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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Follow up message then...
Why the fuck did none of you message me first?! What the fuck!? 
Messy bedroom killed it for a lot of us.... "
I'm sorry were you not getting sexy in my DMs? Must have been someone else... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Follow up message then...
Why the fuck did none of you message me first?! What the fuck!?
Messy bedroom killed it for a lot of us....
Brutal!"
It's ok she loves me really the cheeky minx x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On my single profile I preferred to send the first message, so I did. Lots of times. Mostly to single men, occasionally couples, and very very occasionally to women. I'm very shy about approaching women for some silly reason 
Nell |
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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago
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"Follow up message then...
Why the fuck did none of you message me first?! What the fuck!?
Messy bedroom killed it for a lot of us....
Brutal!
It's ok she loves me really the cheeky minx x"
"Love you"
You can calm down with that one..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Follow up message then...
Why the fuck did none of you message me first?! What the fuck!?
Messy bedroom killed it for a lot of us....
Brutal!
It's ok she loves me really the cheeky minx x
"Love you"
You can calm down with that one....."
Sorry let me rephrase...
'its ok, she wants me topless tied up really the cheeky minx' |
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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago
Boo's World |
"Follow up message then...
Why the fuck did none of you message me first?! What the fuck!?
Messy bedroom killed it for a lot of us....
Brutal!
It's ok she loves me really the cheeky minx x
"Love you"
You can calm down with that one.....
Sorry let me rephrase...
'its ok, she wants me topless tied up really the cheeky minx'"
Oh yes of course, I can see your nipples really turning me on...... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So!
Women, have YOU ever sent a first message? And to what, couples, women or (gasp!) single men?
Yes…… single men  "
And yet you make me do all the work... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So!
Women, have YOU ever sent a first message? And to what, couples, women or (gasp!) single men?
Yes…… single men
And yet you make me do all the work..."
For now  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I did. To the person that I thought was the hottest man on fabs. I asked if I booked a hotel for a specific day would he like to celebrate my 20 year anniversary of leaving my husband.
He said yes, I booked it. He turned up on time and we had an amazing afternoon. I would message more people first if they had face photos. It's awkward iniating messages only to find out you don't actually fancy them when u see the face. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I once sent a message to a single man and he accused me of sending him a pity message and got a bit grumpy.
It wasn’t. I was only saying hello. I never bothered again.  "
I promise never to be grumpy if you message this fellow Welshie first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would think that only women that have messaged first will say on here, the masses that haven't won't answer the question. I expect if I had a gym fit body, model looks. A dick like a cucumber and drove around in a Lambo, i expect I would get messages from some of the lovley women on here, I haven't so I don't! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would think that only women that have messaged first will say on here, the masses that haven't won't answer the question. I expect if I had a gym fit body, model looks. A dick like a cucumber and drove around in a Lambo, i expect I would get messages from some of the lovley women on here, I haven't so I don't! Lol"
Do women like green dicks? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I did it once but never again. I ended up marrying the one I messaged first! "
Tmi Lorna, tmi.
And yes, if I'm interested I'll message something really banal about some tenuous link to a forum post.
Never been turned down so far.
Honestly it'll happen one day and there goes the dividends on therapy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I did it once but never again. I ended up marrying the one I messaged first!
Tmi Lorna, tmi.
And yes, if I'm interested I'll message something really banal about some tenuous link to a forum post.
Never been turned down so far.
Honestly it'll happen one day and there goes the dividends on therapy."
Now that isn't totally true now piccolo affogato.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I did it once but never again. I ended up marrying the one I messaged first!
Tmi Lorna, tmi.
And yes, if I'm interested I'll message something really banal about some tenuous link to a forum post.
Never been turned down so far.
Honestly it'll happen one day and there goes the dividends on therapy.
Now that isn't totally true now piccolo affogato.
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Wait what did we first message about? Was it banal? Tell me it was. I'm going to keep typing banal so I remember how to say it. It's quite a banal thing to type isn't it? Banal.
And oi, I've never had a polite no thanks or a delete! It's the doe eyed innocence that I have going on.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I did it once but never again. I ended up marrying the one I messaged first!
Tmi Lorna, tmi.
And yes, if I'm interested I'll message something really banal about some tenuous link to a forum post.
Never been turned down so far.
Honestly it'll happen one day and there goes the dividends on therapy.
Now that isn't totally true now piccolo affogato.
Wait what did we first message about? Was it banal? Tell me it was. I'm going to keep typing banal so I remember how to say it. It's quite a banal thing to type isn't it? Banal.
And oi, I've never had a polite no thanks or a delete! It's the doe eyed innocence that I have going on. "
Ahem, something to do with marigolds being turned inside out.
And its like bagel, right? Bay-nel.
And please, I let you down as gently as I could.
Bonk. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Wait what did we first message about? Was it banal? Tell me it was. I'm going to keep typing banal so I remember how to say it. It's quite a banal thing to type isn't it? Banal.
And oi, I've never had a polite no thanks or a delete! It's the doe eyed innocence that I have going on.
Ahem, something to do with marigolds being turned inside out.
And its like bagel, right? Bay-nel.
And please, I let you down as gently as I could.
Bonk."
Hahaha. The inside out marigolds! How could I forget. Truly epic line of conversation.
Banal as in anal will probably be really banal and that's why it's unlikely to happen any time soon.
Cute, falafel. Cute.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wait what did we first message about? Was it banal? Tell me it was. I'm going to keep typing banal so I remember how to say it. It's quite a banal thing to type isn't it? Banal.
And oi, I've never had a polite no thanks or a delete! It's the doe eyed innocence that I have going on.
Ahem, something to do with marigolds being turned inside out.
And its like bagel, right? Bay-nel.
And please, I let you down as gently as I could.
Bonk.
Hahaha. The inside out marigolds! How could I forget. Truly epic line of conversation.
Banal as in anal will probably be really banal and that's why it's unlikely to happen any time soon.
Cute, falafel. Cute. "
I know right, I literally know all the lines to get attention. It's when I'm taking them off slowly, holding eye contact, whispering "this could be you" that the magic really begins.
Granted it's a strong look in the pub, but I'm there for it.
I do think it's going in the form of banal anal. Trust you to be disgusted by the pronunciation though.
And I'm always cute, the fricking cutest. Should see my booty slippers. Toasty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep. That's how I roll. Don't understand why women specifically wouldn't message first. I only want to interact with those I find attractive, not those I've no interest in. |
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"Of course! All's fair...
Except when headlights are involved.
They will not accept that in the defence proceedings. I checked.
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Shhhhh... there's a rumour going round that all might be sorted imminently... #eventheyignoremessages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of course! All's fair...
Except when headlights are involved.
They will not accept that in the defence proceedings. I checked.
Shhhhh... there's a rumour going round that all might be sorted imminently... #eventheyignoremessages"
No way?!
That's excellent news. A major multi national company finally does the most basic thing after around 5 months of waiting.
Praise be.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I have sent a message to a singleton ( male) but got ignored
Nooooo. Did you follow up with a "well I was nt really interested anyway'? "
No just cracked on , now we borrow a partner with permission  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve sent two to men, both fizzled out quickly, not quite the conversationalists "
It happens.
Unfortunately.
Some people are just not terribly verbose or gregarious.
It sucks the literal wind out of any prior joy.
Which ironically, kinda blows. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Follow up message then...
Why the fuck did none of you message me first?! What the fuck!? "
I have messaged first in the past .
If you didn’t live too far away I probably would have done the same with you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve sent a few messages and got a nice no thanks or yes let’s chat and see where we get…
But sometimes it feels like women who do that are portrayed as desperate.
I wonder what men think about a woman texting for the first time asking to meet at the drop of a hat. The exact same way men do constantly on here. It does feel like it’s unacceptable or we aren’t allowed to do that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wish I could reply to you all but what with the amount of message I get every day I just don’t have the time.
I’ll bulk send signed dick pics when I get chance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wish I could reply to you all but what with the amount of message I get every day I just don’t have the time.
I’ll bulk send signed dick pics when I get chance."
Please may I have a4 or larger? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wish I could reply to you all but what with the amount of message I get every day I just don’t have the time.
I’ll bulk send signed dick pics when I get chance.
Please may I have a4 or larger?"
Seems only fair. |
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Absolutely... when a profile warrants it.
But it's very time consuming and unrewarding dredging through locals trying to find even one profile that's got enough for me to go on to bother sending a message |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wish I could reply to you all but what with the amount of message I get every day I just don’t have the time.
I’ll bulk send signed dick pics when I get chance.
Please may I have a4 or larger?
Seems only fair."
Thanks |
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"I once sent a message to a single man and he accused me of sending him a pity message and got a bit grumpy.
It wasn’t. I was only saying hello. I never bothered again. "
Shame, I would have jumped at the chance, especially as I'm lucky enough to be inside your teeny weeny age bracket |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the women on here get that many messages that they don't read most of them anyway
Not true. I don't get inundated and I read them all "
Oh, I figured to never responded to my faf because it remains unread.
This changes things. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Follow up message then...
Why the fuck did none of you message me first?! What the fuck!?
Messy bedroom killed it for a lot of us....
Brutal!
It's ok she loves me really the cheeky minx x
"Love you"
You can calm down with that one.....
Sorry let me rephrase...
'its ok, she wants me topless tied up really the cheeky minx'
Oh yes of course, I can see your nipples really turning me on......"
A former flame called them the Coco pops and who doesn't love one of these chocolatey bad boys! |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
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"I think the women on here get that many messages that they don't read most of them anyway
Not true. I don't get inundated and I read them all "
HOW in hell's delight?? You are smoking hot. Your filters must be turned up to the max!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think the women on here get that many messages that they don't read most of them anyway
Not true. I don't get inundated and I read them all
HOW in hell's delight?? You are smoking hot. Your filters must be turned up to the max!!! "
Way to tell us you are swimming there HC! X
I've spoken to another hot woman in the depths of Wales who says she never gets loads of messages. I think you London ladies are spoilt! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Other than reciprocal messages between forumites and long- established friends, I rarely send messages.
Over the last 18 months most of my chats have been instigated by women."
If you were closer I would have messaged you first based on those shoes! |
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"Other than reciprocal messages between forumites and long- established friends, I rarely send messages.
Over the last 18 months most of my chats have been instigated by women.
If you were closer I would have messaged you first based on those shoes!"
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Geographical constraints shouldn't detract from sending 'footwear themed' first messages!  |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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Absolutely but not very often. I message if I find an interesting profile, and while I do look at pictures, it is the profile content that will make me message.
Sometimes with the view to hopefully getting a positive response and we end up meeting but also sometimes just to compliment somebody on a well-presented profile. (not enough of them around, too many one liners and "fill in later") |
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"Yes, I either get deleted or once I got called ugly. I don't like sending first messages anymore "
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The 'deletion' is an oft occurrence and happens to most people at some stage.
The name calling, however, is abhorrent. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"was literally thinking this, I haven't ever received the first message! tbf that might be saying something
Holy thread revival batman!
apologies, wanted to see if this has been discussed"
Don't be silly it's always nice to see a blast from the past!
Any woman on this thread messaged any sexy men recently?! |
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"I’m curious do you say more than “Hi”
As that’s what I get and I just ignore them as it’s just a step up from a wink."
Yes I send more than Hi....depends on his profile/forum interactions what I say |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"was literally thinking this, I haven't ever received the first message! tbf that might be saying something
Didn't I send you a 1st message 2 weeks ago after the Christmas thread?"
You cheating on me boo?! |
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"I once sent a message to a single man and he accused me of sending him a pity message and got a bit grumpy.
It wasn’t. I was only saying hello. I never bothered again. "
Seriously? Any single guy would be lucky to have a message from you. His loss |
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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago
Boo's World |
"was literally thinking this, I haven't ever received the first message! tbf that might be saying something
Didn't I send you a 1st message 2 weeks ago after the Christmas thread?
You cheating on me boo?! "
No, I'll still buy you a Happy Meal one day |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"was literally thinking this, I haven't ever received the first message! tbf that might be saying something
Didn't I send you a 1st message 2 weeks ago after the Christmas thread?
You cheating on me boo?!
No, I'll still buy you a Happy Meal one day "
You know my happy meals between your legs right? |
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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago
Boo's World |
"was literally thinking this, I haven't ever received the first message! tbf that might be saying something
Didn't I send you a 1st message 2 weeks ago after the Christmas thread?
Nope it was me  "
Was you then that failed to reply after a couple of messages ha ha ha |
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"was literally thinking this, I haven't ever received the first message! tbf that might be saying something
Holy thread revival batman!
apologies, wanted to see if this has been discussed
Don't be silly it's always nice to see a blast from the past!
Any woman on this thread messaged any sexy men recently?!"
Yes, I have! |
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"I’m curious do you say more than “Hi”
As that’s what I get and I just ignore them as it’s just a step up from a wink."
I usually mention something in their profile or from their pics if there's a conversation starter there |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"was literally thinking this, I haven't ever received the first message! tbf that might be saying something
Holy thread revival batman!
apologies, wanted to see if this has been discussed
Don't be silly it's always nice to see a blast from the past!
Any woman on this thread messaged any sexy men recently?!
Yes, I have! "
URGH |
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"was literally thinking this, I haven't ever received the first message! tbf that might be saying something
Holy thread revival batman!
apologies, wanted to see if this has been discussed
Don't be silly it's always nice to see a blast from the past!
Any woman on this thread messaged any sexy men recently?!
Yes, I have!
URGH "
Was waiting for it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"was literally thinking this, I haven't ever received the first message! tbf that might be saying something
Holy thread revival batman!
apologies, wanted to see if this has been discussed
Don't be silly it's always nice to see a blast from the past!
Any woman on this thread messaged any sexy men recently?!
Yes, I have!
URGH
Was waiting for it "
I think by the way you replied directly and simply saying yes, you wanted me to say it too a little didn't ya? |
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Considering some men don't send the first message due to it not being seen under a barrage of others, it would be cool if women did send the first message a bit more.
I've been lucky where the women and couples I'm regularly in touch with have sent the first message as I didn't due to the reason above |
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"I’ve sent lots of first messages… not all of them with a pussy pic attached though so not sure if that counts?
Is that where I'm going wrong? "
I think so. Seems to work with guys and dick pics so… |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’ve sent lots of first messages… not all of them with a pussy pic attached though so not sure if that counts?
All I got was you cat? "
Who's got a cat? I'm all about dming cat pics! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Considering some men don't send the first message due to it not being seen under a barrage of others, it would be cool if women did send the first message a bit more.
I've been lucky where the women and couples I'm regularly in touch with have sent the first message as I didn't due to the reason above "
Echoing this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Follow up message then...
Why the fuck did none of you message me first?! What the fuck!?
Messy bedroom killed it for a lot of us....
Where’s my reply
Brutal!
Honest!"
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"I think the women on here get that many messages that they don't read most of them anyway
Not true. I don't get inundated and I read them all
HOW in hell's delight?? You are smoking hot. Your filters must be turned up to the max!!! "
Actually all my filters are open... I can only assume it's geographical!!! |
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