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We were at a party once and a couple there arrived fresh from an overnight meet. Illogically and unreasonably it put me off. I still don't know if it was that they'd met or that they made it known that they had. |
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I don’t mind; lots of people have constraints on their time so days to meet sometimes come together.
As long as you’re all ok with not feeling like second best, it’s just a part of adult life.
Have you been asked to take a ticket like at the deli counter?  |
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over a year ago
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I don't see why it would matter. Its a swingers site. I can see why people might have an issue on a dating site where they were looking for something long term. If you saw someone playing at a club would that then turn you off them?
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"I don’t mind; lots of people have constraints on their time so days to meet sometimes come together.
As long as you’re all ok with not feeling like second best, it’s just a part of adult life.
Have you been asked to take a ticket like at the deli counter? "
Why would you be second best? if he asked to cut short a meet with me to meet someone else, yes I'd be pissed.
But if it happens that he's around when I am free...that's a normal meet regardless of whose bed he's just left |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also I don’t do parties or group fun and I wouldn’t play at a club with a guy I’d seen play with someone else. Just ain’t my thing! No sloppy seconds please! |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Also I don’t do parties or group fun and I wouldn’t play at a club with a guy I’d seen play with someone else. Just ain’t my thing! No sloppy seconds please! "
but say you hadn't seen him play, how would you know?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Long ago in Days of Yore I had a week with 3 meets, just because calendars were restictive and it's how it worked out, but wouldn't do it again. Enjoying the anticipation and getting excited about what is to come is difficult if your attention is divided. Also, I need a bit of time after a meet to process and enjoy the little flashbacks and delight in the memories before moving my attention onto another person. I'm not sure if other people function like this? I'd prefer for us to be our meet's primary focus for the time they are with us.
Nell |
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over a year ago
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Can’t say I’ve ever thought about it, but I don’t think it bothers me too much if I was to meet someone say tonight who’d met someone last night.
When I used to go to La Chambre I’d often come down stairs after being with someone and then go back up later on with someone else… To me that was just the nature of swinging clubs |
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over a year ago
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Depends on the context, if it was a brag about their meet with details then yeah their lack of discretion would put me off
But as I enjoy clubs and the swinging scene it would be hypocritical to say otherwise |
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It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. I think most people do that when they get a bit of free time. I quite like hearing stories of debauchery to so would be pretty hot. And I do also love the idea of someone wanting to see me after a meet.  |
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"Long ago in Days of Yore I had a week with 3 meets, just because calendars were restictive and it's how it worked out, but wouldn't do it again. Enjoying the anticipation and getting excited about what is to come is difficult if your attention is divided. Also, I need a bit of time after a meet to process and enjoy the little flashbacks and delight in the memories before moving my attention onto another person. I'm not sure if other people function like this? I'd prefer for us to be our meet's primary focus for the time they are with us.
Nell"
100%. Good sex is emotionally and physically intense. I like to be with that a while.
That's definitely why, and not because no one wants to meet me.
Honest.
(Sob.) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also I don’t do parties or group fun and I wouldn’t play at a club with a guy I’d seen play with someone else. Just ain’t my thing! No sloppy seconds please! but say you hadn't seen him play, how would you know? "
I have never played with a random guy in a club, I rarely play at clubs (I like the social side) and when I have it’s been pre-arranged. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love the honesty . I really need that . Must too .
Depends of what they been up too .
If was only penetrative with protection is not as much cringe as if having much more detail and bare then that .
Depends on our connection .
If is a friend or a lady We get on well May be easier to pretend I didn’t heard anything .
Or put it in same top shelf as past of 20 years ago …
Status saying : “ oh what a night that was “
I find off putting :/ I’m a bit ocd cringe I think .
Nothing wrong about it .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't see why it would matter. Its a swingers site. I can see why people might have an issue on a dating site where they were looking for something long term. If you saw someone playing at a club would that then turn you off them?
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As far as playing with them there? Yes, seconds aren't appealing to me but then sex with randoms isn't appealing to me either so I'd play by arrangement with an established partner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So great hive mind of wankers. 
How do you feel about meeting someone/a couple the same night/next day after they've met someone else? Is it a big no, a don't care or a fuck yeah? "
Hmm, I’m not sure I’m not lucky enough to meet that many people that this would be an issue. It’s really none of my business what somebody does outside of meeting me ? So I no yess not. I can understand why it would be an issue though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We might be on a swinging site but jeez, there's ways to behave, there's etiquette to observe, there's respect for yourself and for the person you just left and the person you're sniffing around |
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"We might be on a swinging site but jeez, there's ways to behave, there's etiquette to observe, there's respect for yourself and for the person you just left and the person you're sniffing around"
But there is etiquette when sharing men with other women. Having respect for the person you are with at the time, is of utmost importance when partaking in casual sex shenanigans |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It doesn’t bother me but I’d prefer not to hear about it. "
Is cringe . Massive . I have to pretend I don’t know .
But is part of my game . Everything has to be on the table ( no details needed ) but everything needs to be known .
Yes is cringe . But tomorrow I wanna came to you . And I can’t do that unless I’m 100% sure I’m safe .
Cringe or no cringe health and safety takes priority .
The cringe pushes away , but honesty and caring pulls good people closer .
Is how it works with me . |
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over a year ago
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"So great hive mind of wankers.
How do you feel about meeting someone/a couple the same night/next day after they've met someone else? Is it a big no, a don't care or a fuck yeah? "
Don't care if that's what they do, fine by me, but I would not meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dosent bother me one bit
I my self have pritty much done it on a number off times
Finshed a meet went to leave a veri and end up handing out seconds
But I am always up front and let them know before hand |
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"So great hive mind of wankers.
How do you feel about meeting someone/a couple the same night/next day after they've met someone else? Is it a big no, a don't care or a fuck yeah? "
as I only do group play in clubs .. it would be very hypocritical of me to say yes. To be fair when I did do private meets.. I'd often do more than one in a day/ evening and didn't care if they had too |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Wait, you get meets?
Back under the covers you.
Well, you know my position.
No hard feelings yeah?"
I don't know falafel. Can't remember. It's been so long since we last spoke.
Remind me? |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Also I don’t do parties or group fun and I wouldn’t play at a club with a guy I’d seen play with someone else. Just ain’t my thing! No sloppy seconds please! but say you hadn't seen him play, how would you know?
I have never played with a random guy in a club, I rarely play at clubs (I like the social side) and when I have it’s been pre-arranged. "
Ok plausible reason |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wait, you get meets?
Back under the covers you.
Well, you know my position.
No hard feelings yeah?
I don't know falafel. Can't remember. It's been so long since we last spoke.
Remind me?"
Repugnant. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"We might be on a swinging site but jeez, there's ways to behave, there's etiquette to observe, there's respect for yourself and for the person you just left and the person you're sniffing around
But there is etiquette when sharing men with other women. Having respect for the person you are with at the time, is of utmost importance when partaking in casual sex shenanigans "
100% agree on respect. There’s also energy levels, physically and mentally. I want her recovered and on fire not all knackered and leaking cum  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, not a chance.
I know there's no exclusivity but I don't ever want to be one of many. And once I feel like another one of many they are saying and doing the same stuff with, I'm done.
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over a year ago
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Totally depends on my mindset at the time and the context of the meet.
Sometimes wouldn’t bother me in the slightest it’s a swinging world and sex with others is perfectly fine..
But if I was in a needy mood and it was a much anticipated meet up it may make me feel insecure about being a number of many. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"We might be on a swinging site but jeez, there's ways to behave, there's etiquette to observe, there's respect for yourself and for the person you just left and the person you're sniffing around
But there is etiquette when sharing men with other women. Having respect for the person you are with at the time, is of utmost importance when partaking in casual sex shenanigans
100% agree on respect. There’s also energy levels, physically and mentally. I want her recovered and on fire not all knackered and leaking cum "
Yes. With men you can quite often tell when they've spaffed in a woman recently, their erection isn't as firm (sorry men, it's just not), they're not quite as... grrrr. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends who she is if i in any way gave a shitabout her have any warm feelings towards her barring the one feeling between her legs no probly not as i dont do being sloppy 2nds in that case but if just for sex nothing else the hole being the goal what she does on her time is her business but i would have to be pretty darn d*unk to be in that kind of a mood these days so 70% no 30% yes based on the lust level and my beer impared judgement |
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"Depends who she is if i in any way gave a shitabout her have any warm feelings towards her barring the one feeling between her legs no probly not as i dont do being sloppy 2nds in that case but if just for sex nothing else the hole being the goal what she does on her time is her business but i would have to be pretty darn d*unk to be in that kind of a mood these days so 70% no 30% yes based on the lust level and my beer impared judgement "
ps iv only been d*unk once the last 2 years so probly best to shrink those odds  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We might be on a swinging site but jeez, there's ways to behave, there's etiquette to observe, there's respect for yourself and for the person you just left and the person you're sniffing around
But there is etiquette when sharing men with other women. Having respect for the person you are with at the time, is of utmost importance when partaking in casual sex shenanigans
100% agree on respect. There’s also energy levels, physically and mentally. I want her recovered and on fire not all knackered and leaking cum
Yes. With men you can quite often tell when they've spaffed in a woman recently, their erection isn't as firm (sorry men, it's just not), they're not quite as... grrrr. "
Just never can win the race …
First gear goes to fast , last gear has no torque even it lasts for Eva
* Jesus holding a frying pan . Pancake party ? Leaking cum ?
Jesus ask her :
- sorry love , have u been cooking candles again ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It wouldn’t both me in the slightest. I suppose it depends on your individual perception or sex and intimacy.
If I was going for a night out with vanilla friends, would I be hesitant about meeting up with them if they had a night out the day before or even a lunch thing that day? Not at all. As long as they were having fun and enjoying our night out, what they did a few hours before has no effect. |
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over a year ago
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In theory I wouldn't mind especially if they are a couple, I mean couples are always at it arent they. But in practise it might just tug at my (strings) a bit. It would entirely depend on the meet too. If was just us two singles wanting sex for sex's sake then yes I maybe miffed, we could have sex with each other twice over the day next day instead. If it was part of a scenario where you fuck a stranger then go back to fuck your partner/friend as a reclaim then yeah Ok. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We might be on a swinging site but jeez, there's ways to behave, there's etiquette to observe, there's respect for yourself and for the person you just left and the person you're sniffing around
But there is etiquette when sharing men with other women. Having respect for the person you are with at the time, is of utmost importance when partaking in casual sex shenanigans
100% agree on respect. There’s also energy levels, physically and mentally. I want her recovered and on fire not all knackered and leaking cum
Yes. With men you can quite often tell when they've spaffed in a woman recently, their erection isn't as firm (sorry men, it's just not), they're not quite as... grrrr. "
Noted, be extra grrr to avoid detection of recent erection misdirection and indiscretion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally depends on my mindset at the time and the context of the meet.
Sometimes wouldn’t bother me in the slightest it’s a swinging world and sex with others is perfectly fine..
But if I was in a needy mood and it was a much anticipated meet up it may make me feel insecure about being a number of many."
How utterly contradictory
Colour me shocked
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not so keen to be honest, thats why i'm not a fan of verifications, especially loads of them. I'd prefer not to know"
So your telling me +40 year old with double the verifications is a turn off? The meets could be socials and the guy could still be a virgin |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Totally depends on my mindset at the time and the context of the meet.
Sometimes wouldn’t bother me in the slightest it’s a swinging world and sex with others is perfectly fine..
But if I was in a needy mood and it was a much anticipated meet up it may make me feel insecure about being a number of many.
How utterly contradictory
Colour me shocked
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Oi! Stop being mean to my friends, twunt.
Love you.
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"Not so keen to be honest, thats why i'm not a fan of verifications, especially loads of them. I'd prefer not to know
So your telling me +40 year old with double the verifications is a turn off? The meets could be socials and the guy could still be a virgin "
Socials are different. But yea, loads of verifications are a turn off for me, especially descriptive ones |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"...to avoid detection of recent erection misdirection and indiscretion. "
Also I really love this and I think I might make a song out of it.
Maybe a rap.
Remember when you have to hear me sing/rap it to you later.
You've brought it on yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...to avoid detection of recent erection misdirection and indiscretion.
Also I really love this and I think I might make a song out of it.
Maybe a rap.
Remember when you have to hear me sing/rap it to you later.
You've brought it on yourself."
Oh I love a little bit of random sing songy nonsense, so bring it.
We could even have a rap battle.
Probably be more of a rhyme scuffle.
Alliterative duel.
Then play pogs cause we be the coolest. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"OP what is your answer to the question? Keep it short and sweet "
See; I'd have given an answer. But you asked the impossible. I don't really do short and sweet alas.
Anyway, it's far more interesting reading other views, I didn't want to tilt the chat in a certain direction because I'd typed how I viewed it.
Also, I'm trying really hard to not be as predictable in this reply but it's long and waffling so I failed*.
*sorry M. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally depends on my mindset at the time and the context of the meet.
Sometimes wouldn’t bother me in the slightest it’s a swinging world and sex with others is perfectly fine..
But if I was in a needy mood and it was a much anticipated meet up it may make me feel insecure about being a number of many.
How utterly contradictory
Colour me shocked
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I pride myself on my contradictory ways.. keeps everyone on their toes! |
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"Not so keen to be honest, thats why i'm not a fan of verifications, especially loads of them. I'd prefer not to know
So your telling me +40 year old with double the verifications is a turn off? The meets could be socials and the guy could still be a virgin
Socials are different. But yea, loads of verifications are a turn off for me, especially descriptive ones"
Same but I prefer to see no veris showing at all, not even social ones. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"...to avoid detection of recent erection misdirection and indiscretion.
Also I really love this and I think I might make a song out of it.
Maybe a rap.
Remember when you have to hear me sing/rap it to you later.
You've brought it on yourself.
Oh I love a little bit of random sing songy nonsense, so bring it.
We could even have a rap battle.
Probably be more of a rhyme scuffle.
Alliterative duel.
Then play pogs cause we be the coolest."
Babe.
I've done it.
Honestly my voice is fucking angelic. You lucky sod. Now stop reading my posts and hurry up and listen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...to avoid detection of recent erection misdirection and indiscretion.
Also I really love this and I think I might make a song out of it.
Maybe a rap.
Remember when you have to hear me sing/rap it to you later.
You've brought it on yourself.
Oh I love a little bit of random sing songy nonsense, so bring it.
We could even have a rap battle.
Probably be more of a rhyme scuffle.
Alliterative duel.
Then play pogs cause we be the coolest.
Babe.
I've done it.
Honestly my voice is fucking angelic. You lucky sod. Now stop reading my posts and hurry up and listen."
New custom ringtone found. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...to avoid detection of recent erection misdirection and indiscretion.
Also I really love this and I think I might make a song out of it.
Maybe a rap.
Remember when you have to hear me sing/rap it to you later.
You've brought it on yourself.
Oh I love a little bit of random sing songy nonsense, so bring it.
We could even have a rap battle.
Probably be more of a rhyme scuffle.
Alliterative duel.
Then play pogs cause we be the coolest.
Babe.
I've done it.
Honestly my voice is fucking angelic. You lucky sod. Now stop reading my posts and hurry up and listen."
Please tell me you’ve done it Wham rap style! |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"...to avoid detection of recent erection misdirection and indiscretion.
Also I really love this and I think I might make a song out of it.
Maybe a rap.
Remember when you have to hear me sing/rap it to you later.
You've brought it on yourself.
Oh I love a little bit of random sing songy nonsense, so bring it.
We could even have a rap battle.
Probably be more of a rhyme scuffle.
Alliterative duel.
Then play pogs cause we be the coolest.
Babe.
I've done it.
Honestly my voice is fucking angelic. You lucky sod. Now stop reading my posts and hurry up and listen.
Please tell me you’ve done it Wham rap style! "
Oh do you want me to sing it to you in the aforementioned style?
Prepare your eardrums.
I'm honestly a musical genius. Should be writing for the West End with this talent.
(Yeah I'm joining you in wine) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP what is your answer to the question? Keep it short and sweet
See; I'd have given an answer. But you asked the impossible. I don't really do short and sweet alas.
Anyway, it's far more interesting reading other views, I didn't want to tilt the chat in a certain direction because I'd typed how I viewed it.
Also, I'm trying really hard to not be as predictable in this reply but it's long and waffling so I failed*.
*sorry M."
Was my answer predictable? Waffle for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...to avoid detection of recent erection misdirection and indiscretion.
Also I really love this and I think I might make a song out of it.
Maybe a rap.
Remember when you have to hear me sing/rap it to you later.
You've brought it on yourself.
Oh I love a little bit of random sing songy nonsense, so bring it.
We could even have a rap battle.
Probably be more of a rhyme scuffle.
Alliterative duel.
Then play pogs cause we be the coolest.
Babe.
I've done it.
Honestly my voice is fucking angelic. You lucky sod. Now stop reading my posts and hurry up and listen.
Please tell me you’ve done it Wham rap style!
Oh do you want me to sing it to you in the aforementioned style?
Prepare your eardrums.
I'm honestly a musical genius. Should be writing for the West End with this talent.
(Yeah I'm joining you in wine)"
Umm yeah I want to hear that rap! We can take tips from our West end musical genius in two weeks! |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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"So great hive mind of wankers.
How do you feel about meeting someone/a couple the same night/next day after they've met someone else? Is it a big no, a don't care or a fuck yeah? "
It really depends on who I’m meeting, who they met and what I’m comfortable with in our relationship.
I’m not sure if compersion is the word I’m looking for here but I’d love to have the kind of relationship with whoever I’m meeting where I’m happy for them and whoever they just met and I get to share that afterglow with them…but alas I’m still a swingle loner and don’t see that changing anytime soon so I’ll just live vicariously through you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So great hive mind of wankers.
How do you feel about meeting someone/a couple the same night/next day after they've met someone else? Is it a big no, a don't care or a fuck yeah?
It really depends on who I’m meeting, who they met and what I’m comfortable with in our relationship.
I’m not sure if compersion is the word I’m looking for here but I’d love to have the kind of relationship with whoever I’m meeting where I’m happy for them and whoever they just met and I get to share that afterglow with them…but alas I’m still a swingle loner and don’t see that changing anytime soon so I’ll just live vicariously through you "
I’m with you on that.. would love to have an established connection where compersion could happen. Until then it’s a bit of a hive of insecurity! |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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"So great hive mind of wankers.
How do you feel about meeting someone/a couple the same night/next day after they've met someone else? Is it a big no, a don't care or a fuck yeah?
It really depends on who I’m meeting, who they met and what I’m comfortable with in our relationship.
I’m not sure if compersion is the word I’m looking for here but I’d love to have the kind of relationship with whoever I’m meeting where I’m happy for them and whoever they just met and I get to share that afterglow with them…but alas I’m still a swingle loner and don’t see that changing anytime soon so I’ll just live vicariously through you
I’m with you on that.. would love to have an established connection where compersion could happen. Until then it’s a bit of a hive of insecurity!"
Let’s just watch Meli instead and have compersion then |
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By *humper.Man
over a year ago
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I'd want the details... likely a turn on more than a turn off. Challenge accepted. In the past I've had a last minute meet opportunity on the Friday where I'd had something planned in advance for the Saturday. To be fair nither couple minded and both appreciated the honesty, luckily. |
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over a year ago
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"So great hive mind of wankers.
How do you feel about meeting someone/a couple the same night/next day after they've met someone else? Is it a big no, a don't care or a fuck yeah?
It really depends on who I’m meeting, who they met and what I’m comfortable with in our relationship.
I’m not sure if compersion is the word I’m looking for here but I’d love to have the kind of relationship with whoever I’m meeting where I’m happy for them and whoever they just met and I get to share that afterglow with them…but alas I’m still a swingle loner and don’t see that changing anytime soon so I’ll just live vicariously through you
I’m with you on that.. would love to have an established connection where compersion could happen. Until then it’s a bit of a hive of insecurity!
Let’s just watch Meli instead and have compersion then "
Sold. Two weeks from today yeah?
P.S VG I'm so excited, we should have a singalong with the West End Boi! |
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"Nope, not a chance.
I know there's no exclusivity but I don't ever want to be one of many. And once I feel like another one of many they are saying and doing the same stuff with, I'm done.
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This, hate it so much.
Takes a great experience and burns it to the ground |
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"I don't meet often and prefer to only meet people on a similar journey.
I've no issue with how often others want to meet but I would rather not be just a number. "
Exactly, feeling like 'just a number' dilutes the connection and makes the intimacy seem false and too superficial for me to be aroused by it. Makes me doubt every word, every gesture, every compliment. I imagine them with others saying and doing the same. I can't quite delete thoughts of them being with me and having their schedule of past and future meets running through their head. Of leaving our meet and whipping out their phone to hop on fab and check up on their listings.
But that's the cynical non-swinger in me. The one with her eyes wide open and her heart locked up tight. The one who thinks people serve their own needs on here. The one who doesn't trust.  |
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"So great hive mind of wankers.
How do you feel about meeting someone/a couple the same night/next day after they've met someone else? Is it a big no, a don't care or a fuck yeah?
It really depends on who I’m meeting, who they met and what I’m comfortable with in our relationship.
I’m not sure if compersion is the word I’m looking for here but I’d love to have the kind of relationship with whoever I’m meeting where I’m happy for them and whoever they just met and I get to share that afterglow with them…but alas I’m still a swingle loner and don’t see that changing anytime soon so I’ll just live vicariously through you "
And yes, the who is the kicker. I am niche & super super hard to match chemistry with and if they have been with someone I find unpleasant it'd be impossible to see past imaginings of them together to fuck them myself.
Takes a while for my ocd to reset and the ick to fade. |
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"I don't meet often and prefer to only meet people on a similar journey.
I've no issue with how often others want to meet but I would rather not be just a number.
Exactly, feeling like 'just a number' dilutes the connection and makes the intimacy seem false and too superficial for me to be aroused by it. Makes me doubt every word, every gesture, every compliment. I imagine them with others saying and doing the same. I can't quite delete thoughts of them being with me and having their schedule of past and future meets running through their head. Of leaving our meet and whipping out their phone to hop on fab and check up on their listings.
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This. Yes. So much this.
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"I don't meet often and prefer to only meet people on a similar journey.
I've no issue with how often others want to meet but I would rather not be just a number.
Exactly, feeling like 'just a number' dilutes the connection and makes the intimacy seem false and too superficial for me to be aroused by it. Makes me doubt every word, every gesture, every compliment. I imagine them with others saying and doing the same. I can't quite delete thoughts of them being with me and having their schedule of past and future meets running through their head. Of leaving our meet and whipping out their phone to hop on fab and check up on their listings.
But that's the cynical non-swinger in me. The one with her eyes wide open and her heart locked up tight. The one who thinks people serve their own needs on here. The one who doesn't trust. "
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I suppose ultimately it depends on what your motivation for being on Fab is.
If you are just here for casual fun, it is not likely to be much of an issue.
Conversely, if you see it as a specialized relationship site then it is going to be much more significant. |
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