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Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean? "
Dating is the preamble before an actual relationship.
The getting to know each other.
Fucking is not dating. |
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Thats how I see dating too, occasional or regualar socialising. A relationship is something else, more emotional commitment and involvement in each other's lives. |
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean?
Dating is the preamble before an actual relationship.
The getting to know each other.
Fucking is not dating."
Maybe dating isn’t the word I mean. Struggling to think of how to describe it really |
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean? "
Yes I totally understand. I see it as two people escaping to their own private world where all that matters for a few hours is the two individuals. That could be brunch and shopping or something more intimate. |
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"Thats how I see dating too, occasional or regualar socialising. A relationship is something else, more emotional commitment and involvement in each other's lives."
The best analogy is probably like a little bubble. You go out and do all that stuff then go back to your normal life until next time. Like you’re not meeting my kids, you’re not coming to my house, you’re not coming for Sunday dinner at my parents etc. Does that make sense? |
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Dating seems to have more than one meaning.
Some 'date' different people and are not committed.
Some say ' I'm going on a date' even when it's the first time ( which I would use )
If I say I am dating ...... in my mind there'd be a commitment of somekind.
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean? "
Absolutely, I get it…I mean, I understand what you mean, not that I get to date people!??
“Dating” is a relationship of sorts, there’s some level of emotional investment or intimacy going on. It’s just a relationship where you’re yet to have established some sort of commitment, or defined parameters. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean? "
yes I want a partner who loves sex and is experimental but that is loyal to me and loves me, I thought I had it for a while then she went and spoilt it by saying I used her for sex I didn't I'm a Giver not a taker, not sure where she got that notion from but she's an ex now.  |
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"Dating seems to have more than one meaning.
Some 'date' different people and are not committed.
Some say ' I'm going on a date' even when it's the first time ( which I would use )
If I say I am dating ...... in my mind there'd be a commitment of somekind.
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Yes it does granny! |
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By *P994Man
over a year ago
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Do you mean like doing normal things like going out as friends would and not just having sex with someone and leaving OP? To mean thats what a proper FWB is. You go and do normal things together like you would with a friend but also have sex but under the knowledge you’re not gonna get married or be in a monogamous relationship. |
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"Do you mean like doing normal things like going out as friends would and not just having sex with someone and leaving OP? To mean thats what a proper FWB is. You go and do normal things together like you would with a friend but also have sex but under the knowledge you’re not gonna get married or be in a monogamous relationship. "
Yes exactly that. That’s how I see a FWB thing |
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I get what you mean. However I don't understand why people are reluctant to have relationships that involve interaction such as going out for coffee, seeing a film, going for a walk. I also don't really understand why people don't want to be in a boyfriend/girlfriend situation even if it's just for a week or two.
I know I'm probably waaay behind the times but we used to either have one night stands or go out with people. Sometimes people would be fwb but it was quite rare and often one person wanted more. Fewer labels made it easier I think and less stressful.
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean?
Dating is the preamble before an actual relationship.
The getting to know each other.
Fucking is not dating.
Maybe dating isn’t the word I mean. Struggling to think of how to describe it really "
Language is a funny one, subjective to our understanding and intentions. Naturally miscommunication will arise which is where 99% of the issues arise.
So, we won't say dating. Are you describing someone that you are seeing intimately, that you also enjoy spending time with socially?
It might not be anything with a view to a relationship, but it's more than just a physical fix every once in a while.
To me, that's just normal behaviour. Really dislike the disconnected fuck and go model.
But, you know, subjective assessment, perspective and interpretation. |
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"Thats how I see dating too, occasional or regualar socialising. A relationship is something else, more emotional commitment and involvement in each other's lives.
The best analogy is probably like a little bubble. You go out and do all that stuff then go back to your normal life until next time. Like you’re not meeting my kids, you’re not coming to my house, you’re not coming for Sunday dinner at my parents etc. Does that make sense?"
Yes, and certainly in a Fab context. I enjoy that side of meeting people but clearly from the previous thread some prefer a strict line between sex and socialising. Or maybe they saw dating as a relationship, which I didnt. |
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"I get what you mean. However I don't understand why people are reluctant to have relationships that involve interaction such as going out for coffee, seeing a film, going for a walk. I also don't really understand why people don't want to be in a boyfriend/girlfriend situation even if it's just for a week or two.
I know I'm probably waaay behind the times but we used to either have one night stands or go out with people. Sometimes people would be fwb but it was quite rare and often one person wanted more. Fewer labels made it easier I think and less stressful.
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Yes you explained it well there. |
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That just sounds like hanging out with a friend to me, Nora (or a FWB if sex is sometimes involved). I'd only consider it dating if both people were looking for a deeper emotional connection, a la a relationship.
But you can call things whatever you like, it's your life 
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean?
Dating is the preamble before an actual relationship.
The getting to know each other.
Fucking is not dating.
Maybe dating isn’t the word I mean. Struggling to think of how to describe it really
Language is a funny one, subjective to our understanding and intentions. Naturally miscommunication will arise which is where 99% of the issues arise.
So, we won't say dating. Are you describing someone that you are seeing intimately, that you also enjoy spending time with socially?
It might not be anything with a view to a relationship, but it's more than just a physical fix every once in a while.
To me, that's just normal behaviour. Really dislike the disconnected fuck and go model.
But, you know, subjective assessment, perspective and interpretation. "
Yeah pretty much. Doesn’t have to be an exclusive thing but it can be of course. That’s up to the people involved. |
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean?
Dating is the preamble before an actual relationship.
The getting to know each other.
Fucking is not dating."
I would agree with this ^ so many people think fab is a dating site and whilst some have found their forever partner, for the main dating is NOT a priority here |
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By *P994Man
over a year ago
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"Do you mean like doing normal things like going out as friends would and not just having sex with someone and leaving OP? To mean thats what a proper FWB is. You go and do normal things together like you would with a friend but also have sex but under the knowledge you’re not gonna get married or be in a monogamous relationship.
Yes exactly that. That’s how I see a FWB thing "
That’s also for me what the definition of FWB is, they’re actually your friend and not just a human sex doll you meet with and then never do anything else but that with. I think unfortunately people think things will get serious if you go out and do anything else non-sexually related with them. |
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"That just sounds like hanging out with a friend to me, Nora (or a FWB if sex is sometimes involved). I'd only consider it dating if both people were looking for a deeper emotional connection, a la a relationship.
But you can call things whatever you like, it's your life
LvM"
Yeah hanging out with a friend and having sex too. That’s more what I mean  |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean?
Dating is the preamble before an actual relationship.
The getting to know each other.
Fucking is not dating.
I would agree with this ^ so many people think fab is a dating site and whilst some have found their forever partner, for the main dating is NOT a priority here "
Oh yes it is |
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean?
Dating is the preamble before an actual relationship.
The getting to know each other.
Fucking is not dating.
Maybe dating isn’t the word I mean. Struggling to think of how to describe it really
Language is a funny one, subjective to our understanding and intentions. Naturally miscommunication will arise which is where 99% of the issues arise.
So, we won't say dating. Are you describing someone that you are seeing intimately, that you also enjoy spending time with socially?
It might not be anything with a view to a relationship, but it's more than just a physical fix every once in a while.
To me, that's just normal behaviour. Really dislike the disconnected fuck and go model.
But, you know, subjective assessment, perspective and interpretation.
Yeah pretty much. Doesn’t have to be an exclusive thing but it can be of course. That’s up to the people involved. "
Aren’t you describing a FWB arrangement? |
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"Do you mean like doing normal things like going out as friends would and not just having sex with someone and leaving OP? To mean thats what a proper FWB is. You go and do normal things together like you would with a friend but also have sex but under the knowledge you’re not gonna get married or be in a monogamous relationship.
Yes exactly that. That’s how I see a FWB thing
That’s also for me what the definition of FWB is, they’re actually your friend and not just a human sex doll you meet with and then never do anything else but that with. I think unfortunately people think things will get serious if you go out and do anything else non-sexually related with them."
Yeah. Feelings and stuff. God forbid! Haha.
People are scared of the F word on here |
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean?
Dating is the preamble before an actual relationship.
The getting to know each other.
Fucking is not dating.
I would agree with this ^ so many people think fab is a dating site and whilst some have found their forever partner, for the main dating is NOT a priority here Oh yes it is "
Lol not many |
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean?
Dating is the preamble before an actual relationship.
The getting to know each other.
Fucking is not dating.
Maybe dating isn’t the word I mean. Struggling to think of how to describe it really
Language is a funny one, subjective to our understanding and intentions. Naturally miscommunication will arise which is where 99% of the issues arise.
So, we won't say dating. Are you describing someone that you are seeing intimately, that you also enjoy spending time with socially?
It might not be anything with a view to a relationship, but it's more than just a physical fix every once in a while.
To me, that's just normal behaviour. Really dislike the disconnected fuck and go model.
But, you know, subjective assessment, perspective and interpretation.
Yeah pretty much. Doesn’t have to be an exclusive thing but it can be of course. That’s up to the people involved.
Aren’t you describing a FWB arrangement? "
Yes. My definition of it. |
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"Do you mean like doing normal things like going out as friends would and not just having sex with someone and leaving OP? To mean thats what a proper FWB is. You go and do normal things together like you would with a friend but also have sex but under the knowledge you’re not gonna get married or be in a monogamous relationship.
Yes exactly that. That’s how I see a FWB thing "
Yes that’s exactly what a fwb is but some just don’t understand |
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By *reasyMan
over a year ago
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean? "
Yes Nora, I absolutely do get what you mean. I think you sound very similar to me you’re happy with your single life. You have a healthy interest in sex, but you’d like to meet somebody that’s happy to go out for a meal go out to the cinema, sit and chill, enjoy a glass of wine, but not be tied at the hip to him or her not get wrapped up in the commitments of a a tied relationship. I’d love to make a really good friend that would enjoy my company and he would enjoy her company but it wouldn’t be just meet for sex I hope that makes sense. |
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean?
Yes Nora, I absolutely do get what you mean. I think you sound very similar to me you’re happy with your single life. You have a healthy interest in sex, but you’d like to meet somebody that’s happy to go out for a meal go out to the cinema, sit and chill, enjoy a glass of wine, but not be tied at the hip to him or her not get wrapped up in the commitments of a a tied relationship. I’d love to make a really good friend that would enjoy my company and he would enjoy her company but it wouldn’t be just meet for sex I hope that makes sense. "
Yes makes total sense to me. |
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean? "
Yes, perfectly. For me this is exactly the F bit of a FWB. Doing nice stuff together that doesn't have to be a shag. |
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"She would become a cuckqueen if it’s not just about the sex
I can’t be arsed to google and not oversure what that is. Can you explain?
Female cuck
No then. Nothing like that "
Shocker, but someone threw out a completely inappropriate term in the wrong place.
Hard to believe I know
You're making plenty of sense though, it's more than just the physical whilst keeping it disconnected from your "real life".
Like an affair from reality haha. |
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By *P994Man
over a year ago
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"Do you mean like doing normal things like going out as friends would and not just having sex with someone and leaving OP? To mean thats what a proper FWB is. You go and do normal things together like you would with a friend but also have sex but under the knowledge you’re not gonna get married or be in a monogamous relationship.
Yes exactly that. That’s how I see a FWB thing
That’s also for me what the definition of FWB is, they’re actually your friend and not just a human sex doll you meet with and then never do anything else but that with. I think unfortunately people think things will get serious if you go out and do anything else non-sexually related with them.
Yeah. Feelings and stuff. God forbid! Haha.
People are scared of the F word on here "
How dare you suggest going out for a nice social only evening on here with any man without putting out, despicable behaviour! |
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"She would become a cuckqueen if it’s not just about the sex
I can’t be arsed to google and not oversure what that is. Can you explain?
Female cuck
No then. Nothing like that
Shocker, but someone threw out a completely inappropriate term in the wrong place.
Hard to believe I know
You're making plenty of sense though, it's more than just the physical whilst keeping it disconnected from your "real life".
Like an affair from reality haha."
Yes! An escape from reality |
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"Do you mean like doing normal things like going out as friends would and not just having sex with someone and leaving OP? To mean thats what a proper FWB is. You go and do normal things together like you would with a friend but also have sex but under the knowledge you’re not gonna get married or be in a monogamous relationship.
Yes exactly that. That’s how I see a FWB thing
That’s also for me what the definition of FWB is, they’re actually your friend and not just a human sex doll you meet with and then never do anything else but that with. I think unfortunately people think things will get serious if you go out and do anything else non-sexually related with them.
Yeah. Feelings and stuff. God forbid! Haha.
People are scared of the F word on here
How dare you suggest going out for a nice social only evening on here with any man without putting out, despicable behaviour! "
I’d love that though. No expectations. Go with the flow. It’s not really how it works on here and I accept that. It’s a swingers site. But sometimes It can happen. |
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"She would become a cuckqueen if it’s not just about the sex
I can’t be arsed to google and not oversure what that is. Can you explain?
Female cuck
No then. Nothing like that
Shocker, but someone threw out a completely inappropriate term in the wrong place.
Hard to believe I know
You're making plenty of sense though, it's more than just the physical whilst keeping it disconnected from your "real life".
Like an affair from reality haha.
Yes! An escape from reality "
And also cause ya know, they're fuckable but certainly not dateable.
But maybe go-to-dinner-able. |
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"She would become a cuckqueen if it’s not just about the sex
I can’t be arsed to google and not oversure what that is. Can you explain?
Female cuck
No then. Nothing like that
Shocker, but someone threw out a completely inappropriate term in the wrong place.
Hard to believe I know
You're making plenty of sense though, it's more than just the physical whilst keeping it disconnected from your "real life".
Like an affair from reality haha.
Yes! An escape from reality "
Escape from what exactly? |
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"She would become a cuckqueen if it’s not just about the sex
I can’t be arsed to google and not oversure what that is. Can you explain?
Female cuck
No then. Nothing like that
Shocker, but someone threw out a completely inappropriate term in the wrong place.
Hard to believe I know
You're making plenty of sense though, it's more than just the physical whilst keeping it disconnected from your "real life".
Like an affair from reality haha.
Yes! An escape from reality
Escape from what exactly?"
Normal life. Was it not self explanatory? |
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean?
Yes Nora, I absolutely do get what you mean. I think you sound very similar to me you’re happy with your single life. You have a healthy interest in sex, but you’d like to meet somebody that’s happy to go out for a meal go out to the cinema, sit and chill, enjoy a glass of wine, but not be tied at the hip to him or her not get wrapped up in the commitments of a a tied relationship. I’d love to make a really good friend that would enjoy my company and he would enjoy her company but it wouldn’t be just meet for sex I hope that makes sense.
Yes makes total sense to me. "
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"If I'm meeting someone be it from here or the girls from work or my mates, it's a date, a set time to meet. "
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What you describe is an emotion-free relationship. Fulfilling the social and physical without the emotional needs met.I don't like that situation tbh.
I don't think it's fair on all parties as usually one is keeping their emotions in a box and not invested in the other person and the other person gets invested with no return.
It is a bf/gf scenario that can be put up on a shelf until you feel like satisfying that need for an hour or two.
There is clearly a very emotionally contained personality out there that thrives on compartmentalising in this way.
Family time
Social time
Sex
Platonic social
Sexual social
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Forgive me if others have mentioned this above but what you are describing is the steps to starting a relationship.
You date. Let's go to the park for a walk. Let's see i can talk to this person beyond sex. Or beyond being d*unk.
It's very different from fab but it doesn't have to be.
The things I loved most about our time on fab was the small intimacies. Having breakfast together with the first woman we had a threesome with. Holding hands with another woman in a bar whike looking at my wife flirt with a man she just met. Meeting someones for coffee and finding a real connection.
Dating can be really lovely. A trip to the comic book shop. Sitting on a beach watching a storm roll in. Fab can be very one dimensional if you let it |
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"Forgive me if others have mentioned this above but what you are describing is the steps to starting a relationship.
You date. Let's go to the park for a walk. Let's see i can talk to this person beyond sex. Or beyond being d*unk.
It's very different from fab but it doesn't have to be.
The things I loved most about our time on fab was the small intimacies. Having breakfast together with the first woman we had a threesome with. Holding hands with another woman in a bar whike looking at my wife flirt with a man she just met. Meeting someones for coffee and finding a real connection.
Dating can be really lovely. A trip to the comic book shop. Sitting on a beach watching a storm roll in. Fab can be very one dimensional if you let it"
Yes but it doesn’t have to be starting a relationship. Again it depends how you define relationship. I’ve met the same person for over 3 years and I suppose you could call it some kind of relationship but I know (one hundred percent) that I don’t want someone permanently in my “actual” life. I love my life as it is and just don’t want it. I have very clear boundaries which everyone always knows before anything is likely to go further. |
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"Like the American model of dating where you see different people at the same time. Not necessarily shagging them but not committed to them either. "
I think that’s a little selfish. And instead of finding out if you’re a good fit with one person you’re comparing them to others.
If you’re happy to tell one of them the reason you’re busy on Thursday is cos you are on a date with someone else, fair enough. But I’m guessing most people wouldn’t take that chance, unless they had already decided they didn’t want to continue seeing them. |
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"If she’s willing to pay for dinner and the coffees afterwards then I’d consider ‘dating’ her for the evening only  "
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"Forgive me if others have mentioned this above but what you are describing is the steps to starting a relationship.
You date. Let's go to the park for a walk. Let's see i can talk to this person beyond sex. Or beyond being d*unk.
It's very different from fab but it doesn't have to be.
The things I loved most about our time on fab was the small intimacies. Having breakfast together with the first woman we had a threesome with. Holding hands with another woman in a bar whike looking at my wife flirt with a man she just met. Meeting someones for coffee and finding a real connection.
Dating can be really lovely. A trip to the comic book shop. Sitting on a beach watching a storm roll in. Fab can be very one dimensional if you let it
Yes but it doesn’t have to be starting a relationship. Again it depends how you define relationship. I’ve met the same person for over 3 years and I suppose you could call it some kind of relationship but I know (one hundred percent) that I don’t want someone permanently in my “actual” life. I love my life as it is and just don’t want it. I have very clear boundaries which everyone always knows before anything is likely to go further. "
That's a relationship. You have limits on it but just because it's not "normal" or all encompassesing doesn't mean its any less fulfilling. We all know married couples who don't have boundaries but they also don't have any quality in their relationship. They liked each other 10 years ago but now they live separate lives and share a house or some kids. They have a relationship that everyone can identify but they are not happy or fulfilled or doing anything together.
I would rather 3 years in a relationship like yours than a week of living like them |
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My wife and I still date. We had one last night. No sex, no kink, no other couples, nothing fab related. We just decided to go out for a meal and cinema and then had drinks. It was boring compared to many on here's regular Saturday night but it was good for my soul and it was good for my connection to my wife. |
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"Forgive me if others have mentioned this above but what you are describing is the steps to starting a relationship.
You date. Let's go to the park for a walk. Let's see i can talk to this person beyond sex. Or beyond being d*unk.
It's very different from fab but it doesn't have to be.
The things I loved most about our time on fab was the small intimacies. Having breakfast together with the first woman we had a threesome with. Holding hands with another woman in a bar whike looking at my wife flirt with a man she just met. Meeting someones for coffee and finding a real connection.
Dating can be really lovely. A trip to the comic book shop. Sitting on a beach watching a storm roll in. Fab can be very one dimensional if you let it
Yes but it doesn’t have to be starting a relationship. Again it depends how you define relationship. I’ve met the same person for over 3 years and I suppose you could call it some kind of relationship but I know (one hundred percent) that I don’t want someone permanently in my “actual” life. I love my life as it is and just don’t want it. I have very clear boundaries which everyone always knows before anything is likely to go further.
That's a relationship. You have limits on it but just because it's not "normal" or all encompassesing doesn't mean its any less fulfilling. We all know married couples who don't have boundaries but they also don't have any quality in their relationship. They liked each other 10 years ago but now they live separate lives and share a house or some kids. They have a relationship that everyone can identify but they are not happy or fulfilled or doing anything together.
I would rather 3 years in a relationship like yours than a week of living like them"
True. I’m not in that relationship now but we’re still good friends. Maybe I’m a bit selfish. Like a cake and eat it type thing. I don’t want people getting involved in my every day life. I never will. Yeah I text and chat on the phone every day to them. I want the fun without the hassle. At least I’m always honest about it though. I don’t bullshit or string people along. |
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"If I'm meeting someone be it from here or the girls from work or my mates, it's a date, a set time to meet.
It's lovely to see a 95 year old with such vitality.
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"If I'm meeting someone be it from here or the girls from work or my mates, it's a date, a set time to meet.
It's lovely to see a 95 year old with such vitality.
Thank you kindly sonny "
Boots no 7? It’s good stuff that! |
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"If I'm meeting someone be it from here or the girls from work or my mates, it's a date, a set time to meet.
It's lovely to see a 95 year old with such vitality.
Thank you kindly sonny
Boots no 7? It’s good stuff that!"
Yup that and keeping away from dirty men  |
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"If I'm meeting someone be it from here or the girls from work or my mates, it's a date, a set time to meet.
It's lovely to see a 95 year old with such vitality.
Thank you kindly sonny
Boots no 7? It’s good stuff that!
Yup that and keeping away from dirty men "
Oh, oh really.
So about this place, I hate to break it to you... but... |
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over a year ago
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Dating to me means spending time with someone (getting to know each other) with a view to romance blossoming.
Hanging out with someone just because you like their company but there are no romantic intentions? That’s a friendship.
I’m pretty old fashioned when it comes to romance/relationships etc.
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"Forgive me if others have mentioned this above but what you are describing is the steps to starting a relationship."
Why does it have to be the start of a committed relationship? Of course it often develops into something more, but there's still value in a friendship that is also sexual, so long as everyone is clear about their boundaries and desires. I wouldn't want another committed relationship, but spending the occasional weekend with a dear friend and having sex is very appealing, a lovely escape from the mundane.
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"Forgive me if others have mentioned this above but what you are describing is the steps to starting a relationship.
You date. Let's go to the park for a walk. Let's see i can talk to this person beyond sex. Or beyond being d*unk.
It's very different from fab but it doesn't have to be.
The things I loved most about our time on fab was the small intimacies. Having breakfast together with the first woman we had a threesome with. Holding hands with another woman in a bar whike looking at my wife flirt with a man she just met. Meeting someones for coffee and finding a real connection.
Dating can be really lovely. A trip to the comic book shop. Sitting on a beach watching a storm roll in. Fab can be very one dimensional if you let it
Yes but it doesn’t have to be starting a relationship. Again it depends how you define relationship. I’ve met the same person for over 3 years and I suppose you could call it some kind of relationship but I know (one hundred percent) that I don’t want someone permanently in my “actual” life. I love my life as it is and just don’t want it. I have very clear boundaries which everyone always knows before anything is likely to go further.
That's a relationship. You have limits on it but just because it's not "normal" or all encompassesing doesn't mean its any less fulfilling. We all know married couples who don't have boundaries but they also don't have any quality in their relationship. They liked each other 10 years ago but now they live separate lives and share a house or some kids. They have a relationship that everyone can identify but they are not happy or fulfilled or doing anything together.
I would rather 3 years in a relationship like yours than a week of living like them
True. I’m not in that relationship now but we’re still good friends. Maybe I’m a bit selfish. Like a cake and eat it type thing. I don’t want people getting involved in my every day life. I never will. Yeah I text and chat on the phone every day to them. I want the fun without the hassle. At least I’m always honest about it though. I don’t bullshit or string people along. "
I hope this doesn't come across as patronising but I think that you have made the hard decision to true to yourself rather than bend to what "society" demands of you.
Would you be happier in a conventional relationship? Maybe. I doubt it. Would I be happier in with your choice? Maybe. But I doubt it.
None of us are the same. So it only makes sense to me that we all navigate life differently |
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"If I'm meeting someone be it from here or the girls from work or my mates, it's a date, a set time to meet.
It's lovely to see a 95 year old with such vitality.
Thank you kindly sonny
Boots no 7? It’s good stuff that!
Yup that and keeping away from dirty men
Oh, oh really.
So about this place, I hate to break it to you... but..."
You mean....men on here don't shower  |
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"Forgive me if others have mentioned this above but what you are describing is the steps to starting a relationship.
You date. Let's go to the park for a walk. Let's see i can talk to this person beyond sex. Or beyond being d*unk.
It's very different from fab but it doesn't have to be.
The things I loved most about our time on fab was the small intimacies. Having breakfast together with the first woman we had a threesome with. Holding hands with another woman in a bar whike looking at my wife flirt with a man she just met. Meeting someones for coffee and finding a real connection.
Dating can be really lovely. A trip to the comic book shop. Sitting on a beach watching a storm roll in. Fab can be very one dimensional if you let it
Yes but it doesn’t have to be starting a relationship. Again it depends how you define relationship. I’ve met the same person for over 3 years and I suppose you could call it some kind of relationship but I know (one hundred percent) that I don’t want someone permanently in my “actual” life. I love my life as it is and just don’t want it. I have very clear boundaries which everyone always knows before anything is likely to go further.
That's a relationship. You have limits on it but just because it's not "normal" or all encompassesing doesn't mean its any less fulfilling. We all know married couples who don't have boundaries but they also don't have any quality in their relationship. They liked each other 10 years ago but now they live separate lives and share a house or some kids. They have a relationship that everyone can identify but they are not happy or fulfilled or doing anything together.
I would rather 3 years in a relationship like yours than a week of living like them
True. I’m not in that relationship now but we’re still good friends. Maybe I’m a bit selfish. Like a cake and eat it type thing. I don’t want people getting involved in my every day life. I never will. Yeah I text and chat on the phone every day to them. I want the fun without the hassle. At least I’m always honest about it though. I don’t bullshit or string people along.
I hope this doesn't come across as patronising but I think that you have made the hard decision to true to yourself rather than bend to what "society" demands of you.
Would you be happier in a conventional relationship? Maybe. I doubt it. Would I be happier in with your choice? Maybe. But I doubt it.
None of us are the same. So it only makes sense to me that we all navigate life differently "
Oh definitely and to be fair we all have very different lives. I’ve never ever talked about my personal life on here and never will. There have been plenty of assumptions which I have never confirmed or denied. I have always done what’s best for me and mine, anything and anyone else comes second. Again, some may see that as selfish but hey ho. |
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"If I'm meeting someone be it from here or the girls from work or my mates, it's a date, a set time to meet.
It's lovely to see a 95 year old with such vitality.
Thank you kindly sonny
Boots no 7? It’s good stuff that!
Yup that and keeping away from dirty men
Oh, oh really.
So about this place, I hate to break it to you... but...
You mean....men on here don't shower "
It gets worse than that too.
Warm up the projector guys, grab the slides.
Time for a presentation.
Slide 1.
Lies.
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"Forgive me if others have mentioned this above but what you are describing is the steps to starting a relationship.
You date. Let's go to the park for a walk. Let's see i can talk to this person beyond sex. Or beyond being d*unk.
It's very different from fab but it doesn't have to be.
The things I loved most about our time on fab was the small intimacies. Having breakfast together with the first woman we had a threesome with. Holding hands with another woman in a bar whike looking at my wife flirt with a man she just met. Meeting someones for coffee and finding a real connection.
Dating can be really lovely. A trip to the comic book shop. Sitting on a beach watching a storm roll in. Fab can be very one dimensional if you let it
Yes but it doesn’t have to be starting a relationship. Again it depends how you define relationship. I’ve met the same person for over 3 years and I suppose you could call it some kind of relationship but I know (one hundred percent) that I don’t want someone permanently in my “actual” life. I love my life as it is and just don’t want it. I have very clear boundaries which everyone always knows before anything is likely to go further.
That's a relationship. You have limits on it but just because it's not "normal" or all encompassesing doesn't mean its any less fulfilling. We all know married couples who don't have boundaries but they also don't have any quality in their relationship. They liked each other 10 years ago but now they live separate lives and share a house or some kids. They have a relationship that everyone can identify but they are not happy or fulfilled or doing anything together.
I would rather 3 years in a relationship like yours than a week of living like them
True. I’m not in that relationship now but we’re still good friends. Maybe I’m a bit selfish. Like a cake and eat it type thing. I don’t want people getting involved in my every day life. I never will. Yeah I text and chat on the phone every day to them. I want the fun without the hassle. At least I’m always honest about it though. I don’t bullshit or string people along.
I hope this doesn't come across as patronising but I think that you have made the hard decision to true to yourself rather than bend to what "society" demands of you.
Would you be happier in a conventional relationship? Maybe. I doubt it. Would I be happier in with your choice? Maybe. But I doubt it.
None of us are the same. So it only makes sense to me that we all navigate life differently
Oh definitely and to be fair we all have very different lives. I’ve never ever talked about my personal life on here and never will. There have been plenty of assumptions which I have never confirmed or denied. I have always done what’s best for me and mine, anything and anyone else comes second. Again, some may see that as selfish but hey ho. "
She's actually VinLikesToStayIn.
Blatant false advertising. |
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"Forgive me if others have mentioned this above but what you are describing is the steps to starting a relationship.
Why does it have to be the start of a committed relationship? Of course it often develops into something more, but there's still value in a friendship that is also sexual, so long as everyone is clear about their boundaries and desires. I wouldn't want another committed relationship, but spending the occasional weekend with a dear friend and having sex is very appealing, a lovely escape from the mundane.
Nell"
Never said committed. Just a relationship. Not even a romantic one.
I have a very good friend I made on fab. We connected as friends. We added sex to our friendship and then removed it. Didn't work. The reward wasn't worth risking our friendship for.
I'm 100% in a relationship this woman. It's not romantic, it's not sexual.
My wife is my best friend. We have sex and romance. We are in a committed relationship. But ultimately she's my best mate |
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"Courting. Feels a more olde worlde term that I like.
Haha my mum and dad still say that. “When we were courting”  "
It does have an air of charm to it.
Bless em. |
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"Thats how I see dating too, occasional or regualar socialising. A relationship is something else, more emotional commitment and involvement in each other's lives.
The best analogy is probably like a little bubble. You go out and do all that stuff then go back to your normal life until next time. Like you’re not meeting my kids, you’re not coming to my house, you’re not coming for Sunday dinner at my parents etc. Does that make sense?"
It makes perfect sense to me and it sounds like heaven |
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"Forgive me if others have mentioned this above but what you are describing is the steps to starting a relationship.
Why does it have to be the start of a committed relationship? Of course it often develops into something more, but there's still value in a friendship that is also sexual, so long as everyone is clear about their boundaries and desires. I wouldn't want another committed relationship, but spending the occasional weekend with a dear friend and having sex is very appealing, a lovely escape from the mundane.
Nell
Never said committed. Just a relationship. Not even a romantic one.
I have a very good friend I made on fab. We connected as friends. We added sex to our friendship and then removed it. Didn't work. The reward wasn't worth risking our friendship for.
I'm 100% in a relationship this woman. It's not romantic, it's not sexual.
My wife is my best friend. We have sex and romance. We are in a committed relationship. But ultimately she's my best mate"
Fair enough, I did assume. I still don't think that spending time with someone as well as having sex necessarily has to be viewed as a transitional step towards something else though. It has value in and of itself. |
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"Forgive me if others have mentioned this above but what you are describing is the steps to starting a relationship.
Why does it have to be the start of a committed relationship? Of course it often develops into something more, but there's still value in a friendship that is also sexual, so long as everyone is clear about their boundaries and desires. I wouldn't want another committed relationship, but spending the occasional weekend with a dear friend and having sex is very appealing, a lovely escape from the mundane.
Nell
Never said committed. Just a relationship. Not even a romantic one.
I have a very good friend I made on fab. We connected as friends. We added sex to our friendship and then removed it. Didn't work. The reward wasn't worth risking our friendship for.
I'm 100% in a relationship this woman. It's not romantic, it's not sexual.
My wife is my best friend. We have sex and romance. We are in a committed relationship. But ultimately she's my best mate
Fair enough, I did assume. I still don't think that spending time with someone as well as having sex necessarily has to be viewed as a transitional step towards something else though. It has value in and of itself."
agree completely. I should have made that clear. |
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Been on a few first and second dates recently, trying not to get too serious so I don’t have to buy any Christmas presents (cost of living, being a skinflint etc…)
Trying to arrange a second date with one lady and a first with another this week. It’s a lot easier with online apps and my age. I must admit I really enjoy it and the challenge of getting the match and date afterwards, if they want a second date that’s even better.
Admittedly if the right lady came along I’ll happily settle down (again) but for now I’ll enjoy this period of my life. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean? "
I get it |
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"Thats how I see dating too, occasional or regualar socialising. A relationship is something else, more emotional commitment and involvement in each other's lives.
The best analogy is probably like a little bubble. You go out and do all that stuff then go back to your normal life until next time. Like you’re not meeting my kids, you’re not coming to my house, you’re not coming for Sunday dinner at my parents etc. Does that make sense?"
Yes it makes sense |
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"I wouldn't want to spend time regularly with someone who decided from the start that there was to be no emotion.
To me, that's giving them free license to discard you on a whim"
Me neither. Even the term NSA puts me off folk |
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I like to do that stuff too and I go on dates with my friends. There's so many different types of relationships that's it's hard to say. There's needs to be a lot more than just spending time together for me to see it as a relationship but that's how i get to know someone and if that can be a possibility.
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"I wouldn't want to spend time regularly with someone who decided from the start that there was to be no emotion.
To me, that's giving them free license to discard you on a whim"
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean? "
100%
that’s what I call sexy friendship .
Is not only about pull knickers down .
Is as well happy hang out .
Meals in , explore out … do what ever you like .
Don’t need go mad about serious relation to share love and have a laugh . |
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"It's not a relationship until someone does that awkward thing of saying "will you be my girlfriend/boyfriend".."
I think a few years ago the measure was if folk updated their FB to 'in a relationship'  |
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"Thats how I see dating too, occasional or regualar socialising. A relationship is something else, more emotional commitment and involvement in each other's lives.
The best analogy is probably like a little bubble. You go out and do all that stuff then go back to your normal life until next time. Like you’re not meeting my kids, you’re not coming to my house, you’re not coming for Sunday dinner at my parents etc. Does that make sense?"
FWB.
I'd say dating is with the intention of a relationship. I wouldn't 'date' more than one person at a time.
Multiple FWB are fine. |
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean?
Dating is the preamble before an actual relationship.
The getting to know each other.
Fucking is not dating.
Maybe dating isn’t the word I mean. Struggling to think of how to describe it really "
Fwb but in a more committed form id say its called. John |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
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I think it’s all a sliding scale, going out and having non sexual fun together and also the sexual bits can be called dating without commitments, being in a relationship is more about the depth of feelings and making some kind of commitment to each other at whatever level |
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I see it the same way you do Nora. I see dating as the “getting to know” someone period, not only sex but also socialising.
It might end up or not in a relationship, but I think dating is essential in determining that |
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean? "
Yup ..l know exactly what you mean , but don't play that game if you're not prepared for it ...don't play any game if you're not prepared ..cause any game that you don't know the rules off can ..and does hurt. |
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By *arkjackMan
over a year ago
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I think so Nora, and agree dating is prelude to BF/GF but...
I also think that BF/GF is rated too seriously in our society, probably because fewer marriages.
And I also think marriages are taken too seriously. They made sense in the context they came into existence - in a time where people are expected to live twice as long as before they may be past their sell by date. Some people calling themselves Christians are I think using a moral code that even Puritan ancestors couldn't have lived up to. |
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean?
Yup ..l know exactly what you mean , but don't play that game if you're not prepared for it ...don't play any game if you're not prepared ..cause any game that you don't know the rules off can ..and does hurt."
I don’t play games. Any sniff of anyone trying to play games and I’m off. I may be blunt at times but I do not mess people about. Wish more people were like that. |
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean?
Yup ..l know exactly what you mean , but don't play that game if you're not prepared for it ...don't play any game if you're not prepared ..cause any game that you don't know the rules off can ..and does hurt.
I don’t play games. Any sniff of anyone trying to play games and I’m off. I may be blunt at times but I do not mess people about. Wish more people were like that. "
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean?
Yup ..l know exactly what you mean , but don't play that game if you're not prepared for it ...don't play any game if you're not prepared ..cause any game that you don't know the rules off can ..and does hurt.
I don’t play games. Any sniff of anyone trying to play games and I’m off. I may be blunt at times but I do not mess people about. Wish more people were like that. "
I was saying in general , l wasn't meaning anyone individually . |
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"Mean a proper relationship to you? I like to do that. Go out and do stuff together and not just have sex and buggar off till the next time. I see people on threads say “but that’s like a bf/gf situation.” It’s really not.
Does anyone else get what I mean?
Yup ..l know exactly what you mean , but don't play that game if you're not prepared for it ...don't play any game if you're not prepared ..cause any game that you don't know the rules off can ..and does hurt.
I don’t play games. Any sniff of anyone trying to play games and I’m off. I may be blunt at times but I do not mess people about. Wish more people were like that.
I was saying in general , l wasn't meaning anyone individually . "
I know . It’s fine. I didn’t take it that way. |
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