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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all
So with the huge success that we have been having with our neurodivergent space, I want to post and make this !
Please use this space to discuss mental health issues and problems you are facing or even are generally inquisitive avout
the aim for this to become a safe space for advice and helping each other or even just that space to vent and get it off your chest
Anyone who shuts down others or suggestions to get over it will feel the wrath of meny members
Much love and well being
Arran |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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I think this is great.
Just a little “shout out” for Starfly-Lou (I think that’s correct!) though, who has been doing her mental health check-ins on a Monday in The Lounge for quite some time though.
She deserves a lot of credit for that  .
No reason why other support threads can’t exist too, of course |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
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"I think this is great.
Just a little “shout out” for Starfly-Lou (I think that’s correct!) though, who has been doing her mental health check-ins on a Monday in The Lounge for quite some time though.
She deserves a lot of credit for that .
No reason why other support threads can’t exist too, of course "
Her threads are amazing, she puts so much work in to including everyone who replies |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day. |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day."
Thanks for your opinion, but it seems lacking in empathy and understanding? |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
"So op this is a forum where no one is allowed an opinion thats different to yours "
I'm pretty sure he didn't say that. Just trying to make it a supportove and empathetic thread (much like the multiple threads on neurodiversity) rather than people negating or invalidating people's experiences.  |
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"I think this is great.
Just a little “shout out” for Starfly-Lou (I think that’s correct!) though, who has been doing her mental health check-ins on a Monday in The Lounge for quite some time though.
She deserves a lot of credit for that .
No reason why other support threads can’t exist too, of course
Her threads are amazing, she puts so much work in to including everyone who replies"
I agree 100% |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
"I think this is great.
Just a little “shout out” for Starfly-Lou (I think that’s correct!) though, who has been doing her mental health check-ins on a Monday in The Lounge for quite some time though.
She deserves a lot of credit for that .
No reason why other support threads can’t exist too, of course
Her threads are amazing, she puts so much work in to including everyone who replies I agree 100%"
I’m glad others feel the same. She seems like a very caring person, so I thought it’d be nice to mention her existing space for support (there’ve been others over the years, and perhaps currently).
Absolutely no reason why multiple spaces for support can’t exist of course, so kudos to the OP for his efforts here tol |
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"I think this is great.
Just a little “shout out” for Starfly-Lou (I think that’s correct!) though, who has been doing her mental health check-ins on a Monday in The Lounge for quite some time though.
She deserves a lot of credit for that .
No reason why other support threads can’t exist too, of course
Her threads are amazing, she puts so much work in to including everyone who replies"
My memory is so bad I completely forgot about her threads!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you all for the comments
And to clarify yes people can express opinions but similar to the neurodivergent threads I want this to be a safe space where you can come and your voice be heard without fear of reprimand and dismissal
As for the comment about if you have mental health problems you shouldn't be on here,
Yes we may have issues but we also have needs like everyone else and actually having that touch of someone else can be extremely healing. Speaking from personal experience here I am currently helping my sub work through her issues and helping her rebuild her confidence and feelings of being desired. |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
"Thank you all for the comments
And to clarify yes people can express opinions but similar to the neurodivergent threads I want this to be a safe space where you can come and your voice be heard without fear of reprimand and dismissal
As for the comment about if you have mental health problems you shouldn't be on here,
Yes we may have issues but we also have needs like everyone else and actually having that touch of someone else can be extremely healing. Speaking from personal experience here I am currently helping my sub work through her issues and helping her rebuild her confidence and feelings of being desired."
Exactly, I assume in simple terms, a level of disagreement is fine. But phrases such as 'man up' 'have you tried being cheerful' or other toxic and dismissive comments aren't |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Exactly, I assume in simple terms, a level of disagreement is fine. But phrases such as 'man up' 'have you tried being cheerful' or other toxic and dismissive comments aren't "
Bang on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day."
is this a professionally informed opinion, or just prejudice and thinking you know what's best for others? |
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By *nityCouple
over a year ago
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So with Mental Health being brought to the for front. Just over a year ago I went under life saving surgery, I had cancer of the larynx. I died on the operating table and when I came through recovery I was released from hospital Christmas Eve. Since then I have returned to the lifestyle and have found that because of my permanent hole in my neck to breathe, I’ve found that people have been reluctant to meet myself and the wife. Just because I have become a neck breather shouldn’t stop people meeting us, it hasn’t made me any different except feeling more uncomfortable and insecure. I’m still the nice guy who enjoys sex and pleasing women. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So with Mental Health being brought to the for front. Just over a year ago I went under life saving surgery, I had cancer of the larynx. I died on the operating table and when I came through recovery I was released from hospital Christmas Eve. Since then I have returned to the lifestyle and have found that because of my permanent hole in my neck to breathe, I’ve found that people have been reluctant to meet myself and the wife. Just because I have become a neck breather shouldn’t stop people meeting us, it hasn’t made me any different except feeling more uncomfortable and insecure. I’m still the nice guy who enjoys sex and pleasing women. "
Yeah it's a shame people see any difference in people as a reason to completely avoid someone, sorry to hear about your rough time though, maybe try clubs if you haven't it maybe will have that opport_nity for people to maybe ask questions or see you face to face .. think people allways imagine worst case scenario.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day.
is this a professionally informed opinion, or just prejudice and thinking you know what's best for others?"
Neither, just common sense, you do know what that is don't you....I'm guessing not. |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day.
is this a professionally informed opinion, or just prejudice and thinking you know what's best for others?
Neither, just common sense, you do know what that is don't you....I'm guessing not."
1 in 4 of us will struggle with mental health in our lifetimes. 1 in 7 of us are neurodiverse. I'm not sure why it is commonsense for us not to be on here?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day.
is this a professionally informed opinion, or just prejudice and thinking you know what's best for others?
Neither, just common sense, you do know what that is don't you....I'm guessing not."
My sense is way beyond common.
However, to humour you -- can you please tell me which mental health condition are you referring to and how this website can impact on it in a way that is unique?
Is it personality disorder (if so, which one)? Bipolar Disorder, Schizophrenia? Depression? Anxiety, or maybe something else?
Please be specific, and also explain why people with poor mental health should be excluded from having fun, self soothing or enjoying anything anyone else can enjoy?
I'm waiting.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day.
is this a professionally informed opinion, or just prejudice and thinking you know what's best for others?
Neither, just common sense, you do know what that is don't you....I'm guessing not."
This isn't the thread for you please leave via the exit and dont return. |
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"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day."
That's a ridiculous and misguided thing to say. |
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"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day.
is this a professionally informed opinion, or just prejudice and thinking you know what's best for others?
Neither, just common sense, you do know what that is don't you....I'm guessing not."
Evidence, if ever there was, for the wisdom of not buying into the notion of 'common sense'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was merely stating that anyone with mental health issues shouldn't be seeking advice on here, let's face it, 99% of people on here have got a screw loose, and that's being polite.  "
That is not what you said though -- you stated that people with mental health problems should not even be on this site, let alone seeking advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was merely stating that anyone with mental health issues shouldn't be seeking advice on here, let's face it, 99% of people on here have got a screw loose, and that's being polite.
That is not what you said though -- you stated that people with mental health problems should not even be on this site, let alone seeking advice."
Well I'm saying it now, anyone with "head problems" should seek professional help, not ask a bunch of swingers for advice. That's like a kleptomaniac asking for help with his/her problem from a load of convicted burglars  |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
"I was merely stating that anyone with mental health issues shouldn't be seeking advice on here, let's face it, 99% of people on here have got a screw loose, and that's being polite.
That is not what you said though -- you stated that people with mental health problems should not even be on this site, let alone seeking advice.
Well I'm saying it now, anyone with "head problems" should seek professional help, not ask a bunch of swingers for advice. That's like a kleptomaniac asking for help with his/her problem from a load of convicted burglars "
So I'm not sure that analogy stands up to scrutiny?
Also "head problems", "screw lose" these terms are incredibly hostile and demeaning.
You appear to know nothing about mental health, and demonstrate a lack of compassion and empathy. So why do you think this site isn't for us? Why do you think we shouldn't talk about mental health issues? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I'm saying it now, anyone with "head problems" should seek professional help, not ask a bunch of swingers for advice. That's like a kleptomaniac asking for help with his/her problem from a load of convicted burglars "
Thus far the only person on here who has given any advice is you.
However, as demonstrated by a post above this one, there are qualified people on this site.
Also, professional mental health support is often limited to an hour or so a week -- it's not a matter of therapy vs swinging website; unless someone is hospitalised, it's quite feasible to do both.
Peer support is also important, and that may just mean sharing individual experience -- I think that, if anyone gave really terrible advice, other members would be all over them within seconds. QED |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just reviving the post 
Come one come all , your all welcome with your struggles and feel free to vent give or seek advice even if you just need to get it off your chest we are all here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good on you Arran. I work in the mental health sector. It's massively increased in recent years. Hopefully this will help. Sometimes it's easier to talk to a stranger. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am having a REALLY bad time at the moment.
I had been doing very well. It may be a combination of insomnia and the build-up to xmas, but I am one grumpy sod right now! "
Hugs ... yeah lack of sleep + general stress of Christmas I can feel you on that... see if docs can help at all they gave me some knock out tablets a while ago they only work for like 3 weeks or something but 15 min n I was gone |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day."
have you seen the waiting list and many dont and cant even get on it either if you think about how understaffed the nhs is the mental health side of things are worse .... so the next best thing is to talk talking is healthy most of us are lucky to have family and networks of friends to do so with but alot dont so a online output / input can be a very good thing ...
as long as no one claimed to be professional (as there never a real way of knowing) then i see nothing wrong with this at all .... |
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"Hugs ... yeah lack of sleep + general stress of Christmas I can feel you on that... see if docs can help at all they gave me some knock out tablets a while ago they only work for like 3 weeks or something but 15 min n I was gone "
I am medication-resistant, apparently.
A few years ago, I took 3x the maximum dose of zopiclone, because I wasn't looking and thought I was taking something else.
I took myself to the hospital and they interviewed me for hours, to check it hadn't been an OD, then sent me home.
It was 2 days later when I finally fell asleep!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hugs ... yeah lack of sleep + general stress of Christmas I can feel you on that... see if docs can help at all they gave me some knock out tablets a while ago they only work for like 3 weeks or something but 15 min n I was gone
I am medication-resistant, apparently.
A few years ago, I took 3x the maximum dose of zopiclone, because I wasn't looking and thought I was taking something else.
I took myself to the hospital and they interviewed me for hours, to check it hadn't been an OD, then sent me home.
It was 2 days later when I finally fell asleep! "
Zopiclone was what I was thinking of .... well shit |
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I start work at 6 after 3 nights of seeing Mr Fox. God it would be so much easier to face daily trials with him by my side every day  people don't realise how hard it can be when you're "functioning" but mentally ill. Still takes a hell of a lot of energy - Xeno x |
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"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day."
Wow... Really?! I've only just caught up with this thread. All I can say is I hope you never have to struggle with mental health issues...
*wanders off muttering about ignorant people* |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I start work at 6 after 3 nights of seeing Mr Fox. God it would be so much easier to face daily trials with him by my side every day people don't realise how hard it can be when you're "functioning" but mentally ill. Still takes a hell of a lot of energy - Xeno x"
If nights are doing your mental health bad then I know as much hard work as it is ... try looking for day time work ...
I am going through this situation as such I am currently unemployed and could go and start working for arriva now my licence has arrived but honestly the changes in shifts was allready fucking with my head and body ... sometimes u gotta listen to it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day.
Wow... Really?! I've only just caught up with this thread. All
I can say is I hope you never have to struggle with mental health issues...
*wanders off muttering about ignorant people*"
^^ this is why I am making this a safe space for people to come and chat no matter the issue without fear of judgement what is a molehill for someone is a mountain for others nobody's mental health is invalid |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day.
Wow... Really?! I've only just caught up with this thread. All
I can say is I hope you never have to struggle with mental health issues...
*wanders off muttering about ignorant people*
^^ this is why I am making this a safe space for people to come and chat no matter the issue without fear of judgement what is a molehill for someone is a mountain for others nobody's mental health is invalid"
It's hardly safe is it, given the amount of perverts on here, jeez!  |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
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"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day.
Wow... Really?! I've only just caught up with this thread. All
I can say is I hope you never have to struggle with mental health issues...
*wanders off muttering about ignorant people*
^^ this is why I am making this a safe space for people to come and chat no matter the issue without fear of judgement what is a molehill for someone is a mountain for others nobody's mental health is invalid
It's hardly safe is it, given the amount of perverts on here, jeez! "
I'm genuinely not sure of the point you are making?
But I would point out that you are the only person posting negative comments on this thread. |
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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago
Gateway to the Beacons |
"It is scandalous that people with mental health problems are roaming free on the internets and talking to perverts and possibly even having sex.
Bring back the asylum, I say!"
I resemble that remark |
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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago
Blyth |
I used to struggle to understand what 'mental health struggles' was all about and had that attitude of 'people should just get on with it'. Until, pretty much out of the blue I had my own struggle.
Not sure if my experience is the norm, or indeed if there is a 'norm' but I'll try and be brief.
I worked away from home a lot for weeks and sometimes months at a time, I've done this from leaving school so for me it was the norm. I still did the usual things, bought a house, got married, had kids etc, and thought life was pretty good really. I was the guy others came to talk to when on site so I understood people had problems and to be fair I was pretty good at listening and saying the right things as I was thanked many times over for 'just being there'.
On my way home after a pretty horrendous work trip something in me just gave. I can't explain what it was or why really but my wife picked me up from the airport as usual and I just burst into tears. Obviously she thought something horrendous had happened but it hadn't and I found it hard to explain why as I didn't really understand myself. Over the next 24 hours or so I just felt, I don't know, empty, if that makes sense?
I'm pretty good at working things out in my own head and I put it down to just having a stressful trip and getting home, to a safe place I guess, was my bodies trigger to just release.
Lots of talking with my wife helped me understand more, and I still believe my initial diagnosis was more or less correct. I didn't seek any professional help but I did look to change the things in my life which I understood to be the probable cause of what was essentially a breakdown in my mental health.
I changed jobs, although still worked away from home but took a more managerial role with a plan to earn a lot more money and change my lifestyle completely. It took me five years but I achieved what I set out to do. I am now home permanently and have never been happier.
Apologies for the long read, just trying to show that some people may not even realise they are heading for a mental health episode but also that it is possible to turn things around |
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By (user no longer on site)
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She is a very special lady x
"I think this is great.
Just a little “shout out” for Starfly-Lou (I think that’s correct!) though, who has been doing her mental health check-ins on a Monday in The Lounge for quite some time though.
She deserves a lot of credit for that .
No reason why other support threads can’t exist too, of course "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why don't members ask the site if they will allow a mental health section within the forum.
Mental health effects people in different ways and as a comm_nity we owe it to help each other through the troubled and dark times.. Sometimes talking to a total stranger who you won't ever meet can be productive.
Just my thoughts. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am just comming to the end of my notice period I resigned from a highly paid job it's been awful I just could not take anymore this month has been dreadfull "
Mental wellbeing first, takes a lot more strength to step back and assess things for your own health than pushing through ... I hope the fact that you should be getting a bit of relief allows you to reset. |
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"I used to struggle to understand what 'mental health struggles' was all about and had that attitude of 'people should just get on with it'. Until, pretty much out of the blue I had my own struggle.
Not sure if my experience is the norm, or indeed if there is a 'norm' but I'll try and be brief.
I worked away from home a lot for weeks and sometimes months at a time, I've done this from leaving school so for me it was the norm. I still did the usual things, bought a house, got married, had kids etc, and thought life was pretty good really. I was the guy others came to talk to when on site so I understood people had problems and to be fair I was pretty good at listening and saying the right things as I was thanked many times over for 'just being there'.
On my way home after a pretty horrendous work trip something in me just gave. I can't explain what it was or why really but my wife picked me up from the airport as usual and I just burst into tears. Obviously she thought something horrendous had happened but it hadn't and I found it hard to explain why as I didn't really understand myself. Over the next 24 hours or so I just felt, I don't know, empty, if that makes sense?
I'm pretty good at working things out in my own head and I put it down to just having a stressful trip and getting home, to a safe place I guess, was my bodies trigger to just release.
Lots of talking with my wife helped me understand more, and I still believe my initial diagnosis was more or less correct. I didn't seek any professional help but I did look to change the things in my life which I understood to be the probable cause of what was essentially a breakdown in my mental health.
I changed jobs, although still worked away from home but took a more managerial role with a plan to earn a lot more money and change my lifestyle completely. It took me five years but I achieved what I set out to do. I am now home permanently and have never been happier.
Apologies for the long read, just trying to show that some people may not even realise they are heading for a mental health episode but also that it is possible to turn things around"
This is a great post to read and explains at least one aspect ... it can happen to anyone and for any reason ... I'm glad to see you wife was there too and you managed to combat it by yourself and find something that made you happy.
Not everyone needs that professional help but yes if you are struggling and don't know who to talk to this is what they are for ...
Thanks for the insight |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day.
Wow... Really?! I've only just caught up with this thread. All
I can say is I hope you never have to struggle with mental health issues...
*wanders off muttering about ignorant people*
^^ this is why I am making this a safe space for people to come and chat no matter the issue without fear of judgement what is a molehill for someone is a mountain for others nobody's mental health is invalid
It's hardly safe is it, given the amount of perverts on here, jeez! "
Safe space in this context means to be able to openly speak ..
(Appologies if taking literally I'm an aspi)
As for being perverts we can be as bad as we want there hehe |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It is scandalous that people with mental health problems are roaming free on the internets and talking to perverts and possibly even having sex.
Bring back the asylum, I say!"
Ooo free electric shocks... kinky fuckers those white coats are |
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"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day."
I adree anyone that needs is should be getting the support they need but 'Official' mental health support is totally shambolic. It's just not available for a lot of people. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day.
I adree anyone that needs is should be getting the support they need but 'Official' mental health support is totally shambolic. It's just not available for a lot of people."
Yup agreed but also gonna state my current situation is a prime example of this ...
I was and to a level still am struggling a lot with mental health but actually having met someone on here which has developed into a dynamic means that I am able to feel wanted and enjoyed which helps my mind + endorphins / dopamine release ... which then means that I can focus on mental health also ...
Although people may have issues saying we'll your unhappy no sex for you is not a good way to deal with it, but if you are finding the site is making your mind worse then by all means take a break |
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On the 23rd of this month it will be a year since I took my last and most severe overdose. I was in hospital for 10 days all over Christmas.
Since then I have has the most amazing support. Firstly being referred to the crisis team who came out and saw me everyday for six weeks then I was referred to mental health matters (think you can refer yourself) I has six weeks of councilling with them and they asked me what I wanted to do and I said socialize more. I know have too occupational therapists one comes to the house and talks to me and helps with the berevment of my partner. The other takes me for a walk and a cup of coffee.
I go to a social group three times a week for people with mental health problems. One day it's arts and crafts. Everyone said how much I've improved and my confidence getting better.
I've even offered to help on the charity stall on Saturday.
Sadly it took me taking an overdose to get the help I needed but I just wanted to show the positive side of a broken mental health system |
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Thank you so much for sharing your story..
It takes an amazing person to tell us what you have, it's also so amazing that you have come out of the other side and are working through the issues you have had..
I can only speak for myself but we'll done you and its a very proud achievement what you have done. X
"On the 23rd of this month it will be a year since I took my last and most severe overdose. I was in hospital for 10 days all over Christmas.
Since then I have has the most amazing support. Firstly being referred to the crisis team who came out and saw me everyday for six weeks then I was referred to mental health matters (think you can refer yourself) I has six weeks of councilling with them and they asked me what I wanted to do and I said socialize more. I know have too occupational therapists one comes to the house and talks to me and helps with the berevment of my partner. The other takes me for a walk and a cup of coffee.
I go to a social group three times a week for people with mental health problems. One day it's arts and crafts. Everyone said how much I've improved and my confidence getting better.
I've even offered to help on the charity stall on Saturday.
Sadly it took me taking an overdose to get the help I needed but I just wanted to show the positive side of a broken mental health system"
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"Why don't members ask the site if they will allow a mental health section within the forum.
Mental health effects people in different ways and as a comm_nity we owe it to help each other through the troubled and dark times.. Sometimes talking to a total stranger who you won't ever meet can be productive.
Just my thoughts. "
They have done - have a look in the feedback area |
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"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day.
I adree anyone that needs is should be getting the support they need but 'Official' mental health support is totally shambolic. It's just not available for a lot of people.
Yup agreed but also gonna state my current situation is a prime example of this ...
I was and to a level still am struggling a lot with mental health but actually having met someone on here which has developed into a dynamic means that I am able to feel wanted and enjoyed which helps my mind + endorphins / dopamine release ... which then means that I can focus on mental health also ...
Although people may have issues saying we'll your unhappy no sex for you is not a good way to deal with it, but if you are finding the site is making your mind worse then by all means take a break"
That's great to hear. I know this would help me a lot as it has in the past. |
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"On the 23rd of this month it will be a year since I took my last and most severe overdose. I was in hospital for 10 days all over Christmas.
Since then I have has the most amazing support. Firstly being referred to the crisis team who came out and saw me everyday for six weeks then I was referred to mental health matters (think you can refer yourself) I has six weeks of councilling with them and they asked me what I wanted to do and I said socialize more. I know have too occupational therapists one comes to the house and talks to me and helps with the berevment of my partner. The other takes me for a walk and a cup of coffee.
I go to a social group three times a week for people with mental health problems. One day it's arts and crafts. Everyone said how much I've improved and my confidence getting better.
I've even offered to help on the charity stall on Saturday.
Sadly it took me taking an overdose to get the help I needed but I just wanted to show the positive side of a broken mental health system"
Not a great start to story but amazing the recovery journey and the support you are receiving! |
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"On the 23rd of this month it will be a year since I took my last and most severe overdose. I was in hospital for 10 days all over Christmas.
Since then I have has the most amazing support. Firstly being referred to the crisis team who came out and saw me everyday for six weeks then I was referred to mental health matters (think you can refer yourself) I has six weeks of councilling with them and they asked me what I wanted to do and I said socialize more. I know have too occupational therapists one comes to the house and talks to me and helps with the berevment of my partner. The other takes me for a walk and a cup of coffee.
I go to a social group three times a week for people with mental health problems. One day it's arts and crafts. Everyone said how much I've improved and my confidence getting better.
I've even offered to help on the charity stall on Saturday.
Sadly it took me taking an overdose to get the help I needed but I just wanted to show the positive side of a broken mental health system"
I'm so glad you finally got the support you needed just sorry it took so long x |
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"Thankyou. Its been a long hard battle as I'm also bi polar and have been since a teenager"
My x was bi-polar who I was with for 6 years so I know how tough it can be |
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Sadly it took me taking an overdose to get the help I needed but I just wanted to show the positive side of a broken mental health system"
That is sad and I'm sure the same can be said for a lot of people. Stupidly it would probably cost less in £££ to deal with people before they got to that stage and give them the support they need.
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Sadly it took me taking an overdose to get the help I needed but I just wanted to show the positive side of a broken mental health system
That is sad and I'm sure the same can be said for a lot of people. Stupidly it would probably cost less in £££ to deal with people before they got to that stage and give them the support they need.
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yes I used to have a support worker and due to costs they said I didn't need one anymore. Soon as I stopped seeing her my mental health deteriorated even more. So I cost them an ambulance and 10 days in hospital that could have been saved |
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I probably shouldnt put this on here but a couple of years ago i suffered servere depression and has several suicide attempts, it never left me but i made alot of changes and adaptions in my life and i managed to learn how to control it, over the last 2 years things have been good and ive not been depressed ive not felt down, if anything ive felt on top of the world, but this recrntly due to something personal happening i felt myself slipping and tge control i had has been taken from me, and im getting really worried about myself, i dont have nobody to talk to, i dont go to the doctors about this as i have several times and they just throw you a pile of anti depressents that in the past has proven to make me alot worse and agreed i should stay away from them. I didnt know theres was a topic for mental health or i would of raised this issue sooner, i honestly jist need help. Dont anybody take this as a cry for sympothy because its not, it more of a cry for help as there is nowhere for me to vent this. Mental health is a killer and im a victim to this, |
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"I probably shouldnt put this on here but a couple of years ago i suffered servere depression and has several suicide attempts, it never left me but i made alot of changes and adaptions in my life and i managed to learn how to control it, over the last 2 years things have been good and ive not been depressed ive not felt down, if anything ive felt on top of the world, but this recrntly due to something personal happening i felt myself slipping and tge control i had has been taken from me, and im getting really worried about myself, i dont have nobody to talk to, i dont go to the doctors about this as i have several times and they just throw you a pile of anti depressents that in the past has proven to make me alot worse and agreed i should stay away from them. I didnt know theres was a topic for mental health or i would of raised this issue sooner, i honestly jist need help. Dont anybody take this as a cry for sympothy because its not, it more of a cry for help as there is nowhere for me to vent this. Mental health is a killer and im a victim to this, "
Is there any mental health support groups in your area. Mind are very good for offering support and putting you in the right direction
There is also andyman that is aimed at men with mental health problems. I hope you can get yourself sorted |
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"I probably shouldnt put this on here but a couple of years ago i suffered servere depression and has several suicide attempts, it never left me but i made alot of changes and adaptions in my life and i managed to learn how to control it, over the last 2 years things have been good and ive not been depressed ive not felt down, if anything ive felt on top of the world, but this recrntly due to something personal happening i felt myself slipping and tge control i had has been taken from me, and im getting really worried about myself, i dont have nobody to talk to, i dont go to the doctors about this as i have several times and they just throw you a pile of anti depressents that in the past has proven to make me alot worse and agreed i should stay away from them. I didnt know theres was a topic for mental health or i would of raised this issue sooner, i honestly jist need help. Dont anybody take this as a cry for sympothy because its not, it more of a cry for help as there is nowhere for me to vent this. Mental health is a killer and im a victim to this, Is there any mental health support groups in your area. Mind are very good for offering support and putting you in the right direction
There is also andyman that is aimed at men with mental health problems. I hope you can get yourself sorted"
i have attended groups, counciling and done alot of things over the years, the only thing that helped me to control it was started the gym and a decent diet, i put 3stone on while i made changes and was feeling good but now in tge last month ive lost 2stone in body weight |
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"I probably shouldnt put this on here but a couple of years ago i suffered servere depression and has several suicide attempts, it never left me but i made alot of changes and adaptions in my life and i managed to learn how to control it, over the last 2 years things have been good and ive not been depressed ive not felt down, if anything ive felt on top of the world, but this recrntly due to something personal happening i felt myself slipping and tge control i had has been taken from me, and im getting really worried about myself, i dont have nobody to talk to, i dont go to the doctors about this as i have several times and they just throw you a pile of anti depressents that in the past has proven to make me alot worse and agreed i should stay away from them. I didnt know theres was a topic for mental health or i would of raised this issue sooner, i honestly jist need help. Dont anybody take this as a cry for sympothy because its not, it more of a cry for help as there is nowhere for me to vent this. Mental health is a killer and im a victim to this, Is there any mental health support groups in your area. Mind are very good for offering support and putting you in the right direction
There is also andyman that is aimed at men with mental health problems. I hope you can get yourself sorted"
There is definitely a couple of those groups in Lancashire. Chorley and Preston at least |
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"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day.
Wow... Really?! I've only just caught up with this thread. All
I can say is I hope you never have to struggle with mental health issues...
*wanders off muttering about ignorant people*
^^ this is why I am making this a safe space for people to come and chat no matter the issue without fear of judgement what is a molehill for someone is a mountain for others nobody's mental health is invalid
It's hardly safe is it, given the amount of perverts on here, jeez! "
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"If you've got mental health problems you really shouldn't be on a site like this, you should be receiving proper help and support, not looking at cock/flange all day.
Wow... Really?! I've only just caught up with this thread. All
I can say is I hope you never have to struggle with mental health issues...
*wanders off muttering about ignorant people*
^^ this is why I am making this a safe space for people to come and chat no matter the issue without fear of judgement what is a molehill for someone is a mountain for others nobody's mental health is invalid
It's hardly safe is it, given the amount of perverts on here, jeez! "
Do you have a problem with people who have mental health problems? Should we all be locked up in the asylum. Guess what we are people just like you. Some fighting to survive. Mental health threads have been running on here for many years with great success. Not sure why you felt the need to make the comment you did |
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