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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Most of us tend to like both "
Maybe some of you more aware women. I just spent all night with a woman who wanted it romantic after telling me different on the app and in no way gave me direction during. I'm not a mind reader |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most of us tend to like both
O like to both aswell. I can only go on instructions given at start though"
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So you can’t go by responses to what you’re doing? When I sleep with someone their response to my touch tells me whether that’s how they want it or not |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Most of us tend to like both
O like to both aswell. I can only go on instructions given at start thoughp
So you can’t go by responses to what you’re doing? When I sleep with someone their response to my touch tells me whether that’s how they want it or not "
That is why I'm asking the question. It wasn't a fabber I met. |
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"Most of us tend to like both
O like to both aswell. I can only go on instructions given at start though"
What a strange comment. Is there no communication during, or understanding of responses given, verbally or physically? |
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"Most of us tend to like both
O like to both aswell. I can only go on instructions given at start though
What a strange comment. Is there no communication during, or understanding of responses given, verbally or physically?"
I've never been told by a lady what it is going to be like before we start |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most of us tend to like both
O like to both aswell. I can only go on instructions given at start thoughp
So you can’t go by responses to what you’re doing? When I sleep with someone their response to my touch tells me whether that’s how they want it or not
That is why I'm asking the question. It wasn't a fabber I met. "
 what
It wasn’t someone from fab you met, but it was still a person. I met someone from match the other day who moaned so loud when I ran my nails down his dick, you can tell from the responses your touch elicits whether or not someone likes what you’re doing, then you adjust accordingly
That’s how sex works |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Most of us tend to like both
O like to both aswell. I can only go on instructions given at start though
What a strange comment. Is there no communication during, or understanding of responses given, verbally or physically?"
Don't make me the bad guy here please.
Some people just don't know what they want.
I posted it for that reason.
I like to have a good time and that mean both parties. This meet there was do chance rigid as fuck. Bye after half hour. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most of us tend to like both
O like to both aswell. I can only go on instructions given at start though
What a strange comment. Is there no communication during, or understanding of responses given, verbally or physically?
Don't make me the bad guy here please.
Some people just don't know what they want.
I posted it for that reason.
I like to have a good time and that mean both parties. This meet there was do chance rigid as fuck. Bye after half hour. "
If I met someone and they were “rigid” having sex with me, I really wouldn’t have continued for half an hour. |
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"Most of us tend to like both
O like to both aswell. I can only go on instructions given at start though
What a strange comment. Is there no communication during, or understanding of responses given, verbally or physically?
Don't make me the bad guy here please.
Some people just don't know what they want.
I posted it for that reason.
I like to have a good time and that mean both parties. This meet there was do chance rigid as fuck. Bye after half hour.
If I met someone and they were “rigid” having sex with me, I really wouldn’t have continued for half an hour. "
Yes this!
Have you communicated with her afterwards to discuss? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most of us tend to like both
O like to both aswell. I can only go on instructions given at start though
What a strange comment. Is there no communication during, or understanding of responses given, verbally or physically?
Don't make me the bad guy here please.
Some people just don't know what they want.
I posted it for that reason.
I like to have a good time and that mean both parties. This meet there was do chance rigid as fuck. Bye after half hour.
If I met someone and they were “rigid” having sex with me, I really wouldn’t have continued for half an hour. "
In fact, I would have actually taken that as a withdrawal of consent |
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"Now you calling me a rapist fuck off idiots get a kife
That's not exactly what was said. Ease off the throttle, chill a bit. "
I mean… *technically* a withdrawal of consent would equal r*pe at that moment in time.
It might not have been said, but it was implied, and despite the OP’s clumsy responses here, he has every right to be mad. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Now you calling me a rapist fuck off idiots get a kife
That's not exactly what was said. Ease off the throttle, chill a bit. "
Ease off what throttle. Either make a comment or don't there are too many people here who like to judge without getting any back. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Now you calling me a rapist fuck off idiots get a kife
That's not exactly what was said. Ease off the throttle, chill a bit.
Ease off what throttle. Either make a comment or don't there are too many people here who like to judge without getting any back. "
I will burn my bridges with this site in a heartbeat. Like I give a fuck |
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To directly answer the question:
How vigorous sex should be should usually be discussed beforehand. I know i do, but maybe this isn’t as common as I think.
Yes some people change their minds in the moment. And yes, quite a number of people do not verbally communicate their needs during sex.
Reading non-verbal cues, and body language is a skill not everyone develops as well, and even less so in the heat of the moment. |
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By *rjamesMan
over a year ago
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You are on here wanting answers and you are getting feedback. If you're expecting validation and not getting what you hoped, perhaps reflect on this. People are actually being patient and trying to get you to calm down, and you're being aggressive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Now you calling me a rapist fuck off idiots get a kife
That's not exactly what was said. Ease off the throttle, chill a bit.
Ease off what throttle. Either make a comment or don't there are too many people here who like to judge without getting any back.
I will burn my bridges with this site in a heartbeat. Like I give a fuck"
OK. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Now you calling me a rapist fuck off idiots get a kife
That's not exactly what was said. Ease off the throttle, chill a bit.
Ease off what throttle. Either make a comment or don't there are too many people here who like to judge without getting any back.
I will burn my bridges with this site in a heartbeat. Like I give a fuck
OK."
Of anyone knows the Duke in e17. Watch me beat up some bouncers. If you like. Your choice. I beat up 3 on my own before. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To directly answer the question:
How vigorous sex should be should usually be discussed beforehand. I know i do, but maybe this isn’t as common as I think.
Yes some people change their minds in the moment. And yes, quite a number of people do not verbally communicate their needs during sex.
Reading non-verbal cues, and body language is a skill not everyone develops as well, and even less so in the heat of the moment."
If you can’t tell whether or not someone is enjoying what you’re doing to them, you shouldn’t be touching them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Now you calling me a rapist fuck off idiots get a kife
That's not exactly what was said. Ease off the throttle, chill a bit.
Ease off what throttle. Either make a comment or don't there are too many people here who like to judge without getting any back.
I will burn my bridges with this site in a heartbeat. Like I give a fuck
OK.
Of anyone knows the Duke in e17. Watch me beat up some bouncers. If you like. Your choice. I beat up 3 on my own before. Xxx"
All on your own?
Wow, that's quite something. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To directly answer the question:
How vigorous sex should be should usually be discussed beforehand. I know i do, but maybe this isn’t as common as I think.
Yes some people change their minds in the moment. And yes, quite a number of people do not verbally communicate their needs during sex.
Reading non-verbal cues, and body language is a skill not everyone develops as well, and even less so in the heat of the moment.
If you can’t tell whether or not someone is enjoying what you’re doing to them, you shouldn’t be touching them "
I concur |
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"To directly answer the question:
How vigorous sex should be should usually be discussed beforehand. I know i do, but maybe this isn’t as common as I think.
Yes some people change their minds in the moment. And yes, quite a number of people do not verbally communicate their needs during sex.
Reading non-verbal cues, and body language is a skill not everyone develops as well, and even less so in the heat of the moment.
If you can’t tell whether or not someone is enjoying what you’re doing to them, you shouldn’t be touching them "
I know. We aren’t contradicting each other. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To directly answer the question:
How vigorous sex should be should usually be discussed beforehand. I know i do, but maybe this isn’t as common as I think.
Yes some people change their minds in the moment. And yes, quite a number of people do not verbally communicate their needs during sex.
Reading non-verbal cues, and body language is a skill not everyone develops as well, and even less so in the heat of the moment.
If you can’t tell whether or not someone is enjoying what you’re doing to them, you shouldn’t be touching them "
You telling me a guy has never sat there and thought this is a shut blow job man but what do I say. Fuck off women you piss me off |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To directly answer the question:
How vigorous sex should be should usually be discussed beforehand. I know i do, but maybe this isn’t as common as I think.
Yes some people change their minds in the moment. And yes, quite a number of people do not verbally communicate their needs during sex.
Reading non-verbal cues, and body language is a skill not everyone develops as well, and even less so in the heat of the moment.
If you can’t tell whether or not someone is enjoying what you’re doing to them, you shouldn’t be touching them
You telling me a guy has never sat there and thought this is a shut blow job man but what do I say. Fuck off women you piss me off"
Terry put the cocaine away and go to bed mate, you’ll feel better |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To directly answer the question:
How vigorous sex should be should usually be discussed beforehand. I know i do, but maybe this isn’t as common as I think.
Yes some people change their minds in the moment. And yes, quite a number of people do not verbally communicate their needs during sex.
Reading non-verbal cues, and body language is a skill not everyone develops as well, and even less so in the heat of the moment.
If you can’t tell whether or not someone is enjoying what you’re doing to them, you shouldn’t be touching them
You telling me a guy has never sat there and thought this is a shut blow job man but what do I say. Fuck off women you piss me off"
Do I give a give one fuck if I get a fuck from here..
NOOOOOO
DO WOMEN TAKE OUT KIDS AWAY..
YESSSSSSS. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To directly answer the question:
How vigorous sex should be should usually be discussed beforehand. I know i do, but maybe this isn’t as common as I think.
Yes some people change their minds in the moment. And yes, quite a number of people do not verbally communicate their needs during sex.
Reading non-verbal cues, and body language is a skill not everyone develops as well, and even less so in the heat of the moment.
If you can’t tell whether or not someone is enjoying what you’re doing to them, you shouldn’t be touching them
You telling me a guy has never sat there and thought this is a shut blow job man but what do I say. Fuck off women you piss me off
Terry put the cocaine away and go to bed mate, you’ll feel better "
If I had done cocaine I would be more relaxed I imagine. I'm hurting. Sorry to everyone. Personal shit |
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"To directly answer the question:
How vigorous sex should be should usually be discussed beforehand. I know i do, but maybe this isn’t as common as I think.
Yes some people change their minds in the moment. And yes, quite a number of people do not verbally communicate their needs during sex.
Reading non-verbal cues, and body language is a skill not everyone develops as well, and even less so in the heat of the moment.
If you can’t tell whether or not someone is enjoying what you’re doing to them, you shouldn’t be touching them
You telling me a guy has never sat there and thought this is a shut blow job man but what do I say. Fuck off women you piss me off
Do I give a give one fuck if I get a fuck from here..
NOOOOOO
DO WOMEN TAKE OUT KIDS AWAY..
YESSSSSSS."
Hence no verifications
You sound bitter, and not someone I'd like to be around any kids given your views about women |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To directly answer the question:
How vigorous sex should be should usually be discussed beforehand. I know i do, but maybe this isn’t as common as I think.
Yes some people change their minds in the moment. And yes, quite a number of people do not verbally communicate their needs during sex.
Reading non-verbal cues, and body language is a skill not everyone develops as well, and even less so in the heat of the moment.
If you can’t tell whether or not someone is enjoying what you’re doing to them, you shouldn’t be touching them
You telling me a guy has never sat there and thought this is a shut blow job man but what do I say. Fuck off women you piss me off
Terry put the cocaine away and go to bed mate, you’ll feel better
If I had done cocaine I would be more relaxed I imagine. I'm hurting. Sorry to everyone. Personal shit"
Life’s not easy is it. Have a drink and go to bed x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To directly answer the question:
How vigorous sex should be should usually be discussed beforehand. I know i do, but maybe this isn’t as common as I think.
Yes some people change their minds in the moment. And yes, quite a number of people do not verbally communicate their needs during sex.
Reading non-verbal cues, and body language is a skill not everyone develops as well, and even less so in the heat of the moment.
If you can’t tell whether or not someone is enjoying what you’re doing to them, you shouldn’t be touching them
You telling me a guy has never sat there and thought this is a shut blow job man but what do I say. Fuck off women you piss me off
Terry put the cocaine away and go to bed mate, you’ll feel better
If I had done cocaine I would be more relaxed I imagine. I'm hurting. Sorry to everyone. Personal shit"
Sorry to hear that.
Maybe best to step away for tonight. It won't get any better from here on out x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To directly answer the question:
How vigorous sex should be should usually be discussed beforehand. I know i do, but maybe this isn’t as common as I think.
Yes some people change their minds in the moment. And yes, quite a number of people do not verbally communicate their needs during sex.
Reading non-verbal cues, and body language is a skill not everyone develops as well, and even less so in the heat of the moment.
If you can’t tell whether or not someone is enjoying what you’re doing to them, you shouldn’t be touching them
You telling me a guy has never sat there and thought this is a shut blow job man but what do I say. Fuck off women you piss me off
Terry put the cocaine away and go to bed mate, you’ll feel better
If I had done cocaine I would be more relaxed I imagine. I'm hurting. Sorry to everyone. Personal shit
Sorry to hear that.
Maybe best to step away for tonight. It won't get any better from here on out x"
I don't care |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To directly answer the question:
How vigorous sex should be should usually be discussed beforehand. I know i do, but maybe this isn’t as common as I think.
Yes some people change their minds in the moment. And yes, quite a number of people do not verbally communicate their needs during sex.
Reading non-verbal cues, and body language is a skill not everyone develops as well, and even less so in the heat of the moment.
If you can’t tell whether or not someone is enjoying what you’re doing to them, you shouldn’t be touching them
You telling me a guy has never sat there and thought this is a shut blow job man but what do I say. Fuck off women you piss me off
Terry put the cocaine away and go to bed mate, you’ll feel better
If I had done cocaine I would be more relaxed I imagine. I'm hurting. Sorry to everyone. Personal shit
Sorry to hear that.
Maybe best to step away for tonight. It won't get any better from here on out x
I don't care"
In that case carry on fella.
You are making yourself look a bit of a nasty sod though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To directly answer the question:
How vigorous sex should be should usually be discussed beforehand. I know i do, but maybe this isn’t as common as I think.
Yes some people change their minds in the moment. And yes, quite a number of people do not verbally communicate their needs during sex.
Reading non-verbal cues, and body language is a skill not everyone develops as well, and even less so in the heat of the moment.
If you can’t tell whether or not someone is enjoying what you’re doing to them, you shouldn’t be touching them
You telling me a guy has never sat there and thought this is a shut blow job man but what do I say. Fuck off women you piss me off
Terry put the cocaine away and go to bed mate, you’ll feel better
If I had done cocaine I would be more relaxed I imagine. I'm hurting. Sorry to everyone. Personal shit
Sorry to hear that.
Maybe best to step away for tonight. It won't get any better from here on out x
I don't care
In that case carry on fella.
You are making yourself look a bit of a nasty sod though."
Sorry to everyone I got d*unk and lashed out to anyone. I'm hurt. Life shit at moment |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sorry to everyone I got d*unk and lashed out to anyone. I'm hurt. Life shit at moment
I genuinely love heartfelt apologies."
I don't want to sound like a sad person but I miss my son and I got pissed tonight. I'm sorry everyone |
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"Sorry to everyone I got d*unk and lashed out to anyone. I'm hurt. Life shit at moment
I genuinely love heartfelt apologies.
I don't want to sound like a sad person but I miss my son and I got pissed tonight. I'm sorry everyone "
don't worry about it we all have bad days, head up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Really sorry to hear that you are missing your son. That must be hard. Has it been some time since you've seen him?
It's easy for hurt to turn into anger, you done really well to notice that. Try and be kind to yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Really sorry to hear that you are missing your son. That must be hard. Has it been some time since you've seen him?
It's easy for hurt to turn into anger, you done really well to notice that. Try and be kind to yourself. "
It's getting near a month now since I seen him but that includes his 3rd birthday a week ago |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I just hope I haven't made too much of a tit of myself"
Nah Op. Everyone has been there at some point, you've at least got self awareness. Realising where the hurt was coming from.
I hope things get better for you, don't beat yourself up for being human and misdirecting emotions. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you to everyone who given me positive messages from the heart. I have been struggling gor last 8 months since becoming single. Trying to find a way to make it work. Sometimes you can't. I get that |
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By *lim_funMan
over a year ago
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"Thank you to everyone who given me positive messages from the heart. I have been struggling gor last 8 months since becoming single. Trying to find a way to make it work. Sometimes you can't. I get that "
I think you need a big hug and not from anyone on this site. Drinking isn't the answer although it might help for a few hours it will come back to bite you. It sounds like you need meaningful connection and you will probably be more successful on traditional dating apps. Find some IRL groups that peak your interest around a hobbie, you never know you might meet someone there. Sometimes we look so hard for something we miss the obvious, live each day like it's new, you never know what's around the corner  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thank you to everyone who given me positive messages from the heart. I have been struggling gor last 8 months since becoming single. Trying to find a way to make it work. Sometimes you can't. I get that
I think you need a big hug and not from anyone on this site. Drinking isn't the answer although it might help for a few hours it will come back to bite you. It sounds like you need meaningful connection and you will probably be more successful on traditional dating apps. Find some IRL groups that peak your interest around a hobbie, you never know you might meet someone there. Sometimes we look so hard for something we miss the obvious, live each day like it's new, you never know what's around the corner "
You are right and wrong in so many different ways. I met loads of girls from the irl Apps as you call them etc but whatever. |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
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"Thank you to everyone who given me positive messages from the heart. I have been struggling gor last 8 months since becoming single. Trying to find a way to make it work. Sometimes you can't. I get that
I think you need a big hug and not from anyone on this site. Drinking isn't the answer although it might help for a few hours it will come back to bite you. It sounds like you need meaningful connection and you will probably be more successful on traditional dating apps. Find some IRL groups that peak your interest around a hobbie, you never know you might meet someone there. Sometimes we look so hard for something we miss the obvious, live each day like it's new, you never know what's around the corner
You are right and wrong in so many different ways. I met loads of girls from the irl Apps as you call them etc but whatever. "
You need to be comfortable with yourself happy in your own company build yourself back up before thinking of having another relationship because you won't go into the next one head strong and whole hearted .. |
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By *lim_funMan
over a year ago
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"Thank you to everyone who given me positive messages from the heart. I have been struggling gor last 8 months since becoming single. Trying to find a way to make it work. Sometimes you can't. I get that
I think you need a big hug and not from anyone on this site. Drinking isn't the answer although it might help for a few hours it will come back to bite you. It sounds like you need meaningful connection and you will probably be more successful on traditional dating apps. Find some IRL groups that peak your interest around a hobbie, you never know you might meet someone there. Sometimes we look so hard for something we miss the obvious, live each day like it's new, you never know what's around the corner
You are right and wrong in so many different ways. I met loads of girls from the irl Apps as you call them etc but whatever. "
If at first you don't succeed..maybe revamp your profile on POF but hit from the heart, let them know what you want, not what they want to hear and just be be honest if you get to DM stage, share your concerns and your likes and if things move forward you know where you both stand. Maybe online dating for you isn't the way and you would rather communicate face to face to avoid miscommunication. There are no right answers and what works for one person won't for others, best of luck, remember if you feel something eating you up turn off the screen and go do something else. Recognizing these triggers will help the healing process. Just don't dwell on things too much especially if it's out of your control or you will drive yourself insane! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When women don't like a pounding wouldn't it be easier to just say?"
When two people get along (or vibe well together) they don’t really need to say. I like sensual sex, but there’s those times I know I’m going to be a little intense where she’d need to hold on to her body as she we are rocking the world. 
It’s all about communication, and I don’t mean verbally, she’d know how to slow it down again, feel it, be there in the moment. Sex for me doesn’t come with instructions or a script, we improvise, and it’s fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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^ answering your original opening question.
To add, reading the rest of the thread. Don’t pass your frustration into others. I’ve been there through a break up, it’s hard to find happiness, but you can and will. But it starts within you. That’s how I thought about it.
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"Thank you to everyone who given me positive messages from the heart. I have been struggling gor last 8 months since becoming single. Trying to find a way to make it work. Sometimes you can't. I get that "
Good luck OP, rare to see a thread like this turned round. And sorry you’re having a hard time. Keep your chin up and take it easy on the booze. |
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