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By *ndiii OP Man
over a year ago
Paisley Scotland |
Anyone else can’t be fucked with a list of demands on a profile page.
If your this if your that dont do this don’t do that.
Must be this must be that
Mustn’t be this mustn’t be that!!!!!!
Just go and do one !!!!! |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
demands ??
you mean preference and you get pissed off because they make you not suitable ??
there are no demands no one demands they are just looking for a match to what they want .... its that simple really  |
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Or you could just think to yourself "well, they ain't for me" and that be that?
They're not doing anything offensive by stating the kind of person they wish to engage with.
They're not being bad humans.
I appreciate it must get frustrating realising you're incompatible with a profile, but by giving you the info needed to make an informed decision regarding compatibility can only be a good thing surely? |
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By *eff4000Man
over a year ago
Camberley |
Whenever I see a profile like that I think they must be an 'old hand' and have seen it all.
I've only been on here like a month so I probably have the doe eyed innocence on my profile and haven't been worn down by other people's relentless arseholery.
Either that or people are just different  |
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It's to save both parties time and effort. If people read profiles, they wouldn't of wasted their time messaging the person to just find out they're not what they're looking for. Logic way of working to me |
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"Anyone else can’t be fucked with a list of demands on a profile page.
If your this if your that dont do this don’t do that.
Must be this must be that
Mustn’t be this mustn’t be that!!!!!!
Just go and do one !!!!!"
Or perhaps... Just move on to the next.? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I quite like a profile with "demands" as you put it, which let's be honest are actually just preferences.
1 it let's me know if I am what they are looking for and 2 if we would be compatible
Saves so much time going back and forth to find out 10 messages later that we aren't after or into the same things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They’re just preferences and saves anyone wasting their time.
I also think that people usually only have an issue with such profiles when they discover that they don’t meet said demands. "
Yeah I agree with you  |
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Maybe requests become more forceful when it becomes apparent that too many people assume that things don't apply to them.
My profile states only seeking women. Yet I still get multiple daily messages from guys trying thier luck.
I state I'm not looking to peg guys. Many messages from guys asking me to peg them.
And people wonder why some profiles seem forceful or demanding. |
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"Maybe requests become more forceful when it becomes apparent that too many people assume that things don't apply to them.
My profile states only seeking women. Yet I still get multiple daily messages from guys trying thier luck.
I state I'm not looking to peg guys. Many messages from guys asking me to peg them.
And people wonder why some profiles seem forceful or demanding."
Out of curiosity, why haven't you blocked guys? |
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Out of curiosity, why haven't you blocked guys?"
Because I shouldn't need to. Why should the minority spoil it for the rest.
I have many male friends on the site who I chat with. I enjoy making new online friends of all genders. |
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"I quite like a profile with "demands" as you put it, which let's be honest are actually just preferences.
1 it let's me know if I am what they are looking for and 2 if we would be compatible
Saves so much time going back and forth to find out 10 messages later that we aren't after or into the same things"
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"Anyone else can’t be fucked with a list of demands on a profile page.
If your this if your that dont do this don’t do that.
Must be this must be that
Mustn’t be this mustn’t be that!!!!!!
Just go and do one !!!!!"
Hey look they gets lots of messages that don't fit profile requirements so they list what they want clearly, so theirs no mistaking what they want, only a few do this so just avoid the ones that do, it's quite simple  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Out of curiosity, why haven't you blocked guys?
Because I shouldn't need to. Why should the minority spoil it for the rest.
I have many male friends on the site who I chat with. I enjoy making new online friends of all genders. "
But you can still chat to your male friends if your filter stops men making contact with you.
Once you've messaged them they can reply. The filter is one way, just stops men making initial contact.
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It's easy to avoid profiles that don't appeal.
People are quick to defend their own profile as preferences rather than demands which is as it should be.
The issue arises though when,for example, a profile with a preference for clean shaven men sends an introductory message telling the recipient to lose their beard and they might be interested.
A profile with a preference for bi men only makes contact with a straight man to say they would consider meeting him if he agrees to play bi.
That's when they are no longer preferences and become demands and I often wonder how they would react if roles were reversed and someone offered to meet them as long as they shaved their pussy first?
Would they see that as the senders preference or would they tell them to fuck off? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else can’t be fucked with a list of demands on a profile page.
If your this if your that dont do this don’t do that.
Must be this must be that
Mustn’t be this mustn’t be that!!!!!!
Just go and do one !!!!!"
They saved you time. You immediately know you're not compatible so no time wasted messaging them.
Why so angry!!!!!!! |
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Out of curiosity, why haven't you blocked guys?
Because I shouldn't need to. Why should the minority spoil it for the rest.
I have many male friends on the site who I chat with. I enjoy making new online friends of all genders.
But you can still chat to your male friends if your filter stops men making contact with you.
Once you've messaged them they can reply. The filter is one way, just stops men making initial contact.
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Point being, I don't mind people contacting me to chat. What I have an issue with is people ignoring my profile then contacting me and pushing thier luck.
If a simple no thanks, not interested is accepted, then fine. It's when that isn't respected I have issues.
I'm currently having a great conversation with a few people following a forum post. I wouldn't have had that if I'd blocked men from initial contact.
And as I said, why should the minority spoil it. |
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Out of curiosity, why haven't you blocked guys?
Because I shouldn't need to. Why should the minority spoil it for the rest.
I have many male friends on the site who I chat with. I enjoy making new online friends of all genders.
But you can still chat to your male friends if your filter stops men making contact with you.
Once you've messaged them they can reply. The filter is one way, just stops men making initial contact.
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Came for the cock, stayed for the mansplaining. |
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"It's easy to avoid profiles that don't appeal.
People are quick to defend their own profile as preferences rather than demands which is as it should be.
The issue arises though when,for example, a profile with a preference for clean shaven men sends an introductory message telling the recipient to lose their beard and they might be interested.
A profile with a preference for bi men only makes contact with a straight man to say they would consider meeting him if he agrees to play bi.
That's when they are no longer preferences and become demands and I often wonder how they would react if roles were reversed and someone offered to meet them as long as they shaved their pussy first?
Would they see that as the senders preference or would they tell them to fuck off? "
they are in the position to change the rules though and we aren't lol and many of them know it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Out of curiosity, why haven't you blocked guys?
Because I shouldn't need to. Why should the minority spoil it for the rest.
I have many male friends on the site who I chat with. I enjoy making new online friends of all genders.
But you can still chat to your male friends if your filter stops men making contact with you.
Once you've messaged them they can reply. The filter is one way, just stops men making initial contact.
Point being, I don't mind people contacting me to chat. What I have an issue with is people ignoring my profile then contacting me and pushing thier luck.
If a simple no thanks, not interested is accepted, then fine. It's when that isn't respected I have issues.
I'm currently having a great conversation with a few people following a forum post. I wouldn't have had that if I'd blocked men from initial contact.
And as I said, why should the minority spoil it."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Guess that rules me out...!
Had to put dislikes due to fed up of saying no to peeps with their requests to fulfil their fetishes...!
Have boundaries, sorry.
Also, shouldn’t have to tell peeps to be clean but given some aren’t able to do basics, then they shouldn’t be surprised if I turn up & walk away from a meet if they are not clean...! |
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Came for the cock, stayed for the mansplaining.
It's the fun that never starts!
Its a perpetual non-starter.
And yet keeps being started, ad infinitum, world without end. It is the Law of Fab."
Here endeth the Lesson!! |
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Came for the cock, stayed for the mansplaining.
It's the fun that never starts!
Its a perpetual non-starter.
And yet keeps being started, ad infinitum, world without end. It is the Law of Fab.
Here endeth the Lesson!! "
Thanks be to Dog. |
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Came for the cock, stayed for the mansplaining.
It's the fun that never starts!
Its a perpetual non-starter.
And yet keeps being started, ad infinitum, world without end. It is the Law of Fab.
Here endeth the Lesson!! "
Surely it can't end yet, it hadn't been mansplained. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Came for the cock, stayed for the mansplaining.
It's the fun that never starts!
Its a perpetual non-starter.
And yet keeps being started, ad infinitum, world without end. It is the Law of Fab.
Here endeth the Lesson!! "
You can't end the lesson.. your a woman... silly |
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Came for the cock, stayed for the mansplaining.
It's the fun that never starts!
Its a perpetual non-starter.
And yet keeps being started, ad infinitum, world without end. It is the Law of Fab.
Here endeth the Lesson!!
You can't end the lesson.. your a woman... silly"
You're*
And don't you start!! |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Anyone else can’t be fucked with a list of demands on a profile page.
If your this if your that dont do this don’t do that.
Must be this must be that
Mustn’t be this mustn’t be that!!!!!!
Just go and do one !!!!!"
I love specifics.
It saves time when browsing and gives a pretty much instant idea of compatibility.
There's a massive gulf between preferences and demands that some fail to comprehend.
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"It's easy to avoid profiles that don't appeal.
People are quick to defend their own profile as preferences rather than demands which is as it should be.
The issue arises though when,for example, a profile with a preference for clean shaven men sends an introductory message telling the recipient to lose their beard and they might be interested.
A profile with a preference for bi men only makes contact with a straight man to say they would consider meeting him if he agrees to play bi.
That's when they are no longer preferences and become demands and I often wonder how they would react if roles were reversed and someone offered to meet them as long as they shaved their pussy first?
Would they see that as the senders preference or would they tell them to fuck off? "
But if messages like that arrive its simple. Delete. Block.
Some people will always try their luck and you can't control that.
You can of course prevent them from asking twice........
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"Anyone else can’t be fucked with a list of demands on a profile page.
If your this if your that dont do this don’t do that.
Must be this must be that
Mustn’t be this mustn’t be that!!!!!!
Just go and do one !!!!!"
Well you aren’t for us if you don’t message on the 3rd Tuesday of the month and it falls on an odd number, but only if that coincides with a new moon - that’s the important bit  |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
"Anyone else can’t be fucked with a list of demands on a profile page.
If your this if your that dont do this don’t do that.
Must be this must be that
Mustn’t be this mustn’t be that!!!!!!
Just go and do one !!!!!"
Worst still are the ones who make no effort then expect rewards |
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I don't reply to any messages sent in living languages.
My list of desperate Sumerian and Etruscan correspondents grows ever longer, however, so I may have to introduce more filters. Curse these pretty, alluring eyes of mine. (Shakes puny fist.) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"With some profiles, they've basically eliminated all but 3 people on here through not wanting this, that, or the other. Good luck to them. "
It's like the fab hunger games! I'd watch it! |
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"With some profiles, they've basically eliminated all but 3 people on here through not wanting this, that, or the other. Good luck to them. "
I just eliminate everyone by being a grumpy old bitch. Especially at 3am when I'm stuck in work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get told my profile is far too demanding.
At no point does it ask them to message me."
I just read your profile with a smile on my face. I dont think it is demanding, it just shows you wont just settle for anyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suspect the long lists of dos and donts are counter productive. Plenty of timewasters will ignore them and message anyway while others who may be a good match will be put off by the humourless tone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else can’t be fucked with a list of demands on a profile page.
If your this if your that dont do this don’t do that.
Must be this must be that
Mustn’t be this mustn’t be that!!!!!!
Just go and do one !!!!!"
Would you say this if you met their criteria to a tee and they were shit hot? |
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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago
Dundalk |
Some might find our profile demanding but from our point of view it cuts out most of the crap.
It's all very tongue in cheek and will therefore only attract those with a similar sense of humour.
It still hasn't prevented the odd cockwomble from wandering in full of praise for the bio and pics and then squealing foul play when we say thanks but no thanks.
Always hilarious that we were so amazing and wonderful just 2 messages ago and then become up our own hole and pretentious. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s tough for it *not* to end up a list of ‘demands’, really. It gets old fast saying the same old shit over and over. No, I don’t want a quick fuck as you pass through my area. No, I don’t want a lunchtime hookup when your wife is at work. Explaining how I am, 50 times a day, whether or not I have ginger pubes…I’m putting myself to sleep here  |
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"It’s tough for it *not* to end up a list of ‘demands’, really. It gets old fast saying the same old shit over and over. No, I don’t want a quick fuck as you pass through my area. No, I don’t want a lunchtime hookup when your wife is at work. Explaining how I am, 50 times a day, whether or not I have ginger pubes…I’m putting myself to sleep here "
Okay but do the curtains match the carpet though?
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