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Here's a question that pops up on my FB feed every now and then and always blows up. Curious to see what you bunch of deviants think about it.
Do you have an internal monologue? As in an internal narration you hear all the time.
Or do you not have that? |
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"Yup. Fucking nightmare, it never stops 
Well…apart from when I’m having really good sex and I orgasm…makes sense why I need a lot of sex, eh"
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I think I do yes, as in conversations in your head? Sometimes I mumble the answers to questions Ive asked myself under my breath and my daughter always asks who Im talking too |
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"I think I do yes, as in conversations in your head? Sometimes I mumble the answers to questions Ive asked myself under my breath and my daughter always asks who Im talking too "
Oh my gosh. Same. Or: what did you say? Nothing! I was talking to myself. |
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"I think I do yes, as in conversations in your head? Sometimes I mumble the answers to questions Ive asked myself under my breath and my daughter always asks who Im talking too
Oh my gosh. Same. Or: what did you say? Nothing! I was talking to myself. "
I dont even know Im doing it half the time. People at work must be too polite to tell me  |
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I only ever criticise myself on a daily basis and it tends to be the only internal dialogue I hear. I actually can't recall when I last spoke nicely to or about myself to myself, I only ever hear what a fat ugly cunt I am, how useless I am etc when in reality I know I'm not those things all the time. |
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"I only ever criticise myself on a daily basis and it tends to be the only internal dialogue I hear. I actually can't recall when I last spoke nicely to or about myself to myself, I only ever hear what a fat ugly cunt I am, how useless I am etc when in reality I know I'm not those things all the time. "
That sounds awful, and exhausting. Sending a hug in case you need one x  |
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Not all the time but happens when things aren't going well or difficult or important meetings are imminent. I'm not sure if I'm overthinking or talking things out most of the time x |
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My thoughts speak to me. Sometimes they are my direction and other times I ignore them. Usually they are the opposite of what I would say I am "supposed" to do, often they are negative. Finding my balance with them decides how I feel,most of the time. |
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Be here most of the time I don't but there are occasions when I do have internal monologue and honestly it's not a nice place to be but it's getting worked on all the time and I never listen to what it says lol |
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24/7 for as long as I can remember I make a joke that its the only sensible conversation or advice I’ve ever had
can be very wearing at times
I have ADHD but is a common trait associated neurodivergent people
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"Here's a question that pops up on my FB feed every now and then and always blows up. Curious to see what you bunch of deviants think about it.
Do you have an internal monologue? As in an internal narration you hear all the time.
Or do you not have that?"
i recently found out that some people when reading, dont actually hear the words in their head. and i was astounded.
I wonder what other things people feel is normal for the human experience, that not every other human is actually aware of.
Like the people who see colours with music/sound or people who can taste words. I dont experience either of those. |
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"I only ever criticise myself on a daily basis and it tends to be the only internal dialogue I hear. I actually can't recall when I last spoke nicely to or about myself to myself, I only ever hear what a fat ugly cunt I am, how useless I am etc when in reality I know I'm not those things all the time. "
That sounds rough Mrs. X |
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I think it's interesting that everyone experiences thought differently but generally have no idea other people are having a different experience.
For me personally I think without an internal voice, I just understand what I'm thinking about. If I want to share a thought then I use an internal monologue to translate the thoughts into language. |
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"I only ever criticise myself on a daily basis and it tends to be the only internal dialogue I hear. I actually can't recall when I last spoke nicely to or about myself to myself, I only ever hear what a fat ugly cunt I am, how useless I am etc when in reality I know I'm not those things all the time.
That sounds rough Mrs. X"
Yes, it bad at the moment, I'm going through some tough times. But I'm a fighter. |
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Yes... I count everything. If I'm walking, I count my steps, if I'm listening to music I count the beat, if I'm looking forward to something I'm counting down the weks/days/hours etc.
Drives me mad sometime! |
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"Here's a question that pops up on my FB feed every now and then and always blows up. Curious to see what you bunch of deviants think about it.
Do you have an internal monologue? As in an internal narration you hear all the time.
Or do you not have that?
i recently found out that some people when reading, dont actually hear the words in their head. and i was astounded.
I wonder what other things people feel is normal for the human experience, that not every other human is actually aware of.
Like the people who see colours with music/sound or people who can taste words. I dont experience either of those."
Yeah, I don't hear the read word in my head........... |
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"I only ever criticise myself on a daily basis and it tends to be the only internal dialogue I hear. I actually can't recall when I last spoke nicely to or about myself to myself, I only ever hear what a fat ugly cunt I am, how useless I am etc when in reality I know I'm not those things all the time.
That sounds rough Mrs. X
Yes, it bad at the moment, I'm going through some tough times. But I'm a fighter. "
I can relate 100% and I know it's horrible. You are a gorgeous lady and those thoughts are intrusive and untrue. You'll come through it stronger.
May I suggest a book called 'The Chimp Paradox'? I have it on audiobook and listen to it when I'm walking to work. It's really helping me to learn how to manage and change those thoughts and processes, hopefully it can help you too |
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"24/7 for as long as I can remember I make a joke that its the only sensible conversation or advice I’ve ever had
can be very wearing at times
I have ADHD but is a common trait associated neurodivergent people
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This is true, neurotypical people actually have periods of silence in their brains. Who knew! |
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"Yeah, I don't hear the read word in my head...........
But do you move your lips while you're reading? 
I do not* 
*Unless I'm reading aloud "
I keep telling Ellen it isn't normal
Some consider the move from reading aloud (what everyone did in the early days) to silent reading to have been an evolutionary step.
All that reading used to be done in a chapter house. That's where we get chapters from. |
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"I only ever criticise myself on a daily basis and it tends to be the only internal dialogue I hear. I actually can't recall when I last spoke nicely to or about myself to myself, I only ever hear what a fat ugly cunt I am, how useless I am etc when in reality I know I'm not those things all the time.
That sounds rough Mrs. X
Yes, it bad at the moment, I'm going through some tough times. But I'm a fighter.
I can relate 100% and I know it's horrible. You are a gorgeous lady and those thoughts are intrusive and untrue. You'll come through it stronger.
May I suggest a book called 'The Chimp Paradox'? I have it on audiobook and listen to it when I'm walking to work. It's really helping me to learn how to manage and change those thoughts and processes, hopefully it can help you too"
That's a great book. Can thoroughly recommend it. It opened my eyes to a lot of things.
C. |
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"I only ever criticise myself on a daily basis and it tends to be the only internal dialogue I hear. I actually can't recall when I last spoke nicely to or about myself to myself, I only ever hear what a fat ugly cunt I am, how useless I am etc when in reality I know I'm not those things all the time.
That sounds rough Mrs. X
Yes, it bad at the moment, I'm going through some tough times. But I'm a fighter.
I can relate 100% and I know it's horrible. You are a gorgeous lady and those thoughts are intrusive and untrue. You'll come through it stronger.
May I suggest a book called 'The Chimp Paradox'? I have it on audiobook and listen to it when I'm walking to work. It's really helping me to learn how to manage and change those thoughts and processes, hopefully it can help you too"
I'll take a look. Thanks |
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"I think I do yes, as in conversations in your head? Sometimes I mumble the answers to questions Ive asked myself under my breath and my daughter always asks who Im talking too "
Yes I do that too. I also rehearse upcoming conversations...sometimes out loud..stops people sitting too close to me on the bus.. |
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"Yes I do. It's constant and the only time it stops is when I somehow finally fall asleep. I wish I could just turn myself off sometimes though. "
It's a bugger when they wake you up at 3am though , and won't let you get back to sleep..then the alarm goes off |
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"Yes I do. It's constant and the only time it stops is when I somehow finally fall asleep. I wish I could just turn myself off sometimes though.
Have you tried taking the batteries out?  "
Yes! I've even tried turning it on and off again but it never works. 
But yes Victor ^ it is a nightmare at nighttime especially! |
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"I think just about everybody does, don't they? It's completely normal. "
I don't and frankly, I find it baffling to comprehend what it must be like. Neither of us appear to have this internal voice/monologue. Perhaps we're both zombies? |
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This always blows my mind, can't get my head round it. How can you not have an internal monologue, bizarre. I've got a friend you can't visualise things, which is just as odd. So if you said to her "apple", she can't see it in her mind. |
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"This always blows my mind, can't get my head round it. How can you not have an internal monologue, bizarre. I've got a friend you can't visualise things, which is just as odd. So if you said to her "apple", she can't see it in her mind. "
Yep, can't visualise things either. I'm probably a robot or something |
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"This always blows my mind, can't get my head round it. How can you not have an internal monologue, bizarre. I've got a friend you can't visualise things, which is just as odd. So if you said to her "apple", she can't see it in her mind. "
It's just thinking without words |
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"Yes I do. I thought it was normal until after speaking to other people I realised not everyone has it. "
Yeah everyone should have an inner judge it keeps us grounded as decent humans if you don’t have one your just running of crazy |
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"I think just about everybody does, don't they? It's completely normal.
My partner doesn't. I can't imagine what that's like. "
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I thought you were going to say "I can't imagine what's going through his mind"!
Seriously though, I think that's very unusual. |
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"Here's a question that pops up on my FB feed every now and then and always blows up. Curious to see what you bunch of deviants think about it.
Do you have an internal monologue? As in an internal narration you hear all the time.
Or do you not have that?"
you talk to yourself, yes suppose I do, it's called thinking out loud, guess it's away of getting you on track, giving yourself a pep talk  |
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Yes I do. And when I'm in France my monologue is often in French - which is a real pain because I find myself using a lot of mental energy trying to find the right words. (My French is not at all brilliant). Anyone else find this when abroad? |
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Not so much anymore. When I was growing up, I was on my own alot so it was always there.
Now only if I witness something stupid by others or just need expert advice on something... |
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"Yes I do. I thought it was normal until after speaking to other people I realised not everyone has it.
Yeah everyone should have an inner judge it keeps us grounded as decent humans if you don’t have one your just running of crazy "
So I'm crazy because I don't have this internal voice thing and because I don't visualise things? Right. |
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"Yes I do. I thought it was normal until after speaking to other people I realised not everyone has it.
Yeah everyone should have an inner judge it keeps us grounded as decent humans if you don’t have one your just running of crazy "
Judge, as in judging yourself? That’s not good. |
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"Yes I do. I thought it was normal until after speaking to other people I realised not everyone has it.
Yeah everyone should have an inner judge it keeps us grounded as decent humans if you don’t have one your just running of crazy
So I'm crazy because I don't have this internal voice thing and because I don't visualise things? Right. "
Not crazy just Aphantasia |
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over a year ago
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"Yes I do. I thought it was normal until after speaking to other people I realised not everyone has it.
Yeah everyone should have an inner judge it keeps us grounded as decent humans if you don’t have one your just running of crazy "
Disagree. I'd happily live without mine |
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"Yes I do. I thought it was normal until after speaking to other people I realised not everyone has it.
Yeah everyone should have an inner judge it keeps us grounded as decent humans if you don’t have one your just running of crazy
Disagree. I'd happily live without mine "
You shouldn’t and should embrace them. Try to understand where they are coming from, which feelings are entangled with those monologues. How accurate they are and so on. Until you manage to control them or at control the perspective you have on them.
When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. |
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"I only ever criticise myself on a daily basis and it tends to be the only internal dialogue I hear. I actually can't recall when I last spoke nicely to or about myself to myself, I only ever hear what a fat ugly cunt I am, how useless I am etc when in reality I know I'm not those things all the time. "
I can totally relate to this! My anxiety whom I call Astrid has been a right bitch lately |
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over a year ago
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I have a positive inner monologue. I've always played out life in my head, without knowing why.
I was a fantasist growing up, so that may be part of it.
My internal monologue now escapes from my mouth; making me the sad lady who talks out loud to herself as she walks to the shops.
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"Yes I do. It's not nasty or nice just plays the role of narrator of my life.
Most of us do, but i know someone who hasn't. "
Is that as in a literal Narrator? Like
"He grabbed the kettle, reached over to the tap and poured in"
Does it describe everything you do? |
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Self talk is constant apart from during sleep, butcthen it pops up via dreams.
What it's about varies.
Mine is influenced by my non neuro typical brain conditions, my ptsd effects, my irritation levels and the nag in my mind to do stuff to make my life slightly more liveable.
For the happier thoughts it's often cor, look at the bum on her yep. Guilty. |
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"Yes I do. I thought it was normal until after speaking to other people I realised not everyone has it.
Yeah everyone should have an inner judge it keeps us grounded as decent humans if you don’t have one your just running of crazy
Disagree. I'd happily live without mine
You shouldn’t and should embrace them. Try to understand where they are coming from, which feelings are entangled with those monologues. How accurate they are and so on. Until you manage to control them or at control the perspective you have on them.
When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. "
Suprisingly insightful. Ill take that onboard, thanksm  |
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"Yes I do. I thought it was normal until after speaking to other people I realised not everyone has it.
Yeah everyone should have an inner judge it keeps us grounded as decent humans if you don’t have one your just running of crazy
Disagree. I'd happily live without mine
You shouldn’t and should embrace them. Try to understand where they are coming from, which feelings are entangled with those monologues. How accurate they are and so on. Until you manage to control them or at control the perspective you have on them.
When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
Suprisingly insightful. Ill take that onboard, thanksm "
I agree... after a dodgy couple of weeks time for a bit of reflection.. and I don't mean look in a mirror |
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When I am working something out at work it is an almost full on conservation, I do get some strange looks sometimes especially if I swear at myself and use my name.
Normally it just a quiet monologue but it can get to be a 2 sided affair. Yes, it can be worrying. |
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"Yes I do. It's not nasty or nice just plays the role of narrator of my life.
Most of us do, but i know someone who hasn't.
Is that as in a literal Narrator? Like
"He grabbed the kettle, reached over to the tap and poured in"
Does it describe everything you do?"
No, it's genderless too unless like me it's a woman. Literally describing my life to myself would be deadly boring. |
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"I only ever criticise myself on a daily basis and it tends to be the only internal dialogue I hear. I actually can't recall when I last spoke nicely to or about myself to myself, I only ever hear what a fat ugly cunt I am, how useless I am etc when in reality I know I'm not those things all the time. "
This, especially recently! I'm tearing myself to bits  and tbh as neggy as my inner monologue is, he's not wrong |
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"My brain never shuts up. If it's not an internal monologue then there's a song or a tune stuck in there. Can be quite annoying. "
I feel you. And then when I get in a situation where I want to remember the song lyrics, can I? No I can’t. Just one verse or chorus. Maddening |
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Yeah but I kinda have 2 to contend with. The guy doing day to day stuff in mundane world working & running home, plus the girl constantly looking for the next look or opportunity to dress. Tug of war that never stops  |
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I usually just talk to my dogs. They look at me bemused, tilt their head to one side prick up an ear and listen....
And then tell me what they think, their answer is usually....biscuits |
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I do, always thought it came from being a voracious reader. Developed my own little narrator's voice.
The trouble starts if my filter goes on the fritz and I listen to it too much coz she's a hardcore takenoshit kinda person.... truths escape me |
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"Yes I do. And when I'm in France my monologue is often in French - which is a real pain because I find myself using a lot of mental energy trying to find the right words. (My French is not at all brilliant). Anyone else find this when abroad?"
I can't speak French, but I definitely get this when I'm in Spain, monologue is twice as long because it's Spanish first, then translates it to English |
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"Yes I do. And when I'm in France my monologue is often in French - which is a real pain because I find myself using a lot of mental energy trying to find the right words. (My French is not at all brilliant). Anyone else find this when abroad?
I can't speak French, but I definitely get this when I'm in Spain, monologue is twice as long because it's Spanish first, then translates it to English "
When I'm immersed in the Spanish language, my brain wholly flips to Spanish and I forget to speak English with my husband sometimes. I have to stop and think. Weird |
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"Yes I do. And when I'm in France my monologue is often in French - which is a real pain because I find myself using a lot of mental energy trying to find the right words. (My French is not at all brilliant). Anyone else find this when abroad?
I can't speak French, but I definitely get this when I'm in Spain, monologue is twice as long because it's Spanish first, then translates it to English
When I'm immersed in the Spanish language, my brain wholly flips to Spanish and I forget to speak English with my husband sometimes. I have to stop and think. Weird "
One of my lecturers in uni was asked when would you consider yourself fluent, since languages never stop evolving etc. He said, when you dream in that language it's a good indicator  |
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