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Are you good at accepting compliments?
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Depends on who says it
How they say it
Why they say it
From some people yes
From some people no"
So if you know them to be bullshitting fuckers its a no, if it comes across as genuine and heartfelt its a yes?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends on who says it
How they say it
Why they say it
From some people yes
From some people noSo if you know them to be bullshitting fuckers its a no, if it comes across as genuine and heartfelt its a yes? "
Yes.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think so. I usually make eye contact, smile, and say "welllll, that's very kind of you to say so."
A compliment should be a shared pleasure. "
Not if the are shouting "your pussy is so fucking hot" in the throes of a shag tho  |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
I used to knock them back, but have learnt to accept compliments gracefully. Usually I say thanks and try to return the compliment, even if it's only saying "how nice of you to say so"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it depends how you feel about yourself, regardless of the compliment, if someone says.."I love your hair" yet you feel that it doesn't look great, you won't receive it as a compliment.
You will then think on, and perceive said person is only pointing a flaw you already feel you have.
Human minds and the way we work, self destructive, very complex and to me a compliment is about the person I am, not the way I look. |
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By *aris23Woman
over a year ago
France |
When I receive a compliment I simply thank the giver for their kindness. If they were being insincere then they usually feel a little foolish for it, but if genuine then it's made them happy. I think this has become easier with age...as a youngster I always laughed them off. |
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By *vana sukalotWoman
over a year ago
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"nope, go all shy and try to think of ways to knock it down  "
I'm the same, maybe its not something I'm used to hearing and when I've had them I find them hard to accept as truth. I can take a put down much better than a compliment  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont mean back handed ones either. "
I am unaccustomed in the art of reverencing them so I would not really know. The last one anywhere near was a someone saying " you're not really a bastard" and it was flummoxed as to how I should reply. Try me and I will soon find out.  |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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Have you been sneaking into my inbox lady?? 
Been 'debating' this today.
I am awful at receiving compliments. In fact, I can't take them.
In real life I tend to go red and squirm as I think theyre telling fibs anyway 
I try and say thank you but just end up saying.... The weather's nice... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you been sneaking into my inbox lady??
Been 'debating' this today.
I am awful at receiving compliments. In fact, I can't take them.
In real life I tend to go red and squirm as I think theyre telling fibs anyway
I try and say thank you but just end up saying.... The weather's nice... "
uve really tasty lookin fanny lips xxxxxxxxx |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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"Have you been sneaking into my inbox lady??
Been 'debating' this today.
I am awful at receiving compliments. In fact, I can't take them.
In real life I tend to go red and squirm as I think theyre telling fibs anyway
I try and say thank you but just end up saying.... The weather's nice...
uve really tasty lookin fanny lips xxxxxxxxx"
Than.... Oh the weather's been nice today |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont mean back handed ones either.
No. On a bad day I have even had a go at someone for it lol
CaliWhy on earth would you do that?"
He told me he loved my thighs. I decided he was taking the piss. Told him so. And blocked him. My former master went mad at me.
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I have taught myself to accept them gracefully after someone explained to me how horrible it felt to say something they genuinely felt was true just to have it brushed off or joked about or dismissed.
If it's an honest compliment then to dismiss it it to dismiss the giver as a lier.
If it's a false compliment the giver is still offering it because you have something of value.
And if it's a sarcastic compliment the best way to deflate the giver is ti accept it with a straight face and good grace and move on.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well only the other day I had a string of compliments one after the other; in all honesty I was amazed at this sort of attention ..... till I realised they where "complaining" about lol
Apparently it was because im a virgin and at a recent meeting was made to do the "VIT" (virgin initiation test)and it was because I couldn't stop giggling at seeing naked bodies - being a virgin you see - Honest I am  |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I have taught myself to accept them gracefully after someone explained to me how horrible it felt to say something they genuinely felt was true just to have it brushed off or joked about or dismissed.
If it's an honest compliment then to dismiss it it to dismiss the giver as a lier.
If it's a false compliment the giver is still offering it because you have something of value.
And if it's a sarcastic compliment the best way to deflate the giver is ti accept it with a straight face and good grace and move on. "
i think you are right about dismissing the giver as a liar especially if genuine. |
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"If it's an honest compliment then to dismiss it it to dismiss the giver as a lier.
If it's a false compliment the giver is still offering it because you have something of value.
And if it's a sarcastic compliment the best way to deflate the giver is ti accept it with a straight face and good grace and move on. i think you are right about dismissing the giver as a liar especially if genuine."
And some people have to pluck up courage to give a compliment so to ignore it or make a joke of it you are making a joke of them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like getting them and giving them I can't help myself, if I see something about a person in the street even... my EX used to walk off like I was doing something terrible 
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"If it's an honest compliment then to dismiss it it to dismiss the giver as a lier.
If it's a false compliment the giver is still offering it because you have something of value.
And if it's a sarcastic compliment the best way to deflate the giver is ti accept it with a straight face and good grace and move on. i think you are right about dismissing the giver as a liar especially if genuine.
And some people have to pluck up courage to give a compliment so to ignore it or make a joke of it you are making a joke of them."
Thats extremely true, a friend of mine who i go to the footy with was exesperated with his now ex at one point, as he complimented her a lot and she always dismissed him ...it really got to him. |
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"I like getting them and giving them I can't help myself, if I see something about a person in the street even... my EX used to walk off like I was doing something terrible
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Compliments from randoms strangers are great - they must be genuine if they are just going to wander off and never meet/talk to you again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like getting them and giving them I can't help myself, if I see something about a person in the street even... my EX used to walk off like I was doing something terrible
Compliments from randoms strangers are great - they must be genuine if they are just going to wander off and never meet/talk to you again."
Yeah that's true, I've had the odd compliment from strangers and it can really brighten ones day |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"If it's an honest compliment then to dismiss it it to dismiss the giver as a lier.
If it's a false compliment the giver is still offering it because you have something of value.
And if it's a sarcastic compliment the best way to deflate the giver is ti accept it with a straight face and good grace and move on. i think you are right about dismissing the giver as a liar especially if genuine.
And some people have to pluck up courage to give a compliment so to ignore it or make a joke of it you are making a joke of them."
nnnn.... nnnn... nnnice arse pic in your gallery TD |
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hahaha
I do something today and you may say "You are awesome, brilliant, wonderfull."
Tomorrow i may do something that pisses you off and you will hate me.
Love and appreciation often turns into hate and loathing and then back again.
I try, not always succesfully to treat compliments and insults in the same way.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone compliments me, I think they're taking the piss."
I'm the same, I do t believe them, they're only doing it to keep me happy or get what they want lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I accept them well its nice that some body takes the time to show their appreciation.It makes up for the time when you run into ignorant people,for example i have lost count of the amount of times i have opened a door for someone and they walk through and never even look at me or say anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I realised a while ago how rude it is to reject a compliment so I try to say thank you graciously, even if I don't actually believe a word of it.
I'm gradually learning though that it takes all sorts and it's quite possible for people to love things I despise.
It works that way for celery and parsnip, so why not for body shape and size? |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"I realised a while ago how rude it is to reject a compliment so I try to say thank you graciously, even if I don't actually believe a word of it.
I'm gradually learning though that it takes all sorts and it's quite possible for people to love things I despise.
It works that way for celery and parsnip, so why not for body shape and size? "
Nobody likes parsnip do they?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I realised a while ago how rude it is to reject a compliment so I try to say thank you graciously, even if I don't actually believe a word of it.
I'm gradually learning though that it takes all sorts and it's quite possible for people to love things I despise.
It works that way for celery and parsnip, so why not for body shape and size?
Nobody likes parsnip do they? "
Allegedly they do.
I think I remember Pearl saying she does and will be having them on Christmas Day. |
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