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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just a little bit of a heads up to everyone if someone gives you a negative message back don't keep messaging them because it's not going to work, sometimes I send a message to someone and they will either take it in the good way or in a bad way with what I say some people can get the joke some people can't |
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"No I have not been harassing anyone jeez I'm one of the good ones unlike some creeps on here wow "
As a spokesman for some creeps, can we hear the joke?
I need cheering up after my 64th copy/paste message has been deleted, I'm so blue  |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
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"Just a little bit of a heads up to everyone if someone gives you a negative message back don't keep messaging them because it's not going to work, sometimes I send a message to someone and they will either take it in the good way or in a bad way with what I say some people can get the joke some people can't "
So, basically you sent something offensive under the guise of it supposedly being funny, in the way that most abusive people do, then when they take offence you gaslight them into believing they are the ones with the problem and that you’re a ‘nice guy’ and just trying to ‘have a laff’. You really need to do some serious self examination and accept you’re probably an abusive person. |
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"Just a little bit of a heads up to everyone if someone gives you a negative message back don't keep messaging them because it's not going to work, sometimes I send a message to someone and they will either take it in the good way or in a bad way with what I say some people can get the joke some people can't
So, basically you sent something offensive under the guise of it supposedly being funny, in the way that most abusive people do, then when they take offence you gaslight them into believing they are the ones with the problem and that you’re a ‘nice guy’ and just trying to ‘have a laff’. You really need to do some serious self examination and accept you’re probably an abusive person. "
Lighten up.
The guy has probably already realised that he made two mistakes, sending the message and then telling us about it! |
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By *an4funMan
over a year ago
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"Just a little bit of a heads up to everyone if someone gives you a negative message back don't keep messaging them because it's not going to work, sometimes I send a message to someone and they will either take it in the good way or in a bad way with what I say some people can get the joke some people can't
So, basically you sent something offensive under the guise of it supposedly being funny, in the way that most abusive people do, then when they take offence you gaslight them into believing they are the ones with the problem and that you’re a ‘nice guy’ and just trying to ‘have a laff’. You really need to do some serious self examination and accept you’re probably an abusive person. "
Inspector Clouseau ^ |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
abruzzo Italy (and UK) |
"Just a little bit of a heads up to everyone if someone gives you a negative message back don't keep messaging them because it's not going to work, sometimes I send a message to someone and they will either take it in the good way or in a bad way with what I say some people can get the joke some people can't
So, basically you sent something offensive under the guise of it supposedly being funny, in the way that most abusive people do, then when they take offence you gaslight them into believing they are the ones with the problem and that you’re a ‘nice guy’ and just trying to ‘have a laff’. You really need to do some serious self examination and accept you’re probably an abusive person.
Lighten up.
The guy has probably already realised that he made two mistakes, sending the message and then telling us about it!"
I don’t think abuse is something to be light about, but if you’re ok with it that’s fine, you do you. |
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By *an4funMan
over a year ago
london |
"Just a little bit of a heads up to everyone if someone gives you a negative message back don't keep messaging them because it's not going to work, sometimes I send a message to someone and they will either take it in the good way or in a bad way with what I say some people can get the joke some people can't
So, basically you sent something offensive under the guise of it supposedly being funny, in the way that most abusive people do, then when they take offence you gaslight them into believing they are the ones with the problem and that you’re a ‘nice guy’ and just trying to ‘have a laff’. You really need to do some serious self examination and accept you’re probably an abusive person.
Lighten up.
The guy has probably already realised that he made two mistakes, sending the message and then telling us about it!
I don’t think abuse is something to be light about, but if you’re ok with it that’s fine, you do you. "
You have no evidence to suggest he has been abusive. All of what you said are assumptions |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
abruzzo Italy (and UK) |
"Just a little bit of a heads up to everyone if someone gives you a negative message back don't keep messaging them because it's not going to work, sometimes I send a message to someone and they will either take it in the good way or in a bad way with what I say some people can get the joke some people can't
So, basically you sent something offensive under the guise of it supposedly being funny, in the way that most abusive people do, then when they take offence you gaslight them into believing they are the ones with the problem and that you’re a ‘nice guy’ and just trying to ‘have a laff’. You really need to do some serious self examination and accept you’re probably an abusive person.
Lighten up.
The guy has probably already realised that he made two mistakes, sending the message and then telling us about it!
I don’t think abuse is something to be light about, but if you’re ok with it that’s fine, you do you.
You have no evidence to suggest he has been abusive. All of what you said are assumptions"
So, this is what he said - ‘sometimes I send a message to someone and they will either take it in the good way or in a bad way with what I say some people can get the joke some people can't.’
How is that not evidence that he is clearly saying something that can easily be considered offensive by some people? And then is saying that there’s nothing wrong with doing that because he’s supposedly hiding it under the guise of it being a joke, when if the person he has sent it to finds it offensive then its their problem for seemingly not having a sense of humour. This is classic gaslighting, being a twat to someone then trying to turn it around to being their problem when they are offended! |
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By *an4funMan
over a year ago
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"Just a little bit of a heads up to everyone if someone gives you a negative message back don't keep messaging them because it's not going to work, sometimes I send a message to someone and they will either take it in the good way or in a bad way with what I say some people can get the joke some people can't
So, basically you sent something offensive under the guise of it supposedly being funny, in the way that most abusive people do, then when they take offence you gaslight them into believing they are the ones with the problem and that you’re a ‘nice guy’ and just trying to ‘have a laff’. You really need to do some serious self examination and accept you’re probably an abusive person.
Lighten up.
The guy has probably already realised that he made two mistakes, sending the message and then telling us about it!
I don’t think abuse is something to be light about, but if you’re ok with it that’s fine, you do you.
You have no evidence to suggest he has been abusive. All of what you said are assumptions
So, this is what he said - ‘sometimes I send a message to someone and they will either take it in the good way or in a bad way with what I say some people can get the joke some people can't.’
How is that not evidence that he is clearly saying something that can easily be considered offensive by some people? And then is saying that there’s nothing wrong with doing that because he’s supposedly hiding it under the guise of it being a joke, when if the person he has sent it to finds it offensive then its their problem for seemingly not having a sense of humour. This is classic gaslighting, being a twat to someone then trying to turn it around to being their problem when they are offended!"
You filled in a lot of gaps. We would need to see the content of the messages/jokes before making the judgement that you have. |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
abruzzo Italy (and UK) |
"Just a little bit of a heads up to everyone if someone gives you a negative message back don't keep messaging them because it's not going to work, sometimes I send a message to someone and they will either take it in the good way or in a bad way with what I say some people can get the joke some people can't
So, basically you sent something offensive under the guise of it supposedly being funny, in the way that most abusive people do, then when they take offence you gaslight them into believing they are the ones with the problem and that you’re a ‘nice guy’ and just trying to ‘have a laff’. You really need to do some serious self examination and accept you’re probably an abusive person.
Lighten up.
The guy has probably already realised that he made two mistakes, sending the message and then telling us about it!
I don’t think abuse is something to be light about, but if you’re ok with it that’s fine, you do you.
You have no evidence to suggest he has been abusive. All of what you said are assumptions
So, this is what he said - ‘sometimes I send a message to someone and they will either take it in the good way or in a bad way with what I say some people can get the joke some people can't.’
How is that not evidence that he is clearly saying something that can easily be considered offensive by some people? And then is saying that there’s nothing wrong with doing that because he’s supposedly hiding it under the guise of it being a joke, when if the person he has sent it to finds it offensive then its their problem for seemingly not having a sense of humour. This is classic gaslighting, being a twat to someone then trying to turn it around to being their problem when they are offended!
You filled in a lot of gaps. We would need to see the content of the messages/jokes before making the judgement that you have. "
Hmm, I don’t think I’ve extrapolated much, but I would be happy to be proved wrong. And I would be equally happy to point out to someone who feels as though what they are doing is acceptable if it is indeed abusive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just a little bit of a heads up to everyone if someone gives you a negative message back don't keep messaging them because it's not going to work, sometimes I send a message to someone and they will either take it in the good way or in a bad way with what I say some people can get the joke some people can't "
What message did you send to them? What was the joke?
Humour can depend on if the person knows you. It doesn't always come across well in text. |
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"Just a little bit of a heads up to everyone if someone gives you a negative message back don't keep messaging them because it's not going to work, sometimes I send a message to someone and they will either take it in the good way or in a bad way with what I say some people can get the joke some people can't
So, basically you sent something offensive under the guise of it supposedly being funny, in the way that most abusive people do, then when they take offence you gaslight them into believing they are the ones with the problem and that you’re a ‘nice guy’ and just trying to ‘have a laff’. You really need to do some serious self examination and accept you’re probably an abusive person. "
You need to dial basic the wild assumptions |
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"Just a little bit of a heads up to everyone if someone gives you a negative message back don't keep messaging them because it's not going to work, sometimes I send a message to someone and they will either take it in the good way or in a bad way with what I say some people can get the joke some people can't "
It also depends on what kind of day that person or persons have had, something that you might find hilarious might offend them or yours could be message 475 that they have received and just say what a tit. Don't just think about yourself op |
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OP, the Fab journey on here is mostly an undulating one, beset by challenges, frustration and a few rare delights. Persevere, be the good citizen (as I'm sure you are) and just take things are they come: the good, the bad and the indifferent.
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Hey, go easy on the OP. He has realised something and shared.
There's no call for it to become an allout assault on his character, when he may never have done anything that reasonably would offend anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey, go easy on the OP. He has realised something and shared.
There's no call for it to become an allout assault on his character, when he may never have done anything that reasonably would offend anyone. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Even though I don't think I'll hear back from you and that's not me being cryptic or anything like that just want to say I hope all is well? Hopefully have a good weekend? I'll be in Southport for the weekend for the night life I like the nightlife down there anyway remember to keep smiling, don't let anyone put you down unless it's in a good way of course
Then boom... End of the day on here in my twenties there was banter have a laugh etc but again people always thinking the worse I was one of the ones making videos discussing about MH I'm not a creep I'm not a nasty person |
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By *lynJMan
over a year ago
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"I try to please some people all of the time. And some people none of the time. I find this works out for me.  "
As long as you don't try to please all of the people all of the time! That would be going too far.  |
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"Just a little bit of a heads up to everyone if someone gives you a negative message back don't keep messaging them because it's not going to work, sometimes I send a message to someone and they will either take it in the good way or in a bad way with what I say some people can get the joke some people can't "
exactly some have a sense of humour but more often than not they don't it's purely because of the amount of messages they get, sometimes the jokes lost in translation sometimes they just don't get it or nsh  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I try to please some people all of the time. And some people none of the time. I find this works out for me.
As long as you don't try to please all of the people all of the time! That would be going too far. "
This is good advice Glyn. I should try to remember this some way.   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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It is what it is you can't please everyone at the end of the day some people will take offence to a message some people want to be nice to you some people want to be nasty at the end of the day life too short to hold a grudge... There is always going to be people on here that like you there is always going to be people out there that don't like you it's just the way it is as Bruce Hornsby says |
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"Just a little bit of a heads up to everyone if someone gives you a negative message back don't keep messaging them because it's not going to work, sometimes I send a message to someone and they will either take it in the good way or in a bad way with what I say some people can get the joke some people can't "
That’s what the block button is for mate; they’re either not interested, or not on your wavelength! Block and move on  |
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