My manpup was messed around something cruel by the dad for the first few years of her life and yes, I regularly had "not my weekend" and "when she's with me she's nothing to do with you, mind your own business". She's 10 on Saturday and he now will see her "whenever she wants to" - I've no idea why there's been a marked turnaround (although she is still told to not tell me what she's been up to with them), but, for her, I'm pleased that there has been. |
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over a year ago
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Our boys are 6 months and 2 yrs old and obviously myself and K are together.
If in the future we did split up I really hope our boys could stay with or see which ever parent they needed or wanted at that point in time.
As someone who works with teens from chaotic backgrounds far to many have been weaponised by their parents and it causes a lot of damage to the child involved. (not saying that's the case here)
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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No simple answer to this.
Routine works for some. Flexibility for others.
Situationally dependant and very much individual circumstances. And only having one side of a story doesn't facilitate meaningful or helpful responses.
On a positive note at least the child in question seems to have access to both parents. Many don't.
And some fathers have never met their offspring at all or shown the slightest interest in doing so.
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My kids Mum has them every other weekend and she also has them some of the school holidays too. School holidays are mutual negotiation and we on the rare occasion we weekend swap at eithers request. Generally we stick to the plan and the kids know this. I think with regards to an extra weekend that depends on the circumstances. Sometimes it's a fair request, sometimes it's not practical, but sometimes it can be a part of dick move by the ex. I must admit if one of my children were to want to stay an extra weekend I would not just say ok as my ex can try pull some dodgy stuff. If however I'm happy it's not some dick move on part of my ex, it's practical, I don't have plans for them and will benefit my kids, then yes. But sometimes it's not possible because I do have plans or I can see she's up to something. I try my best to facilitate time with their mum (she live a good distance away from us) but my main aim is what's best for them and our family.
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