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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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And no, it's not just about the romantic type of love.
So - are you the sort of person who says I love you easily to friends, partners etc? Do you love easily or are you more guarded? How do you feel when others tell you they love you? |
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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago
Gateway to the Beacons |
"And no, it's not just about the romantic type of love.
So - are you the sort of person who says I love you easily to friends, partners etc? Do you love easily or are you more guarded? How do you feel when others tell you they love you? "
Recently too easily too soon that ended that.
I do tell friends including male friends I love them and even put a x on message’s |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
Nottingham |
Physical affection was minimal growing up and affirmations of love missing. I learned from my eldest brother and his wife raising my nephew that saying 'love you' and regular hugs can be a daily thing. I followed suit with my kids, and in the last few years can tell my besties that I live them.
Partner wise I don't generally want to hear the words and am pretty cynical as to what love/lust is anyway. I've barely been in love and rarely said the words. I'd rather my/their actions said it. |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
abruzzo Italy (and UK) |
I used to be pretty open about it, certainly wit( partners, not so much friends, and apart from my son, none of my family, we’re not that kind of family. But I think I’ve become more guarded in the last few years |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Away for Christmas |
Despite knowing I feel it, I honestly struggle to say it at times even to family. My family knows this, they understand so the fact I don't say it they are okay with.
Yet I can easily say it to my dogs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the person. My children grew up with me saying it to them several times a day and showering them in kisses, but they're older now and don't crave the smushy stuff anymore. I say it when they're sad, worried, in need of reassurance, when they're not going to go "yuk!".
One or two friends I find it easy to say to. Other friends would feel mighty uncomfortable if I told them, so I don't. They still know it though.
MrWho gets told everyday and I mean it every time. I think "I love you" can be something that is said out of habit and it's sad to lose the significance of those words.
Nell |
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"And no, it's not just about the romantic type of love.
So - are you the sort of person who says I love you easily to friends, partners etc? Do you love easily or are you more guarded? How do you feel when others tell you they love you? "
Romantically I’ve become jaded and very guarded in respect to saying “I love you” to someone if a relationship went that far…
But conversely I’ve grown far more comfortable with platonic love and expressing it to my friends and family |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Recently too easily too soon that ended that.
I did this, I don't half regret it.
I tell family I love them, my daughter daily. Not so much friends though I send them love in messages.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When it comes to love I'm a very guarded person due to past experiences.
I certainly show I care for friends by being that person they can turn to for help or just a listening ear and by checking in with them on a regular basis. I'm that friend that will always be there no matter what is going on in my life. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"And no, it's not just about the romantic type of love.
So - are you the sort of person who says I love you easily to friends, partners etc? Do you love easily or are you more guarded? How do you feel when others tell you they love you?
Recently too easily too soon that ended that.
I do tell friends including male friends I love them and even put a x on message’s "
Awww that's really lovely! It's nice when men are comfortable enough to say that in a non patronising way.
Do you think saying it too soon ends things? How do you know when it's too soon? I hope you're okay though, x |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Physical affection was minimal growing up and affirmations of love missing. I learned from my eldest brother and his wife raising my nephew that saying 'love you' and regular hugs can be a daily thing. I followed suit with my kids, and in the last few years can tell my besties that I live them.
Partner wise I don't generally want to hear the words and am pretty cynical as to what love/lust is anyway. I've barely been in love and rarely said the words. I'd rather my/their actions said it. "
Regular hugs should be a daily thing, your eldest brother sounds like such a loving doting dad which is wonderful.
I think how you're raised can definitely have an impact on how you view displays of affection, saying it etc. For me, I'm prone to doubting it but I've discovered I love hearing it when I don't expect it. Those little moments when they say "fuck I love you" after you say a really bad joke. Actions will always win my heart but words feed my soul. |
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With my family I say it all the time the few good friends I also say it to as for romantic love the last man I said I love you to lasted 25 years until he fell for someone else if I ever fall in love with someone again I’ll be much more guarded. |
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Outside of my family, I have never been told I am “loved” (boohoo). Do I fall in love easy? Once I did, but that was more lust I think, looking back. These days, at 47, I have confined “love” to the missed opportunities bin (boohoo(again)) |
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I will use it carelessly for things that don't have much meaning, such as:
I love coffee
I love Star Trek
I love comfy shoes
I rarely say it with meaning.
Replaying to someone saying "love you too" is something I do quite easily.
But actually saying "I love you" is something I think I've only done once in my life; it was to my dad. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Depends on the person. My children grew up with me saying it to them several times a day and showering them in kisses, but they're older now and don't crave the smushy stuff anymore. I say it when they're sad, worried, in need of reassurance, when they're not going to go "yuk!".
One or two friends I find it easy to say to. Other friends would feel mighty uncomfortable if I told them, so I don't. They still know it though.
MrWho gets told everyday and I mean it every time. I think "I love you" can be something that is said out of habit and it's sad to lose the significance of those words.
Nell"
Yes definitely. I think anything said too often in a habitual fashion loses the meaning, it dilutes it almost doesn't it? I tell my friends I love them when I'm struck by how much I do. How much they mean to me. The same to my fiancé. Rather than say it, I try and show it. Check in with people. Do little things that I know they'd like, would mean a lot to them or they'd appreciate. Love isn't about grandiose language, gestures. It's about knowing someone means a lot to you and you want to show it. |
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
"And no, it's not just about the romantic type of love.
So - are you the sort of person who says I love you easily to friends, partners etc? Do you love easily or are you more guarded? How do you feel when others tell you they love you? "
No.
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I tell my mum and kids I love them every day.
I tell my cousins, friends, at the end of a phone call, or when saying goodbye, because I do, they’re my world
Sounds morbid but if it was the last time I saw them I’d want them to remember the last words |
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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago
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I tell my kids everytime I speak to them and they offer it freely too at random times. I get good morning and goodnight texts from my daughter everyday, she tells me without fail how much she loves me. I tell my mum everytime I leave her and she shows her affection too which she never did as I was growing up.
My kinky soulmate of 10 yrs is the other person I share my love with. We’ve shared everything of ourselves and it’s a similar kind of love. We love each other very much but aren’t in love.
I’m way too guarded to offer my heart to anyone else. It’s fragile, I don’t want it damaged |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tell my family, well my kids all the time. The sisters and mum get it over text messages, wouldn't do to get too bleary eyed with them. Romantic loves would normally have run a mile if ever I were to tell them that, so don't unless its a birthday or christmas but they would know anyway. Signing off with 'Sending love' is love all the same  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No iv said it and meant it to only 5 people in my life including my kids and once the kids hit high school i stop saying it to them as i dont want to make em soft in a hard world
I wouldnt even hug my mum back when my gran died i just looked at her and said stop it
Im actively trying to purge myself of these kinds of emotions with my parents getting closer to that age |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No iv said it and meant it to only 5 people in my life including my kids and once the kids hit high school i stop saying it to them as i dont want to make em soft in a hard world
I wouldnt even hug my mum back when my gran died i just looked at her and said stop it
Im actively trying to purge myself of these kinds of emotions with my parents getting closer to that age "
Purge yourself of having emotions or of resisting the emotion? Dont fight it, it will only burst out somewhere unexpected and much more painful. We are allowed to be emotional creatures. X |
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I'm absolutely rubbish at telling people I love them. I weirdly left a voice clip to my best mate the other night that I did. Nearly had a heart attack.
I do however make gifts for people or help them with something practical. Maybe they don't see it as love but it's my love language. |
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"I'm absolutely rubbish at telling people I love them. I weirdly left a voice clip to my best mate the other night that I did. Nearly had a heart attack.
I do however make gifts for people or help them with something practical. Maybe they don't see it as love but it's my love language. "
Sometimes actions say more than words anyway |
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Having had my fingers burnt in the game of love Ive struggled to find it again
Of course unconditional love to my family and little boy go without saying but love for a soul mate is where I hit a brick wall ....it's probably why I'm on this site 
Though I will always say never say never  |
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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago
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"I tell family I love them all the time. I have some very close and I tell them I love them too.
Romantic love ?? the walls are up with that one but I’m working on bringing them down  "
You will find it one day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No iv said it and meant it to only 5 people in my life including my kids and once the kids hit high school i stop saying it to them as i dont want to make em soft in a hard world
I wouldnt even hug my mum back when my gran died i just looked at her and said stop it
Im actively trying to purge myself of these kinds of emotions with my parents getting closer to that age
Purge yourself of having emotions or of resisting the emotion? Dont fight it, it will only burst out somewhere unexpected and much more painful. We are allowed to be emotional creatures. X "
to be spartan |
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I don’t say it to many, but when I do I really mean it. I tell the children and it’s a good sign they’re at ease telling me.
There was none of that kind of thing when I was growing up, unfortunately! |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
I tell my close family and friends that I love them, moreso since losing people I wish I had said it to.
I don't have many people who would say it to me. My close family make a sound that means 'I love you' but the words are reserved for exceptional occasions.
I haven't experienced anyone professing romantic love for over 3 decades, but I have fallen in love with some I did not like in the end.
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
Stirling |
I think there are many different levels of love - I am extremely guarded with my heart and that spans from a absent father in childhood which made me very reluctant to say it to another man, that said I met someone this year who has shown me what it is to be loved - really loved…we have both slowly and without force opened up to each other and allowed ourselves to grow in our own time into something I never thought would be possible and for that I am entirely thankful - we don’t band it around like it’s meaningless I like when it’s said in those moments when you feel vulnerable or aren’t looking/feeling your best and he catches you of guard with it, that’s romance to me.
When it comes to family and friends I have a close knit circle who I love with all I have they are my people, when they need to hear it and sometimes even when they don’t know they do I say it because it’s true
To me love has meaning and shouldn’t be taken for granted x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone said they loved me, I’d ask what do they want.
Most people I love leave me, so it’s becoming a very rare thing for me to enjoy.
I love coffee  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a very affectionate person but I don't throw the word love around easily. I'm constantly telling my daughter and my partner that I love them  but it's not something I'll often say to others.
I wouldn't say I am guarded and I do love easily. I have love for many people in my life... but not the kind of love that's exceptionally mind-blowing. When it comes to that kind of love, it takes a unique connection for me to get that point. |
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It's important that my son knows I love him, and I know he does. That's not just because of the words.
Other than that, romantically, I've said it several times (but less than 10), and meant it every time, with never a trace of regret. 'It is shallow people who say they can love only once', says Wilde in Dorian Gray. |
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