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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey guys and gals hope you are all doing well and keeping safe  ..
I was just curious about something, I read a thread yesterday about confidence and I was just wonder A) how many of you on here focus on looks and body types? And B) what is your preferred body type?
Second question would be are there people on here who have actively made an effort to improve their appearance purely for this site to boost their confidence?
I am going back to the gym and I personally want to lose my weight and potentially have a flat tummy maybe a 6 pack but that’s going to take some work! Partly I want to do this because I want to improve my appearance for myself and secondly I have it in my head that my appearance is more of a turn off than a turn on and could be hindering my chances on the site…
Really interested to hear your opinions and thoughts… also please be respectful to all and also be respect to peoples opinions on all shapes and sizes … everyone has different preferences but we are all still beautiful human beings
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do have a preferred body type, but I also have a preferred personality. They go hand I hand, the personality being the key. You could have the body/looks to die for, but if we don’t click or I don’t like their personality then it doesn’t go further… |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I do have a preferred body type, but I also have a preferred personality. They go hand I hand, the personality being the key. You could have the body/looks to die for, but if we don’t click or I don’t like their personality then it doesn’t go further…"
Yea it makes sense what you say, my thought would be how many people on here are here purely for the sex and thrill side of it? So personality isn’t a major factor… they just find someone they think is attractive they meet fuck and then never speak again! Is it like a 50/50 ratio?? I would say there are a larger amount on here purely for the sex? What you think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't change anything for this site. I am who I am, I'm looking for people who are attracted to who I am.
I am working on improving my body for my health.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't change anything for this site. I am who I am, I'm looking for people who are attracted to who I am.
I am working on improving my body for my health.
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Glad to hear you are doing it for your health 100% wish you all the best with it .. like in my original post I am also doing it for my health just very curious what peoples opinions are as I also want to do to it as I feel my weight is a hindrance |
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If you’re doing it for yourself good on you. If you’re happy with yourself you will be more confident and you then won’t feel the need to change to attract others. You will be “this is me, I like me, take me or leave me”.
That’s how I see it anyway 
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't worry to much like the other guy who commented its more about personality that a flat tummy although that does help in pics  "
And there is part of my point the image is what firstly draws people in (or some people not all) so is my weight hindering my appearance and chances of meeting? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you’re doing it for yourself good on you. If you’re happy with yourself you will be more confident and you then won’t feel the need to change to attract others. You will be “this is me, I like me, take me or leave me”.
That’s how I see it anyway
Good luck "
I think reading this it sums it up perfectly! I don’t feel like “me” at the minute and it’s effecting my confidence and view of how I think people perceive me physically… always asking “am I attractive” so getting to a point where like u say “I am me take it or leave it” is where I want to be..
Best of luck to you also |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Don't worry to much like the other guy who commented its more about personality that a flat tummy although that does help in pics
And there is part of my point the image is what firstly draws people in (or some people not all) so is my weight hindering my appearance and chances of meeting?"
no it isn't certainly in the pics you have showing |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I shave my beard depending on which way the forum votes on facial hair.
Losing weight is just a by product of being ill and not through active exercise  "
Firstly I’m very sorry hear you are ill and it’s causing you to lose weight because of it  .. hope it’s nothing to serious?
Secondly it’s interesting you adjust your appearance based on the mood of the site… again makes me more curious how many people adjust their appearance for the site/people on it
Take care and stay safe |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't worry to much like the other guy who commented its more about personality that a flat tummy although that does help in pics
And there is part of my point the image is what firstly draws people in (or some people not all) so is my weight hindering my appearance and chances of meeting?no it isn't certainly in the pics you have showing "
I have no full body pics again because of my weight, maybe one day I can upload a full body pic |
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"If you’re doing it for yourself good on you. If you’re happy with yourself you will be more confident and you then won’t feel the need to change to attract others. You will be “this is me, I like me, take me or leave me”.
That’s how I see it anyway
Good luck
I think reading this it sums it up perfectly! I don’t feel like “me” at the minute and it’s effecting my confidence and view of how I think people perceive me physically… always asking “am I attractive” so getting to a point where like u say “I am me take it or leave it” is where I want to be..
Best of luck to you also "
I’m there already. Maybe upload some full length pics though. You’ve only got to read the threads on here to see most women aren’t looking for the perfect gym fit bod. |
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"I shave my beard depending on which way the forum votes on facial hair.
Losing weight is just a by product of being ill and not through active exercise "
I have a bearded and a clean shaven pic that I’ll share with people depending on if they state a preference in their profile - my beard is short when I have one so can turn up to a meet either way pretty easily! |
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There's things that are nice about all kinds of body types. No one preference.
I've been in different shape over the years, very low fat percentage gym fit to slim and feminine and to a little more weight on. I usually fall to the gym when my mental health isn't great, even if everything around you is out of control the one thing you have complete control over is your own body. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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For me a facial attraction has to be there - I am looking for a particular kind of face far more so than a body. I have preferences, of course, I do but it is the interesting personality, intelligence, confidence, and authenticity that outweigh by far any six pack, biceps or overdeveloped traps. xx |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I have no preferred body type when it comes to men. Their humour, personality and facial looks are what does it for me.
I have recently lost two and a half stone but that wasn’t for Fab but due to health reasons post Covid. I have plenty more weight to lose, and I’m not looking to meet (for other reasons), but when I did I always had a social first and if I didn’t meet expectations then they didn’t need to meet me again. And vice versa. No biggie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been told I look better with weight on, more fem than when I was skinny. Everyone sees things differently. Tbh I prefer having curves and if someone doesn’t like it that’s cool it doesn’t make me less of a person it just means I’m not their type. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do exercise to maintain a health mind /body .. It wouldn't occur to me to change for someone else
In terms of what attracts me - i prefer kink, so really for me it's more about the mind and their personality... I've never slathered over traditional hot guys  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't change anything for this site. I am who I am, I'm looking for people who are attracted to who I am.
I am working on improving my body for my health.
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Agree entirely
Each to their own, but as someone else here said, the ideal mix of personality and physical attraction wins every time, with personality being most omportant |
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"If you’re doing it for yourself good on you. If you’re happy with yourself you will be more confident and you then won’t feel the need to change to attract others. You will be “this is me, I like me, take me or leave me”.
That’s how I see it anyway
Good luck "
This is a great attitude to have, and I am totally comfortable rocking it in clubs where you can gauge peoples interest easily, it is a little harder for me on here though.
OP I would actually say I'd be less inclined to interact with the "gym fit" people as I can find them a bit intimidating. Lots of my friends have said the same. If you want to change, do it for you, not randos on fab. However, as with most things in life, there are exceptions where a fantastic personality has put me at ease.
The forums are a great way to stand out because they allow people to see your views, sense of humour, shared interests ect rather than just a profile pic.
I'm much more interested in personality than body type, and the most important photo to me will always be a face pic because I'm a sucker for a nice smile.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A common theme I am getting is being confident in your own skin and with your own look is key, so maybe just achieve my own personal goals and then the confidence will shine through…
I hope I’m not sounding stupid, I’m just trying to find the right balance for me but also I want to please others in the way that it’s about give and take if that makes sense? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do have a preferred body type, but I also have a preferred personality. They go hand I hand, the personality being the key. You could have the body/looks to die for, but if we don’t click or I don’t like their personality then it doesn’t go further…
Yea it makes sense what you say, my thought would be how many people on here are here purely for the sex and thrill side of it? So personality isn’t a major factor… they just find someone they think is attractive they meet fuck and then never speak again! Is it like a 50/50 ratio?? I would say there are a larger amount on here purely for the sex? What you think? "
I personally wouldn’t say there are more people on here purely for the sex. There are lots of factors in making the choice to meet someone. A lot of people become friends platonically and more.
Saying that well done on trying to improve yourself, whatever that may be - Do it for yourself. I don’t go to the gym because I think it helps meeting people, no - I go because I love it, training for over ten years before I was swinging. It’s who I am and what I do.
Whatever changes you make do it for yourself remember that. Because people either like you or they don’t.
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I focus on looks and body type. My preference is for slim to rugby build men, taller than me (not difficult), attractive *to me*. I also need to like them on at least a superficial level
Mr N prefers slim to average women, also attractive *to him* and he too needs to like them . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I focus on looks and body type. My preference is for slim to rugby build men, taller than me (not difficult), attractive *to me*. I also need to like them on at least a superficial level
Mr N prefers slim to average women, also attractive *to him* and he too needs to like them ."
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"I focus on looks and body type. My preference is for slim to rugby build men, taller than me (not difficult), attractive *to me*. I also need to like them on at least a superficial level
Mr N prefers slim to average women, also attractive *to him* and he too needs to like them .
Admin, if you’re reading this, we NEED a Heartbroken emoji "
Why Picklepops? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I focus on looks and body type. My preference is for slim to rugby build men, taller than me (not difficult), attractive *to me*. I also need to like them on at least a superficial level
Mr N prefers slim to average women, also attractive *to him* and he too needs to like them .
Admin, if you’re reading this, we NEED a Heartbroken emoji
Why Picklepops? "
Slim to rugby build!!!
Do you make exceptions?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I focus on looks and body type. My preference is for slim to rugby build men, taller than me (not difficult), attractive *to me*. I also need to like them on at least a superficial level
Mr N prefers slim to average women, also attractive *to him* and he too needs to like them .
Admin, if you’re reading this, we NEED a Heartbroken emoji
Why Picklepops?
Slim to rugby build!!!
Do you make exceptions? "
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Picklepops is my favourite nickname so far  |
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I look at the looks of the people on profiles, for sure, I think you're lying if you don't. But I've never been to the gym to improve my looks, I think that's not sustainable motivation. I look at my gym numbers and try and improve on them e.g. how much I squat etc. |
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"I focus on looks and body type. My preference is for slim to rugby build men, taller than me (not difficult), attractive *to me*. I also need to like them on at least a superficial level
Mr N prefers slim to average women, also attractive *to him* and he too needs to like them .
Admin, if you’re reading this, we NEED a Heartbroken emoji
Why Picklepops?
Slim to rugby build!!!
Do you make exceptions?
Side note:
Picklepops is my favourite nickname so far "
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