answer this properly |
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"All we need is love and understanding
Like football comes before sex?"
Not in this relationship.
Football is utterly irrelevant.
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Good communication, loyalty, affectionate, lots of sex and honesty and all of them are a must or it doesn't work for me |
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"I show them they're important to me, however in the past I've done that at the detriment to myself. Gave "me" away to please them, and that's been abused in multiple ways.
The things that are important to me are compassion, honesty, understanding - or at minimum a willingness to try, trust, thought, a sense of safety (physically and emotionally)
Sadly, I don't believe I can find that in a world that's so fickle and humanity that's so inhumane.
If I ever have another relationship it'll be when both of us are dried up and want nothing more than companionship.
Hey you.
I think it can be found. Believe it can (I probably wouldn't be engaged and dating another if I didn't think that). But it's really hard when you've seen so much that makes you think humanity is inhumane. I like the things that are important to you a lot, they're mine as well. Do you know, I spent the best part of a decade thinking I was needy for wanting those things? Somehow unreasonable and didn't deserve them. Now I think fuck that, that's a bare minimum for me."
Did you always think you were needy for wanting basic decency or was it an external influence that created that bullshit narrative as a means of deflection?
It's an unfathomable fathom for me. I wish wealth and love were based off how full your heart is, how homely home feels, but all I can see for the future is how many likes you have, how well followed on social media you are, and how much of yourself you're prepared to betray to earn another's affection or attention. I feel for future generations.... and ours too. There's been so much change over the last few decades and not all of it has been for the good of the soul.
It does bring me joy seeing others happy (even if the cynic in me gives a sly "how long before one of you betrays the other?" glance. I berate myself for that.
Who knows, maybe one day I'll stumble across someone who has done the internal work, but for me I wonder if there's enough time to undo, learn and grow... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think for me the most important thing with most people is that they give you back what you give them.
I've had so many relationships that haven't worked out because it was always me who was the one making an effort, keeping the conversation going, me checking in. So that communication where you're both giving is super important.
Are we talking romantic relationships here or any kind of relationship?
If romantically, then what I said above applies too. And always making sure you make the other person feel wanted and desired in many different ways. I've always made sure my partner knows just how much I appreciate him.
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Trust and honesty...they get the same from me in return x
And a little bit more I'm guessing x
Now that would be telling x"
Obviously but I'm an exceptional guy and able to see the future in those eyes X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In the past i only ever wanted a friendship a trust a happiness a spark lightning in a bottle to be able to feel what someone was thinking from 76.4 miles away and give what was needed at the right time of need to have someone to be there for me that way in return to laugh to be there ultimate fantasy and create unlimited multigasms
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I want nothing from nobody i give nothing il take from them everything
Theres no more room for that kind of softness be there or dont il not give enough of myself to it for it to matter anyway people will be a means to fleeting joy it will never be more than that when 1 spark of happiness looks likely il piss on it and walk away its taken me 3 years to get to this point of getting over love and i dont have the energy in middle age to try that dangerous drug again its more addictive than sugar
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Can anyone check on inevitable’s profile please ?
I am worried about him |
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For me there are a few things that give a relationship a solid foundation.
Trust - Especially when in an ethically non-monogamous relationship
Boundaries - Agree what is and isn’t acceptable and always communicate to check and confirm. Again, especially when in an ENM relationship or a FWB arrangement.
Communication - Listen to each other and talk to each other. Share your life and experiences, good and bad. Celebrate the good together and help each other through the bad. Discuss plans together, agree to compromises if needed. Going away for a holiday? Pick a mix of activities that you each enjoy.
Respect - No couple share 100% the same interests or tastes. Respect where you have differences and learn to take an interest if it is something your partner enjoys. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"The 3 f’s
Friendship
Food
Fucking
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I think this wins it, no need to overcomplicate it. Some shared interests is nice , but it’s not essential , you could just stay in bed eating and fucking.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The 3 f’s
Friendship
Food
Fucking
I think this wins it, no need to overcomplicate it. Some shared interests is nice , but it’s not essential , you could just stay in bed eating and fucking.
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eating and fucking.... what sundays are for |
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With my late partner it was based on trust and honesty and loving each other. We where always doing little things for each other to show our love. We used to make memories when we went places and discuss it.
We where a very romantic couple and where always kissing and holding hands we just wanted to look after each other.
We had one serious argument in 16 years and both regretted it as it was time wasted.
But we where older when we met and I had been in some shit relationships and had learnt from them. I will never find it again but I can live off my memories |
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Clear, honest communication between us, that's my most important consideration |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Clear, honest communication between us, that's my most important consideration "
What about friendship and fucking? |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Find one, Meli. I think finding one first might help me answer this properly "
You'll find one you beautiful person. Next year is your year. x |
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So many things… affection, chemistry, thoughtful gestures, trust, feeling safe and wanted, being able to laugh together, shared interests, similar outlook on important things such as politics & family, feeling proud of them for being a good person, being supportive when times are tough |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I show them they're important to me, however in the past I've done that at the detriment to myself. Gave "me" away to please them, and that's been abused in multiple ways.
The things that are important to me are compassion, honesty, understanding - or at minimum a willingness to try, trust, thought, a sense of safety (physically and emotionally)
Sadly, I don't believe I can find that in a world that's so fickle and humanity that's so inhumane.
If I ever have another relationship it'll be when both of us are dried up and want nothing more than companionship.
Hey you.
I think it can be found. Believe it can (I probably wouldn't be engaged and dating another if I didn't think that). But it's really hard when you've seen so much that makes you think humanity is inhumane. I like the things that are important to you a lot, they're mine as well. Do you know, I spent the best part of a decade thinking I was needy for wanting those things? Somehow unreasonable and didn't deserve them. Now I think fuck that, that's a bare minimum for me.
Did you always think you were needy for wanting basic decency or was it an external influence that created that bullshit narrative as a means of deflection?
It's an unfathomable fathom for me. I wish wealth and love were based off how full your heart is, how homely home feels, but all I can see for the future is how many likes you have, how well followed on social media you are, and how much of yourself you're prepared to betray to earn another's affection or attention. I feel for future generations.... and ours too. There's been so much change over the last few decades and not all of it has been for the good of the soul.
It does bring me joy seeing others happy (even if the cynic in me gives a sly "how long before one of you betrays the other?" glance. I berate myself for that.
Who knows, maybe one day I'll stumble across someone who has done the internal work, but for me I wonder if there's enough time to undo, learn and grow... "
I'm going to reply to this because it's meaty and it's you.
Did I always think I was needy? Nope. Not until a bad relationship. I didn't realise until I was out of it that him cheating on me, lying to me frequently etc and me being upset and wanting to talk about things wasn't neediness. I guess because I'm aware I'm quite intense and also rather neurodiverse in things being black and white, sometimes I worry it comes across as needy.
Real love, not the sort that's depicted on social media is far more than likes or follows or even fabs. I think it still exists. The fiancé shows it to me by doing the smallest things. Brushing my hair when I've had a tough day. Messaging me with a different way to say I love you every time we have a text conversation (there have been hundreds probably!). The manfriend shows it through taking interest in my interests. Thinking about me when he sees little things.
I think that there's a change happening - what with the socio-political and economic situation, people are focusing more on what really matters. Moving away from the influencers. All that daft nonsense. At least I hope so. I have faith in younger generations. |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do? "
Acceptance of me as I am. Trust and honesty. Care and compassion. Communication - asking not assuming. Laughter and sex. |
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"Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do? "
Cuddles daily.
Tell her I love her every day.
Honesty, communication and trust. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do?
Cuddles daily.
Tell her I love her every day.
Honesty, communication and trust."
Oh you do? That's really adorable and lovely! So sweet of you, she's very lucky to have you. |
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"Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do?
Cuddles daily.
Tell her I love her every day.
Honesty, communication and trust.
Oh you do? That's really adorable and lovely! So sweet of you, she's very lucky to have you."
Thank you,I keep telling her that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honesty is number 1 on my list. As long as there's that everything else can be worked out
Friendship, laughter and really good spooning after that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The ideal, for me would be to feel safe, but also free. Someone who listens, meets me half way.
I’m loyal, supportive. I remember the things that matter, and it’s important to me that the people around me feel loved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Truthful I think. I want to know everything, even the messy stuff. And some loyalty. And to feel loved, and 'safe' in all its forms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Waking up in a morning and that other being my first thought of the day
And knowing that other feels the same way back
Who knows one day I may find it.... maybe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That we make each other feel wanted and loved. My husband makes me feel loved even on my difficult days, Even when I've shouted at him or nagged him for 3 hours when my stomach hurts he will still bring me a hot water bottle and makes me a coffee every morning. |
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What I seek is something that applies to all the lovely individual answers above. Balance, be the yin to my yang, I will be the black to your white. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are so many things but one major factor in my marriage is to heartedly laugh with each other every single day. Sharing the same sense of humour is absolutely brilliant and a necessity in my book. Humour can help you through anything, even the most difficult of days. If you can have a good old laugh at yourself and each other, well it just makes life seem easier and above all happier. |
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"Honesty and trust and I'll always make sure that the toilet seat is down "
You'd get on well with a friend of mine called Sue! She is paranoid about the shit house pan lid being in the down position, so the other night I thought, I'll have some fun now, and I put some cling film over the pan, and dutifully closed the lid. No prizes for guessing what happened when she got up for a piss in the night, but she still loves me, or so she says. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do? "
After 22 years of marriage, I would say to my younger self avoid relationships, they aren't worth the work in my view.
Ms Bitter signing off! |
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Be honest, have fun, learn from mistakes, not to be sorry but be better |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being honest & kind with each other is always a good foundation...!
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There's many things to be proud of in our relationship. We kind of got together when we were ready for each other after both learning (often the hard way) many lessons about life, relationships and most importantly ourselves.
Openness and being free to express ourselves to each other is a corner stone. Even when those things are hard to say or painful.
What's particularly cool (oddly) is when things aren't cool. We talk things through and try to understand each other even if we can't agree. And sometimes if we upset with each other and not ready to talk we will always just find a way of saying I am mad or hurt, I'm not ready to talk to you but I do love you. Even if it's something like I wont kiss you but I'll hold your hand so you know I do love you. Which is a really important gesture when you both have abandonment issuses. I like we recognise when our reactions to a situation maybe toxic, bitchy or mean and try not to be or seek space until we can handle things in a better way if we can not be at that point.
Sometimes it's like we've totally cracked the being and adult bit. But then you realise as we're also the same idiots trying to pull off the lifting scene from dirty dancing in the middle of the dance floor.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I heard the expression 'seesaw' relationships recently, meaning when one person is down the other is there to raise them, and vice versa. That seems ideal to me. |
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Someone who instinctively knows which way to hang the toilet roll. That level of understanding will get you through any relationship problems. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I heard the expression 'seesaw' relationships recently, meaning when one person is down the other is there to raise them, and vice versa. That seems ideal to me. "
or when you are up they bring you down ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's many things to be proud of in our relationship. We kind of got together when we were ready for each other after both learning (often the hard way) many lessons about life, relationships and most importantly ourselves.
Openness and being free to express ourselves to each other is a corner stone. Even when those things are hard to say or painful.
What's particularly cool (oddly) is when things aren't cool. We talk things through and try to understand each other even if we can't agree. And sometimes if we upset with each other and not ready to talk we will always just find a way of saying I am mad or hurt, I'm not ready to talk to you but I do love you. Even if it's something like I wont kiss you but I'll hold your hand so you know I do love you. Which is a really important gesture when you both have abandonment issuses. I like we recognise when our reactions to a situation maybe toxic, bitchy or mean and try not to be or seek space until we can handle things in a better way if we can not be at that point.
Sometimes it's like we've totally cracked the being and adult bit. But then you realise as we're also the same idiots trying to pull off the lifting scene from dirty dancing in the middle of the dance floor.
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over a year ago
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"I heard the expression 'seesaw' relationships recently, meaning when one person is down the other is there to raise them, and vice versa. That seems ideal to me.
or when you are up they bring you down ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it’s about being there for my friends and doing what I can to make life better for them. It really is that simple - and never expect the same in return - just appreciate what is given! |
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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago
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I honestly don't know, Meli. I'm rubbish at relationships |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do?
Acceptance of me as I am. Trust and honesty. Care and compassion. Communication - asking not assuming. Laughter and sex. "
I like this reply a lot.
It's so important to be able to laugh. To be able to feel accepted as you are, not to try and hide yourself into who you'd think they would like you to be. And trust. Trust is such a big thing isn't it? I know for me personally, if I'm told something and then find out the opposite is true later, it means I lose a little trust in the person which is sad. Relationships are about growing together as people, maybe I just have a rather naive view of them but I want to feel like if I love someone, I can be open and honest with them and they would with me too. If that's not there, I never quite fall in love with them. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"With my late partner it was based on trust and honesty and loving each other. We where always doing little things for each other to show our love. We used to make memories when we went places and discuss it.
We where a very romantic couple and where always kissing and holding hands we just wanted to look after each other.
We had one serious argument in 16 years and both regretted it as it was time wasted.
But we where older when we met and I had been in some shit relationships and had learnt from them. I will never find it again but I can live off my memories"
I hope those memories bring you lots of comfort. Loving someone is such a powerful thing - as is having that love shown as a constant reminder.
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"Being honest with each other, but also with yourself is a lesson learnt the hard way for me. Keep talking. Even when things are hard. Especially when things are hard. Don't expect your partner to have all the answers. Make time for each other, even just in the little things each day. Touch each other. Be silly together.
A bit of a ramble from me today, OP!
Mrs TMN x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When people are on the same wavelength mentally, l know this sounds obvious but when people are on the same wavelength it covers everything and l mean everything , in my opinion if they are not on the same wavelength it is a total waste of each others time and both are swimming against the tide from the start . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do?
Acceptance of me as I am. Trust and honesty. Care and compassion. Communication - asking not assuming. Laughter and sex. "
That sounds perfect to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Trust, communication, honesty and a whole lot of laughter |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Trust, communication, honesty and a whole lot of laughter "
This also sounds perfect how do I sign up |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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Ooh this is back near the top of my threads I commented on…
I’ve had a few weeks to reflect on this and have now concluded that your question does not just apply to romantic relationships (of which I don’t have currently), friendships are also relationships. As are family ties.
To make any kind of relationship work there has to be respect for each other and some commitment to support each other even if you disagree. It isn’t always easy or simple or even available to you daily but for a person to maintain a relationship with you and you with them you need to find to find a little time for each other when you can and respect their decisions and boundaries.
Sometimes when there isn’t enough balance and you can’t resolve this with them then you have to let that relationship go and be free |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Ooh this is back near the top of my threads I commented on…
I’ve had a few weeks to reflect on this and have now concluded that your question does not just apply to romantic relationships (of which I don’t have currently), friendships are also relationships. As are family ties.
To make any kind of relationship work there has to be respect for each other and some commitment to support each other even if you disagree. It isn’t always easy or simple or even available to you daily but for a person to maintain a relationship with you and you with them you need to find to find a little time for each other when you can and respect their decisions and boundaries.
Sometimes when there isn’t enough balance and you can’t resolve this with them then you have to let that relationship go and be free "
Hello Ladybugs, it's an odd bump a few weeks later but I appreciate your reply a lot.
Yes, relationships include friendships and family. I don't know why generally people think you might be talking about romantic ones. I think carving out time for another person is valuable. Important. If you can't do that, you have to question if it's that valuable to you. Like you I don't think it's about daily but I strongly believe you prioritise those who are important to you; you make the effort when you're able to because that person means something to you. I don't see friendships as being lesser than romantic but I'm aware that's not a widely held view. |
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over a year ago
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Cuddle/Kiss you can tell how your day is going with a person just from this - Lime |
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The cum.
I kid.
Compatibility, honesty, mutual support and just generally getting on and enjoying each others company.
I try to make the other person feel valued, special and thought about on a regular basis. When that is well balanced it's great. |
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Trust, Loyalty and Communication are key to a successful relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are a team, we support each other and encourage each other from the moment we wake until the moment we sleep, we genuinely want each other to live our best lives and experience as much of it as possible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being on the same page about most things
Enough love and enough compromise to carry you through when you aren't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it’s loyalty, trust and spending quality time together |
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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago
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It’s important the bloke isn’t a pissy miserable bastard over every little thing.
That when he buys himself a chocolate bar in the shop on his way home he also gets me one
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Honesty, sense of humor and teamwork |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honesty trust,being there for one another |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Treat me right, feed me sometimes and fuck me often. I have simple pleasures |
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Lots of Sexcercise and laughter is important! Being open and honest with feelings, Also to make them feel special. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Reciprocity would be a good starting point |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honesty and trust, sex, banter and friendship |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Matching sex drive, fun and laughter |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Respect, friendship and trust for starters. Allowing love to blossom with time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honesty, trust, sense of humour, similar interests, best freinds, understanding and loyal! None of
Which exists anymore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honesty, trust, sense of humour, similar interests, best freinds, understanding and loyal! None of
Which exists anymore. "
Course they exist you've just not come across it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thought I had, engaged, supposed to get married, find out she was
Bad mouthing to her
Friends, told
Them she didn’t love me, lied god knows how many times to me, I dread to
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Been a very long time since I've had a proper relationship. I do have a friendly one. Fun and respect for each other works well for us. That and having the freedom to do as we please when we can't see each other. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honesty and trust, sex, banter and friendship"
This xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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True love. And that’s why I’m not in a relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a fwb situ that works for me. I know they don't want more as they're already in a relationship (I've met their partner, it's all legit). I don't want anything more than fun & friendship. I just hope it remains on that page for all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"True love. And that’s why I’m not in a relationship "
I'm always curious, what is 'true love'? Is it pairing up with someone that lives a reasonable distance from you that you click with? Someone on the other side potentially of the world that you fall in love with online? Or just a random bang that you end up having feels for? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"True love. And that’s why I’m not in a relationship
I'm always curious, what is 'true love'? Is it pairing up with someone that lives a reasonable distance from you that you click with? Someone on the other side potentially of the world that you fall in love with online? Or just a random bang that you end up having feels for? "
It’s far to early in the morning to answer this.
It is random, you can’t find it, it just lands. It’s falling in love with everything about someone. EVERYTHING.
Clicking with a stranger or getting ‘feels’ for someone trivialises it and dilutes how intense and deep a true love is. It’s a one time deal for me, everything with someone else will be Love in its own unique and special way, but not the same as your true love. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a fwb situ that works for me. I know they don't want more as they're already in a relationship (I've met their partner, it's all legit). I don't want anything more than fun & friendship. I just hope it remains on that page for all "
Aren’t you afraid of developing feelings if you keep meeting them on a regular basis ? Or did you pick fwbs you know you can’t get feelings for ? As in they don’t match what you would look for in a partner ? |
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Relationships are good but they are hard to maintain |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honesty
Trust
Physical and emotional intimacy
Clear communication
Mutual respect |
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Honesty..no lies or cheating..integrity..respect for each other..love |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honesty, good communication,shared interests, same humour and big hands |
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Honesty and communication is key. We talk about everything we like, dislike and want to try.
We also flirt a lot, with each other and other people which just makes things more fun. Plus we like to point out gorgeous people while we are out. |
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Honesty, communication, chemistry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Openness trust someone you can believe in |
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Love Truth and Honesty....especially if your with a hot girl from Bananarama x |
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I’m not in a relationship and I don’t think I will ever be but reading the responses made me realised I have really never been in one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m not in a relationship and I don’t think I will ever be but reading the responses made me realised I have really never been in one."
I was in what I thought was a relationship but in reality I was just being used and then do all discarded |
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I definitely won't be doing relationships again, too much dedication and effort is required to maintain one which I don't have the will power for anymore |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love, trust, honesty, compassion, empathy, respect.
We've been together for 24 years, married for 22.
We just get each other.
It's the little things that matter. Been considerate of each other, respecting each other, taking care and supporting each other |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Relationships remind me of being in prison, but with less anal sex"
Lol, you have hit the nail on the head.
When I came out a relationship, that's exactly how I felt and behaved, like I just got out of prison. Years it's taken to disconnect, split everything and I still have debts to pay before I'm free of the past. Feels like I'm out but on a tag!
I was fucking about 20 years ago and got caught. I'm still going to fuck about but I'm a little wiser now, don't want caught again, fuck going back there!
A relationship to me is giving your soul and everything you are to one person. I won't tolerate anything less in return.
Fab has taught me that men and women think very differently, so the " relationship" I want is only an idealism that society has brainwashed me with for a lifetime.
I now believe you only want people to use them for something.
So with this in mind, I don't want to use anyone and I don't want anyone to leach of me either.
As a woman, I'm not horny all the time, fab is ideal for when I am and I have cats for when I want a cuddle.
Stay free!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do? "
What about you? What do you do to make sure you do? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honesty |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honesty"
top draw. The rest is a bonus. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Relationships remind me of being in prison, but with less anal sex
Lol, you have hit the nail on the head.
When I came out a relationship, that's exactly how I felt and behaved, like I just got out of prison. Years it's taken to disconnect, split everything and I still have debts to pay before I'm free of the past. Feels like I'm out but on a tag!
I was fucking about 20 years ago and got caught. I'm still going to fuck about but I'm a little wiser now, don't want caught again, fuck going back there!
A relationship to me is giving your soul and everything you are to one person. I won't tolerate anything less in return.
Fab has taught me that men and women think very differently, so the " relationship" I want is only an idealism that society has brainwashed me with for a lifetime.
I now believe you only want people to use them for something.
So with this in mind, I don't want to use anyone and I don't want anyone to leach of me either.
As a woman, I'm not horny all the time, fab is ideal for when I am and I have cats for when I want a cuddle.
Stay free!
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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago
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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago
southeast , midlands, southern France |
It's different for men then it is for, my old dad told me many years ago, the secret to a long happy relationship is agree with everything she says, even if she's wrong |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
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A man needs to feel respected.. the woman wants to feel loved |
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We value openness and honesty. Especially when it comes to swinging! We talk to eachother about every interaction we have on here, at meets and in clubs. We have no secrets.
It must be working, we've been together for 15 years and married for 6! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Trust, honesty, quality time and laughter. |
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Trust, compatibility,belly laughter,making an effort,communication |
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"Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do? "
Which kind of relationships? Many here may be connected to sexual things lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone that can just be bloody honest
People will lie about even the littlest things
And of course connection, sense of humour and respect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone that can just be bloody honest
People will lie about even the littlest things
And of course connection, sense of humour and respect."
Same. Like connections of the mind!
They think when i say that! . I wanna marry them, or own them!
How very wrong and far from it.
I charge forwards with hope! Too many over thinkers and non doers lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone that can just be bloody honest
People will lie about even the littlest things
And of course connection, sense of humour and respect.
Same. Like connections of the mind!
They think when i say that! . I wanna marry them, or own them!
How very wrong and far from it.
I charge forwards with hope! Too many over thinkers and non doers lol "
Yes, exactly that x |
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Definitely won't be in relationship ever again, too much hard work and complicated to maintain |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I spent so many years wanting 'happy ever after'. Then I got into a relationship and it didn't work out. No fault of either of us, we just didn't communicate an we lacked chemistry.
The sex was great, he was kind, caring and lovely and everything I thought I wanted but the initial spark went and rather than address it, I accepted.
Now I know that I won't do that again. I know that's probably the most important thing to me.
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Think is relationships can be easy but people choose to make them more complicated than they need to be |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The little things. All the big stuff is important but I think it’s the little things that make a relationship work. |
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What’s in important to me in a relationship is a man that can cook |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love, honesty, openness, intimacy, affection, patience, kindness ... and hot sex ... and both wanting same things and having similar values.
Accepting that some relationships have a best before date and knowing when to leave. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Love, honesty, openness, intimacy, affection, patience, kindness ... and hot sex ... and both wanting same things and having similar values.
Accepting that some relationships have a best before date and knowing when to leave."
this one million percent |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just the little things in life that make a difference coffee or tea in bed in Morning when stressed cuddle or hug cooking a nice meal for someone not expecting anything in return
Caring for someone who doesn’t care about themselves |
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By *archelCouple
over a year ago
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Communication is paramount, it breeds respect and honesty in a relationship (certainly for us).
We've been together 14 years, and tbh communication was seriously lacking, and 18 months ago that very nearly broke us to the point I went to find somewhere to live.
Long story short is we had a heart to heart, both admitted being at fault. Once the air was cleared we started afresh, with open honest communication and our relationship has never been better, in fact we've never been happier.
They say that relationships need to be worked at, but since we started communicating properly with eachother we haven't felt the need to work at it, it just works naturally. And long may it continue. |
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By *929Man
over a year ago
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Important to me would be honesty and loyalty, having goals and working hard to achieve them, liking dogs as will never not have one in house.
I try to give the same things, happy to work long and hard to provide best life can. Dream of the day of being with someone and having achieved relative financial security before being old and knackered and can get up and walk dogs for miles in countryside on sunny morning with no worries |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Trust.
Laugh. If you can have a laugh together I think the rest often falls into place, with a bit of work. |
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I do absolutely everything for my man cook clean love care support he wants for nothing
An my reward is ….. every night he takes away my ability to walk properly … it’s true love ?? |
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I’m saying this with total confidence there is now possible way any relationship can fail if she sticks to these rules ….
1. Never let him leave the house hungry
2. Never let him Leave cold
3. Always make sure he leaves with a smile on his face
The most important
4. Always make sure his balls are completely drained dry ??
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"Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do? "
Make them a priority..., Be honest and communicate. |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
Tatooine |
"Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do?
Make them a priority..., Be honest and communicate. " Disagree, always make yourself priority never stop being the person you are and try to be a person someone else wants you to be, do not compromise who you are and your life journey to fit into someone else mould.
This is why a like being single. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Acceptance of the bad aswell as the good.
Growth
Communication
Trust
Honesty
Laughter
Emotional maturity |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do? " Honesty and Trust.
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Love, trust, honesty, respect, communication,
We always make time for Eachother no matter how hard of a day or week it’s been with work and life.
We have a date night every week.
We are still as happy and in love today as we was when we first met. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As so many people have said, communication is the key. I've a tendency to second guess and withdraw so I try hard now to be vulnerable and open. I want to show the person that they matter to me. |
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"Inspired by a few threads recently... what's important to you in a relationship? What do you try and make sure you do?
Make them a priority..., Be honest and communicate. Disagree, always make yourself priority never stop being the person you are and try to be a person someone else wants you to be, do not compromise who you are and your life journey to fit into someone else mould.
This is why a like being single. "
I'm.not gonna overtly disagree...
But I did say a priority...no the priority |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For both me and J it’s always trust, and no lies. Both of us come from previous relationships where both of those things were broken many times and both of us treated like door mats.
Now those two things we promised to each other are our rules that if broken even a single time we go our separate ways. |
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Intimacy (Essential)
Open communication (Essential)
Trust (Essential)
Kinky AF (Essential)
Sandwiches (Desirable) |
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Long time since I had a real relationship! But think being prepared to b disappointed would b a good one! Not that I shall have another real one in my lifetime! X |
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By *ullyMan
over a year ago
Near Clacton |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love |
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By *ullyMan
over a year ago
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Being honest and truthful both ways.
That said I don't expect many people come on here for a "relationship" more likely to expand the fun in the one they already are in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I try and make them
Smile everyday, enjoying hearing and telling them I love them, respect, making them laugh, feel
Safe, respected and supported. Passion and intimacy along side care and snuggles
Probably why I’m single |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ttfn |
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