FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > Affairs
Affairs
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
How do people feel about cheating and being a naughty little shit without their partner being aware weather you are actually doing it yourself or meeting those who are being unfaithful ? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Cheating is wrong no mater if it’s man woman couples
And yes cheating couples are a thing on here ie meeting a person that one hafe hasn’t agreed to
Or meeting when one hafe has sed no
Or tv/ts
Cheating is cheating
I always ask this question and never do I ever get a answer
How would you feel if you found your other hafe on here and had banged hafe the site behind your back
As if a woman isn’t fussy she could easily get that done in the first 6-8 months
If you want to have a open relationship sit down and chat with them see how they feel about it if they want to then join as a couple and singles
If they don’t then you have to make a choices
Stay with them and don’t cheat or brake up with them and let them movie on to someone who cares anuff about them they aren’t going to hurt them |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Nobody's business apart from those involved.
"
Technically not true as if your on here meeting then
Your make it the person who your meeting business by getting them involved 99% off the time unaware
Witch is wrong as people don’t need to be unaware bring in to thinks that could potentially blow shit all over they door step or work life or something |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Nobody's business apart from those involved.
Technically not true as if your on here meeting then
Your make it the person who your meeting business by getting them involved 99% off the time unaware
Witch is wrong as people don’t need to be unaware bring in to thinks that could potentially blow shit all over they door step or work life or something "
I can only speak for myself and I would make them aware, I must be in the 1%, but I haven't done the research to validate the accuracy of your numbers.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Nobody's business apart from those involved.
Technically not true as if your on here meeting then
Your make it the person who your meeting business by getting them involved 99% off the time unaware
Witch is wrong as people don’t need to be unaware bring in to thinks that could potentially blow shit all over they door step or work life or something
I can only speak for myself and I would make them aware, I must be in the 1%, but I haven't done the research to validate the accuracy of your numbers.
"
Accuracy off my number comes from personal experience
Ie guy anwing his phone mid meet and proceed to have a full on conversation while smashing my doors in
Or other guys who just let it ring out and then say look I can only stay for a quick bj that was the wife calling
Or guys who bang and then get up to leave and I am like why don’t you stay a little and we go again
Emmm got to get back to the wife you know how it is
The amount off times I have found out after the fact is unreal and not nice |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Nobody's business apart from those involved.
"
It becomes a third partys business if they are not aware the person they are meeting is cheating ! I personally will not participate in helping someone cheat on their partner x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"Nobody's business apart from those involved.
It becomes a third partys business if they are not aware the person they are meeting is cheating ! I personally will not participate in helping someone cheat on their partner x"
This ,I admire the ones who are upfront about it .
In real life years ago, I met someone who claimed to be single ,months later I get a call from his distraught partner (she found texts from me on his phone ).
She was so hurt and angry & so was I since I had no idea she existed.
That's why I never knowingly meet someone who is married /attached.
Plus I'm half a couple and my partner's on here too,I'd hate it done to me. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Nobody’s business unless you’re meeting them. If they’re upfront about it then you can decide whether you want to meet them or not. It really is that simple.
The issues are if they lie about being single. Then it’s different. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"How do people feel about cheating and being a naughty little shit without their partner being aware weather you are actually doing it yourself or meeting those who are being unfaithful ?"
the weather is pretty shitty today and many women don't like guys who cheat on their partners but then their are many married women here doing the same, I'd say that your chances of getting meets would be diminished but still possible and at clubs chances won't change  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
As yet to meet up with anyone,but the reason for wanting to is that my lovely wife has lost all her libido and says that part of her life is over.
She is a couple of years older.
I am missing the sex to be honest.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Nobody's business apart from those involved.
It becomes a third partys business if they are not aware the person they are meeting is cheating ! I personally will not participate in helping someone cheat on their partner x
This ,I admire the ones who are upfront about it .
In real life years ago, I met someone who claimed to be single ,months later I get a call from his distraught partner (she found texts from me on his phone ).
She was so hurt and angry & so was I since I had no idea she existed.
That's why I never knowingly meet someone who is married /attached.
Plus I'm half a couple and my partner's on here too,I'd hate it done to me."
Yes had it done to me many many moons ago by a so called friend ! And the worst part was what seemed like every one else knowing x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I remember when cheating was easy.
Game codes, game genies etc.
These days cheating gets you a vac ban and sod losing my steam account  "
Imagine getting locked out of your Steam library investment! 
LvM |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I would never meet anyone who is married and playing around without their partners knowledge. I will never be party to potentially destroying someone else's life just because the man needs/wants to get his dick wet.
Guess some people just have morals...some don't x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"I remember when cheating was easy.
Game codes, game genies etc.
These days cheating gets you a vac ban and sod losing my steam account
Imagine getting locked out of your Steam library investment!
LvM"
The stuff of nightmares.
Sex can come and go, but some of those achievements took years to get! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Nobody’s business unless you’re meeting them. If they’re upfront about it then you can decide whether you want to meet them or not. It really is that simple.
The issues are if they lie about being single. Then it’s different. "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"How do people feel about cheating and being a naughty little shit without their partner being aware weather you are actually doing it yourself or meeting those who are being unfaithful ?"
I'm indifferent to the people doing it but we won't knowingly meet people who are. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Nobody’s business unless you’re meeting them. If they’re upfront about it then you can decide whether you want to meet them or not. It really is that simple.
The issues are if they lie about being single. Then it’s different. "
Couldn't of put it better myself Nora.
Just be honest guys! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Just no! As someone whose husband (now ex) cheated on her, it is the worst. I would never knowingly be party to cheating... If you're unhappy, get out.. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Nobody's business apart from those involved.
"
That's assuming he's been honest about it to me, I've been on the end of I've only found out, because of a "my wife's phoning" interruption whilst we are having sex, feels very shitty indeed... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Nobody's business apart from those involved.
That's assuming he's been honest about it to me, I've been on the end of I've only found out, because of a "my wife's phoning" interruption whilst we are having sex, feels very shitty indeed..."
^^^ This or similar. Fortunately we only met for a coffee and something did not quite feel right so never met again.
Nearly a year later a phone call from a very upset wife asking why my number was on his mobile. While I was able to say truthfully that we only had a coffee, she talked about a string of cheating lasting several years.
I don't judge anybody - but I want it to be MY choice whether I go with somebody or not based on the truth. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"My opinion is that the third party, male or female, knowingly becoming involved with a married man/woman is just as bad as the 'cheater'"
Even those being truthful are "bad" ?
I don't opine on others choices, live and let live |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Glad I’m upfront about being married
Me too , but it seems to some people here we would be better off drowning puppies, less of a crime  "
Hope I didn't make u feel this way! As I honestly don't judge anyone! But I would hate to b a part of doing this to another woman! And certainly wouldn't judge those that meet with married/atatched as we all have to make our own informed decisions! X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"My opinion is that the third party, male or female, knowingly becoming involved with a married man/woman is just as bad as the 'cheater'
Even those being truthful are "bad" ?
I don't opine on others choices, live and let live"
I believe there are two issues here and they often get confused.
Personally, I want to know if the person I am meeting with the potential for intimacy, is unattached as I do not want to knowingly be part of any deception.
If somebody lies to me about their status, they have no chance of meeting let alone intimacy.
That does not mean I judge them or anybody who does meet them. I don't feel I have the right to moralise and judge over other people's lives, values and actions.
And that is really just about me, life life, my values. Nothing more, nothing less |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"My opinion is that the third party, male or female, knowingly becoming involved with a married man/woman is just as bad as the 'cheater'
Even those being truthful are "bad" ?
I don't opine on others choices, live and let live"
Does your wife know your here?
Mr |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"My opinion is that the third party, male or female, knowingly becoming involved with a married man/woman is just as bad as the 'cheater'
Even those being truthful are "bad" ?
I don't opine on others choices, live and let live"
What, being truthful about the fact you are cheating? Makes no difference, just as bad in my opinion |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"My opinion is that the third party, male or female, knowingly becoming involved with a married man/woman is just as bad as the 'cheater'
Even those being truthful are "bad" ?
I don't opine on others choices, live and let live"
So just get on with on it? Baffles me why people care so much what people think about what they do, especially strangers on the internet. I care not one jot how other people live their lives if I’m not involved in it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"My opinion is that the third party, male or female, knowingly becoming involved with a married man/woman is just as bad as the 'cheater'
Even those being truthful are "bad" ?
I don't opine on others choices, live and let live"
They can try and be “truthful” to their partner first.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"My opinion is that the third party, male or female, knowingly becoming involved with a married man/woman is just as bad as the 'cheater'
Even those being truthful are "bad" ?
I don't opine on others choices, live and let live
So just get on with on it? Baffles me why people care so much what people think about what they do, especially strangers on the internet. I care not one jot how other people live their lives if I’m not involved in it. "
I don't care, i'm just giving my opinion on it  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"My opinion is that the third party, male or female, knowingly becoming involved with a married man/woman is just as bad as the 'cheater'
Even those being truthful are "bad" ?
I don't opine on others choices, live and let live
So just get on with on it? Baffles me why people care so much what people think about what they do, especially strangers on the internet. I care not one jot how other people live their lives if I’m not involved in it.
I don't care, i'm just giving my opinion on it "
I’m more meaning the people who post these threads for validation. I’m always up for giving my opinions out  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"My opinion is that the third party, male or female, knowingly becoming involved with a married man/woman is just as bad as the 'cheater'
Even those being truthful are "bad" ?
I don't opine on others choices, live and let live
So just get on with on it? Baffles me why people care so much what people think about what they do, especially strangers on the internet. I care not one jot how other people live their lives if I’m not involved in it.
I don't care, i'm just giving my opinion on it
I’m more meaning the people who post these threads for validation. I’m always up for giving my opinions out "
Ah, got you |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"My opinion is that the third party, male or female, knowingly becoming involved with a married man/woman is just as bad as the 'cheater'
Even those being truthful are "bad" ?
I don't opine on others choices, live and let live
I believe there are two issues here and they often get confused.
Personally, I want to know if the person I am meeting with the potential for intimacy, is unattached as I do not want to knowingly be part of any deception.
If somebody lies to me about their status, they have no chance of meeting let alone intimacy.
That does not mean I judge them or anybody who does meet them. I don't feel I have the right to moralise and judge over other people's lives, values and actions.
And that is really just about me, life life, my values. Nothing more, nothing less "
Yes same! All our values/morals are different ! X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"As yet to meet up with anyone,but the reason for wanting to is that my lovely wife has lost all her libido and says that part of her life is over.
She is a couple of years older.
I am missing the sex to be honest.
"
Thousands of people in your position, men and women. What does she say when you tell her that you'd like that part of YOUR life not to be over? Does she think it's fair for you to be condemned to a life of celibacy? Or is she happy for you to go out and have your needs met? If she allows it then it's not cheating. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I'm married and i love my wife, but she's not interested in sex what so ever. I on the other hand highly sexed, but am i supposed to do go without and .wank ."
Lol, well yes.. you made a vow! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
This smug proud attitude to cheating makes me sick. Soooo bored of hearing about the legions of blokes with "complicated circumstances".
This makes it sound like abuse or assault is taking place (which if it is, that is truly awful and I hope they can break free). Usually however, it seems to mean they're just bone idle and would rather have their cake and eat it. - Xeno |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
people can go off sex for various reasons and mine did years ago and then I found out why. She had gone off sex with me but not her lover and that is a pointer in many cases especially sub 70 age group.
I've found older women are more forward letting themselves go when being fucked and most likley to ask younger guys for a fuck as that is what happend to me when i was younger and fucked married women/OH.
My wife, as she got older over 35-ish it was easier for her to open her legs full to be sucked/licked/dildoed etc in daylight or lights on |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
If all the ones on this thread who are totally against cheaters found out half way through a sex session that the other person was a cheater I can guarantee they’d want to finish the job off before they vented their ‘frustration’ |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I would never meet anyone who is married and playing around without their partners knowledge. I will never be party to potentially destroying someone else's life just because the man needs/wants to get his dick wet.
Guess some people just have morals...some don't x"
To be fair, everyone has morals. It's just that not everyone has the same morals as you. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *wesomeLolaCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough and Buckinghamshire |
"I'm married and i love my wife, but she's not interested in sex what so ever. I on the other hand highly sexed, but am i supposed to do go without and .wank .
Lol, well yes.. you made a vow! "
So did his wife. The vows don't go into specifics, but you might vaguely assume that "to love and to cherish" might occasionally include the physical act of lovemaking.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Man- I’m going to treat you like a servant all week and take no notice of your feelings or opinions then on Saturday night I’ll come home pissed and expect you to be my sexy whore.
Wife - I’m not in the mood.
Man - I’m highly sexed and she isn’t and so I deserve to be on FabSwingers.
Also men — deny the above. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I'm married and i love my wife, but she's not interested in sex what so ever. I on the other hand highly sexed, but am i supposed to do go without and .wank .
Lol, well yes.. you made a vow! "
Most traditional wedding vows would effectively prohibit swinging, so I'm not sure that's really all that relevant. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Man- I’m going to treat you like a servant all week and take no notice of your feelings or opinions then on Saturday night I’ll come home pissed and expect you to be my sexy whore.
Wife - I’m not in the mood.
Man - I’m highly sexed and she isn’t and so I deserve to be on FabSwingers.
Also men — deny the above. "
#allmen |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I'm married and i love my wife, but she's not interested in sex what so ever. I on the other hand highly sexed, but am i supposed to do go without and .wank .
Lol, well yes.. you made a vow!
Most traditional wedding vows would effectively prohibit swinging, so I'm not sure that's really all that relevant."
??
Perhaps, but surely it's all about being honest |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"How do people feel about cheating and being a naughty little shit without their partner being aware weather you are actually doing it yourself or meeting those who are being unfaithful ?"
I have sat in many mental health groups and listened to friends' and acquaintances' experiences of cheating.
Unfortunately, I've seen too much trauma caused by lies and truth withholding so it's a trigger for me and I won't engage in it for my own sanity, safety and security. That's my choice. I would never cheat and I would never knowingly be with a cheater.
What other people do is up to them as long as they don't involve me.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Oh this thread will bring the moral police out in force lol 
Hear the clippy cloppy of the highest high horses “Neiiiiiighhhhh” "
Their mighty steed is currently tied up outside the club whilst some married dude is up to his knackers in them. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Oh this thread will bring the moral police out in force lol
Hear the clippy cloppy of the highest high horses “Neiiiiiighhhhh”
Their mighty steed is currently tied up outside the club whilst some married dude is up to his knackers in them. "
I prefer a donkey |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Oh this thread will bring the moral police out in force lol
Hear the clippy cloppy of the highest high horses “Neiiiiiighhhhh”
Their mighty steed is currently tied up outside the club whilst some married dude is up to his knackers in them.
I prefer a donkey "
A little wonkey?  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"If all the ones on this thread who are totally against cheaters found out half way through a sex session that the other person was a cheater I can guarantee they’d want to finish the job off before they vented their ‘frustration’ "
Not me! Instant turn-off. Yes I've stopped midway before. Not due to cheating but them doing something else that turned me off.
Got up. Got dressed and demanded my uber and fucked off back to my own home.
It might be me but my neurodivergent brain gets turned off quickly...hence the low libido. I literally meet too many men who talk their way out of sex with me and then wonder why I'm not throwing my knickers at them. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Oh this thread will bring the moral police out in force lol
Hear the clippy cloppy of the highest high horses “Neiiiiiighhhhh”
Their mighty steed is currently tied up outside the club whilst some married dude is up to his knackers in them.
I prefer a donkey
A little wonkey? "
A wonkey donkey even better!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"If all the ones on this thread who are totally against cheaters found out half way through a sex session that the other person was a cheater I can guarantee they’d want to finish the job off before they vented their ‘frustration’ "
No I'd be on rogue traders |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Nobody's business apart from those involved.
Technically not true as if your on here meeting then
Your make it the person who your meeting business by getting them involved 99% off the time unaware
Witch is wrong as people don’t need to be unaware bring in to thinks that could potentially blow shit all over they door step or work life or something
I can only speak for myself and I would make them aware, I must be in the 1%, but I haven't done the research to validate the accuracy of your numbers.
Accuracy off my number comes from personal experience
Ie guy anwing his phone mid meet and proceed to have a full on conversation while smashing my doors in
Or other guys who just let it ring out and then say look I can only stay for a quick bj that was the wife calling
Or guys who bang and then get up to leave and I am like why don’t you stay a little and we go again
Emmm got to get back to the wife you know how it is
The amount off times I have found out after the fact is unreal and not nice "
I'm sorry they did that to you. It's truth-withholding and absolutely dishonest.
A lot of men think that people on this site do not care if they are married and there are quite a few of us that actually do care. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"If all the ones on this thread who are totally against cheaters found out half way through a sex session that the other person was a cheater I can guarantee they’d want to finish the job off before they vented their ‘frustration’
Not me! Instant turn-off. Yes I've stopped midway before. Not due to cheating but them doing something else that turned me off.
Got up. Got dressed and demanded my uber and fucked off back to my own home.
It might be me but my neurodivergent brain gets turned off quickly...hence the low libido. I literally meet too many men who talk their way out of sex with me and then wonder why I'm not throwing my knickers at them."
I "get" you, and I don't know if I am neurodivergent or not, possibly, but I can totally relate to being turned off completely by a seemingly small matter. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"This smug proud attitude to cheating makes me sick. Soooo bored of hearing about the legions of blokes with "complicated circumstances"."
There are plenty of women with that attitude too…
I wouldn’t knowingly meet someone who is cheating. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Nobody's business apart from those involved.
That's assuming he's been honest about it to me, I've been on the end of I've only found out, because of a "my wife's phoning" interruption whilst we are having sex, feels very shitty indeed...
^^^ This or similar. Fortunately we only met for a coffee and something did not quite feel right so never met again.
Nearly a year later a phone call from a very upset wife asking why my number was on his mobile. While I was able to say truthfully that we only had a coffee, she talked about a string of cheating lasting several years.
I don't judge anybody - but I want it to be MY choice whether I go with somebody or not based on the truth."
OMG poor woman. just cheating for years on end? Cake and eat it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"If all the ones on this thread who are totally against cheaters found out half way through a sex session that the other person was a cheater I can guarantee they’d want to finish the job off before they vented their ‘frustration’
Not me! Instant turn-off. Yes I've stopped midway before. Not due to cheating but them doing something else that turned me off.
Got up. Got dressed and demanded my uber and fucked off back to my own home.
It might be me but my neurodivergent brain gets turned off quickly...hence the low libido. I literally meet too many men who talk their way out of sex with me and then wonder why I'm not throwing my knickers at them."
You’d get your own Uber if that’s the case. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Nobody's business apart from those involved.
That's assuming he's been honest about it to me, I've been on the end of I've only found out, because of a "my wife's phoning" interruption whilst we are having sex, feels very shitty indeed...
^^^ This or similar. Fortunately we only met for a coffee and something did not quite feel right so never met again.
Nearly a year later a phone call from a very upset wife asking why my number was on his mobile. While I was able to say truthfully that we only had a coffee, she talked about a string of cheating lasting several years.
I don't judge anybody - but I want it to be MY choice whether I go with somebody or not based on the truth.
OMG poor woman. just cheating for years on end? Cake and eat it."
The details, the circumstances I wont go into - too horrific to mention. I also told her that I would not have met even for a coffee had I known. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"This smug proud attitude to cheating makes me sick. Soooo bored of hearing about the legions of blokes with "complicated circumstances".
There are plenty of women with that attitude too…
I wouldn’t knowingly meet someone who is cheating. "
I'm sure there are, I must be looking at the wrong accounts cos I never see them though  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"If all the ones on this thread who are totally against cheaters found out half way through a sex session that the other person was a cheater I can guarantee they’d want to finish the job off before they vented their ‘frustration’
Not me! Instant turn-off. Yes I've stopped midway before. Not due to cheating but them doing something else that turned me off.
Got up. Got dressed and demanded my uber and fucked off back to my own home.
It might be me but my neurodivergent brain gets turned off quickly...hence the low libido. I literally meet too many men who talk their way out of sex with me and then wonder why I'm not throwing my knickers at them.
You’d get your own Uber if that’s the case. "
Luckily, all the men have been gentlemen about it. I'm not a man's toy. I'm a human being to be treated with respect, honesty and consent.
No-one should continue having sex and be penalised and co-erced into sex if they are not comfortable and give their full consent without duress.
Consent can be withdrawn at any time. Before, during and after sex. I know for a fact that gentlemen ensure the safety of all women they interact with whether the interaction goes their way or not.
Acting uncouth because one did not get one's sexual way speaks volumes. Luckily I don't give second chances. Sex workers will go again as long as you pay. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I'm married and i love my wife, but she's not interested in sex what so ever. I on the other hand highly sexed, but am i supposed to do go without and .wank .
Lol, well yes.. you made a vow!
Most traditional wedding vows would effectively prohibit swinging, so I'm not sure that's really all that relevant.??
Perhaps, but surely it's all about being honest"
Which bit of the vows...because they are all different depending on who was your Officiant...loads of people have been writing their own vows for years now. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Oh this thread will bring the moral police out in force lol
Hear the clippy cloppy of the highest high horses “Neiiiiiighhhhh”
Their mighty steed is currently tied up outside the club whilst some married dude is up to his knackers in them. "
That's why certain clubs make you prove your identity and run a background check on you. Members only. Some clubs won't even let single men in anymore. Sad for the bi-men but at least they still have Bi-nights. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"If all the ones on this thread who are totally against cheaters found out half way through a sex session that the other person was a cheater I can guarantee they’d want to finish the job off before they vented their ‘frustration’
Not me! Instant turn-off. Yes I've stopped midway before. Not due to cheating but them doing something else that turned me off.
Got up. Got dressed and demanded my uber and fucked off back to my own home.
It might be me but my neurodivergent brain gets turned off quickly...hence the low libido. I literally meet too many men who talk their way out of sex with me and then wonder why I'm not throwing my knickers at them.
I "get" you, and I don't know if I am neurodivergent or not, possibly, but I can totally relate to being turned off completely by a seemingly small matter. "
Most men don't get it. I met a lovely bi-man and a lovely couple on here and they are totally honest, upfront, respectful, attentive, caring, and compassionate. And that's with their clothes on or off!
I want to be treated like a human being and I want to treat other people like human beings...not one-dimensional fuckholes and fuck sticks. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I'm married and i love my wife, but she's not interested in sex what so ever. I on the other hand highly sexed, but am i supposed to do go without and .wank ."
That is up to u? U must do what u think is right for u? Not up to anyone to judge u !But by doing so its only fair to let anyone u intend to meet for sex know so they can make an informed choice! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Also you're not being a 'naughty little shit' when you're cheating. That's making it seem like something trivial. "
For some people, that's how they get their kicks. It's a thrill to sneak around.
For some people cheating is trivial. One always hears, it doesn't mean anything because I don't love them.
Some people rationalize it. If they are not getting what they want at home, then that entitles them to not break ties but to step out secretly on the relationship and marriage.
Some do it as a one-upmanship on their partner.
I personally can't do it because I get flashbacks to when someone showed me the trauma caused by affairs. Literally, people walking around with PTSD from cheating. Partners, lovers, children, extended family, colleagues.
My brain won't let me partake and my brain won't trivialize it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Cheating is not swinging if you want to cheat try Ashley Maddison or the likes."
Unfortunately, they lump every sex, fetish, kink, adult, swinging, dating, sexual orientation site into a sexual free-for-all with no boundaries or limits.
The majority would never say these things in person.
As a woman, I wasn't raised to say no. Now I'm re-framing that to "everyone has a right to say no before, during and after." |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Another day another ‘isn’t cheating terrible’ thread.
In a perfect world of course people shouldn’t cheat. We are human and of course the world is far from perfect.
Let’s just be more ‘French’ about it.
Cinq et Sept anyone? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Cheating
Deceiving
Defrauding
Dishonesty
Conniving
Iveigling
Shyster
Imposter
Trickster
Charlatan
All synonyms of cheating.
What others do it up to them. I wouldn't want a partner that is any of the above.
It's not the shagging someone else..... it's the lie that is made of a relationship.
If you have to 'cheat' you have to 'lie' if you have to 'lie' you know it's wrong. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Wrong on every level of your in a relationship and one half wants in on swinging and the other doesn't then said swinging partner should go behind there backs and cheat it's cheating regardless of the situation |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Another day another ‘isn’t cheating terrible’ thread.
In a perfect world of course people shouldn’t cheat. We are human and of course the world is far from perfect.
Let’s just be more ‘French’ about it.
Cinq et Sept anyone? "
I think quite a few people have said they disagree with cheating and would not want to be part of it, me included.
That said, many really do not consider themselves the judge and jury on the matter.
I do not understand though, genuinely do not understand why married people seek out public/ forum opinion to be validated. For one it is unlikely to happen but more importantly, why would they need it? If they are happy with their actions, nothing else really matters? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Aren’t swinging married couples cheating on their vows??
No."
Depending on the vows they took, they are. If their vows are based on the Book of Common Prayer, then they are failing to forsake all others as it was originally meant. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"How do people feel about cheating and being a naughty little shit without their partner being aware weather you are actually doing it yourself or meeting those who are being unfaithful ?"
Cheating is wrong end of, no excuses |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Nobody's business apart from those involved.
It becomes a third partys business if they are not aware the person they are meeting is cheating ! I personally will not participate in helping someone cheat on their partner x"
Totally agree and we say on our profile that we dont want to meet those that have unaware partners. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
.. |
“Naughty little shit” all a bit unnecessary there.
It’s none of my business. Being on a swingers site with a partners consent does not mean you are a better class of human, no matter how much people like to make out it does on the forums |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Another day another ‘isn’t cheating terrible’ thread.
In a perfect world of course people shouldn’t cheat. We are human and of course the world is far from perfect.
Let’s just be more ‘French’ about it.
Cinq et Sept anyone? "
The French acknowledge mistresses. The wife usually knows who it is.
In the French court, the Kings' Mistress had an official title and was acknowledged by the Queen. No one was sneaking around anywhere. And the Queen had her own paramours. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"If all the ones on this thread who are totally against cheaters found out half way through a sex session that the other person was a cheater I can guarantee they’d want to finish the job off before they vented their ‘frustration’ "
If someone admitted half way through having sex that they were married i would call an immediate stop to everything and would actually feel quite sickened by it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
.. |
"Aren’t swinging married couples cheating on their vows??"
Yes, depending on the vows they ‘officially’ took.
Some couples on thus swingers site here with their partners knowledge and consent still attempt to cheat. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I'm married and i love my wife, but she's not interested in sex what so ever. I on the other hand highly sexed, but am i supposed to do go without and .wank ."
You go to see a sex therapist. If after that you are no longer sexually compatible you leave the marriage.
You know you can love someone and not be married to them right? You know you can love someone and not have sex with them also, right.
But when you lie, withhold the truth, keep secrets and be dishonest, you no longer love them or yourself.
I mean that's how a lot of people get murdered.....from having affairs.
I'm, beginning to think people love being married more than they actually love their spouse.
I loved my husband, and I never cheated on my husband but I left my husband because it had become dangerous, toxic, and dysfunctional to be together any longer. we both suffered.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"“Naughty little shit” all a bit unnecessary there.
It’s none of my business. Being on a swingers site with a partners consent does not mean you are a better class of human, no matter how much people like to make out it does on the forums "
To me that’s harder to understand than cheating! But I remember where I am here and realise that’s not the majority opinion |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"If all the ones on this thread who are totally against cheaters found out half way through a sex session that the other person was a cheater I can guarantee they’d want to finish the job off before they vented their ‘frustration’
If someone admitted half way through having sex that they were married i would call an immediate stop to everything and would actually feel quite sickened by it."
Yup...seems some men are more focused on getting their dick wet than stopping the sex when a woman gets upset and withdraws consent. Then just happily shoving her out the door without a care due to their lack of sexual gratification.
Thankfully not all men are like that. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
.. |
"“Naughty little shit” all a bit unnecessary there.
It’s none of my business. Being on a swingers site with a partners consent does not mean you are a better class of human, no matter how much people like to make out it does on the forums
To me that’s harder to understand than cheating! But I remember where I am here and realise that’s not the majority opinion "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"“Naughty little shit” all a bit unnecessary there.
It’s none of my business. Being on a swingers site with a partners consent does not mean you are a better class of human, no matter how much people like to make out it does on the forums "
That's great for the man but I need another woman to look me in the eye and give me consent before I fuck her man.
Woman to woman and as a former wife. I have a clue what she is giving up and the conflicting emotions she might be feeling...
Not sure if all the men have a clue. Well maybe the cuckolds/bulls get it as man to man. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I'm married and i love my wife, but she's not interested in sex what so ever. I on the other hand highly sexed, but am i supposed to do go without and .wank .
You go to see a sex therapist. If after that you are no longer sexually compatible you leave the marriage.
You know you can love someone and not be married to them right? You know you can love someone and not have sex with them also, right.
But when you lie, withhold the truth, keep secrets and be dishonest, you no longer love them or yourself.
I mean that's how a lot of people get murdered.....from having affairs.
I'm, beginning to think people love being married more than they actually love their spouse.
I loved my husband, and I never cheated on my husband but I left my husband because it had become dangerous, toxic, and dysfunctional to be together any longer. we both suffered.
"
I'd urge anyone to leave a relationship if it comes to them having to cheat.
So many do it for purely selfish reasons, but it's not always black and white.
My dad cheated on my mum. If he had of taken your advice, she would have kicked him to the ground and made it impossible to ever see his children again.
Also, you left your husband because as you say it was toxic, dangerous and dysfunctional. For a lot of people, they do love their partner and have an anotherwise healthy relationship... but I do think it's unfair to show your partner no intimacy and expect them to be fine with it. But it's not easy to walk away when the relationship other than sex is everything you want.
Don't get me wrong, everyone who gets involved with cheating on either side is in the wrong and a bit of a cunt. But it's really not as simple as just ending things. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Can you leave the French out of this thread please.
Mon Dieu!
Frenchmen are surprisingly communicative and Italian men...None of the stiff upper lip stuff.
C'est la vie."
They are also both known to be very well hung.
Signed, Jean Pierre Maldini. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I'm not cheating so it's not my conscience nagging me, it's yours.
If you have no conscience about it, leave your partner as you clearly don't love them.
But just lying and saying that you're single? Asking me to help you cheat by lying to my face?
Good start, not.
Married guys are a nono for me, unless both partners are present and consenting.
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Aren’t swinging married couples cheating on their vows??
Yes, depending on the vows they ‘officially’ took.
Some couples on thus swingers site here with their partners knowledge and consent still attempt to cheat. "
True mine had no obey or forsake others.
They did have love honour and cherish.
You don't lie to people you love. You don't honour your spouse by cheating....Maybe you honour your genitals. As for cherish, well maybe if you cherished your spouse more they might get the hots for you again. Lol!
Men it seems can conquer everything but their libidos apparently.
I don't hear any men leaving the Kama Sutra out on the kitchen table/duvet after the kids have gone to bed.
I don't hear any men saying they took their wife away for a week's holiday with out the kids where she had to do no washing cooking or cleaning.
All I ever here is. I pay the bills and I'm married.
I have a low libido and I'm single but I know how to spark it. Not everyone knows how to do this and having a low libido is actually scary. You feel a bit broken...well I do. You actually become scared of sex....any woman who had tried to have sex while she is all tensed up knows....ugh no orgasm for miles around.
No man has talked about how he's teased the mind of his wife without touching her sexually or without saying anything sexually overt.
I wish I could send them all on a Tantric course!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *rad670Man
over a year ago
South Lakes |
These threads are becoming more common lately, are there a lot of "single" single males getting no meets and need to look for blame instead of looking at their own prfiles and improving them? I wish Fab would add a yawn smilie. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I'm married and i love my wife, but she's not interested in sex what so ever. I on the other hand highly sexed, but am i supposed to do go without and .wank .
You go to see a sex therapist. If after that you are no longer sexually compatible you leave the marriage.
You know you can love someone and not be married to them right? You know you can love someone and not have sex with them also, right.
But when you lie, withhold the truth, keep secrets and be dishonest, you no longer love them or yourself.
I mean that's how a lot of people get murdered.....from having affairs.
I'm, beginning to think people love being married more than they actually love their spouse.
I loved my husband, and I never cheated on my husband but I left my husband because it had become dangerous, toxic, and dysfunctional to be together any longer. we both suffered.
I'd urge anyone to leave a relationship if it comes to them having to cheat.
So many do it for purely selfish reasons, but it's not always black and white.
My dad cheated on my mum. If he had of taken your advice, she would have kicked him to the ground and made it impossible to ever see his children again.
Also, you left your husband because as you say it was toxic, dangerous and dysfunctional. For a lot of people, they do love their partner and have an anotherwise healthy relationship... but I do think it's unfair to show your partner no intimacy and expect them to be fine with it. But it's not easy to walk away when the relationship other than sex is everything you want.
Don't get me wrong, everyone who gets involved with cheating on either side is in the wrong and a bit of a cunt. But it's really not as simple as just ending things."
I believe in therapy. It can't save every marriage but it made me see that my marriage was no longer healthy for either of us.
It also allowed me to not be bullied by my husband.
Fathers have as much legal rights to their children as mothers but for some reason, everyone assumes that the judge will always side with the mother.
I know plenty men who have joint custody and in some cases they are the primary parent.
I come from a view of if you are not happy, then fix it/( or radically accept your circumstances) instead of making it worst.
It's not easy but I have zero regrets in my life so it worked for me. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
They are also both known to be very well hung.
Signed, Jean Pierre Maldini.
The ones I met particularly weren't well-hung but the passion and the brutal honesty were definitely a turn-on!! Those and the Portuguese one.
didn't like the Spanish ones.
No Greeks as yet. Lol!
The German was half Italian so....kinky and passionate.
None of them happy to stay in a sexless marriage and cheat.
They all were like "what a stupid idea"
I work with an Italian girl. She said she doesn't care what her boyfriend thinks about her getting naked at the nudist beach. She said why I would change for him " what a stupid idea" I can't imagine any British person saying that about their partner or spouse.
She also swears in Italian all the time. Lol! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"These threads are becoming more common lately, are there a lot of "single" single males getting no meets and need to look for blame instead of looking at their own prfiles and improving them? I wish Fab would add a yawn smilie."
Dunno I redirected the few that I come across to Ashley Madison and Illicit encounters. There are also specific fetish and kink and BDSM sites too.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"These threads are becoming more common lately, are there a lot of "single" single males getting no meets and need to look for blame instead of looking at their own prfiles and improving them? I wish Fab would add a yawn smilie.
Dunno I redirected the few that I come across to Ashley Madison and Illicit encounters. There are also specific fetish and kink and BDSM sites too.
"
Me, too |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I'm just gonna be totally honest here, I've been the cheater in my last marriage, not proud of it but it happened, we did get through it, had another 5 good years.
They say once a cheater, always a cheater and I guess in some respects given I am married and still fucking other guys I am, the only difference this time around is communication and understanding that this relationship is vastly different to the one I had before, while doughnut has never cheated on a partner, he also feels the same that being "faithful" to one partner for the rest of your life isn't for the paid of us, we met on here and it's taken along time for me to get to the point of sleeping with other guys based on my past relationship.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I'm just gonna be totally honest here, I've been the cheater in my last marriage, not proud of it but it happened, we did get through it, had another 5 good years.
They say once a cheater, always a cheater and I guess in some respects given I am married and still fucking other guys I am, the only difference this time around is communication and understanding that this relationship is vastly different to the one I had before, while doughnut has never cheated on a partner, he also feels the same that being "faithful" to one partner for the rest of your life isn't for the paid of us, we met on here and it's taken along time for me to get to the point of sleeping with other guys based on my past relationship.
"
With hindsight, if you had a do-over would you cheat again? If so why? If not why? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I'm just gonna be totally honest here, I've been the cheater in my last marriage, not proud of it but it happened, we did get through it, had another 5 good years.
They say once a cheater, always a cheater and I guess in some respects given I am married and still fucking other guys I am, the only difference this time around is communication and understanding that this relationship is vastly different to the one I had before, while doughnut has never cheated on a partner, he also feels the same that being "faithful" to one partner for the rest of your life isn't for the paid of us, we met on here and it's taken along time for me to get to the point of sleeping with other guys based on my past relationship.
With hindsight, if you had a do-over would you cheat again? If so why? If not why?"
I was at a stage of my life I was not in a good place, it sounds like excuses but I was drinking heavily and different things, I was a totally different person, take that element out and I probably wouldn't have and we married insanely young, things changed so much in 10 years. I hold my hands up and totally honest about it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I'm just gonna be totally honest here, I've been the cheater in my last marriage, not proud of it but it happened, we did get through it, had another 5 good years.
They say once a cheater, always a cheater and I guess in some respects given I am married and still fucking other guys I am, the only difference this time around is communication and understanding that this relationship is vastly different to the one I had before, while doughnut has never cheated on a partner, he also feels the same that being "faithful" to one partner for the rest of your life isn't for the paid of us, we met on here and it's taken along time for me to get to the point of sleeping with other guys based on my past relationship.
With hindsight, if you had a do-over would you cheat again? If so why? If not why?
I was at a stage of my life I was not in a good place, it sounds like excuses but I was drinking heavily and different things, I was a totally different person, take that element out and I probably wouldn't have and we married insanely young, things changed so much in 10 years. I hold my hands up and totally honest about it."
Noted. No excuses. I think I was horrible to my husband because I had undiagnosed and untreated BPD with autistic traits, sensory processing traits and childhood trauma.
I do not regret getting married but I wish all this stuff was dealt with when I first when to mental health services when I was 18. My life would have been so different and probably better/more stable.
Now I know what is wrong, what can be mitigated, what can and cannot be treated and the type of person I would have to be in a relationship, I stay single. People like me would always struggle in a marriage.
I'm always interested in why people do they things that they do and how we can minimise harm to ourselves and each other. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I'm just gonna be totally honest here, I've been the cheater in my last marriage, not proud of it but it happened, we did get through it, had another 5 good years.
They say once a cheater, always a cheater and I guess in some respects given I am married and still fucking other guys I am, the only difference this time around is communication and understanding that this relationship is vastly different to the one I had before, while doughnut has never cheated on a partner, he also feels the same that being "faithful" to one partner for the rest of your life isn't for the paid of us, we met on here and it's taken along time for me to get to the point of sleeping with other guys based on my past relationship.
With hindsight, if you had a do-over would you cheat again? If so why? If not why?
I was at a stage of my life I was not in a good place, it sounds like excuses but I was drinking heavily and different things, I was a totally different person, take that element out and I probably wouldn't have and we married insanely young, things changed so much in 10 years. I hold my hands up and totally honest about it.
Noted. No excuses. I think I was horrible to my husband because I had undiagnosed and untreated BPD with autistic traits, sensory processing traits and childhood trauma.
I do not regret getting married but I wish all this stuff was dealt with when I first when to mental health services when I was 18. My life would have been so different and probably better/more stable.
Now I know what is wrong, what can be mitigated, what can and cannot be treated and the type of person I would have to be in a relationship, I stay single. People like me would always struggle in a marriage.
I'm always interested in why people do they things that they do and how we can minimise harm to ourselves and each other."
I don't think I could be in a "normal" relationship now, I learned the hard way that I can't be faithful. I married my first boyfriend (ones I went on dates with) and didn't live really.
I think our in our 20s we learn so much about ourselves, I wouldn't change my first marriage as I have three lovely boys and I do have a really good friend and great ex in laws, even though I fucked lots of things up, we've been split 8 years and I am even taking my ex mother in law on a roadtrip to see my son next week.
It's my life, yes I fucked it over at times but makes me who I am now |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I have an amazing partner, I don’t play with other guys that we meet, they are purely for him to get pleasure from their cock due to me not having one, it’s not cheating, I know all about it, I’m there some of the time watching. We have rules and we stick to them.
Anything outside of that agreement would be classed as cheating because I would be unaware of it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I’ve seen a situation play out recently. Not me before anyone asks.
Cheaters out there. Beware the mistress, who tells the ex wife everything. "
How awful for the cheater. Poor guy. What a terrible mistress to be like that. She was just a fuck, so untrustworthy. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Threads on cheating always seem to man bash to a degree.
They also seem to highlight that many people expect sex from their partners and think it's cruel when they don't give it. But we don't have that right to someone else's body like that even when marrued. Why is that never talked about?
Cheating is wrong, but it's up to the individuals in question what they do. I won't judge, I've been a position before where I could see completely why people stray. I wouldn't like to knowing sleep with someone attached though.
T |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Threads on cheating always seem to man bash to a degree.
T"
My response focused on men because a man started this thread, and it usually seems to be men on the forums thinking it's all just a laugh |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"My response focused on men because a man started this thread, and it usually seems to be men on the forums thinking it's all just a laugh "
I think it may just be that men are more upfront about it.
Alice is very keen on sex with married men. And, based on messages we've had, there are plenty of women on here who cheat, pr who entertain the idea. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
