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By *lappy OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
With so many people struggling with either personal problems, the cost of living crisis or individuals struggles with mental health, let’s start a thread and spread some positivity weather it’s something your grateful for, something moves that's happened to put a smile on your face or just some positivity
If people are struggling and need a shoulder or need to vent or let off steam please know that my inbox is always open 24/7 and you can tell me absolutely anything in confidence and without judgement
In a world where you can be anything be kind
Shaun aka _lappy xx |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"With so many people struggling with either personal problems, the cost of living crisis or individuals struggles with mental health, let’s start a thread and spread some positivity weather it’s something your grateful for, something moves that's happened to put a smile on your face or just some positivity
If people are struggling and need a shoulder or need to vent or let off steam please know that my inbox is always open 24/7 and you can tell me absolutely anything in confidence and without judgement
In a world where you can be anything be kind
Shaun aka _lappy xx"
Bumping up a really kind post...
Sometimes (and I struggle with it at times myself) it is just about thinking how a comment can be received by a person who is already stressed and struggling and perhaps rephrasing it a bit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"With so many people struggling with either personal problems, the cost of living crisis or individuals struggles with mental health, let’s start a thread and spread some positivity weather it’s something your grateful for, something moves that's happened to put a smile on your face or just some positivity
If people are struggling and need a shoulder or need to vent or let off steam please know that my inbox is always open 24/7 and you can tell me absolutely anything in confidence and without judgement
In a world where you can be anything be kind
Shaun aka _lappy xx"
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
Just to add, sometimes a person who could come across as a really angry keyboard warrior... could really be somebody who has just been dumped, lost their job or does not know how to pay for their rent. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Just to add, sometimes a person who could come across as a really angry keyboard warrior... could really be somebody who has just been dumped, lost their job or does not know how to pay for their rent. "
or just an angry keyboard warrior  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just to add, sometimes a person who could come across as a really angry keyboard warrior... could really be somebody who has just been dumped, lost their job or does not know how to pay for their rent. "
I often see this kind of thing said when people say to be kind but kindness both works both ways.
The person becoming angry at someone because they are going through stuff has no idea what the person who is quietly getting on with it is also going through.
Going through hard times does not give people the excuse to be abusive or aggressive towards others. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Just to add, sometimes a person who could come across as a really angry keyboard warrior... could really be somebody who has just been dumped, lost their job or does not know how to pay for their rent. or just an angry keyboard warrior "
of course, but then why are people sometimes so angry?
Do you think we are born angry? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just to add, sometimes a person who could come across as a really angry keyboard warrior... could really be somebody who has just been dumped, lost their job or does not know how to pay for their rent. or just an angry keyboard warrior "
Exactly! |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Just to add, sometimes a person who could come across as a really angry keyboard warrior... could really be somebody who has just been dumped, lost their job or does not know how to pay for their rent.
I often see this kind of thing said when people say to be kind but kindness both works both ways.
The person becoming angry at someone because they are going through stuff has no idea what the person who is quietly getting on with it is also going through.
Going through hard times does not give people the excuse to be abusive or aggressive towards others. "
No, of course it does not give anybody the right to be abusive.
And yes, you are right some people manage their difficulties quietly and without causing a fuss.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just to add, sometimes a person who could come across as a really angry keyboard warrior... could really be somebody who has just been dumped, lost their job or does not know how to pay for their rent. or just an angry keyboard warrior of course, but then why are people sometimes so angry?
Do you think we are born angry?"
So people can take their anger out on others simply because they are going through stuff and others should just be kind to them? Sounds like the opposite to kindness, Sounds like allowing people to behave however they like just in case they might be going through something hard. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just to add, sometimes a person who could come across as a really angry keyboard warrior... could really be somebody who has just been dumped, lost their job or does not know how to pay for their rent. "
I have none of those excuses, I am actually just a twat..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just to add, sometimes a person who could come across as a really angry keyboard warrior... could really be somebody who has just been dumped, lost their job or does not know how to pay for their rent.
I often see this kind of thing said when people say to be kind but kindness both works both ways.
The person becoming angry at someone because they are going through stuff has no idea what the person who is quietly getting on with it is also going through.
Going through hard times does not give people the excuse to be abusive or aggressive towards others.
No, of course it does not give anybody the right to be abusive.
And yes, you are right some people manage their difficulties quietly and without causing a fuss. "
I think you will find it's the vast majority not just some people.
Some people are dicks simply because they want to be. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Just to add, sometimes a person who could come across as a really angry keyboard warrior... could really be somebody who has just been dumped, lost their job or does not know how to pay for their rent.
I often see this kind of thing said when people say to be kind but kindness both works both ways.
The person becoming angry at someone because they are going through stuff has no idea what the person who is quietly getting on with it is also going through.
Going through hard times does not give people the excuse to be abusive or aggressive towards others.
No, of course it does not give anybody the right to be abusive.
And yes, you are right some people manage their difficulties quietly and without causing a fuss.
I think you will find it's the vast majority not just some people.
Some people are dicks simply because they want to be. "
That last bit made me chuckle... I visualised somebody getting out of bed in the morning and deciding that today is the day that they are going to be a dick!
(Sorry could not help it!)  |
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By *lappy OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
let’s just try to remember the message that I was trying to convey in the first message that’s it’s ok to not be ok and that if you think your going through your current struggles tfat there are many more people out there who have either gone through the same thing if not something similar. Humans are born with 2 ears and 1 mouth so sometimes it’s twice as important to listen than it is too talk |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Positivity Saturday! Amazing how quickly a positive thread can turn into discourse."
I did not think it had turned?
Where did that happen in your opinion, perhaps I missed something?
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"let’s just try to remember the message that I was trying to convey in the first message that’s it’s ok to not be ok and that if you think your going through your current struggles tfat there are many more people out there who have either gone through the same thing if not something similar. Humans are born with 2 ears and 1 mouth so sometimes it’s twice as important to listen than it is too talk "
Really good advice to increase listening skills... so much harder to listen for the message and sometimes for what has not been said explicitly. |
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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago
Gateway to the Beacons |
It is always good to check in, I write things on my blog about my mental health issues and others
I do poems generally at night when I am low so they sometimes come across as a bit dark. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Positivity Saturday! Amazing how quickly a positive thread can turn into discourse."
It hasn't and this is part of the problem. People having a civilised discussion and seeing things differently is not discourse.
This happens all the time if people say anything that some people don't agree with apparently they are being argumentative or causing a problem. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"let’s just try to remember the message that I was trying to convey in the first message that’s it’s ok to not be ok and that if you think your going through your current struggles tfat there are many more people out there who have either gone through the same thing if not something similar. Humans are born with 2 ears and 1 mouth so sometimes it’s twice as important to listen than it is too talk "
I do empathise with people who struggle mentally but I have to say I've never had that feeling ever, I've always been very positive about life and very philosophical about its pitfalls  |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Just to add, sometimes a person who could come across as a really angry keyboard warrior... could really be somebody who has just been dumped, lost their job or does not know how to pay for their rent. or just an angry keyboard warrior of course, but then why are people sometimes so angry?
Do you think we are born angry?
So people can take their anger out on others simply because they are going through stuff and others should just be kind to them? Sounds like the opposite to kindness, Sounds like allowing people to behave however they like just in case they might be going through something hard. "
Only just saw this: I personally do not think it is ok to take anger out on somebody who is not to blame.
I think it is an act of kindness to remind oneself that empathy can open doors though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is always good to check in, I write things on my blog about my mental health issues and others
I do poems generally at night when I am low so they sometimes come across as a bit dark."
I love that, I do write things down but I'm no poet and always been slightly envious of people who are natural wordsmiths. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"It is always good to check in, I write things on my blog about my mental health issues and others
I do poems generally at night when I am low so they sometimes come across as a bit dark."
100% this!
The poem (s) I have seen seemed very honest and heartfelt - not dark to me. |
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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago
Gateway to the Beacons |
"It is always good to check in, I write things on my blog about my mental health issues and others
I do poems generally at night when I am low so they sometimes come across as a bit dark.
I love that, I do write things down but I'm no poet and always been slightly envious of people who are natural wordsmiths. "
oh far from natural lol
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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago
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"It is always good to check in, I write things on my blog about my mental health issues and others
I do poems generally at night when I am low so they sometimes come across as a bit dark. 100% this!
The poem (s) I have seen seemed very honest and heartfelt - not dark to me. "
you are biased C x |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"It is always good to check in, I write things on my blog about my mental health issues and others
I do poems generally at night when I am low so they sometimes come across as a bit dark. 100% this!
The poem (s) I have seen seemed very honest and heartfelt - not dark to me.
you are biased C x"
Perhaps but that does not make my statement untrue x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just to add, sometimes a person who could come across as a really angry keyboard warrior... could really be somebody who has just been dumped, lost their job or does not know how to pay for their rent. or just an angry keyboard warrior of course, but then why are people sometimes so angry?
Do you think we are born angry?
So people can take their anger out on others simply because they are going through stuff and others should just be kind to them? Sounds like the opposite to kindness, Sounds like allowing people to behave however they like just in case they might be going through something hard.
Only just saw this: I personally do not think it is ok to take anger out on somebody who is not to blame.
I think it is an act of kindness to remind oneself that empathy can open doors though."
You can only have empathy with someone if you know their situation. If someone is just venting and being unpleasant what is there to empathise with? Agreed you don't have to bite if someone is being unpleasant but if it's aimed at you that is quite difficult to do. I think we should all be considerate of others however I don't really buy into the whole just be kind thing because I don't really understand what it means. For example if my friend Is constantly snapping and being difficult is it unkind to confront them about in a considered way? Some people that would be considered unkind whereas I think just putting up with it and not trying to get to the root causes the problem is unkind. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Just to add, sometimes a person who could come across as a really angry keyboard warrior... could really be somebody who has just been dumped, lost their job or does not know how to pay for their rent. or just an angry keyboard warrior of course, but then why are people sometimes so angry?
Do you think we are born angry?
So people can take their anger out on others simply because they are going through stuff and others should just be kind to them? Sounds like the opposite to kindness, Sounds like allowing people to behave however they like just in case they might be going through something hard.
Only just saw this: I personally do not think it is ok to take anger out on somebody who is not to blame.
I think it is an act of kindness to remind oneself that empathy can open doors though.
You can only have empathy with someone if you know their situation. If someone is just venting and being unpleasant what is there to empathise with? Agreed you don't have to bite if someone is being unpleasant but if it's aimed at you that is quite difficult to do. I think we should all be considerate of others however I don't really buy into the whole just be kind thing because I don't really understand what it means. For example if my friend Is constantly snapping and being difficult is it unkind to confront them about in a considered way? Some people that would be considered unkind whereas I think just putting up with it and not trying to get to the root causes the problem is unkind. "
So I get what you are saying and agree in parts.
I think I have grown over the years to believing that if I try (and it is more often than not about trying, it does not always come easy!) that if I wake with an "attitude of gratitude" for what is going ok in my life and start the day with a kind/ empathic attitude it means that for me at least I am less likely to snap.
That would include giving people the benefit of the doubt before biting back but as I said I cannot always do it, sometimes quick temper gets the better of me. |
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"Just to add, sometimes a person who could come across as a really angry keyboard warrior... could really be somebody who has just been dumped, lost their job or does not know how to pay for their rent. "
I second this. I know it can be misinterpreted by moral righteous indignation but it is absolutely true.
We have a choice how we respond to others. We are more likely to restore everyone to equilibrium if we understand that the angry are simply redirecting their hurt.
They may not have a 'right' to but they will err occasionally; they are human after all and often more so than those that condemn every vulnerability whilst trying to enforce their own principles on others.
Constant bad behaviour doesn't have to be tolerated but we still need to help .... even more so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just to add, sometimes a person who could come across as a really angry keyboard warrior... could really be somebody who has just been dumped, lost their job or does not know how to pay for their rent.
I second this. I know it can be misinterpreted by moral righteous indignation but it is absolutely true.
We have a choice how we respond to others. We are more likely to restore everyone to equilibrium if we understand that the angry are simply redirecting their hurt.
They may not have a 'right' to but they will err occasionally; they are human after all and often more so than those that condemn every vulnerability whilst trying to enforce their own principles on others.
Constant bad behaviour doesn't have to be tolerated but we still need to help .... even more so. "
I get that. There have been times when I have seen people who have posted something on the forums that is very out of character and every time I've checked in. I don't believe that we all have to help if someone constantly shows bad behaviour on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pay it forward, people. One kind word, a smile, a small act of kindness. If we all do it once, what we can be together knows no bounds.
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You have amazing legs.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have responded sometimes on forum posts and started some. I have had kind words and pms asvising me. Today there is a post in another Forum which its heading is the ae if site member. Now as OP said none of us know each others situations so why does Admin allow members to publicly set up a thread naming a site member and who gives anyone the right to gang up on aite member for their own enjoyment. If a members posts dont interest u dont reply. Dont pm the profile grow up and move on xx |
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By *lappy OP Man
over a year ago
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Whilst I may of entitled this post positivity Saturday, some people have on going struggles so I just thought I’d refresh it as it’s good to talk no matter how difficult it mean seem , always here no matter what the problem is how big or small it may seem |
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