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Weekly Mental Health Check-in 31.10
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Morning all. It was nice to see more mental health discussion in The Lounge last night, and I’m glad some of you have felt the benefit of what we’ve all built here in this thread enough to mention it  .
I’ve had a ridiculous week despite it being half-term (emergency vet and follow up trips - just a cut that needed stitching, he’s fine now!). Just seemed non-stop with lots of bitty things to get done and like I was on a hamster wheel, but I kept going and held up ok to the pressure. I started my mindfulness class and have been practicing daily - discovered that morning is the best time for me else I drift to sleep  ). Have done lots of thinking about myself and sense of worth. Stepped out of my comfort zone on Thursday evening by wearing mustard yellow tights and a chunky necklace with my dress for a night out. Nearly gave in and changed both but didn’t and was proud of myself for it. Also felt much more grounded and like I had better sessions with my placement clients after last week’s crisis of confidence!
Feeling a bit frustrated because there’s so much stuff I want to read and online courses I want to do atm but just don’t have enough time in the day, but I’m grateful to have my mojo back for it all.
So as we prepare to enter November tomorrow, how are you feeling? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Glad to hear things are going better for you OP
Mixed week here again with confirmation of heart condition but hopefully not too serious
Supposed to be at a kink event yesterday but could not make it
Trying to continue with small lifestyle changes but at times lack the motivation and not sure if they will make me feel better but got to try |
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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago
Gateway to the Beacons |
After a shitty start to last week, I’ve had a good talk with myself and realised I deserve to be treated better and to move on.
On a good note I weighed this morning and two weeks after starting the diet I am 10lb 9 down, the weight was another aspect that was getting me down and causing other issues.
Being a personal development coach and nutritionist
I know the tools to use I just wasn’t listen to my own advice.
I have a feeling it’s going to be a good week. |
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over a year ago
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Glad things are going better OP
I had a very rough last couple of weeks, although I’m still struggling, this week is looking a bit brighter.
Thanks for being here to support others or just lend a crying shoulder x |
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"Glad to hear things are going better for you OP
Mixed week here again with confirmation of heart condition but hopefully not too serious
Supposed to be at a kink event yesterday but could not make it
Trying to continue with small lifestyle changes but at times lack the motivation and not sure if they will make me feel better but got to try "
I’m sorry to hear about your diagnosis, but glad you finally have one and that it’s not too serious. Glad to hear some positive aspects going on for you x |
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"After a shitty start to last week, I’ve had a good talk with myself and realised I deserve to be treated better and to move on.
On a good note I weighed this morning and two weeks after starting the diet I am 10lb 9 down, the weight was another aspect that was getting me down and causing other issues.
Being a personal development coach and nutritionist
I know the tools to use I just wasn’t listen to my own advice.
I have a feeling it’s going to be a good week."
Glad you’re feeling more positive and well done on the weight loss, all good news x |
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"Glad things are going better OP
I had a very rough last couple of weeks, although I’m still struggling, this week is looking a bit brighter.
Thanks for being here to support others or just lend a crying shoulder x"
Aww, thank you
Sorry to hear things have been tough but I’m glad you’re feeling a little better about the coming week x |
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over a year ago
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Feel the need to join in this week. This week have been a complete shitter.
My fibromyalgia is flaring so badly I can barely function.
My kid is being a little shit.
Split (properly this time) from the guy I was "seeing"
Finally weighed myself and as I expected it was horrific. So feeling fat and ugly.
Apart from all that, I'm hunky dory  |
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"… feeling that there's too much to do and probably not enough time."
You have my sympathy there fella. That’s the one and only stress factor in my life too, but it’s a constant one.
Really feeling it this week. I’d tell myself it’ll pass, but that wouldn’t be honest. I’m a busy guy, and I always will be. |
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"Feel the need to join in this week. This week have been a complete shitter.
My fibromyalgia is flaring so badly I can barely function.
My kid is being a little shit.
Split (properly this time) from the guy I was "seeing"
Finally weighed myself and as I expected it was horrific. So feeling fat and ugly.
Apart from all that, I'm hunky dory "
Oh wow, that’s a lot you’re dealing with, no wonder you’re struggling. Try and be gentle with yourself (self-compassion. org is a good place to start if it feels a bit overwhelming or impossible right now). Sending lots of love x |
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"Optimistic, a little scared and feeling that there's too much to do and probably not enough time - gearing up to going back to being self employed  "
I think that’s all pretty normal when big changes are ahead - optimistic sounds positive though. Wishing you lots of luck x |
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"… feeling that there's too much to do and probably not enough time.
You have my sympathy there fella. That’s the one and only stress factor in my life too, but it’s a constant one.
Really feeling it this week. I’d tell myself it’ll pass, but that wouldn’t be honest. I’m a busy guy, and I always will be."
Sorry to hear it’s a tough week for you. You recognise what you struggle with though - I think it’s always helpful if we can define what our stressors are x |
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"Feeling a bit frustrated because there’s so much stuff I want to read and online courses I want to do atm but just don’t have enough time in the day, but I’m grateful to have my mojo back for it all."
Sounds like you know exactly what I mean, too. And I reckon that last bit is the positive to focus on. You’ve got your mojo. You’ve a lot on, but you *want* to be doing things. You’re optimistic. And that’s priceless. |
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"I think it’s always helpful if we can define what our stressors are x
Definitely. For me it’s always work. But I chose a high-stress career and I wouldn’t have it any other way."
That’s interesting - I feel that a lot of the time when we struggle it’s down to a feeling of powerlessness - although you’re finding it challenging, I wonder if ultimately there’s still a sense of being in control for you, which helps? |
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"Feeling a bit frustrated because there’s so much stuff I want to read and online courses I want to do atm but just don’t have enough time in the day, but I’m grateful to have my mojo back for it all.
Sounds like you know exactly what I mean, too. And I reckon that last bit is the positive to focus on. You’ve got your mojo. You’ve a lot on, but you *want* to be doing things. You’re optimistic. And that’s priceless."
Absolutely, and I’m so grateful to have that back. In retrospect I think I spent last winter quite depressed and not feeling like myself - similar feeling to last week when I had my crisis of confidence! It’s a good feeling to have recaptured x |
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By *ittycenMan
over a year ago
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I was in a suicidal spiral of depression 8 weeks ago, and still contemplate it weekly if not more often.
Unfortunately I still have another couple of months of this ahead of me with no certainty that the light at the end of the tunnel isn't a train coming to hit me. |
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"I was in a suicidal spiral of depression 8 weeks ago, and still contemplate it weekly if not more often.
Unfortunately I still have another couple of months of this ahead of me with no certainty that the light at the end of the tunnel isn't a train coming to hit me."
It sounds as though you’ve made a huge effort to drag yourself most of the way out of that dark hole, but still haven’t quite made it over the top yet, which must feel exhausting. Uncertainty can be difficult to live with too, that feeling of being in limbo. I’m hoping you have your own support systems in place for when things feel really tough.
Sending lots of love X |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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My issues are I over think everything - it could be something as simple I have not asked someone to play when chatting, then I am like wel do they think I don’t like them because I have not asked lol |
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over a year ago
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Afternoon all still on zoplicone and another tablet to help me sleep went three days to my local institution last week
Informed yesterday I have ptsd from work related issues four years ago trying to work through the diagnosis in my head told work give them doctors report they still don’t believe they are responsible for there actions
Will leave this current job soon as I can’t possibly work there anymore job is just untenable plus doctors said I might not even get better as said just try and work through it love to all hope all is well or better soon x  |
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By *ittycenMan
over a year ago
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"I was in a suicidal spiral of depression 8 weeks ago, and still contemplate it weekly if not more often.
Unfortunately I still have another couple of months of this ahead of me with no certainty that the light at the end of the tunnel isn't a train coming to hit me.
It sounds as though you’ve made a huge effort to drag yourself most of the way out of that dark hole, but still haven’t quite made it over the top yet, which must feel exhausting. Uncertainty can be difficult to live with too, that feeling of being in limbo. I’m hoping you have your own support systems in place for when things feel really tough.
Sending lots of love X"
Thank you. The hardest thing for me is that I didn't see the trigger for this coming at all - on balance, I think I am going to be ok but if I am wrong and the end result is as bad as it could be, I dont see how I will have another choice.
Apologies for being cryptic but it's not really practical to go into detail. This is the first proper anonymous forum where I can talk freely. |
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"My issues are I over think everything - it could be something as simple I have not asked someone to play when chatting, then I am like wel do they think I don’t like them because I have not asked lol "
Ah, that sounds frustrating! x |
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"Afternoon all still on zoplicone and another tablet to help me sleep went three days to my local institution last week
Informed yesterday I have ptsd from work related issues four years ago trying to work through the diagnosis in my head told work give them doctors report they still don’t believe they are responsible for there actions
Will leave this current job soon as I can’t possibly work there anymore job is just untenable plus doctors said I might not even get better as said just try and work through it love to all hope all is well or better soon x "
That all sounds massive - and how unfair of working trying to invalidate your trauma by not acknowledging their part in it all. I’m glad you’ve found a supportive GP though, I hope they talked about referring you for some therapy after saying all of that to you x |
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Wow I didn't know there was a thread for this kinda stuff. Having suffered from depression and anxiety for years it's reassuring there are others out there that are understanding of the mental health issues we all go through. Sending everyone here positive energy and love. Chris x |
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"I was in a suicidal spiral of depression 8 weeks ago, and still contemplate it weekly if not more often.
Unfortunately I still have another couple of months of this ahead of me with no certainty that the light at the end of the tunnel isn't a train coming to hit me.
It sounds as though you’ve made a huge effort to drag yourself most of the way out of that dark hole, but still haven’t quite made it over the top yet, which must feel exhausting. Uncertainty can be difficult to live with too, that feeling of being in limbo. I’m hoping you have your own support systems in place for when things feel really tough.
Sending lots of love X
Thank you. The hardest thing for me is that I didn't see the trigger for this coming at all - on balance, I think I am going to be ok but if I am wrong and the end result is as bad as it could be, I dont see how I will have another choice.
Apologies for being cryptic but it's not really practical to go into detail. This is the first proper anonymous forum where I can talk freely."
Absolutely no need to apologise, you do what you need to to keep yourself safe. I’m glad you feel able to open up here x |
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"Wow I didn't know there was a thread for this kinda stuff. Having suffered from depression and anxiety for years it's reassuring there are others out there that are understanding of the mental health issues we all go through. Sending everyone here positive energy and love. Chris x"
Hi Chris, and welcome! I start a new thread every Monday but encourage anyone to revisit it throughout the week and post if they want to (can be positive stuff too!)
I’m sorry you’ve had your own struggles over the years and thank you for the love and positivity! x |
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No thank you for creating this forum it's positive and a great thing for people to know they aren't alone in this. I recently had to leave my job due to stress and are now unemployed but are taking one day at a time and trying not to think too far ahead as that just makes me anxious x |
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Crap, coursework due in two weeks, nowhere near done, and practical exams a couple of weeks after and definitely feeling the pressure of not being ready for them, that and home stuff kicking me in the arse I'm taking a mental battering right now
TG x |
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"Been really stressed out lately lots going on been adding pressure at work too so im in a cycle of being pissed off at everything"
That doesn’t sound great - hope something starts to ease a little for you soon x |
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"No thank you for creating this forum it's positive and a great thing for people to know they aren't alone in this. I recently had to leave my job due to stress and are now unemployed but are taking one day at a time and trying not to think too far ahead as that just makes me anxious x"
Sounds like a good plan! |
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"Crap, coursework due in two weeks, nowhere near done, and practical exams a couple of weeks after and definitely feeling the pressure of not being ready for them, that and home stuff kicking me in the arse I'm taking a mental battering right now
TG x"
Oh bless you, that all sounds like a massive pile up of difficult stuff. Be kind to yourself xx |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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"My issues are I over think everything - it could be something as simple I have not asked someone to play when chatting, then I am like wel do they think I don’t like them because I have not asked lol
Ah, that sounds frustrating! x"
Yeah it’s rubbish but I am used to it now |
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"I've had a terrible 12 months, and been at the end of my tether. Last week I feel to bits and I'm struggling at the moment to get the energy to fight back. "
I’m sorry to hear that, I hope you’re ok xx |
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Still sitting in some kind of limbo. Six weeks since C passed away. Dad in his last days but his body hanging on, don't know if it'll be tomorrow or the day after or next week. Friends helping me hold it together, I'm so very grateful for the kind words I've had both from people in this group and others I've found through the forums.
Dark days, but we can all help each other. Polly xxx |
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"Still sitting in some kind of limbo. Six weeks since C passed away. Dad in his last days but his body hanging on, don't know if it'll be tomorrow or the day after or next week. Friends helping me hold it together, I'm so very grateful for the kind words I've had both from people in this group and others I've found through the forums.
Dark days, but we can all help each other. Polly xxx"
Sending you much love, Polly |
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Just felt I wanted to do a little update myself. My mum messaged yesterday to say she’s had a call to go and see the consultant on Monday, this is following biopsies and scans resulting from symptoms suggestive of colorectal cancer. Whilst I’m scared of what the results will be, I did a lot of personal development work around my health anxiety and death anxiety last year so did feel able to cope to the extent that I felt able to offer to accompany her to the appointment. What does concern me still is getting emotional in the appointment. Although I realise it’s understandable in the circumstances, she’s always thought I’m over sensitive and I don’t want to feel I’m embarrassing her or she has to look after me. I’m more comfortable expressing my emotions and being who I am these days, but these old introjected values still sit with me. |
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"Still sitting in some kind of limbo. Six weeks since C passed away. Dad in his last days but his body hanging on, don't know if it'll be tomorrow or the day after or next week. Friends helping me hold it together, I'm so very grateful for the kind words I've had both from people in this group and others I've found through the forums.
Dark days, but we can all help each other. Polly xxx"
Got the call half an hour ago. Dad's gone. |
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"Still sitting in some kind of limbo. Six weeks since C passed away. Dad in his last days but his body hanging on, don't know if it'll be tomorrow or the day after or next week. Friends helping me hold it together, I'm so very grateful for the kind words I've had both from people in this group and others I've found through the forums.
Dark days, but we can all help each other. Polly xxx
Got the call half an hour ago. Dad's gone. "
So sorry for your loss |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This thread is amazing! I am always here if people want to chat. I don’t mind messaging or chatting over the phone. Anyone can get in touch and I will always reply!
I work in a very demanding stressful public facing job. I know how important it is to be there for one and another! X |
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"Still sitting in some kind of limbo. Six weeks since C passed away. Dad in his last days but his body hanging on, don't know if it'll be tomorrow or the day after or next week. Friends helping me hold it together, I'm so very grateful for the kind words I've had both from people in this group and others I've found through the forums.
Dark days, but we can all help each other. Polly xxx
Got the call half an hour ago. Dad's gone. "
So sorry for your loss x |
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"This thread is amazing! I am always here if people want to chat. I don’t mind messaging or chatting over the phone. Anyone can get in touch and I will always reply!
I work in a very demanding stressful public facing job. I know how important it is to be there for one and another! X"
That’s really kind, thank you. Don’t forget you can reach out here too if it gets too much x |
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over a year ago
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I feel like I've been in a holding pattern for months but this week I've been losing altitude. Maybe it's the clocks going back has thrown me and I'm more susceptible to SAD than I thought. |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
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"I feel like I've been in a holding pattern for months but this week I've been losing altitude. Maybe it's the clocks going back has thrown me and I'm more susceptible to SAD than I thought. "
Yes I've dipped too, I think SAD is very real. I hate the short days, no fun at all |
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By *umbiyaMan
over a year ago
Halifax |
I was obsessing over my ex from 3 years ago again yesterday. I kept thinking about her current partner and all the sexual things he gets to do with her. Him enjoying being inside her and close whilst she enjoys every moment. And I’m never a thought on her mind because of what an ugly retarded freak I am.
Also I found out autism therapy costs £60 a session and there’s a one year waiting list. Basically I’m fucked. Fuck this world and fuck everyone else. |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
"I was obsessing over my ex from 3 years ago again yesterday. I kept thinking about her current partner and all the sexual things he gets to do with her. Him enjoying being inside her and close whilst she enjoys every moment. And I’m never a thought on her mind because of what an ugly retarded freak I am.
Also I found out autism therapy costs £60 a session and there’s a one year waiting list. Basically I’m fucked. Fuck this world and fuck everyone else. "
Hey have yiu considered calling the crisis team? Your posts over the last few days have been incredibly worrying, and personally I think you need to be talking to someone professional. While these threads are great for support and empathy and venting sometimes we need to engage with professionals too.
There's also a few autism threads on here where we can't give you therapy but there is a supportive community of neurodivergents sharing our experiences and supporting each other |
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Im feeling so much better the last couple of weeks, im thinking that it might be because im finally getting some support. Saw the physciatrist last week, increased my antidepressant, and added promethazine for my anxiety. Hopefully will be able to pick that up today. Has anyone had any experience with this drug? Would love to hear.
Love and hugs to all x  |
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"I feel like I've been in a holding pattern for months but this week I've been losing altitude. Maybe it's the clocks going back has thrown me and I'm more susceptible to SAD than I thought. "
I don’t think people realise the effects that SAD can have. Hope you’re ok and have ways to cope x |
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"I feel like I've been in a holding pattern for months but this week I've been losing altitude. Maybe it's the clocks going back has thrown me and I'm more susceptible to SAD than I thought.
Yes I've dipped too, I think SAD is very real. I hate the short days, no fun at all"
Sorry to hear that x |
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"I was obsessing over my ex from 3 years ago again yesterday. I kept thinking about her current partner and all the sexual things he gets to do with her. Him enjoying being inside her and close whilst she enjoys every moment. And I’m never a thought on her mind because of what an ugly retarded freak I am.
Also I found out autism therapy costs £60 a session and there’s a one year waiting list. Basically I’m fucked. Fuck this world and fuck everyone else.
Hey have yiu considered calling the crisis team? Your posts over the last few days have been incredibly worrying, and personally I think you need to be talking to someone professional. While these threads are great for support and empathy and venting sometimes we need to engage with professionals too.
There's also a few autism threads on here where we can't give you therapy but there is a supportive community of neurodivergents sharing our experiences and supporting each other "
I haven’t sent the other posts, but there’s enough in your post here Cumbiya to see where your head is at. This is some good advice you’ve been given above. Keep yourself safe x |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
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"I feel like I've been in a holding pattern for months but this week I've been losing altitude. Maybe it's the clocks going back has thrown me and I'm more susceptible to SAD than I thought.
Yes I've dipped too, I think SAD is very real. I hate the short days, no fun at all
Sorry to hear that x"
For me personally a lot of my wellbeing is linked to exercising and the knowledge that its months before i can run on the local trails or enjoy an evening bike ride is tough. Early November is always the worst, I've got lots to look forward to in the winter so that will kink in soon, but the early darkness does me in initially |
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"Im feeling so much better the last couple of weeks, im thinking that it might be because im finally getting some support. Saw the physciatrist last week, increased my antidepressant, and added promethazine for my anxiety. Hopefully will be able to pick that up today. Has anyone had any experience with this drug? Would love to hear.
Love and hugs to all x "
Loving this . What a relief for you to finally have things in place!
Afraid I don’t have any experience but maybe there will be somebody along who does (or pop
In and mention it again next week, we seem to get different people joining us each week) x |
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I had a wonky day yesterday yesterday, today I feel a bit numb. Tomorrow will be better I'm sure.
Yesterday was a crap day that just got more amplified as it went on. I have something crappy going on in the background that I can do absolutely nothing about about. It gets me down at times, yesterday was one of those times.
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"I have recently just finished my therapy and still on depression meds but I’m still feeling messed up "
Sorry to hear that. Can I ask, was your therapy a limited number of sessions or did you make the decision to stop? I know in training they advise us not to expect to take every client all the way to where they want to be, often it’s a longer journey and we just take them part of the way x |
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"I feel like I've been in a holding pattern for months but this week I've been losing altitude. Maybe it's the clocks going back has thrown me and I'm more susceptible to SAD than I thought.
Yes I've dipped too, I think SAD is very real. I hate the short days, no fun at all
Sorry to hear that x
For me personally a lot of my wellbeing is linked to exercising and the knowledge that its months before i can run on the local trails or enjoy an evening bike ride is tough. Early November is always the worst, I've got lots to look forward to in the winter so that will kink in soon, but the early darkness does me in initially "
It sounds like for you it’s just a case of keep fighting the thoughts while you wait for the next phase. (Also - Freudian slip there with ‘kink in’?  |
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"I had a wonky day yesterday yesterday, today I feel a bit numb. Tomorrow will be better I'm sure.
Yesterday was a crap day that just got more amplified as it went on. I have something crappy going on in the background that I can do absolutely nothing about about. It gets me down at times, yesterday was one of those times.
T"
That sounds tricky, but it sounds as though you have a good understanding of your own process. Fingers crossed for a better one tomorrow xx |
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"I had a wonky day yesterday yesterday, today I feel a bit numb. Tomorrow will be better I'm sure.
Yesterday was a crap day that just got more amplified as it went on. I have something crappy going on in the background that I can do absolutely nothing about about. It gets me down at times, yesterday was one of those times.
T
That sounds tricky, but it sounds as though you have a good understanding of your own process. Fingers crossed for a better one tomorrow xx"
Isn't it always the tricky stuff and the stuff you can't control that bugs the most?When really you shouldn't waste energy on it as it's beyond your control.
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
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"I feel like I've been in a holding pattern for months but this week I've been losing altitude. Maybe it's the clocks going back has thrown me and I'm more susceptible to SAD than I thought.
Yes I've dipped too, I think SAD is very real. I hate the short days, no fun at all
Sorry to hear that x
For me personally a lot of my wellbeing is linked to exercising and the knowledge that its months before i can run on the local trails or enjoy an evening bike ride is tough. Early November is always the worst, I've got lots to look forward to in the winter so that will kink in soon, but the early darkness does me in initially
It sounds like for you it’s just a case of keep fighting the thoughts while you wait for the next phase. (Also - Freudian slip there with ‘kink in’? "
Ha yes!
Yes, I mean I know early November is tough and mitigate it but its still draining.
I've changed job and work from home a lot more so I'm interested to see if not commuting in the dark and getting out in daylight on a lunchtime will make a positive impact, I'm hoping so! |
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"I had a wonky day yesterday yesterday, today I feel a bit numb. Tomorrow will be better I'm sure.
Yesterday was a crap day that just got more amplified as it went on. I have something crappy going on in the background that I can do absolutely nothing about about. It gets me down at times, yesterday was one of those times.
T
That sounds tricky, but it sounds as though you have a good understanding of your own process. Fingers crossed for a better one tomorrow xx
Isn't it always the tricky stuff and the stuff you can't control that bugs the most?When really you shouldn't waste energy on it as it's beyond your control.
T"
Completely! Powerlessness affects us hugely though I think x |
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"I feel like I've been in a holding pattern for months but this week I've been losing altitude. Maybe it's the clocks going back has thrown me and I'm more susceptible to SAD than I thought.
Yes I've dipped too, I think SAD is very real. I hate the short days, no fun at all
Sorry to hear that x
For me personally a lot of my wellbeing is linked to exercising and the knowledge that its months before i can run on the local trails or enjoy an evening bike ride is tough. Early November is always the worst, I've got lots to look forward to in the winter so that will kink in soon, but the early darkness does me in initially
It sounds like for you it’s just a case of keep fighting the thoughts while you wait for the next phase. (Also - Freudian slip there with ‘kink in’?
Ha yes!
Yes, I mean I know early November is tough and mitigate it but its still draining.
I've changed job and work from home a lot more so I'm interested to see if not commuting in the dark and getting out in daylight on a lunchtime will make a positive impact, I'm hoping so!"
Ah, well fingers crossed those changes can make all the difference! I’ve been forcing myself out for an hour a day with the dog and feeling so much better for it x |
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"I have recently just finished my therapy and still on depression meds but I’m still feeling messed up
Sorry to hear that. Can I ask, was your therapy a limited number of sessions or did you make the decision to stop? I know in training they advise us not to expect to take every client all the way to where they want to be, often it’s a longer journey and we just take them part of the way x"
I had 12 weeks of therapy with 2 different people I get allocated 6 sessions and then take things from there after the therapy comes to an end I have post therapy packages available to me where they’re based online courses for me to use |
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"I have recently just finished my therapy and still on depression meds but I’m still feeling messed up
Sorry to hear that. Can I ask, was your therapy a limited number of sessions or did you make the decision to stop? I know in training they advise us not to expect to take every client all the way to where they want to be, often it’s a longer journey and we just take them part of the way x
I had 12 weeks of therapy with 2 different people I get allocated 6 sessions and then take things from there after the therapy comes to an end I have post therapy packages available to me where they’re based online courses for me to use "
Ah ok. I’d encourage you to refer back in if you’re still struggling after using the resources and you’re able to. Also not every therapy suits everybody, there are lots of different types out there and it might be that you need something different to move things on a bit more x |
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"Not good today. The sword hanging over my neck for the last 2 months is still there with no signs of going, and the single light in my tunnel has just turned off, and I am all alone in the dark."
I’m sorry today is a bad day and that you feel so alone. Just pm’d to make sure you’re ok x |
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