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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Plenty of conventionally attractive men are convicted of sexual harassment.
"People consent to things with people they find attractive" is not the injustice you think it is. |
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By *esthetic21 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham/Bristol |
"Harassment is harassment.
Good looking or not.
If you’ve been accused there may be a rain other than that you think they’re too picky. "
lol why are you assuming I've been accused? I don't message anyone on here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can literally crack on to anyone and it's all good. If you're ugly it's harassment.  "
What now ? You can be good looking but have a shit personality…… it’s not all about looks ! |
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"You can literally crack on to anyone and it's all good. If you're ugly it's harassment.
What now ? You can be good looking but have a shit personality…… it’s not all about looks !"
I rely on my personality lol  |
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By *esthetic21 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham/Bristol |
"Harrassment is when the person being harrassed asks you to stop and you don't. What you look like is irrelevant."
yes but most of the time if you fancy some fond them attractive you're not gonna ask them to stop are you only someone you don't find attractive. Then obviously you can find out whether they're a dickhead later |
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I get what you're saying. Perception is a strange thing.
Hot guy goes up to girl at the bar, ooh this hot guy started to chat to me at the bar.
Ugly guy, ugh this creep just tried to talk to me at the bar.
Of course, actual harassment is totally another category and should not be tolerated. |
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"Harrassment is when the person being harrassed asks you to stop and you don't. What you look like is irrelevant.yes but most of the time if you fancy some fond them attractive you're not gonna ask them to stop are you only someone you don't find attractive. Then obviously you can find out whether they're a dickhead later "
So what's your point? |
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By *esthetic21 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham/Bristol |
"Harrassment is when the person being harrassed asks you to stop and you don't. What you look like is irrelevant.yes but most of the time if you fancy some fond them attractive you're not gonna ask them to stop are you only someone you don't find attractive. Then obviously you can find out whether they're a dickhead later
So what's your point? "
my point is if you're considered not attractive you're limited to who you can talk to even if you have the most amazing personality because they won't see past your ugly face initially  |
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By *esthetic21 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham/Bristol |
"I get what you're saying. Perception is a strange thing.
Hot guy goes up to girl at the bar, ooh this hot guy started to chat to me at the bar.
Ugly guy, ugh this creep just tried to talk to me at the bar.
Of course, actual harassment is totally another category and should not be tolerated. "
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"I get what you're saying. Perception is a strange thing.
Hot guy goes up to girl at the bar, ooh this hot guy started to chat to me at the bar.
Ugly guy, ugh this creep just tried to talk to me at the bar.
Of course, actual harassment is totally another category and should not be tolerated. "
If you don't get her attention and interest almost instantly , don’t carry on. If you don’t and keep trying then you’re creepy / offensive |
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"Harrassment is when the person being harrassed asks you to stop and you don't. What you look like is irrelevant.yes but most of the time if you fancy some fond them attractive you're not gonna ask them to stop are you only someone you don't find attractive. Then obviously you can find out whether they're a dickhead later
So what's your point? my point is if you're considered not attractive you're limited to who you can talk to even if you have the most amazing personality because they won't see past your ugly face initially "
And what I'm trying to find out is why you think this has anything to do with harrassment.
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
"You can literally crack on to anyone and it's all good. If you're ugly it's harassment. "
I'm pretty sure that's not true.
In an appropriate setting people will potentially respond more positively if they find you attractive. But harassment abd creepy behaviour is never goibg to be defined by looks |
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I've heard this saying a fair bit. To me personally it sounds like, it's placing the blame on women for harassment as we change the goalposts as we're so fickle.
This is a sweeping generalisation as it's typical men I've heard this phrase from. |
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This is true to a point. Its especially true when the guy is older. But normally it's about degree. Anyone can harass but flirting is more likely to be unwanted if there is no sexual attraction.
In the end is all about reading the signals - the real signals not what you want to read. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pretty privilege is a real thing. And attractive men definitely get off easier than those who aren't good looking. I'm not sure if they'd get away with harassment though. I don't think many women would be happy if a stranger groped them without consent even if he was good looking. |
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Attraction is a much more complex dynamic than just looks but I take the point that across a crowded room Johhny Depp has got more chance than Quasimodo. But within a minute or so that initial attraction can be shattered and the plain guy with the sense of humour and couldn’t give a shit attitude wins again. If it was about looks id be a 57 year old virgin!!  |
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Some chaps are so bloody awful at talking to women. They aren't a different species, OP! Approach by all means, be friendly, funny, flirty. But if you don't have enthusiastic consent to carry on, back off.
Why is it always men who claim to 'have the best personality' who end up coming across like an incel frog trawling for Princesses to kiss? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some chaps are so bloody awful at talking to women. They aren't a different species, OP! Approach by all means, be friendly, funny, flirty. But if you don't have enthusiastic consent to carry on, back off.
Why is it always men who claim to 'have the best personality' who end up coming across like an incel frog trawling for Princesses to kiss?"
Anyone who has to claim or advertise those traits, usually isn't whatever they claim.
Character speaks for itself through action and conduct.
BTW I am totes alpha super duper amazeballs. |
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"I'm a highly attractive male but I'd never harass anyone; the rule is such a simple one, and it applies to everyone; having good looks doesn't make you exempt... No, means no!"
Out of curiosity, what makes you say you’re a highly attractive male? |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
Not quite, though I know what you are getting at.
If we find somebody attractive, we generally make exceptions to a few things that would not be welcome without that attraction. A certain comment or joke will be viewed more favourable if its said by those we find attractive,than those we don't.
Everyone does it, those who are "attractive" themselves, and those who are not will have dismissed or given exceptions based upon if they found somebody attractive.
It is not a get out of jail free card, but it certainly helps navigate around a few interactions that not everyone would be able to do. Crossing a line too much will make anyone go from being best looking on the planet to scum of the earth easily - though there will always be some that will fanboy/fangirl over those that are good looking regardless of what they do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pretty privilege is a real thing. And attractive men definitely get off easier than those who aren't good looking. I'm not sure if they'd get away with harassment though. I don't think many women would be happy if a stranger groped them without consent even if he was good looking. "
Lady most definitely not but a SLUT, I don’t think she’d be too bothered if an attractive man were to grope her arse cheeks etc...! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can literally crack on to anyone and it's all good. If you're ugly it's harassment. "
Not true Ive awful luck all with women all the same so explain that ! Ha! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some even want to pay me to give me a bj!!! 
This sounds like that classic Onion headline: 'Why do all these gays keep sucking my cock?'"
because he needed the money to keep up with inflation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can literally crack on to anyone and it's all good. If you're ugly it's harassment.
What now ? You can be good looking but have a shit personality…… it’s not all about looks !"
I’m in |
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