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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
I was once told that meeting a particular forum user would open many doors for me in the swinging world.
Do you think this is true?
If so who would you say is the forum user most likely to raise your own profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn’t say it’s true at all
In fact I would say the forums hinder rather than help people
Use to think this place was good
But over time it’s shown me that people that are prosived to be nice people aren’t nice at all
It’s all just one big smoke show |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only if they're in the Clique™. But if they tell you that they're in the Clique™, odds are they're not really in the Clique™. Hope that helps 
LvM"
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"I was once told that meeting a particular forum user would open many doors for me in the swinging world.
Do you think this is true?
If so who would you say is the forum user most likely to raise your own profile?"
This sounds like it belongs in the #metoo movement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some forum users are also regular club goers and have a large group of swinging friends so I suppose someone like that could help you break into the scene as it were. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bollocks.
Fuck her ^^ and you're in Fab royalty 
LvM"
Internet rolity have been sitting among yous for a very very long time watching
God is it about time I think so |
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I've seen a few high profile women claiming to have schooled a number of new profiles and set them on their journey with good advice.
Strangely though if you look at most of those profiles a year later they are either unlos or don't have any further veries.
The assumption has to be that the original advice was poor or not taken and/or other women have refused to meet them because of who they were all veried by. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
rubbish op most of the real swingers dont go anywhere near these forums
the forum are a tiny tiny part and alot on it dont meet online or at all nothing wrong with that at all by the way as we all play or not play our own way but popular people on a online platform really means nothing out in the real world nothing at all .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was once told that meeting a particular forum user would open many doors for me in the swinging world.
Do you think this is true?
If so who would you say is the forum user most likely to raise your own profile?"
If a member of Fab Royalty wants to open doors for you, its probably to show you the Exit. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
Nah I don't believe it just like I don't believe in fab elite or fab royalty.
Yes it might help you if you want to get in with a certain group of people on here all depending on whether the person you meet wants you to meet others or wants to keep you to themselves. Or if they give recommendations to others on here or blacklist you. Or if you care about any of that shite. Anyone who uses the whole do you know who an I line is not anyone I would have interest in meeting anyhow. I prefer to meet people that I like and want to meet rather than try and join in with any group just for the sake of it. |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
We wouldn't do anything we didn't want to, in order to raise our profile.. Why would you? However we have found ourselves introduced to a few very desirable circle's after meeting a certain few people.
Won't lie we like the fact, rather than having to trawl Fab..
Networking is just that and if everyone's happy..
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
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Fucks sake... 
I've literally just walked in the door after a day working out in the cold, thought I'd sit down and peruse the forums for 10 minutes before starting some more work...and I find this.
OK. Back in my single male profile days I met loads of people via the forums. Some for sex and some for socials. Never did I target someone because they were popular or because I thought it would boost any Fab 'social standing'. I did it because I got a good feel for their persona online and wanted to see if they were the same in person. There were a lot of popular, almost 'idolised' profiles back then including men, women and couples. Less frequent forum users would give OTT flattery and blow some smoke in response to their posts and I'm sure some forum regulars did occasionally think that their popularity did them favours when looking for company.
But it would be pretty arrogant and borderline delusional for anyone to think that by posting in here they're building any kind of fan base of folk, queuing up to meet them.
And if anyone actively looked to meet a forum user just because they appeared popular online then I'd advise them to prepare for as much disappointment as joy. The forums seem to have a higher percentage of users who either meet so infrequently you're more likely to be struck by lightening, or they tend to be looking for long term, almost monogamous relationships, meet only in clubs, or prioritise social events over 1-2-1 meets.
Just my observations of course. Other views will differ.
Right. Back to work for me.
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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We've met loads of forum users can't say it's opened doors for us. Nor would I expect it too.
Its probably had the opposite effect people have said they wouldn't meet us because we have met certain forum members.
Each to their own run your profile they way you want and take things on the forums with a pinch of salt! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn’t say it’s true at all
In fact I would say the forums hinder rather than help people
Use to think this place was good
But over time it’s shown me that people that are prosived to be nice people aren’t nice at all
It’s all just one big smoke show "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This explains all the messages in my inbox
Change your filters so men can't message you...it keeps my inbox clear "
Where would I get all my pictures of dicks from thought if I did that? |
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
Chinese Takeaway near you |
"I was once told that meeting a particular forum user would open many doors for me in the swinging world.
Do you think this is true?
If so who would you say is the forum user most likely to raise your own profile?"
All lies!!
But meet me & you get 10% discount with your next Chinese takeaway order lol |
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Clearly this will be a polarising thread.
Quite recently I met the 'enfant terrible' socialite of the Fab Social Fora. It didn't open any doors for me, but it left a few of them ajar.
The brief acquaintanceship was a great PR stunt for my profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On a serious note, this is one of the many, many reasons I'd never do verifications anymore.
I expected at least one from the time I helped retrieve that thing from that place  "
You put it there! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But I feel if I can somehow infiltrate the so called Secret Society of the fab website, I can at least know who to approach. 
Or who to avoid "
That’s a hint isn’t it?! …. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't need someone that believes themselves to be so popular everyone wants to meet them to give me any help with my profile.
Those are the people I avoid on purpose at the socials I've been too.....
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I don't know what raising your profile actually means.
We use the forums mainly for parties and holidays.
On holiday at present and the see who's near facility is great.
We have been checking forum posts of folks who want to meet, why waste your time meeting someone if you don't find them compatible.
My advice, just do your own thing, take things at your own pace.
If you are pleasant, open, happy and approachable doors will open automatically.
Have a great swinging journey.
It's your journey, nobody else's. |
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"I don't need someone that believes themselves to be so popular everyone wants to meet them to give me any help with my profile.
Those are the people I avoid on purpose at the socials I've been too....."
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You charlatan! I tried fruitlessly to get away from you at the last social. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't need someone that believes themselves to be so popular everyone wants to meet them to give me any help with my profile.
Those are the people I avoid on purpose at the socials I've been too.....
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You charlatan! I tried fruitlessly to get away from you at the last social. "
Bullshit..... you kept coming back to double dip my chips! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Raise one's profile here? Or in the real world?
It might be worth remembering that, thank goodness, those are very different things."
I've never understood the saying the real world. Just because interacting on the Internet isn't face-to-face and personal doesn't make it any less real and I think people need to remember that more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Raise one's profile here? Or in the real world?
It might be worth remembering that, thank goodness, those are very different things.
I've never understood the saying the real world. Just because interacting on the Internet isn't face-to-face and personal doesn't make it any less real and I think people need to remember that more. "
It's less real in many cases because you have no idea if people are who they claim to be online, or in the case of the Forum if the things they say are what they actually believe or reflect their true personality. People can lie or deceive in person of course but its much easier and so more common online. |
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"Raise one's profile here? Or in the real world?
It might be worth remembering that, thank goodness, those are very different things.
I've never understood the saying the real world. Just because interacting on the Internet isn't face-to-face and personal doesn't make it any less real and I think people need to remember that more.
It's less real in many cases because you have no idea if people are who they claim to be online, or in the case of the Forum if the things they say are what they actually believe or reflect their true personality. People can lie or deceive in person of course but its much easier and so more common online. "
This ^ Leo Blooms is an utter cunt in real life! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Raise one's profile here? Or in the real world?
It might be worth remembering that, thank goodness, those are very different things.
I've never understood the saying the real world. Just because interacting on the Internet isn't face-to-face and personal doesn't make it any less real and I think people need to remember that more.
It's less real in many cases because you have no idea if people are who they claim to be online, or in the case of the Forum if the things they say are what they actually believe or reflect their true personality. People can lie or deceive in person of course but its much easier and so more common online.
This ^ Leo Blooms is an utter cunt in real life! "
Harsh but true ^ |
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"Raise one's profile here? Or in the real world?
It might be worth remembering that, thank goodness, those are very different things."
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My dear Thesp', I'm more than happy to raise your profile to a higher plane. It will be an apotheosis. |
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"Raise one's profile here? Or in the real world?
It might be worth remembering that, thank goodness, those are very different things.
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My dear Thesp', I'm more than happy to raise your profile to a higher plane. It will be an apotheosis. "
You are too kind. Outside here, my profile is already dangerously high. I can barely leave my palaces without being mobbbed by well-wishers, and winsome lovelies hoping for marriage. |
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"Raise one's profile here? Or in the real world?
It might be worth remembering that, thank goodness, those are very different things.
I've never understood the saying the real world. Just because interacting on the Internet isn't face-to-face and personal doesn't make it any less real and I think people need to remember that more. "
Fair point. I meant in terms of profile. There will be people well-known offline who are unknown here,and vice versa. |
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Probably that couple 48 from London who go by the name fabswingers.com. They message everyone on here I think. Very well connected I'd say.
However personally speaking in the words of Shania Twain, That dont impress me much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was once told that meeting a particular forum user would open many doors for me in the swinging world.
Do you think this is true?
If so who would you say is the forum user most likely to raise your own profile?"
Is this your Q? why would you want to open all the doors? Surely you'd only want to open the right ones. Why waste your time? |
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"I don't need someone that believes themselves to be so popular everyone wants to meet them to give me any help with my profile.
Those are the people I avoid on purpose at the socials I've been too.....
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You charlatan! I tried fruitlessly to get away from you at the last social.
Bullshit..... you kept coming back to double dip my chips! "
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And what, fair maiden, is wrong with Le Doublé Dip du frîtes?? |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"I was once told that meeting a particular forum user would open many doors for me in the swinging world.
Do you think this is true?
If so who would you say is the forum user most likely to raise your own profile?
If a member of Fab Royalty wants to open doors for you, its probably to show you the Exit. "
Too true |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"I was once told that meeting a particular forum user would open many doors for me in the swinging world.
Do you think this is true?
If so who would you say is the forum user most likely to raise your own profile?
Is this your Q? why would you want to open all the doors? Surely you'd only want to open the right ones. Why waste your time? "
The person that said it to me is not the same person that they alluded to.
I had to chuckle and ask them what they meant, but they were adamant in their belief that meeting certain people on the forum opens or closes doors to you.
I wanted to see how prevalent this thought was, as I see it as pure nonsense. |
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"they were adamant in their belief that meeting certain people on the forum opens or closes doors to you.
I wanted to see how prevalent this thought was, as I see it as pure nonsense."
Everyone who hasn't met me thinks this is nonsense.
Everyone who HAS met me stays tight-lipped about the frankly incredible benefits, but suffice to say a free entry to the Church Steeple Fund Tombola (top prize, a £5 Woolworths voucher) is just the start!
OK.
It's also the end. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What does open doors mean?
Some fabbers are more involved in the scene. Some are more sociable and know everyone.
Those ppl would probably be useful to meet as they can do the introductions.
Nothing sordid, or cliquie, or popularity contest about it.
And if any fabber really has the queen bee, prom queen hold over others... Do you really want to meet their mini mes?
I will admit, at school I spent much time pining over the cheerleader popular girls. But I've grown out of that. So now it's a blessing if I am being cock blocked by the queen bee. It's a timesaving advice as I like my partner's to have minds of their own |
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There was a time way back whence when blokes I'd meet were suddenly receiving invites and interest from other forum women who previously showed little interest until the veri from me went up.
So, I do believe there is a smidge of truth in it. It's the motivation behind new interest that would be the concern. Is it because the new veri is seen as some kind of seal of approval or because of other, darker reasons?
As mentioned above, some forum users attend lots of events and parties, so "access" to meeting new people would be easier.
Anyone who's ever attended a party of any kind in any capacity (other than a work do where everyone knows each other) must have seen at least 1 person they never knew before they went, whether it be a birthday party, a wedding, etc. So in that sense it definitely gives you the opportunity to meet new people.
Some "popular" folk don't go to parties or events, and the roles would be reversed if they attended with someone who already knew people there.
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"What does open doors mean?
Some fabbers are more involved in the scene. Some are more sociable and know everyone.
Those ppl would probably be useful to meet as they can do the introductions.
Nothing sordid, or cliquie, or popularity contest about it.
And if any fabber really has the queen bee, prom queen hold over others... Do you really want to meet their mini mes?
I will admit, at school I spent much time pining over the cheerleader popular girls. But I've grown out of that. So now it's a blessing if I am being cock blocked by the queen bee. It's a timesaving advice as I like my partner's to have minds of their own"
Introductions. That's the fucking word I was looking for and all i could think of was "access to meeting new people"
I'm a thick cunt sometimes. |
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"I was once told that meeting a particular forum user would open many doors for me in the swinging world.
Do you think this is true?
If so who would you say is the forum user most likely to raise your own profile?
This sounds like it belongs in the #metoo movement. "
Lol my thoughts also |
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over a year ago
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"I was once told that meeting a particular forum user would open many doors for me in the swinging world.
Do you think this is true?"
I’ll go against the majority of the replies and I’d say there is an element of truth in that. But not just meeting a particular forum user.
For example I think if you met someone who’s regularly at the top of the hot pics, then I do think you’d potentially gain some more attention (people wanting to meet you). But that would just be because your profile is now seen by more. So your chances of someone finding your profile attractive is higher…
I’m not sure on the way it’s worded about opening more doors. People either want to meet you or they don’t. Just because you meet someone who’s fawned over, I don’t believe would make you anymore desirable if that makes sense.
I think the same would apply, you’d probably get more people now looking because they’ve seen you met. & if you weren’t someone’s type before I don’t think meeting a certain someone would change someone’s view on wanting to meet you.
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
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Out of many many meetings over the years, I only personally know one person who regularly posts on the forum
So I believe it's down to you, yourself to find people to meet, not someone who thinks they're the King or Queen of the forums. |
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"Only if they're in the Clique™. But if they tell you that they're in the Clique™, odds are they're not really in the Clique™. Hope that helps
LvM"
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Funny people.
I remember a couple starting a thread years ago about people referring to them as forum royalty. The thread didn’t go quite as they’d expected
One person’s perception of desirable forum personality is the next persons rubber dogshit.
Everyone has their own minds and opinions and we’re perfectly capable of opening any doors we desire to for ourselves thank you. |
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I have seen people basing their entire fab journey around popularity.
Only meeting people deemed as popular either on the forums or on the site in general.
I was told I was one of the popular ones which is where the initial attraction lay despite the fact I had never met anyone from the forums at that stage and spoken to less than a handful so it was a strange perception to have.
The word popular was always used on threads when describing their ideal fab meet and on a few occasions after a glass or three of something messages were sent to others asking them to recommend popular guys who were worth initiating a conversation with.
There was always a flip side though and an obsession with their own popularity and how others perceived them.
Claims that people in the forums shunned them and created a fear of posting because they weren't popular anymore for standing up to other popular forumites.
The irony of all this was that their definition of "standing up" was to message all their popular friends and get them to attack anyone they had taken offence to.
So of course fab is a popularity contest for some. Usually for those with an unhealthy obsession and desire for validation. |
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"Some forum users are also regular club goers and have a large group of swinging friends so I suppose someone like that could help you break into the scene as it were. "
This really. I used to be a very regular club goer and was very well known on the fab site.
If I was going to a club/event I’d put a status up inviting people to come and say hello (ie making it clear I’m friendly and approachable) and often introduced them to friends I was with.
Had nothing to do with sex though - just giving newbies to the scene a friendly face when they got to the club. |
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"I was once told that meeting a particular forum user would open many doors for me in the swinging world.
Do you think this is true?
If so who would you say is the forum user most likely to raise your own profile?"
I’ve no idea - but tbh in recent years I’ve deliberately lowered my profile rather than raising it.
Being really popular on here with chaps can (and certainly did in my case) cause a huge amount of nastiness from women.
I’ve absolutely no wish to go through the shit again that I went through pre-lockdown.
Happy being the lesser known Peachy |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"I have seen people basing their entire fab journey around popularity.
Only meeting people deemed as popular either on the forums or on the site in general.
I was told I was one of the popular ones which is where the initial attraction lay despite the fact I had never met anyone from the forums at that stage and spoken to less than a handful so it was a strange perception to have.
The word popular was always used on threads when describing their ideal fab meet and on a few occasions after a glass or three of something messages were sent to others asking them to recommend popular guys who were worth initiating a conversation with.
There was always a flip side though and an obsession with their own popularity and how others perceived them.
Claims that people in the forums shunned them and created a fear of posting because they weren't popular anymore for standing up to other popular forumites.
The irony of all this was that their definition of "standing up" was to message all their popular friends and get them to attack anyone they had taken offence to.
So of course fab is a popularity contest for some. Usually for those with an unhealthy obsession and desire for validation."
The irony is who people perceive popular is so inconsistent & occasionally you meet a popular person fave to face & realise they are often very normal & nothing special to look at , or extremely toxic and best avoided. The nicest people are generally the unpopular ones.
I’ve actually been accused of being popular and having a fab harem. Of course neither is true !
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Funny people.
I remember a couple starting a thread years ago about people referring to them as forum royalty. The thread didn’t go quite as they’d expected
One person’s perception of desirable forum personality is the next persons rubber dogshit.
Everyone has their own minds and opinions and we’re perfectly capable of opening any doors we desire to for ourselves thank you."
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Yes actually I do.
Going back over the years and all the "popular" profiles and resulting threads opened many doors for newbies especially, to gain new contacts and new experiences. Is that not what swinging is supposed to be about. Sharing and being open minded to new people in the lifestyle.
We are too quick to jump to self imposed forum politics and the resulting self importance.
When in reality we are all the same and no one is above another in any shape or form. Anyone one of us can be "flavour of the month" at any time.
That's what's best about the world of forum fecklenss. The door is constantly revolving |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot of negative comments, so I would add that several good friends who have been well known on Forum did introduce me to Socials and have always been welcoming and supportive to many others. |
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I understand one of the main selling points of this site is networking and it's a great tool for meeting people and moving in circles that may be closed off otherwise.
I've always been curious though how people feel about networking without consent?
Recommendations made without the persons prior knowledge or permission?
I know of a few who are no longer on the site, both men and women, who had doors opened for them that they didn't know existed until they were asked to step through them because someone they had met nominated them and passed on their details. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes actually I do.
Going back over the years and all the "popular" profiles and resulting threads opened many doors for newbies especially, to gain new contacts and new experiences. Is that not what swinging is supposed to be about. Sharing and being open minded to new people in the lifestyle.
We are too quick to jump to self imposed forum politics and the resulting self importance.
When in reality we are all the same and no one is above another in any shape or form. Anyone one of us can be "flavour of the month" at any time.
That's what's best about the world of forum fecklenss. The door is constantly revolving "
Brought a memory of our first meet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of negative comments, so I would add that several good friends who have been well known on Forum did introduce me to Socials and have always been welcoming and supportive to many others. "
social isn't the same without you btw
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There are a lot of lovely people here, diamonds in the rough. And if some of them are more visible on the forums it’s only because they spend more time posting here. The more you chat, the more friends you make. You might even find you fancy some of them, and there’s no harm in that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand one of the main selling points of this site is networking and it's a great tool for meeting people and moving in circles that may be closed off otherwise.
I've always been curious though how people feel about networking without consent?
Recommendations made without the persons prior knowledge or permission?
I know of a few who are no longer on the site, both men and women, who had doors opened for them that they didn't know existed until they were asked to step through them because someone they had met nominated them and passed on their details."
can you bring this to life more?
Is me saying to someome "I love xyz, you should meet them" non consensual door opening?
There are lot of abstract terms in this thread. We need to agree some common terms ! |
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"I understand one of the main selling points of this site is networking and it's a great tool for meeting people and moving in circles that may be closed off otherwise.
I've always been curious though how people feel about networking without consent?
Recommendations made without the persons prior knowledge or permission?
I know of a few who are no longer on the site, both men and women, who had doors opened for them that they didn't know existed until they were asked to step through them because someone they had met nominated them and passed on their details.can you bring this to life more?
Is me saying to someome "I love xyz, you should meet them" non consensual door opening?
There are lot of abstract terms in this thread. We need to agree some common terms !"
That is one way of looking at it but the cases I know of is when that goes one step further and they say "I love xyz, you should meet them. Here's their phone number and further details".
There are other examples which I won't be discussing on here but others have already alluded to background drama they suffered as a result of being considered popular on this thread and suffice to say some people are extremely uncomfortable having others discussing them even in positive terms. |
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"I understand one of the main selling points of this site is networking and it's a great tool for meeting people and moving in circles that may be closed off otherwise.
I've always been curious though how people feel about networking without consent?
Recommendations made without the persons prior knowledge or permission?
I know of a few who are no longer on the site, both men and women, who had doors opened for them that they didn't know existed until they were asked to step through them because someone they had met nominated them and passed on their details.can you bring this to life more?
Is me saying to someome "I love xyz, you should meet them" non consensual door opening?
There are lot of abstract terms in this thread. We need to agree some common terms !
That is one way of looking at it but the cases I know of is when that goes one step further and they say "I love xyz, you should meet them. Here's their phone number and further details".
There are other examples which I won't be discussing on here but others have already alluded to background drama they suffered as a result of being considered popular on this thread and suffice to say some people are extremely uncomfortable having others discussing them even in positive terms. "
ah right. That's not okay imo... Bit more than just a recommendation.
And I'm sure being "popular" has its downsides. My observation is that some ppl seem to believe the hotties have it made, have always had it made and have an easy life juts because they have won the genetic lottery. Or have worked hard to stay in shape etc. And so given them this prom queen persona that isn't true. *Refuses to name names*
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"So who is this forum user that opens doors? x"
I was about to ask that and who on earth are FAB royalty and how did they ever get to this lofty position.
Or are they just legends in their own minds.
Or, as my dear nan used to say to any conceivable problem "best get yourself out into the fresh air".
Wise words. |
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"So who is this forum user that opens doors? x
I was about to ask that and who on earth are FAB royalty and how did they ever get to this lofty position.
Or are they just legends in their own minds.
Or, as my dear nan used to say to any conceivable problem "best get yourself out into the fresh air".
Wise words. "
I was called Fab royalty once. I was fucking horrified.
Hopefully I've disabused anyone of that notion.
I'm a (small r) republican. Down with all of that. |
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"I think some popular people would like you to think they are the key to raising your fab profile but it’s nonsense. It can be a curse as much as anything else "
Wise words Babs. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I think some popular people would like you to think they are the key to raising your fab profile but it’s nonsense. It can be a curse as much as anything else
Wise words Babs. "
I thought so Lorna |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
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"So who is this forum user that opens doors? x"
The general question is about any of a number of people who some perceive as popular on the forum.
I’m glad my thread seems to have at least given some old women something to talk about at UTB |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"So who is this forum user that opens doors? x
The general question is about any of a number of people who some perceive as popular on the forum.
I’m glad my thread seems to have at least given some old women something to talk about at UTB "
Oh I missed this chat! Damn it.  |
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"So who is this forum user that opens doors? x
The general question is about any of a number of people who some perceive as popular on the forum.
I’m glad my thread seems to have at least given some old women something to talk about at UTB "
That'll be the fab royalty |
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Wait. Ate the clique and the royalty the same group?
And are the also the gatekeeps and door openers?
Is there a hierarchy withing the heirachy?
Viva la reveloution. |
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Gapping Fanny |
"So who is this forum user that opens doors? x
The general question is about any of a number of people who some perceive as popular on the forum.
I’m glad my thread seems to have at least given some old women something to talk about at UTB
Oh I missed this chat! Damn it. "
I know right. They could at least share it with the rest of the class so we can all have a good laugh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's me.
I'm the popular one, it is me.
I also have a big gaping fanny, just saying.
I will raise your profile and your views and people will treat you with more respect. |
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"It's me.
I'm the popular one, it is me.
I also have a big gaping fanny, just saying.
I will raise your profile and your views and people will treat you with more respect."
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Sounds like there are room for a few more |
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"It's me.
I'm the popular one, it is me.
I also have a big gaping fanny, just saying.
I will raise your profile and your views and people will treat you with more respect."
All I want is to be treated with a little more dignity  |
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"So who is this forum user that opens doors? x
The general question is about any of a number of people who some perceive as popular on the forum.
I’m glad my thread seems to have at least given some old women something to talk about at UTB "
What is UTB? |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I was once told that meeting a particular forum user would open many doors for me in the swinging world.
Do you think this is true?
If so who would you say is the forum user most likely to raise your own profile?"
God no….. you see a poster at a social… you say hello and have a chat….
I’d hate being an OG thinking that apparently I hold the golden keys so to speak! |
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"It's me.
I'm the popular one, it is me.
I also have a big gaping fanny, just saying.
I will raise your profile and your views and people will treat you with more respect."
But are you professional? |
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"It's me.
I'm the popular one, it is me.
I also have a big gaping fanny, just saying.
I will raise your profile and your views and people will treat you with more respect."
And what does one have to sacrifice to attain this special privilege? I can’t imagine you’ll be so benevolent |
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"I was once told that meeting a particular forum user would open many doors for me in the swinging world.
Do you think this is true?
If so who would you say is the forum user most likely to raise your own profile?
God no….. you see a poster at a social… you say hello and have a chat….
I’d hate being an OG thinking that apparently I hold the golden keys so to speak! "
Good thing you're not then isn't it? That's alllll me baby |
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"I was once told that meeting a particular forum user would open many doors for me in the swinging world.
Do you think this is true?
If so who would you say is the forum user most likely to raise your own profile?
God no….. you see a poster at a social… you say hello and have a chat….
I’d hate being an OG thinking that apparently I hold the golden keys so to speak! "
I assume by OG, you mean Old Git- cos you've been round this scene longer than i have and i've got forum posts elsewhere nearly as old as some of the newbies here |
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By *etcpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"It's me.
I'm the popular one, it is me.
I also have a big gaping fanny, just saying.
I will raise your profile and your views and people will treat you with more respect."
Gaping or gapping? |
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"So who is this forum user that opens doors? x
The general question is about any of a number of people who some perceive as popular on the forum.
I’m glad my thread seems to have at least given some old women something to talk about at UTB
What is UTB?"
Up the Brum social I assume |
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"So who is this forum user that opens doors? x
The general question is about any of a number of people who some perceive as popular on the forum.
I’m glad my thread seems to have at least given some old women something to talk about at UTB
What is UTB?"
Up the bum |
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