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"Real swingers know its not a free for all
Why have so many on here got the wrong idea and think that it is?"
It may sound unbelievable but recently in the club I was sat waiting for Miss to finish in the glory holes and was approached my a much younger woman, mid 20s. All over me, kissing and such. Probably thought all she had to do was flutter her eyelashes and I'd be off to a private room. Not really, I'm not a piece of meat and I know my worth. |
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"Real swingers know its not a free for all
Why have so many on here got the wrong idea and think that it is?"
Because they have absolutely no idea what it means to be a swinger and just think that because people are swingers they are just going to shag anyone and everyone |
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"Real swingers know its not a free for all
Why have so many on here got the wrong idea and think that it is?
It may sound unbelievable but recently in the club I was sat waiting for Miss to finish in the glory holes and was approached my a much younger woman, mid 20s. All over me, kissing and such. Probably thought all she had to do was flutter her eyelashes and I'd be off to a private room. Not really, I'm not a piece of meat and I know my worth."
Reminds me of a lady that is very often here on the forums and what she said after visiting her first club after she left disappointed, it's was something along the lines that she went around giving people the eye but no one approached her to start conversation  |
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Reminds me of a lady that is very often here on the forums and what she said after visiting her first club after she left disappointed, it's was something along the lines that she went around giving people the eye but no one approached her to start conversation "
There can be an intimidation factor, or don't like non-verbal. I like to strike up a conversation first, maybe at the bar. Or, they can talk to me first. Once we get past the usual pleasantries, the 4 of us could bid each other a good evening or decide if we want to have a bit of fun. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Real swingers know its not a free for all
Why have so many on here got the wrong idea and think that it is?
Because they have absolutely no idea what it means to be a swinger and just think that because people are swingers they are just going to shag anyone and everyone"
I've yet to see the one and only definition of a 'real swinger'.
There are many dynamics and as many different ideas of what swinging is in the minds of many people who consider themselves swingers.
None are right. Equally none are wrong.
Some think it's just for couples and singles shouldn't be involved. Some think it's about clubs. Some think it has to involve full swapping and everyone getting involved in physical interaction. Some think two singles meeting isn't swinging and its just casual sex. Some think they know who is and who isn't a swinger.
Best thing to do is not to worry about what others think, say or do and just enjoy whatever you get involved in, rather than try and define what is pretty much a very broad spectrum of activities.
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"Real swingers know its not a free for all
Why have so many on here got the wrong idea and think that it is?
Because they have absolutely no idea what it means to be a swinger and just think that because people are swingers they are just going to shag anyone and everyone
I've yet to see the one and only definition of a 'real swinger'.
There are many dynamics and as many different ideas of what swinging is in the minds of many people who consider themselves swingers.
None are right. Equally none are wrong.
Some think it's just for couples and singles shouldn't be involved. Some think it's about clubs. Some think it has to involve full swapping and everyone getting involved in physical interaction. Some think two singles meeting isn't swinging and its just casual sex. Some think they know who is and who isn't a swinger.
Best thing to do is not to worry about what others think, say or do and just enjoy whatever you get involved in, rather than try and define what is pretty much a very broad spectrum of activities.
A"
This 100%
The only thing someone else should dare to tell me isn’t real about me is my hair colour!!! |
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"Real swingers know its not a free for all
Why have so many on here got the wrong idea and think that it is?
It may sound unbelievable but recently in the club I was sat waiting for Miss to finish in the glory holes and was approached my a much younger woman, mid 20s. All over me, kissing and such. Probably thought all she had to do was flutter her eyelashes and I'd be off to a private room. Not really, I'm not a piece of meat and I know my worth.
Reminds me of a lady that is very often here on the forums and what she said after visiting her first club after she left disappointed, it's was something along the lines that she went around giving people the eye but no one approached her to start conversation "
The one that went with her Male "friend"? If a Woman gives us the eye we're going straight over, we don't even need conversation, we ARE pieces of meat  |
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"Real swingers know its not a free for all
Why have so many on here got the wrong idea and think that it is?
It may sound unbelievable but recently in the club I was sat waiting for Miss to finish in the glory holes and was approached my a much younger woman, mid 20s. All over me, kissing and such. Probably thought all she had to do was flutter her eyelashes and I'd be off to a private room. Not really, I'm not a piece of meat and I know my worth.
Reminds me of a lady that is very often here on the forums and what she said after visiting her first club after she left disappointed, it's was something along the lines that she went around giving people the eye but no one approached her to start conversation
The one that went with her Male "friend"? If a Woman gives us the eye we're going straight over, we don't even need conversation, we ARE pieces of meat "
I think she did actually, going by her photos she is smoking hot but I can't say I spotted her on the actual night, but then the club was rammed and I was a little preoccupied |
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"Real swingers know its not a free for all
Why have so many on here got the wrong idea and think that it is?"
Who is it free for? Who has to pay? I’m not sure I understand the point you’re trying to make or what you are saying “swinging” is? |
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The one that went with her Male "friend"? If a Woman gives us the eye we're going straight over, we don't even need conversation, we ARE pieces of meat "
And that's perfectly fine for you and I wouldn't judge you. But there’s a definite clique out there that think their way is the only way and look don't on people that are different. |
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The question of what a real swinger is has been asked often and many have admitted they don't class themselves as swingers.
As a member of that group when we are then asked why we are on a swingers site I have a very specific and detailed response.
"Because I am". |
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"Real swingers know its not a free for all
Why have so many on here got the wrong idea and think that it is?
It may sound unbelievable but recently in the club I was sat waiting for Miss to finish in the glory holes and was approached my a much younger woman, mid 20s. All over me, kissing and such. Probably thought all she had to do was flutter her eyelashes and I'd be off to a private room. Not really, I'm not a piece of meat and I know my worth."
You went with her though didn't you? You can admit it, this is a safe space  |
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"Real swingers know its not a free for all
Why have so many on here got the wrong idea and think that it is?
It may sound unbelievable but recently in the club I was sat waiting for Miss to finish in the glory holes and was approached my a much younger woman, mid 20s. All over me, kissing and such. Probably thought all she had to do was flutter her eyelashes and I'd be off to a private room. Not really, I'm not a piece of meat and I know my worth.
You went with her though didn't you? You can admit it, this is a safe space "
See that's the best bit, nobody in here knows who I am for real so it doesn't make sense to make it up. No I thanked her but walked away. |
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"Real swingers know its not a free for all
Why have so many on here got the wrong idea and think that it is?
It may sound unbelievable but recently in the club I was sat waiting for Miss to finish in the glory holes and was approached my a much younger woman, mid 20s. All over me, kissing and such. Probably thought all she had to do was flutter her eyelashes and I'd be off to a private room. Not really, I'm not a piece of meat and I know my worth.
You went with her though didn't you? You can admit it, this is a safe space
See that's the best bit, nobody in here knows who I am for real so it doesn't make sense to make it up. No I thanked her but walked away."
Haha I was joking BTW
Did she even try and have a convo with you before she stated touching/kissing? |
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"Real swingers know its not a free for all
Why have so many on here got the wrong idea and think that it is?
It may sound unbelievable but recently in the club I was sat waiting for Miss to finish in the glory holes and was approached my a much younger woman, mid 20s. All over me, kissing and such. Probably thought all she had to do was flutter her eyelashes and I'd be off to a private room. Not really, I'm not a piece of meat and I know my worth.
You went with her though didn't you? You can admit it, this is a safe space
See that's the best bit, nobody in here knows who I am for real so it doesn't make sense to make it up. No I thanked her but walked away.
Haha I was joking BTW
Did she even try and have a convo with you before she stated touching/kissing?"
Yeah, chatted at the bar first, then sat on some seats outside the glory holes, got to know each other quite well. But it's the same for both sides, if a girl said thank you and walked away it's normal. She may need approval from her partner and I have to accept that, consent is very important. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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I'm a crap swinger ,
I rarely meet & just mainly mess about in here & go to the odd social .
Some will treat fab as a quick shag site ,for others it's about friendship and the social side.
I just try and avoid the ones who think they'll get an instant shag. |
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"What if someone thinks it’s a free for all AND they take it up the arse? What are they then?!
This is not me, by the way. Well… "
A pain in the ass JOKES Red jesus! |
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"What's a "real" swinger?"
Someone whos dose not assume cos you messageing or for expample or talking to someone in a club that is going to lead to sex
A real swinger lets it find it self and lets the person able to back out at last min dose not think this person is a time waster. Cos everyone has the right to back out last min no one should assume anything. If swinging happens it happens that jackpot. But till then people are not sex toys. A true swinger will go to a club and will know not everyone who gos to clubs swings. Some folk are just living their life styles where they can live it. Some couple for example are going to spice yo theirs sex life's but not wanting to swing. A true swinger knows this dose not happen over night that lots of things have to fall into place like time sacales have to match venus then you have to find poeple you spark of with some time can take months or even years to find that. Another sign of a true swinger is some one who holds back and never pushes it that is just a predator is that. A ture swinger knows a good half the time it dont happen for at least half if not more swingers want a social side to. For example a good numbers of cuoples wont have anything to do with single men cos they just want a shag a lot of cuples donts like that they want friendship as well wont pim out the wife to them. A true swinger knows that if you go a club you cant expect sex cos swingers are not sex workers. a true swinger knows this isn't porn. yes swingers want sex but not be used. so that for the most what a true swinger is |
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"What's a "real" swinger? Someone whos dose not assume cos you messageing or for expample or talking to someone in a club that is going to lead to sex
A real swinger lets it find it self and lets the person able to back out at last min dose not think this person is a time waster. Cos everyone has the right to back out last min no one should assume anything. If swinging happens it happens that jackpot. But till then people are not sex toys. A true swinger will go to a club and will know not everyone who gos to clubs swings. Some folk are just living their life styles where they can live it. Some couple for example are going to spice yo theirs sex life's but not wanting to swing. A true swinger knows this dose not happen over night that lots of things have to fall into place like time sacales have to match venus then you have to find poeple you spark of with some time can take months or even years to find that. Another sign of a true swinger is some one who holds back and never pushes it that is just a predator is that. A ture swinger knows a good half the time it dont happen for at least half if not more swingers want a social side to. For example a good numbers of cuoples wont have anything to do with single men cos they just want a shag a lot of cuples donts like that they want friendship as well wont pim out the wife to them. A true swinger knows that if you go a club you cant expect sex cos swingers are not sex workers. a true swinger knows this isn't porn. yes swingers want sex but not be used. so that for the most what a true swinger is"
Can I get the audiobook version of this please? |
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"Real swingers know its not a free for all
Why have so many on here got the wrong idea and think that it is?"
We're real swingers, real shit swingers. And that suits us just fine. We rarely actually swing. We just do our thing, have a great time. When we do find the right people and actually swing is usually pretty fucking awesome.
I think everyone has different ideas about swinging and we do understand what you mean. But it's fine to say no and enjoy your thing with people who get you and get how you like to swing. |
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"What if someone thinks it’s a free for all AND they take it up the arse? What are they then?!
This is not me, by the way. Well…
A pain in the ass JOKES Red jesus!"
With a loudhailer:
FUCK YOUUUUUUUUUUUU
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"What if someone thinks it’s a free for all AND they take it up the arse? What are they then?!
This is not me, by the way. Well…
A pain in the ass JOKES Red jesus!
With a loudhailer:
FUCK YOUUUUUUUUUUUU
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Ah like old times (wipes tear) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To-morrow I cease to be a puppet, and I become a swinger like you and all the other swingers."
One does not simply become a real swinger. One must undergo the TRIALS |
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