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having a loss of confidence tonight
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm normally a really confident and content woman regards my figure. But tonight I have been feeling down for lots of real life reasons that tend to ebb and flow and are all a little too much today.
So I came on here for a distraction, for some reason looked at the hot photos/ most fabbed pics section...
....all of them today are very slim but firm breasted young women. All of them.
What happened to everyone here saying size is not important and real women are best and variety is the spice of life.....clearly size 8 34e is the way to be classed as beautiful.
Moan over. I'll go hide in a cave for the night and tomorrow be my usual confident in my own skin lady. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I am going to be harsh.... so apologies
I only ever read BBW's or their fans raising the size issue, the site is FOR ALL................
hope you feel better tomorrow
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Have a good sleep on it, you will feel better in the morning. We all have confidence dips at some time or other. People like all shapes and sizes, there are some gorgeous looking women in the most fabbed photo's but the majority of us dont look like that. It would be like opening a celebrity magazine. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ahem. May I butt in?
Ms Kikidaniki you are gorgeous, sassy and sexy and have absolutely no reason to feel anything less than.
Gold dust anyone? x  "
Lovelyminx you have made me smile, thankyou. Must meet up again in the new yr! Xxxx mwah |
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Men may fab pictures of their fantasy 'ideal' (and let's face it, slim women ARE gorgeous) but that doesn't mean they don't find women of different shapes and sizes physically attractive too.
Diversity is a wonderful thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"99% of those pics are "borroewed" by single blokes pretending to be women, i wouldn't let it bother you. x
errrrr thanks  "
Don't panic Gordon.... Ya secret's safe wi us.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It must be something in the air. As I've had my confidence seriously kicked this weekend too.
I never look at the most fabbed anyway. But today I just can't feel good about myself. It's something I am not used too
Cali |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I can't put mine public, I have certain identifying features and I'm meant to be a pillar of society and innocently marvelous....
Thanks everyone. I love bigger ladies. I'm going on a fabbing mission tomorrow for big bottoms and tummies ideal for snuggling against in a post-coital haze
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm normally a really confident and content woman regards my figure. But tonight I have been feeling down for lots of real life reasons that tend to ebb and flow and are all a little too much today.
So I came on here for a distraction, for some reason looked at the hot photos/ most fabbed pics section...
....all of them today are very slim but firm breasted young women. All of them.
What happened to everyone here saying size is not important and real women are best and variety is the spice of life.....clearly size 8 34e is the way to be classed as beautiful.
Moan over. I'll go hide in a cave for the night and tomorrow be my usual confident in my own skin lady. "
Chin up!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am going to be harsh.... so apologies
I only ever read BBW's or their fans raising the size issue, the site is FOR ALL................
hope you feel better tomorrow
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"99% of those pics are "borroewed" by single blokes pretending to be women, i wouldn't let it bother you. x
errrrr thanks
Don't panic Gordon.... Ya secret's safe wi us...."
phewwwwww !!!!!! lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know what you mean and have been having similar issues too lately...it can be hard to ignore and I do think sometimes we're our own worst enemy. If you're looking at FAB's alone though, you've not done too badly with over 200 fab's of you're own pic!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't look at Fab'ed pics, as they are usually of women, and they do zilch for me.
Perhaps I should request for Fab'ed pics to be segregated by gender, so that I can perv at pics of gents more easily.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It could be the weekend for it. I have found myself recently feeling less than confident for many reasons. Fabbing pics is just a thing - one of my pics has been fabbed loads and I hate it, its my wobbly bum (I'm NOT fishing for compliments) which is red after a spanking but people seem to like it.
Confidence is easily lost but not easy to gain. Listen to those around you who tell you you are beautiful, sexy and all the other lovely things they say. I have found that I smile when I get a random text or email or message from someone saying something nice, all these things add up. Confidence grows when you allow it to as well.
Keep smiling hun. |
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By *haunMan
over a year ago
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Confidence is easily lost but not easy to gain. Listen to those around you who tell you you are beautiful, sexy and all the other lovely things they say. I have found that I smile when I get a random text or email or message from someone saying something nice, all these things add up. Confidence grows when you allow it to as well.
Keep smiling hun. "
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I know it is easier said than done.
But hopefully taking a couple of these 'small things' as such will give you that little bit of a smile.
Sadly all it takes is one insensitive person to ruin a lot of hard work.
We concentrate on the few negatives rather than the higher amount of positives.
Sometimes I also think that the Christmas season doesn't help. As too much pressure on people to organise, plan, go out, dress up, conform, etc. etc.
Making the slightly 'smaller' things that we normally deal with well and in our day to day stride appear to be bigger than they should be.
Hopefully a few of these posts have given you a couple of nice things to take away to finish the weekend of well?
So you can start your week with a smile.
Happy weekend Hugs from me.
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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Being single does knock your confidence and self esteem. Been there done that too. As others have said you've got great verifications from people that know you. You are young and will bounce back.
Chin up, wear something you feel good in for work tomorrow and think of something that makes you smile from the inside.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm normally a really confident and content woman regards my figure. But tonight I have been feeling down for lots of real life reasons that tend to ebb and flow and are all a little too much today.
So I came on here for a distraction, for some reason looked at the hot photos/ most fabbed pics section...
....all of them today are very slim but firm breasted young women. All of them.
What happened to everyone here saying size is not important and real women are best and variety is the spice of life.....clearly size 8 34e is the way to be classed as beautiful.
Moan over. I'll go hide in a cave for the night and tomorrow be my usual confident in my own skin lady. "
Well I am not going to BS you as it can look a little insulting but the fabbed thing well its all a look at me issue. Yes people who are slim with tanned skins, no blemishes and good looks will always be popular and get their pictures fabbed many times. Some ok will be attention seekers, some will be proud partners and others just people putting pictures up with no intention of entering a popularity contest. I just wouldn't let it worry you as that's them an not you that's what I do.
The size isn't important thing well people say it but people also answer the "does my bum look big in this" with a no too. Its called selective honesty for personal gain. In reality size does matter, some like big, some like skinny but the majority like in-between. Does it matter what others like? Well in reality no that's their choice. You just need to feel good about yourself for your own reasons and accept what you are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I only ever look at the most fabbed pictures if someone mentions it on a thread. I can't even be bothered to tonight.
I don't look, not because I have body issues. I'm just not interested in the type of pics that will be there. Its all the same old....
We all have issues at times, but I'm ok with how I look, I'm a big girl, I'm in my mid 40s so not young and firm but I'm ok. I don't feel my looks are bad enough to turn anyone to stone. And the only important thing to me is that my man finds me attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having been turned down for not being 'big boobed' and 'curvy' three times this week maybe we should swop mailing lists  "
Someone turned down THAT body? Must be blind or crazy!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm normally a really confident and content woman regards my figure. But tonight I have been feeling down for lots of real life reasons that tend to ebb and flow and are all a little too much today.
So I came on here for a distraction, for some reason looked at the hot photos/ most fabbed pics section...
....all of them today are very slim but firm breasted young women. All of them.
What happened to everyone here saying size is not important and real women are best and variety is the spice of life.....clearly size 8 34e is the way to be classed as beautiful.
Moan over. I'll go hide in a cave for the night and tomorrow be my usual confident in my own skin lady.
Well I am not going to BS you as it can look a little insulting but the fabbed thing well its all a look at me issue. Yes people who are slim with tanned skins, no blemishes and good looks will always be popular and get their pictures fabbed many times. Some ok will be attention seekers, some will be proud partners and others just people putting pictures up with no intention of entering a popularity contest. I just wouldn't let it worry you as that's them an not you that's what I do.
The size isn't important thing well people say it but people also answer the "does my bum look big in this" with a no too. Its called selective honesty for personal gain. In reality size does matter, some like big, some like skinny but the majority like in-between. Does it matter what others like? Well in reality no that's their choice. You just need to feel good about yourself for your own reasons and accept what you are. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ladies you are all fab. I have very simular issues I been blessed with a mummy tummy and wobbly bum and on down days I hide my profile but on better days I seek those men who live in the real world. I actively seek men who are not skinny and when I see a toned tanned male I block its that much of a turn of. Hint to the guys so is a tape measure next to your bits I blocked a man this morning I was well into him till he sent me a tape measure pic then instant turn off. I play with women as well as men and ladies the more rounded figure is so very sexy mmmm. pert bum and chest look to child like for me give me stretch marks and wobbly bits any day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The membership of this site is 75% single men. They are the ones who do most of the fabbing and they are conditioned to fab pics like that by TV and porn.
If you actually look at the profiles behind the most fabbed pics then alot are quite boring, only do anything but take pics of themselves, only meet other select gym bunnies, or in a few cases are actually porn stars.
So as someone said, this site isn't reality. I'd much rather meet a real woman like yourself OP, rather than someone's porn fantasy of one.
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Amongst all the hotties on here there is one who is my current face. He's fit ans muscular and gorgeous and intelligent and fun and funny. And he thinks I'm lovely. Despite the fact that he recently mentioned that I'm a bit on the slim side of his usual preference.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks everyone, I've.woken up feeling much better today. In fact I'm in my 'i look like Nigella' mood and since I'd never stop licking her until the twelfth day of Christmas, that's a good thing.
Mwah xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well we want to meet you but you need to get out a bit later lol
And if you feel bad D gets loads of Fabs on her pictures and nobody Fabs mine. I am going off to cry silently inside. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well we want to meet you but you need to get out a bit later lol
And if you feel bad D gets loads of Fabs on her pictures and nobody Fabs mine. I am going off to cry silently inside."
Ditto. Siren has hundreds of fabs on her photos whereas mine have been fabbed by other men mainly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we all go through this stage, im up and down a few time throughout the month, (and not ina good way lol) i been single 2 yrs now, and i still got my motto of that im (poss) shaggable, but not dateable...again a confidence thing, but i'm starting to push those doubts out my mind, and have some fun. glad ya feel better today ... and big bums and boobies rule \m/ xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well we want to meet you but you need to get out a bit later lol
And if you feel bad D gets loads of Fabs on her pictures and nobody Fabs mine. I am going off to cry silently inside.
Ditto. Siren has hundreds of fabs on her photos whereas mine have been fabbed by other men mainly. "
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Glad to hear you are feeling better OP as said Fabs is like a land away, almost cloud cuckoo land where perceptions and reality are lacking |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Last two weeks been in most fabbed and i am 14 and curvy and in my 40s it makes me smile . Its a mix you get in there.. Don't feel down xxx fabbing not everything here on fab its just a small part the pics ... Chatting meeting and making new friends is LOVELY . x |
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I'm losing my hair in large chunks. It's not all together a shock as my mother was completely bald when she died. One of my sisters is also losing her hair, and whilst she's enjoying buying wigs and having a whale of a time, it's knocked my confidence more than I thought it would.
I can honestly say coming on here to boost my confidence, or look at "beautiful" people to make me feel inadequate is something that has never crossed my mind.
I don't look at pictures as they hold no interest to me and having faceless strangers massage my "fragile" ego wouldn't work either.
I find myself spending too much time admiring the models hair on the shampoo ads etc, and even men with full heads of hair.
The mother of my ex-husbands sons is four years older than me and dying of cancer and has lost all her hair...it should put my hair loss in perspective, but it doesn't. Sometimes we need to hold "pity parties" for ourselves then pull ourselves together.
Easier said than done I know, but still... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am going to come across as a right bitch now but these type of threads always smack of "look at me" and are fishing for compliments.
i love looking at fit, sexy, muscly guys with six packs and always fab those type of pics.
I'm a 14 to 16 and hate my body most of the time but clearly not enough to do anything about it. If your not happy with the way you/me look, then its up to you/me to do something about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Last two weeks been in most fabbed and i am 14 and curvy and in my 40s it makes me smile . Its a mix you get in there.. Don't feel down xxx fabbing not everything here on fab its just a small part the pics ... Chatting meeting and making new friends is LOVELY . x "
Bloody hell you just prompted me to look and my eyes nearly popped out my head! Just checking my satnav to see how long it will take to get over your way..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am going to come across as a right bitch now but these type of threads always smack of "look at me" and are fishing for compliments.
i love looking at fit, sexy, muscly guys with six packs and always fab those type of pics.
I'm a 14 to 16 and hate my body most of the time but clearly not enough to do anything about it. If your not happy with the way you/me look, then its up to you/me to do something about it."
Yes agreed. Although you fab me and I will fab you and we will both feel better lol |
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"I'm losing my hair in large chunks. It's not all together a shock as my mother was completely bald when she died. One of my sisters is also losing her hair, and whilst she's enjoying buying wigs and having a whale of a time, it's knocked my confidence more than I thought it would.
I can honestly say coming on here to boost my confidence, or look at "beautiful" people to make me feel inadequate is something that has never crossed my mind.
I don't look at pictures as they hold no interest to me and having faceless strangers massage my "fragile" ego wouldn't work either.
I find myself spending too much time admiring the models hair on the shampoo ads etc, and even men with full heads of hair.
The mother of my ex-husbands sons is four years older than me and dying of cancer and has lost all her hair...it should put my hair loss in perspective, but it doesn't. Sometimes we need to hold "pity parties" for ourselves then pull ourselves together.
Easier said than done I know, but still..."
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"Last two weeks been in most fabbed and i am 14 and curvy and in my 40s it makes me smile . Its a mix you get in there.. Don't feel down xxx fabbing not everything here on fab its just a small part the pics ... Chatting meeting and making new friends is LOVELY . x
Bloody hell you just prompted me to look and my eyes nearly popped out my head! Just checking my satnav to see how long it will take to get over your way..
kisses you xx and your looking very good there too i must say. "
Ohhh love a bit of mutual appreciation! |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm losing my hair in large chunks. It's not all together a shock as my mother was completely bald when she died. One of my sisters is also losing her hair, and whilst she's enjoying buying wigs and having a whale of a time, it's knocked my confidence more than I thought it would.
I can honestly say coming on here to boost my confidence, or look at "beautiful" people to make me feel inadequate is something that has never crossed my mind.
I don't look at pictures as they hold no interest to me and having faceless strangers massage my "fragile" ego wouldn't work either.
I find myself spending too much time admiring the models hair on the shampoo ads etc, and even men with full heads of hair.
The mother of my ex-husbands sons is four years older than me and dying of cancer and has lost all her hair...it should put my hair loss in perspective, but it doesn't. Sometimes we need to hold "pity parties" for ourselves then pull ourselves together.
Easier said than done I know, but still...
xx"
Never thought Id say this but hugs to Miss Tress x
I think even the most confident person can have bad days too.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm normally a really confident and content woman regards my figure. But tonight I have been feeling down for lots of real life reasons that tend to ebb and flow and are all a little too much today.
So I came on here for a distraction, for some reason looked at the hot photos/ most fabbed pics section...
....all of them today are very slim but firm breasted young women. All of them.
What happened to everyone here saying size is not important and real women are best and variety is the spice of life.....clearly size 8 34e is the way to be classed as beautiful.
Moan over. I'll go hide in a cave for the night and tomorrow be my usual confident in my own skin lady. "
ive got to be honest with you
I have always said the only reson men on here meet me is because young, slim, good looking women are harder to find
Im a firm believer that men prefer slim but make do with me and i always will because im a realist and i dont walk round with my head up my arse thinking all these guys who message me really do think im gorgeous
I do not believe theres a single guy on here who if presented with me or a 21 year old size 8 they would choose me,of course some will say they would but then they are hardly going to admit im second best when they're after a shag are they lol
Not sure that will make you feel any better tho |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Of course what you also have to remember is that slimmer women tend to put up better pics because they usually feel more confident
I have seen loads of full body naked or in sexy underwear pics of slim women where as bigger ladies tend to just show close up shots so as not to expose the bits they dont like on a pic, and are usually covered
Not thats theres anything wrong with that but as a over all pic most will fab a naked/full body shot pic than a close up of a cleavage |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm normally a really confident and content woman regards my figure. But tonight I have been feeling down for lots of real life reasons that tend to ebb and flow and are all a little too much today.
So I came on here for a distraction, for some reason looked at the hot photos/ most fabbed pics section...
....all of them today are very slim but firm breasted young women. All of them.
What happened to everyone here saying size is not important and real women are best and variety is the spice of life.....clearly size 8 34e is the way to be classed as beautiful.
Moan over. I'll go hide in a cave for the night and tomorrow be my usual confident in my own skin lady.
ive got to be honest with you
I have always said the only reson men on here meet me is because young, slim, good looking women are harder to find
Im a firm believer that men prefer slim but make do with me and i always will because im a realist and i dont walk round with my head up my arse thinking all these guys who message me really do think im gorgeous
I do not believe theres a single guy on here who if presented with me or a 21 year old size 8 they would choose me,of course some will say they would but then they are hardly going to admit im second best when they're after a shag are they lol
Not sure that will make you feel any better tho "
Welcome to the strange parallel world of Fabs. However a meet is so much better if you can find people who do GENUINELY want to get into your pants. |
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over a year ago
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"I'm normally a really confident and content woman regards my figure. But tonight I have been feeling down for lots of real life reasons that tend to ebb and flow and are all a little too much today.
So I came on here for a distraction, for some reason looked at the hot photos/ most fabbed pics section...
....all of them today are very slim but firm breasted young women. All of them.
What happened to everyone here saying size is not important and real women are best and variety is the spice of life.....clearly size 8 34e is the way to be classed as beautiful.
Moan over. I'll go hide in a cave for the night and tomorrow be my usual confident in my own skin lady.
ive got to be honest with you
I have always said the only reson men on here meet me is because young, slim, good looking women are harder to find
Im a firm believer that men prefer slim but make do with me and i always will because im a realist and i dont walk round with my head up my arse thinking all these guys who message me really do think im gorgeous
I do not believe theres a single guy on here who if presented with me or a 21 year old size 8 they would choose me,of course some will say they would but then they are hardly going to admit im second best when they're after a shag are they lol
Not sure that will make you feel any better tho
Welcome to the strange parallel world of Fabs. However a meet is so much better if you can find people who do GENUINELY want to get into your pants."
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I sometimes have issues concerning my body... I have wobble and sometimes I wish I was slimmer... However I choose to embrace what I have while I have it.. hence the fully naked body shots I have..We all have days where we are not happy with ourselves.... Its part of being a woman I guess.. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm losing my hair in large chunks. It's not all together a shock as my mother was completely bald when she died. One of my sisters is also losing her hair, and whilst she's enjoying buying wigs and having a whale of a time, it's knocked my confidence more than I thought it would.
I can honestly say coming on here to boost my confidence, or look at "beautiful" people to make me feel inadequate is something that has never crossed my mind.
I don't look at pictures as they hold no interest to me and having faceless strangers massage my "fragile" ego wouldn't work either.
I find myself spending too much time admiring the models hair on the shampoo ads etc, and even men with full heads of hair.
The mother of my ex-husbands sons is four years older than me and dying of cancer and has lost all her hair...it should put my hair loss in perspective, but it doesn't. Sometimes we need to hold "pity parties" for ourselves then pull ourselves together.
Easier said than done I know, but still..."
I know you know this but of course it knocks your confidence to lose your hair. We are conditioned to think of it as our crowning glory. Orthodox Jews and others cover their hair because of the potency of hair in sexual attraction.
Cancer is terrible and losing ones hair is such a visible symbol of that. It does not diminish or invaldate how you feel about your loss of hair.
When you are feeling strong embrace the baldness and know that you are sexy and desirable, which can only be enhanced by being comfortable about your new look. |
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"I sometimes have issues concerning my body... I have wobble and sometimes I wish I was slimmer... However I choose to embrace what I have while I have it.. hence the fully naked body shots I have..We all have days where we are not happy with ourselves.... Its part of being a woman I guess.. "
You would definitely get it lovely. Not sure about the chicken though. |
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