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I have done both and both can be exciting in their own way.
I have had socials that have led to some fantastic fun and socials that didn't go anywhere.
I have also had first meets which where just for the naughty fun.
Some people the sexual tension and anticipation after a good social can act the whole experience, some people just get the same having sex with strangers.
Always open to both! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely no expectations or any pressure , that a person has given me their time is a start , it's like everything , your behaviour gets you a shot at the title wether you get another one totally depends on you . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've done both, we've also had socials only after and we've taken people home we hadn't gone out to meet so a total mixed bag.
Each situation had its own triggers and each fitted what we wanted at the time.
Don't limit yourself then everything that's available to you is an option should you choose it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both.
Meet for drinks and chat then onto a hotel.
I don't have time for 2 separate meets.
Unless they're a complete knobhead then I'll leave after the first drink. |
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By *humper.Man
over a year ago
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Im yet to have a social of any description, but thats not to say i wouldnt. Some meets weve chatted, had a drink etc before hand at their place, others ive literally been told to "get it out" the second ive walked in.
Im ok with either to be honest. |
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"Im yet to have a social of any description, but thats not to say i wouldnt. Some meets weve chatted, had a drink etc before hand at their place, others ive literally been told to "get it out" the second ive walked in.
Im ok with either to be honest. "
You’re lucky. Most meets I’ve had I’ve been told to “get out” the second I’ve walked in!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im yet to have a social of any description, but thats not to say i wouldnt. Some meets weve chatted, had a drink etc before hand at their place, others ive literally been told to "get it out" the second ive walked in.
Im ok with either to be honest.
You’re lucky. Most meets I’ve had I’ve been told to “get out” the second I’ve walked in! "
Maybe they said "get it out!" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im yet to have a social of any description, but thats not to say i wouldnt. Some meets weve chatted, had a drink etc before hand at their place, others ive literally been told to "get it out" the second ive walked in.
Im ok with either to be honest.
You’re lucky. Most meets I’ve had I’ve been told to “get out” the second I’ve walked in! "
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By *humper.Man
over a year ago
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"Im yet to have a social of any description, but thats not to say i wouldnt. Some meets weve chatted, had a drink etc before hand at their place, others ive literally been told to "get it out" the second ive walked in.
Im ok with either to be honest.
You’re lucky. Most meets I’ve had I’ve been told to “get out” the second I’ve walked in! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just to say I chat a lot beforehand.
If I'm meeting you for a drink I'm 90% sure I want more.
Yep… what she said ^^
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I think that's alot more people than care to admit it.
Social first is one of those automatic responses cause it sounds like the right thing to say |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But how can you ever tell for sure if the chemistry will be there, face to face? Just because the photos look good, and people seem great from online messages… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But how can you ever tell for sure if the chemistry will be there, face to face? Just because the photos look good, and people seem great from online messages…"
This is me. I have chatted with some lovely men, liked their pics but when we've met in person the chemistry wasn't there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes always a social chat/drinks/break the ice/see if we click meet first, then arrange another meet if all goes well.....that's if the person(s) turn up in the first place! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But how can you ever tell for sure if the chemistry will be there, face to face? Just because the photos look good, and people seem great from online messages…"
Voice notes or quick video chat on telegram |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Voice notes or quick video chat on telegram"
Video chat helps, but voicenotes and phone calls still don’t sort the chemistry side. I’d never plan for sex on a first meeting, based on seeing a few pics and hearing someone’s voice.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But how can you ever tell for sure if the chemistry will be there, face to face? Just because the photos look good, and people seem great from online messages…"
Tell me about it right?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I actually think voice notes help a lot if it's back and forth. Or a phone call obviously. But by the time I've commited to meeting the person I'm usually pretty sure I would go through with it even if it's not as dreamy as I had hoped.
We are all flawed fuckers who present the best versions of ourselves online so that's a given  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But how can you ever tell for sure if the chemistry will be there, face to face? Just because the photos look good, and people seem great from online messages…
Tell me about it right?! "
I know, I know if I get on with someone by talking ( I mean actual talking on the phone, video call). I know if I fancy someone by doing that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to reply again but on these new points.
Yeah I mean imagine going through too much work effort and hassle chatting, essentially going on dates, to then set up a sex meet and for that sex to be fucking terrible.
To quote that meme 'aint nobody got time for that!' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just used to get straight in the bedroom after a few pleasantries  A good few weeks of chat before that and the swapping of a grainy face pic or two "
I read this as granny face pic and was alarmed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just used to get straight in the bedroom after a few pleasantries A good few weeks of chat before that and the swapping of a grainy face pic or two
I read this as granny face pic and was alarmed "
If granny gets approval away we go |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just used to get straight in the bedroom after a few pleasantries A good few weeks of chat before that and the swapping of a grainy face pic or two
I read this as granny face pic and was alarmed
If granny gets approval away we go "
Pahaha. The guys all the red flags if he's disappointed when you show up after those |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I’m not fingering her under the table after 1/2hr then it’s a bad meet for me 
If I’d have known that I’d have moved a bit closer! "
You got the main course. Of course  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do most of you like me rather meet for a social chat and kisses only on first meets or do you all just want to fuck lol "
We’re not really that sociable to be honest, just want to fuck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My last fab meet was a nice drink, chat and a snog 
Lucky man or woman x
The second and third meet was much better. Very hot and steamy "
Steamy sounds fun x |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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"Sorry to reply again but on these new points.
Yeah I mean imagine going through too much work effort and hassle chatting, essentially going on dates, to then set up a sex meet and for that sex to be fucking terrible.
To quote that meme 'aint nobody got time for that!'"
Yeah I mean imagine getting your sexiest underwear on, makeup etc. Then have the hassle and effort of meeting someone that’s expecting sex but you fancy them as much as a piece of raw tripe. Imagine feeling that you have to give them a blow job just so that you can escape!
Ain’t nobody got time for that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry to reply again but on these new points.
Yeah I mean imagine going through too much work effort and hassle chatting, essentially going on dates, to then set up a sex meet and for that sex to be fucking terrible.
To quote that meme 'aint nobody got time for that!'
Yeah I mean imagine getting your sexiest underwear on, makeup etc. Then have the hassle and effort of meeting someone that’s expecting sex but you fancy them as much as a piece of raw tripe. Imagine feeling that you have to give them a blow job just so that you can escape!
Ain’t nobody got time for that!"
Oh damn well I mean IT being consensual is always a pretty damn essential part for starters...
It's each to their own, I think prepare for the best, expect the worst |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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For myself it's how in-depth we've spoken. here and off here, because the meeting is like pre planned we know what's happening it's normally at that point we've already grown a really great connection. |
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That's why we used to like going to the attic that's how we got into swinging go there we would aim to play together in a room and if we felt a bit frisky or the Mrs liked a guy we'd play with them no pressure.. |
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"Do most of you like me rather meet for a social chat and kisses only on first meets or do you all just want to fuck lol "
No fucking on coffee meet...  first is to meet and see if there is attraction.maybe snog...to make sure they can kiss |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"The furthest my first meets go is a kiss..never have and never will fuck on the first meet x
Bummer saved some traveling expenses x
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But I'm guessing theirs room for those that need a delicate touch  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A social. If I feel we like each other enough I’ll ask for a smooch, you get to them know if the passion and some kind of spark is there if that makes sense.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's why we used to like going to the attic that's how we got into swinging go there we would aim to play together in a room and if we felt a bit frisky or the Mrs liked a guy we'd play with them no pressure.."
Jet airplane to the Attic please |
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"Isn't it about what's most natural? If you both fancy eachother... there's nothing like the present
And you would be an amazing present. "
But am I right about you should go with the flow? No point waiting again if you really fancy eachother? |
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"Isn't it about what's most natural? If you both fancy eachother... there's nothing like the present
And you would be an amazing present.
But am I right about you should go with the flow? No point waiting again if you really fancy eachother?"
Yes. No. Maybe. I mean, if the vibe is right, I’ve done it and it didn’t amount to anything afterwards, because it was just being with each other at the right time, and it was sexy and exciting.
But, if Then there’s that anticipation of wanting after having a little taste. You know? That’s a build up to something much much more. (For me).
It also leaves the opportunity of nothing happening (also happens) which sucks, so I agree with you, JUMP ON THEM!!! |
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"Isn't it about what's most natural? If you both fancy eachother... there's nothing like the present
And you would be an amazing present.
But am I right about you should go with the flow? No point waiting again if you really fancy eachother?
Yes. No. Maybe. I mean, if the vibe is right, I’ve done it and it didn’t amount to anything afterwards, because it was just being with each other at the right time, and it was sexy and exciting.
But, if Then there’s that anticipation of wanting after having a little taste. You know? That’s a build up to something much much more. (For me).
It also leaves the opportunity of nothing happening (also happens) which sucks, so I agree with you, JUMP ON THEM!!! "
But most people like one nighters? |
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over a year ago
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Fuck on the first meet if there's chemistry
I have very very little spare time and if I had to factor in an extra day for social first it would take forever to get to it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Isn't it about what's most natural? If you both fancy eachother... there's nothing like the present
And you would be an amazing present.
But am I right about you should go with the flow? No point waiting again if you really fancy eachother?
Yes. No. Maybe. I mean, if the vibe is right, I’ve done it and it didn’t amount to anything afterwards, because it was just being with each other at the right time, and it was sexy and exciting.
But, if Then there’s that anticipation of wanting after having a little taste. You know? That’s a build up to something much much more. (For me).
It also leaves the opportunity of nothing happening (also happens) which sucks, so I agree with you, JUMP ON THEM!!!
But most people like one nighters?"
I'm a repeat cummer...two nights?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hardly had any socials and the one's I did have ended with sex.
I always plan to meet for sex and it's always worked out.
I find socials more like dating which isn't what I'm here to do.
I would meet up for a social with a woman as I find those matches for me are harder to know for sure before you meet. |
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"Do most of you like me rather meet for a social chat and kisses only on first meets or do you all just want to fuck lol "
We generally aim to be fucking within 3 minutes of meeting... if that goes OK, then we will probably consider talking to them.
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"Fuck on the first meet if there's chemistry
I have very very little spare time and if I had to factor in an extra day for social first it would take forever to get to it!"
I'm the same...but only if I think we would get on. The fab meets I had when it purely was a social to begin with ended up with average sex that I didn't enjoy and never to see them again. I did find a common denominator with them meets...none of them had verifications. They were all handsome and lovely to chat to. But the sex was pretty dead. The best sex I had is with fabbers with lots of positive verifications. |
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"Isn't it about what's most natural? If you both fancy eachother... there's nothing like the present
And you would be an amazing present.
But am I right about you should go with the flow? No point waiting again if you really fancy eachother?
Yes. No. Maybe. I mean, if the vibe is right, I’ve done it and it didn’t amount to anything afterwards, because it was just being with each other at the right time, and it was sexy and exciting.
But, if Then there’s that anticipation of wanting after having a little taste. You know? That’s a build up to something much much more. (For me).
It also leaves the opportunity of nothing happening (also happens) which sucks, so I agree with you, JUMP ON THEM!!!
But most people like one nighters?"
Do they? Maybe we do, but also most people like to see things get, dare I say better, if you see each other again. |
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"Isn't it about what's most natural? If you both fancy eachother... there's nothing like the present
And you would be an amazing present.
But am I right about you should go with the flow? No point waiting again if you really fancy eachother?
Yes. No. Maybe. I mean, if the vibe is right, I’ve done it and it didn’t amount to anything afterwards, because it was just being with each other at the right time, and it was sexy and exciting.
But, if Then there’s that anticipation of wanting after having a little taste. You know? That’s a build up to something much much more. (For me).
It also leaves the opportunity of nothing happening (also happens) which sucks, so I agree with you, JUMP ON THEM!!!
But most people like one nighters?
Do they? Maybe we do, but also most people like to see things get, dare I say better, if you see each other again. "
Yes but difficult to find a good playmate. Much easier to find one nighters? |
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Last time I was on here (pre covid) I would only meet for sex. No social what so ever, but wasnt really getting much out of the meets because I prefer some sort of connection.
Now I do a lot of chatting and aim for a social first with no expectation of more |
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If the vibe is right then I'm all in. I always say it's a social for the first meet as that just seems a lot of pressure to go straight into a play meet without meeting each other first.
But my meets usually do not stay social haha, I have had purely social meets but they never progressed further because the vibe wasn't right. It's easy finding one nighters. Regular play partners are a definitely more difficult to find. |
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But, if Then there’s that anticipation of wanting after having a little taste. You know? That’s a build up to something much much more. (For me).
It also leaves the opportunity of nothing happening (also happens) which sucks, so I agree with you, JUMP ON THEM!!!
But most people like one nighters?
Do they? Maybe we do, but also most people like to see things get, dare I say better, if you see each other again.
Yes but difficult to find a good playmate. Much easier to find one nighters?"
And that’s where yours and my point of views will be coming from a different place maybe. A woman v a man’s experience.
I can’t say either way feels easy. It feels easy with what I want, but the reality is much different.
And to relate that to the op, no, my expectations of the woman I meet is, they might not find that first meeting sexy enough to want anything more than a social.
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We haven't had loads of meets... but we haven't had a social yet (unless you count meeting in a hotel bar first).
We tend to be quite spontaneous with meets, especially if we are meeting with single guys. |
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A social is a good buffer zone isn't it?
If you get on really well and have time and accommodation available it can progress rapidly onto more - if you don't or haven't then it gives you time to make your mind up which isn't a bad thing. |
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