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over a year ago
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Maybe mate.
It’s almost impossible to get out there. I’ve followed all advice and been nothing but a gentleman and I can count on 1 hand how many replies I’ve had back. I think I’ve sent over 200 messages to just as many accounts and I’ve been talking in the forum. I think basically there’s so many lads on Fab it’s almost impossible to get ahead. I have had one meet but that was with a person I know from outside fab so I’m not sure if it counts.
Good luck mate, we’re gonna need it haha  |
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"There must be someone out out who wants to play with a nice guy.  "
Need to improve your profile. Having no photos going to be a great disadvantage. I be wondering why such the secrecy which is off putting |
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"Maybe mate.
It’s almost impossible to get out there. I’ve followed all advice and been nothing but a gentleman and I can count on 1 hand how many replies I’ve had back. I think I’ve sent over 200 messages to just as many accounts and I’ve been talking in the forum. I think basically there’s so many lads on Fab it’s almost impossible to get ahead. I have had one meet but that was with a person I know from outside fab so I’m not sure if it counts.
Good luck mate, we’re gonna need it haha "
There maybe too many men but trust me most aren't worth meeting lol so the odds aren't as bad as you think |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe mate.
It’s almost impossible to get out there. I’ve followed all advice and been nothing but a gentleman and I can count on 1 hand how many replies I’ve had back. I think I’ve sent over 200 messages to just as many accounts and I’ve been talking in the forum. I think basically there’s so many lads on Fab it’s almost impossible to get ahead. I have had one meet but that was with a person I know from outside fab so I’m not sure if it counts.
Good luck mate, we’re gonna need it haha
There maybe too many men but trust me most aren't worth meeting lol so the odds aren't as bad as you think"
Hi cherry, I think we spoke about Boomtown earlier this year. 
We’ve just got to keep going until we get noticed. Standing out from the crowd is the hardest thing on Fab. Reading your comment is encouraging thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP, sorry to be a bit blunt..but you've posted numerous similar threads, people have given you loads of advice how best to go about it, how to up your chances, and from what i can see you havent changed your profile at all.
Still no photos, still a poorly written bio.
Yes, there are women out there who want to meet nice genuine guys...i can see plenty on here.
But you really need to stand out, make an effort, be original.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why is a 'nice' guy entitled to meet?
Total turn off for me when people use that wording, it immediately conjures up a sympathy vote and an image of controlling / cloying personalities or a but wingy when things don't go their way.
I think if you are a nice guy, you don't need to state it, it becomes apparent in interactions.
The real Q you are asking is why can't I get a meet on a site of 40k+ users, where i guess 80% are male. Then factor in location, preferences etc... Fab doesn't guarantee a connection, it merely facilitates the possibility of meeting someone like minded |
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"Why is a 'nice' guy entitled to meet?
Total turn off for me when people use that wording, it immediately conjures up a sympathy vote and an image of controlling / cloying personalities or a but wingy when things don't go their way.
I think if you are a nice guy, you don't need to state it, it becomes apparent in interactions.
The real Q you are asking is why can't I get a meet on a site of 40k+ users, where i guess 80% are male. Then factor in location, preferences etc... Fab doesn't guarantee a connection, it merely facilitates the possibility of meeting someone like minded "
Absolutely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OK everybody close your eyes.
Think of your once in a life time fantasy fuck.
Now Think of the 2nd best experience you can imagine.
Work your way down the list.
Let me know then the description of the experience in your head was.....nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is a 'nice' guy entitled to meet?
Total turn off for me when people use that wording, it immediately conjures up a sympathy vote and an image of controlling / cloying personalities or a but wingy when things don't go their way.
I think if you are a nice guy, you don't need to state it, it becomes apparent in interactions.
The real Q you are asking is why can't I get a meet on a site of 40k+ users, where i guess 80% are male. Then factor in location, preferences etc... Fab doesn't guarantee a connection, it merely facilitates the possibility of meeting someone like minded "
I deny the "nice" term when it's mentioned in a DM.... I'm just being me...which should be portrayed in your profile without being cringe worthy along with over stating ones self |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"None of you understand my situation
On a site like this, you need to be able to sell yourself. If your situation is relevant, that includes that."
Awww, he's going for sympathy fuck. Bless him  |
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"None of you understand my situation "
Something like wife won't suck cock anymore, always too tired for sex, doesn't talk about anything other than the kids and feels unattractive after spending all her spare time picking up after the family? |
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Too be fair I think one of peoples number one criteria is don't be a dick.
But being a nice guy is not some awesome unique selling feature on here. Plenty of guys on here are who are good guys and gentlemen. If being a good guy alone was enough then loads of guys would be getting laid left, right and centre. Simply you need more strings to your bow than just being a nice guy. We have quite specific requirements in what we find attractive and who we want to sleep with. Flip it round, would you sleep with any woman on the only criteria she's a nice woman? Or do you want more, connection, humour, confidence, certain physical criteria? Then you mix people specific requirements and male:female:couple ratios.
Then also factor it doesn't matter how great you are in real life, if you don't sell your self incredibly well in a competitive market. Who'll ever know is you don't sell yourself well?
Basically your a nice guy, good for you and good know but what else? |
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OP maybe consider creating a post asking for profile help and advice. There’s a forum below the lounge - swinging support and advice, you could post in.
People can then give you a few pointers etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"None of you understand my situation
Something like wife won't suck cock anymore, always too tired for sex, doesn't talk about anything other than the kids and feels unattractive after spending all her spare time picking up after the family?"
I'm sure he's been very sympathetic, offered her support, been patient with her....and done everything he can to help her feel sexy and atractive again. Not putting pressure on her.
Ahh, who am i kidding. Of course he's not!!! |
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"None of you understand my situation "
Is this the situation where you can't accommodate, can't be bothered to travel, expect someone to travel from S Wales to Merseyside because you really want to meet them, don't read profiles and then whine when you can't get a meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think about it"
You think about it. Weak, cheating, self pitying men aren't attractive, with a decent profile.
Who wants trouble coming to their door if your missus found out?
This place isn't a band aid for a knackered marriage. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Weak, cheating, self pitying men aren't attractive
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Oh great, now you tell me!!!
OP, you have been given loads of profile advice on other threads.
And more of the same on this thread, yet you have not done anything suggested!!
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"None of you understand my situation
Is this the situation where you can't accommodate, can't be bothered to travel, expect someone to travel from S Wales to Merseyside because you really want to meet them, don't read profiles and then whine when you can't get a meet."
To be fair, I've found that having my own home and being able to accommodate anytime hasn't helped me on here. Maybe because I can't travel due to not owning a vehicle goes against me.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why is a 'nice' guy entitled to meet?
Total turn off for me when people use that wording, it immediately conjures up a sympathy vote and an image of controlling / cloying personalities or a but wingy when things don't go their way.
I think if you are a nice guy, you don't need to state it, it becomes apparent in interactions.
The real Q you are asking is why can't I get a meet on a site of 40k+ users, where i guess 80% are male. Then factor in location, preferences etc... Fab doesn't guarantee a connection, it merely facilitates the possibility of meeting someone like minded "
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"None of you understand my situation
Is this the situation where you can't accommodate, can't be bothered to travel, expect someone to travel from S Wales to Merseyside because you really want to meet them, don't read profiles and then whine when you can't get a meet.
To be fair, I've found that having my own home and being able to accommodate anytime hasn't helped me on here. Maybe because I can't travel due to not owning a vehicle goes against me.
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I don't have vehicle either, but prepared to reasonably travel.
OP states he does travel, but can't be bothered as he's ,'too busy'
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"Maybe mate.
It’s almost impossible to get out there. I’ve followed all advice and been nothing but a gentleman and I can count on 1 hand how many replies I’ve had back. I think I’ve sent over 200 messages to just as many accounts and I’ve been talking in the forum. I think basically there’s so many lads on Fab it’s almost impossible to get ahead. I have had one meet but that was with a person I know from outside fab so I’m not sure if it counts.
Good luck mate, we’re gonna need it haha "
Do you get out to the social events |
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"None of you understand my situation
Is this the situation where you can't accommodate, can't be bothered to travel, expect someone to travel from S Wales to Merseyside because you really want to meet them, don't read profiles and then whine when you can't get a meet.
To be fair, I've found that having my own home and being able to accommodate anytime hasn't helped me on here. Maybe because I can't travel due to not owning a vehicle goes against me.
I don't have vehicle either, but prepared to reasonably travel.
OP states he does travel, but can't be bothered as he's ,'too busy'
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Sadly for me, there are no clubs in Sheffield anymore since La Chambre closed, so going to a social is out of the question for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Does your wife - the one you mentioned in another thread, the one you want to watch being fucked by another man - know that you're on here, or are you looking to play behind her back?
And you think that's being a 'nice' guy? |
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