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How do you feel about obvious copy and pastes?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When they are from someone you fancy and would actually be up for meeting, but its clear they have not bothered to read your profile? I find it off putting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Must say
In defence
I do read profiles
And do not message lady’s
On most occasions because I’m not there cup of tea
Not what they are looking for
To old
Smoker as well
So  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't mind a well constructed message that's clearly copy and paste.
But most of them are not and I've had ones that say I do love a blonde you are perfect for me! And I see you are single fancy meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Oh absolutely, I don't take offence, it's just i say what I'm after on my profile, and its annoying being asked in a msg 'what you looking for' over and over again haha |
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I find them hilarious
The best ones are when they’ve sent the same copy and paste message twice on the same day so it appears again in an unread message. It really does make my day… not theirs though when they get deleted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just ignore and delete 
But when they are pretty...its soooo hard haha "
Nah it just proves that if they can’t put any effort into a first message then it’s pointless…. It’s not all about attraction with me  |
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I always read the profile first, if I can't get though it all then they're obviously not for me. I don't coy and paste but follow pretty much the same format with a few changes depending on the profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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im so aware of this when it comes to sending a message to someone, it keeps me on my toes thats for sure lol
I would never be lazy enough to do it but I do try to make my messages look as original as they actually are, it can be a lot of pressure lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"im so aware of this when it comes to sending a message to someone, it keeps me on my toes thats for sure lol
I would never be lazy enough to do it but I do try to make my messages look as original as they actually are, it can be a lot of pressure lol"
We're not looking for mega originality, just if there are requirements in our profiles, include them in the message! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's amusing when women just write how's you or wink then when you read their profile they specifically state that winks or how's you messages will be deleted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"im so aware of this when it comes to sending a message to someone, it keeps me on my toes thats for sure lol
I would never be lazy enough to do it but I do try to make my messages look as original as they actually are, it can be a lot of pressure lol
We're not looking for mega originality, just if there are requirements in our profiles, include them in the message!"
im just one of those kind of people that wants to show effort and originality, I stress myself out for not reason lol. im a people pleaser |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's amusing when women just write how's you or wink then when you read their profile they specifically state that winks or how's you messages will be deleted "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I read profiles, if they're looking for someone in shape I pass. Although round is also a shape
If they're looking for people 6ft plus again I pass, I'm perfectly average.
If they're looking for well endowed, see above response...
If however people are looking to have a laugh and some fun if the mood takes then I'll write whatever comes to mind at the time, try and sell ourselves a little and see what comes of the message.
Gent. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I read profiles, if they're looking for someone in shape I pass. Although round is also a shape
If they're looking for people 6ft plus again I pass, I'm perfectly average.
If they're looking for well endowed, see above response...
If however people are looking to have a laugh and some fun if the mood takes then I'll write whatever comes to mind at the time, try and sell ourselves a little and see what comes of the message.
Gent."
Round is definitely a shape, a fabulous shape. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I read profiles, if they're looking for someone in shape I pass. Although round is also a shape
If they're looking for people 6ft plus again I pass, I'm perfectly average.
If they're looking for well endowed, see above response...
If however people are looking to have a laugh and some fun if the mood takes then I'll write whatever comes to mind at the time, try and sell ourselves a little and see what comes of the message.
Gent.
Round is definitely a shape, a fabulous shape. "
Well of course it is  shape has no bearing bigger folks are attractive too  |
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By *humper.Man
over a year ago
northumberland/scotland |
"I've only had 1 or 2 (I think? )
I can't say I've been bothered. Ignored and moved on
So you find it off putting then, as you ignore them!? "
You could say that, yeah.
Had they'd have been hot, I easily could have played out differently though, I won't lie.
The combination of copy and paste AND no physical attraction is always a no.
Hot and copy/paste... I'll get back to you if it ever happens. Unlikely though |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've only had 1 or 2 (I think?)
I can't say I've been bothered. Ignored and moved on
So you find it off putting then, as you ignore them!?
You could say that, yeah.
Had they'd have been hot, I easily could have played out differently though, I won't lie.
The combination of copy and paste AND no physical attraction is always a no.
Hot and copy/paste... I'll get back to you if it ever happens. Unlikely though "
Ah well, there we go, that was my specific question haha its different when they are hot. |
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I have to say that I don't always read the profile. Usually I just paying them a compliment, or highlighting something in their profile that I like. I will mention that I am not after meeting up though. My messages are always written, not badly copied and paste messages.
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The issue isn't exclusively constrained to "cut and paste" messages, in addition to it being a "male" foible.
I've had three instances this week where the women have failed to read my profile and yet, despite them having instigated the conversation with unimaginative monosyllabic messages, have moaned when I've reciprocated in similar fashion.
The culprits are the ones who whose profiles pontificate about being "articulate" and "sapsiosexual" but are clearly unable to lead by example. Lip service isn't lost on them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The issue isn't exclusively constrained to "cut and paste" messages, in addition to it being a "male" foible.
I've had three instances this week where the women have failed to read my profile and yet, despite them having instigated the conversation with unimaginative monosyllabic messages, have moaned when I've reciprocated in similar fashion.
The culprits are the ones who whose profiles pontificate about being "articulate" and "sapsiosexual" but are clearly unable to lead by example. Lip service isn't lost on them."
I don't recall saying it was exclusively men! |
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"I find it off putting but remind myself it’s nothing personal he’s just trying to catch someone’s eye"
I prefer messages to be personal and tailored rather than generic...
And physical attractiveness doesn't make up for vacuous messaging. |
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"I find them hilarious
The best ones are when they’ve sent the same copy and paste message twice on the same day so it appears again in an unread message. It really does make my day… not theirs though when they get deleted "
I once had that sent 8 times over course of a month. It was back then when I didn't block |
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I have to add alot of men do write well thought out messages but not really catered to my needs. So yes again not reading my profile properly and trying thier luck. Like they tick 2 boxes but fail miserably at 3 which sorry is a no go. Like i really can't cope with facial and body hair |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place, and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tbh, I've had messages that are more creative from M then F. If you met them in the street/out you wouldn't go into great detail. Would be a simple greeting and grows from there. People expect too much on here from people thinking they are owed an essay filling their ego/validation before they should message back.  |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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I must confess to (mostly) replying with a copied and pasted message - so we can't really complain about receiving them.
Their profile and subsequent messages are far more important in our opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's OK if they add something personal, but if they've copied and pasted with no thought then it's a no. Had 'how are you both' a few times, it doesn't take a minute to proofread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place, and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that!"
Finding Nemo?  |
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Don’t mind a ‘copy and paste’ message. As long it matches what we’re looking for and well constructed, including the profile.
It’s when we either haven’t yet replied (or decided not to) to the first message, but then, receive a second one within days (or months later), as if it’s the first message to us. Then it’s a no or a delete.
Don’t some people take notice of their ‘message summary’ with profiles they’re considering?
J |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on their message and on the state of my profile.
If they message me currently it's just stupidity.
I don't blame men at all for sending copy and paste messages. Why bother spending time reading lots of profile text and writing something special if it just gets deleted every time.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not going to lie I copy and paste I say.
"Thank you I really appreciate it, it means a lot. X"
I get alot of compliments and they don't say thing else. I got sick of putting the same thing all the time so I copy and paste.
But I don't cold message people with copy and pasted things.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not going to lie I copy and paste I say.
"Thank you I really appreciate it, it means a lot. X"
I get alot of compliments and they don't say thing else. I got sick of putting the same thing all the time so I copy and paste.
But I don't cold message people with copy and pasted things.
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Love this!  x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doesn't necessarily mean they haven't read the profile, they have just lost the will typing out a new message every time. I don't blame guys to be fair especially when from my experience, most women just say 'hi' as their opener. |
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"Doesn't necessarily mean they haven't read the profile, they have just lost the will typing out a new message every time. I don't blame guys to be fair especially when from my experience, most women just say 'hi' as their opener."
I practice what i preach on dating sites and here. I always mention something I like about their profile and ask them a question. But I don't have essays on the first message. Then copy and paste that to everyone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve never used copy and paste when messaging women. I’ve always looked at the pics, read the profile and only contact women I like the look of. However, seeing a nicely written, friendly message get deleted, or you’re even blocked after sending it, is a little disheartening. As a result, I can see why some men would copy and paste and just carpet bomb. Not for me but it must work for some. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place, and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that!
Finding Nemo? "
Quite close |
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I once had a guy send me the exact same copy and paste message 57 times..I didn't know whether to praise him for his persistence or suggest he see his doctor about his lack of memory
To answer your question, I've never really thought much of anything about them, even when I was meeting, I mainly ignored incoming messages and contacted people I liked the look of first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I once had a guy send me the exact same copy and paste message 57 times..I didn't know whether to praise him for his persistence or suggest he see his doctor about his lack of memory
To answer your question, I've never really thought much of anything about them, even when I was meeting, I mainly ignored incoming messages and contacted people I liked the look of first. "
I am admiring the consistency !
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
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"I normally send a sarcastic message back just for the giggles xx "
I do this too. Recent opener/response...
Guy: I wanna fuck you in front of your husband
Me: Good luck with that - he's dead
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"When they are from someone you fancy and would actually be up for meeting, but its clear they have not bothered to read your profile? I find it off putting."
If they’ve not read our profile they’ll just get deleted. It doesn’t take too much time after all. |
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Doesn't bother us particularly.
We don't expect people to invest substantial time in an initial message, they don't know if they are even going to get read let alone responded.
We don't (unlike many on here) assume that other people's time is inherently worth less than ours. People are busy and there's nothing wrong with the first message being generic expressions of interest.
When it remains generic after the first message however, that's a problem. |
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I don't really care. As long as they remember to change the names and that they sent you the same message three times previously. I think it's what follows the initial message that's important and you can't expect people to continuously come up with interesting messages |
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I can’t really say that a copy and paste message would ever annoy me or stoke any kind of reaction or emotion from me. If the profile/person/people is/are not what I’m looking for then I ignore the message and move on
The copy and paste legal paragraphs/Sydney university statements do always make me roll my eyes when I see them on profiles. But no drama, if those statements give a person a bit of security and comfort then it’s their choice to fill their bio with what ever they want |
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By *.T.Man
over a year ago
Belfast |
As a bloke, it is always handy to have a template. Just remember to delete the non relevant bits.
My go to is:
Hi (insert name),
I came across your profile and was attracted to the words/pictures/verifications/ boobs* and think you look like a fun lady/couple. I see that you can/can't accommodate but that is fine as I can/can't accommodate and will/won't pay/share costs for a hotel/b+b/dayroom/tent. As we are both/all classy/adventurous we could/couldn't play in my/your car or outdoors/in a club.
I have/haven't included a cock pic as I saw you love/hate getting them but if you want to chat/fuck let me know.
I'm sure you are swamped with messages but I'm local/just visiting/here for a few hours and thought you are the kind of person/people I like to meet/fuck.
If you fancy meeting up for a coffee/blow n go/all nighter, we can, and perhaps have a one off/build a friendship.
Anyway you look/sound/I hope to fuck you are stunning /have a pulse and as you have high /no standards, maybe I'm what you are looking for/will take pity on. I'll wear a smart suit /fireman's uniform / bag over my head if that will help you decide to pick me.
Happy fabbing!
Never fails!
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