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Can you read people well?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm so good at it, I look into their eyes and I know instinctively  "
Do you? The reason I ask is I’m not sure, I think I can get along with most people, but that’s me and not really them.
I’m currently looking for a new house share (can’t afford my own place just yet) but when I speak to people I immediately think, am I going to want to bury you in the back yard after a few week? People can give great first impressions, but how often do you see their true character show after you get to know them more? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How good are you at it? "
People are as fake as they come when they want something. Ask many questions about why they left their last home. Get references from their employer or last landlord.even then the references can be flawed but it's all you have for now. It can be hit and miss whether you get a good one or not. Ask them questions about how they would expect a house mate to behave and take your time in choosing. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's dangerous to think you can read people too well, its often just projecting your existing biases onto them. Let people show themselves and then decide, particularly their actions rather than words. |
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It all depends on the person and how invested I am.
I like to think that I read them correctly most of the time but I'm not infallible.
I have read a few people as being friendly and approachable initially only for them to drop the mask sometime later. In fairness it's difficult to hold the mask and the knife at the same time.
On the flip side though, those I immediately recognise as manipulative and despicable never let me down and my initial assessment is always correct. |
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"How good are you at it? "
Really good, I often point out spelling errors on tattoos in the street, I'm dead popular, hope this comment doesn't have any spelling errors for people to point out, that would suck for me!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How good are you at it?
Really good, I often point out spelling errors on tattoos in the street, I'm dead popular, hope this comment doesn't have any spelling errors for people to point out, that would suck for me!
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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago
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I “read people” for a living and I’m highly trained to do so. You observe and read what people show you. If you have someone who is a very good actor, then you may think you’re reading the shit out of them when you really aren’t.
As someone said above, it’s dangerous to feel so certain in your ability to “read” someone. Stay curious, remember you may be wrong, and think of your initial assumptions of a person as hypotheses to be tested out!
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I form first impressions but they're not always correct.
I met a woman yesterday who I knew I wouldn't get on with after a fifteen minute conversation, she's surely got some very positive qualities but she showed me herself in a way that immediately made me aware that I wouldn't like her (I'm sure the feeling was mutual). However I've known many people in my life who I have grown to like after forming a poor first impression and vice versa.
Good luck in your search may all your future housemates be tidy, quiet and attractive young women  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm so good at it, I look into their eyes and I know instinctively
Do you? The reason I ask is I’m not sure, I think I can get along with most people, but that’s me and not really them.
I’m currently looking for a new house share (can’t afford my own place just yet) but when I speak to people I immediately think, am I going to want to bury you in the back yard after a few week? People can give great first impressions, but how often do you see their true character show after you get to know them more? "
Think you should consider carefully and set house rules. Get references too. People are only going to show you the side they think will fit the role of the perfect housemate. Do your vetting, look in share websites for advice etc and good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I read people extremely well - usually give them the benefit of the doubt if they've given an *off* first impression. If they follow through on that first impression it's goodbye |
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My hubby is a qualified journalist, and he has the ability to read people, and go digging when someone "pings his radar", as he puts it.
One person's "bi-curious" on this site has often turned out to be "flat-out bisexual and into bareback" on other others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I'm pretty damn good at it yeah. There are some people on here who I cannot work out for the life of me though.
I always wonder how we all got to being so kinky. I think there's always a reason and some people I couldn't even fathom a guess |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes.
Although I do get accused of reading people wrong when I point out their behaviour or decisions before they vocalise them, especially if they feel guilty or ashamed of them.
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"I'm so good at it, I look into their eyes and I know instinctively
Do you? The reason I ask is I’m not sure, I think I can get along with most people, but that’s me and not really them.
I’m currently looking for a new house share (can’t afford my own place just yet) but when I speak to people I immediately think, am I going to want to bury you in the back yard after a few week? People can give great first impressions, but how often do you see their true character show after you get to know them more? "
I can tell very quickly and ask lots of questions to be sure. People who are a bit dodgy or guarded for the wring reasons avoid eye contact and answering personal questions without seeming uncomfortable |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Yes.
Although I do get accused of reading people wrong when I point out their behaviour or decisions before they vocalise them, especially if they feel guilty or ashamed of them.
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They can't handle the truth! |
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Apparently so, we’d a new forklift driver start two weeks ago I said “He’s going to be useless” after his first day.
I was told to pipe down, the next day he drove the forklift through ducting across the factory, the day after that he smashed something else and today he drove the forklift through a roller door
If only someone had raised a concern |
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I can read people over a period of time, I look at deeds over words and notice tells. It's completely useless if a quick desicion on someone's character is required and one of the reasons I struggle with the idea that a 'connection' is required for casual sex, I emphasise that this is just me as a lot of people can achieve that in a brief period of time |
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"I am terrible at realising people are coming on to me
Same here....you pretty much have to be 'twat me round the head' obvious for me to realise.  "
I can't promise to twat you round the head, but this is as obvious as it gets. You are hot and we *all* want to fuck you.
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I think I'm pretty good at spotting fakeness. Not because I have any intuitive understanding of people (I don't), I'm just very analytical.
I tend to believe most people will fuck each other over if it suits them and try to stay guarded and reserved to avoid it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think so but I am always prepared to change my mind about a person. It takes a bit of watching/talking to truly figure someone out but I do think I am good at it.
I wouldnt like to have to make a quick ish decision to have someone move in though, that would be hard. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Really good at it in my job as security officer look people directly in the eye
Online it’s different and difficult to gauge an opinion but of this I know couple of lady’s that are totally genuine
And a couple of nice gents as well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it's dangerous to think you can read people too well, its often just projecting your existing biases onto them. Let people show themselves and then decide, particularly their actions rather than words."
This. But I few times regretted not trusting my initial intuition.
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"I'm so good at it, I look into their eyes and I know instinctively
Do you? The reason I ask is I’m not sure, I think I can get along with most people, but that’s me and not really them.
I’m currently looking for a new house share (can’t afford my own place just yet) but when I speak to people I immediately think, am I going to want to bury you in the back yard after a few week? People can give great first impressions, but how often do you see their true character show after you get to know them more? "
That's why I'm trying to avoid having to go that route for as long as possible |
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