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over a year ago
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"Do you like being called "baby" by some random?
I find it so cringy especially when they are younger than me x"
I'm with you on this, makes me think they are a total wuss. |
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It's relatively common to call people pet names where I'm from. Think it's common where communities have kept their own dialects and traditions. I find it rather endearing and fascinating to be honest. It'll be a sad day when a part of our cultural history is lost. Which looks increasingly likely in our homogenised society. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Babe snd trouble are the two I dislike the most. Trouble in particular snd I seem to be attracting quite a few who use that"
See you took how charming I was for granted! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its a good filter though. I'm looking for someone to havevsex with, not to buy a bag of carrots from down the market.
U' alrite babe, hun, darling, treacle?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On the rare occasions that I do message first it is usually a "Hello there" to start with followed by "I read your profile and saw that you were looking for....."
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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago
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"Babe snd trouble are the two I dislike the most. Trouble in particular snd I seem to be attracting quite a few who use that
See you took how charming I was for granted!"
Oh I could never take you for granted, you’ll always remind me |
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"There's worse things to be called. A work colleague often calls me baby girl and that does make me rush to the loo to vom sometimes 
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A guy at work calls me kiddo. He's on the same hierarchical level as me. I hate it and have made my views clear. I'm tempted to complain, to be honest! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Babe snd trouble are the two I dislike the most. Trouble in particular snd I seem to be attracting quite a few who use that"
Trouble is doing the rounds atm.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t like pet names from someone I don’t know.
Use my actual name, or hippy unless we’ve agreed otherwise.
Can’t bear babe, hun, naughty, trouble or young lady - urgh. |
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"No it doesn't appeal when anyone I don't know calls me any version of Hun,baby,babe etc. It just makes me cringe a bit when I see it in opening messages."
Where same we ignore the message an also cock pics we block them |
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"Do you like being called "baby" by some random?
I find it so cringy especially when they are younger than me x"
Oh baby you just so hot, i wanna put you in a diaper and feed you rusks, lol.
Would you prefer they call you mama? Or Babe?
Seriously though, would you like being called a nickname or just your normal name? |
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"A lot of you seem to hate pet names but I sometimes use lovely or sweetie, not meant in a cringy way, but does it come across as cringy?
For me, yes it comes across as cringy"
I appreciate that, thank you sweetie  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I don't like the name baby,
The last person to call me that had been called a piece of shit and a cunt repeatedly by me, after they had lied to me, and thought calling me baby and offering steak and sex would be a good idea.
It really wasn't.
So naturally I just cringe at it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can tell if it's harmless & generational or patronising misogyny in action.
The former is of no consequence to me and not insulting. Working with the public all my days I'm used to this from both men and women. Often it's their way of building rapport or showing appreciation for good service and assistance.
The latter will get zero response from me, no words, a patient blank stare. Disrespect is never rewarded by my attention. If they find their manners I'll happily engage. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So it's condescending? So what do you want to be called? Instead of being a diva, don't make people guess, say your preference, Jesus it's so fucking simple, state your legislative ruling and explain how you want to be referred as, ffs this platform has bought about some people who are proper having themselves, |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
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"So what do you want to be called? What is not a term that you would not find offensive? Jesus ffs "
On here, a username?! I can't think of any kind of conversation that would need for me to be called anything but that, before I knew someone enough for anything else |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
"But prior to being cheated on, you were OK with the pet name? "
Jesus man, had a meet cancel on you tonight or what? You're going to do yourself an injury at this rate! And I managed all of that without calling you sugartits! Amazing! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you wear a name badge in your public role? And the public don't have to dance to your tune. It's clearly not meant as offensive. Understand that people are different, and respect the people who pay your wages. Public servant, perhaps ask your supervisor to put you in a role where you don't have to face the public. I'd put you in a role that doesn't cause you so much anxiety and distress, unbelievable it really is. Explain to your supervisor that you are a swinger and prefer to be called as much? |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
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"Do you wear a name badge in your public role? And the public don't have to dance to your tune. It's clearly not meant as offensive. Understand that people are different, and respect the people who pay your wages. Public servant, perhaps ask your supervisor to put you in a role where you don't have to face the public. I'd put you in a role that doesn't cause you so much anxiety and distress, unbelievable it really is. Explain to your supervisor that you are a swinger and prefer to be called as much? "
1,nobody knows who you are talking to
2,are you replying to every poster that disliked this practice?
And 3,can you tell us an instance where you absolutely cannot converse with someone without referring to them without their name or without calling them a pet name?
Oh and 4,breathe! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jesus you are a breath of fresh air, you are the typical person who gets offended by not being offended, it is just so pathetic that people moan yet not one poster has said their preference of how they are reffered to. Get with the program ffs |
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"No I don't like the name baby,
The last person to call me that had been called a piece of shit and a cunt repeatedly by me, after they had lied to me, and thought calling me baby and offering steak and sex would be a good idea.
It really wasn't.
So naturally I just cringe at it.
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I'd crumble if someone offered me steak and sex |
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"Do you actually get messages when you are not interested in meeting, just browsing? What do you call a browser? I would call you, why bother "
Huh? I don't understand this or your previous answer. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't really get called baby by random folk.
I quite like terms of endearment in my old age, before I'd be outraged that someone had the audacity to use such an awful thing but now? I don't really have the energy or time to get up in arms about it. Some I'd even go so far as to say I quite like. People don't really deliver them in a patronising way with me. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Jesus you are a breath of fresh air, you are the typical person who gets offended by not being offended, it is just so pathetic that people moan yet not one poster has said their preference of how they are reffered to. Get with the program ffs "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't really get called baby by random folk.
I quite like terms of endearment in my old age, before I'd be outraged that someone had the audacity to use such an awful thing but now? I don't really have the energy or time to get up in arms about it. Some I'd even go so far as to say I quite like. People don't really deliver them in a patronising way with me."
This  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s really not difficult to understand.
Call someone by their name unless agreed otherwise.
It’s doesn’t have to be that you’re offended or outraged, and it doesn’t have to be used in any particular manner for you not to like it, or to like it if that’s your preference.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hate it.
Mr doesn't have any "cutesy" pet names for me...it's generally "shagger", "dolly bastard" or "sexy arse" if he's feeling fruity."
my wife says come on rampant rabbit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So it's condescending? So what do you want to be called? Instead of being a diva, don't make people guess, say your preference, Jesus it's so fucking simple, state your legislative ruling and explain how you want to be referred as, ffs this platform has bought about some people who are proper having themselves, "
Username will suffice.
I would hope a person contacting us would have common sense to do so. |
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I‘m not treading on eggshells wondering if something I say will be well received by a potential ’play mate’. If they don’t like it then they’re not on my wavelength, no biggy really.
The whole ‘babe’ thing screams of shear desperation, in my honest and humble opinion. |
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over a year ago
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"I‘m not treading on eggshells wondering if something I say will be well received by a potential ’play mate’. If they don’t like it then they’re not on my wavelength, no biggy really.
The whole ‘babe’ thing screams of shear desperation, in my honest and humble opinion. "
Do you not ask? |
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"I‘m not treading on eggshells wondering if something I say will be well received by a potential ’play mate’. If they don’t like it then they’re not on my wavelength, no biggy really.
The whole ‘babe’ thing screams of shear desperation, in my honest and humble opinion.
Do you not ask? "
I’m adult enough to gage if what I say in a PM will be well received or not. I can’t remember ever being pulled up in a PM about it. Like I said, I would never use the word ‘babe’. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I‘m not treading on eggshells wondering if something I say will be well received by a potential ’play mate’. If they don’t like it then they’re not on my wavelength, no biggy really.
The whole ‘babe’ thing screams of shear desperation, in my honest and humble opinion.
Do you not ask?
I’m adult enough to gage if what I say in a PM will be well received or not. I can’t remember ever being pulled up in a PM about it. Like I said, I would never use the word ‘babe’. "
Then I don’t understand?
If you aren’t using pet names, what’s the issue?
I also don’t understand why not liking pet names screams desperation. |
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over a year ago
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"I‘m not treading on eggshells wondering if something I say will be well received by a potential ’play mate’. If they don’t like it then they’re not on my wavelength, no biggy really.
The whole ‘babe’ thing screams of shear desperation, in my honest and humble opinion.
Do you not ask?
I’m adult enough to gage if what I say in a PM will be well received or not. I can’t remember ever being pulled up in a PM about it. Like I said, I would never use the word ‘babe’.
Then I don’t understand?
If you aren’t using pet names, what’s the issue?
I also don’t understand why not liking pet names screams desperation. "
I read it the opposite, that the person who uses pet names with a stranger is a bit desperate |
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over a year ago
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"I‘m not treading on eggshells wondering if something I say will be well received by a potential ’play mate’. If they don’t like it then they’re not on my wavelength, no biggy really.
The whole ‘babe’ thing screams of shear desperation, in my honest and humble opinion.
Do you not ask?
I’m adult enough to gage if what I say in a PM will be well received or not. I can’t remember ever being pulled up in a PM about it. Like I said, I would never use the word ‘babe’.
Then I don’t understand?
If you aren’t using pet names, what’s the issue?
I also don’t understand why not liking pet names screams desperation.
I read it the opposite, that the person who uses pet names with a stranger is a bit desperate "
Ahh, yes, that makes more sense. |
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"I‘m not treading on eggshells wondering if something I say will be well received by a potential ’play mate’. If they don’t like it then they’re not on my wavelength, no biggy really.
The whole ‘babe’ thing screams of shear desperation, in my honest and humble opinion.
Do you not ask?
I’m adult enough to gage if what I say in a PM will be well received or not. I can’t remember ever being pulled up in a PM about it. Like I said, I would never use the word ‘babe’.
Then I don’t understand?
If you aren’t using pet names, what’s the issue?
I also don’t understand why not liking pet names screams desperation.
I read it the opposite, that the person who uses pet names with a stranger is a bit desperate "
Yeah me too |
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"I‘m not treading on eggshells wondering if something I say will be well received by a potential ’play mate’. If they don’t like it then they’re not on my wavelength, no biggy really.
The whole ‘babe’ thing screams of shear desperation, in my honest and humble opinion.
Do you not ask?
I’m adult enough to gage if what I say in a PM will be well received or not. I can’t remember ever being pulled up in a PM about it. Like I said, I would never use the word ‘babe’.
Then I don’t understand?
If you aren’t using pet names, what’s the issue?
I also don’t understand why not liking pet names screams desperation. "
The OP asked about the word ‘baby’ which she said she finds cringy. I agree and in my opinion screams of desperation. It’s not difficult to understand |
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"I‘m not treading on eggshells wondering if something I say will be well received by a potential ’play mate’. If they don’t like it then they’re not on my wavelength, no biggy really.
The whole ‘babe’ thing screams of shear desperation, in my honest and humble opinion.
Do you not ask?
I’m adult enough to gage if what I say in a PM will be well received or not. I can’t remember ever being pulled up in a PM about it. Like I said, I would never use the word ‘babe’.
Then I don’t understand?
If you aren’t using pet names, what’s the issue?
I also don’t understand why not liking pet names screams desperation.
The OP asked about the word ‘baby’ which she said she finds cringy. I agree and in my opinion screams of desperation. It’s not difficult to understand "
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"I‘m not treading on eggshells wondering if something I say will be well received by a potential ’play mate’. If they don’t like it then they’re not on my wavelength, no biggy really.
The whole ‘babe’ thing screams of shear desperation, in my honest and humble opinion. "
on whose part and why desperation some people naturally say babe as part of their everyday communication with others, women say it to guys also, the main problem here is that women receive so many messages that it's lost its meaning, women are sick of it and many compliments, I hasten to add not all women  |
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over a year ago
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"I‘m not treading on eggshells wondering if something I say will be well received by a potential ’play mate’. If they don’t like it then they’re not on my wavelength, no biggy really.
The whole ‘babe’ thing screams of shear desperation, in my honest and humble opinion.
Do you not ask?
I’m adult enough to gage if what I say in a PM will be well received or not. I can’t remember ever being pulled up in a PM about it. Like I said, I would never use the word ‘babe’.
Then I don’t understand?
If you aren’t using pet names, what’s the issue?
I also don’t understand why not liking pet names screams desperation.
The OP asked about the word ‘baby’ which she said she finds cringy. I agree and in my opinion screams of desperation. It’s not difficult to understand "
My covid brain is not working, it’s ok to not understand something and to ask. |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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Hate pet names and nicknames. Both suggest that the person using them thinks of you as an object rather than a person.
Hun is my least favourite. I would rather be called Attila lol.
Strange concept, use a person’s name or username. These usually don’t offend. |
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"I‘m not treading on eggshells wondering if something I say will be well received by a potential ’play mate’. If they don’t like it then they’re not on my wavelength, no biggy really.
The whole ‘babe’ thing screams of shear desperation, in my honest and humble opinion. on whose part and why desperation some people naturally say babe as part of their everyday communication with others, women say it to guys also, the main problem here is that women receive so many messages that it's lost its meaning, women are sick of it and many compliments, I hasten to add not all women "
I think the OP is discussing random guy’s messaging her and calling her babe in availed attempt to get into her knickers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been getting this a lot in my recent messages and it really boils my piss for some reason.
Baby is a personal thing to me and being called it by a complete stranger is just a no go
Chrissy x |
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"Hate pet names and nicknames. Both suggest that the person using them thinks of you as an object rather than a person.
Hun is my least favourite. I would rather be called Attila lol.
Strange concept, use a person’s name or username. These usually don’t offend."
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"Do you like being called "baby" by some random?
I find it so cringy especially when they are younger than me x
Don’t worry about it Doll Face "
Don't mind Doll face as long as they are referring my likeness to Chucky |
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
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"Do you like being called "baby" by some random?
I find it so cringy especially when they are younger than me x
Don’t worry about it Doll Face
Don't mind Doll face as long as they are referring my likeness to Chucky "
Nobody puts baby in the corner |
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over a year ago
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"Do you like being called "baby" by some random?
I find it so cringy especially when they are younger than me x
Don’t worry about it Doll Face
Don't mind Doll face as long as they are referring my likeness to Chucky "
If I got you as that doll for Xmas, I’d be excited to take you to my bed  |
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"I have been getting this a lot in my recent messages and it really boils my piss for some reason.
Baby is a personal thing to me and being called it by a complete stranger is just a no go
Chrissy x"
Agree xx |
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"I have been getting this a lot in my recent messages and it really boils my piss for some reason.
Baby is a personal thing to me and being called it by a complete stranger is just a no go
Chrissy x
Agree xx"
My pet name is Minnie, she's a lovely 8 year old tortoiseshell. That's the only pet name I'll use. |
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I mean I wouldn’t call her those names so a complete random is an instant delete.
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